girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?
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Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge. As men, there is usually a "secret" oath that we keep amongst each other when it comes to that stuff. We'll NEVER rat out our friend to their girlfriends or wives if asked. I have lots of friends, who are great guys and many of them religious, who have gone to clubs and have said "let's keep this between the guys".
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Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge. As men, there is usually a "secret" oath that we keep amongst each other when it comes to that stuff. We'll NEVER rat out our friend to their girlfriends or wives if asked. I have lots of friends, who are great guys and many of them religious, who have gone to clubs and have said "let's keep this between the guys".
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To be clear, I don't think for a minute that I am the only person he is attracted to on a day-to-day basis, I'm attracted to others too. But sending him off to a strip club on a Friday night, or condoning it in general seems crazy TO ME.0 -
Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge. As men, there is usually a "secret" oath that we keep amongst each other when it comes to that stuff. We'll NEVER rat out our friend to their girlfriends or wives if asked. I have lots of friends, who are great guys and many of them religious, who have gone to clubs and have said "let's keep this between the guys".
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truth has been spoken here!0 -
Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge.
Mine knows I'd leave him in a split f****** second. And I'm married. Actually, his a** would get kicked out the front door. It's my house. I have NEVER cheated on any man I've ever been in a relationship with, and I consider this cheating. Our sex life is outstanding and I would NEVER look at porn without involving him, and neither of us is interested in mixing porn into our sex. We've discussed this at length... we're newlyweds. This is the kind of stuff I ASK about and get out in the open. I do not assume anything.
He knows better than to lie to me. He will be booted out of my house for lying about something like this, and trust me... he knows and understands this.
I pride myself on being open-minded in life... but this is one of those areas in which I am content to be a bit close-minded.0 -
That's why there's the "secret oath". Lots of guys KNOW that there girl wouldn't approve so it's kept under wraps. In fact the most secretive ones are the ones whose girl will absolutely go ballistic if they found out. We don't like to throw each other under the bus like that.Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge. As men, there is usually a "secret" oath that we keep amongst each other when it comes to that stuff. We'll NEVER rat out our friend to their girlfriends or wives if asked. I have lots of friends, who are great guys and many of them religious, who have gone to clubs and have said "let's keep this between the guys".
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To be clear, I don't think for a minute that I am the only person he is attracted to on a day-to-day basis, I'm attracted to others too. But sending him off to a strip club on a Friday night, or condoning it in general seems crazy TO ME.
We love our women. If we didn't we wouldn't be with them. But we also like to just "look". It's a man thing, so trying to get a female to understand is usually vain in attempt. That's why we keep it between each other.
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Lol, so maybe you scared him into submission! You and I agree on a lot, but I guess this is one we don't.Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge.
Mine knows I'd leave him in a split f****** second. And I'm married. Actually, his a** would get kicked out the front door. It's my house. I have NEVER cheated on any man I've ever been in a relationship with, and I consider this cheating. Our sex life is outstanding and I would NEVER look at porn without involving him, and neither of us is interested in mixing porn into our sex. We've discussed this at length... we're newlyweds. This is the kind of stuff I ASK about and get out in the open. I do not assume anything.
He knows better than to lie to me. He will be booted out of my house for lying about something like this, and trust me... he knows and understands this.
I pride myself on being open-minded in life... but this is one of those areas in which I am content to be a bit close-minded.
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Lol, so maybe you scared him into submission! You and I agree on a lot, but I guess this is one we don't.Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge.
Mine knows I'd leave him in a split f****** second. And I'm married. Actually, his a** would get kicked out the front door. It's my house. I have NEVER cheated on any man I've ever been in a relationship with, and I consider this cheating. Our sex life is outstanding and I would NEVER look at porn without involving him, and neither of us is interested in mixing porn into our sex. We've discussed this at length... we're newlyweds. This is the kind of stuff I ASK about and get out in the open. I do not assume anything.
He knows better than to lie to me. He will be booted out of my house for lying about something like this, and trust me... he knows and understands this.
I pride myself on being open-minded in life... but this is one of those areas in which I am content to be a bit close-minded.
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Submission? He freaked when he saw I looked at porn BEFORE we tied the knot. HE freaked. He'd be a fool and hypocrite to lie to me. And he'd better run FAST because I'd come after him throwing all kinds of stuff, including punches... this is one area we will disagree on.0 -
As long as I dont know, I'll be none the wiser.0
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Lol, so maybe you scared him into submission! You and I agree on a lot, but I guess this is one we don't.Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge.
Mine knows I'd leave him in a split f****** second. And I'm married. Actually, his a** would get kicked out the front door. It's my house. I have NEVER cheated on any man I've ever been in a relationship with, and I consider this cheating. Our sex life is outstanding and I would NEVER look at porn without involving him, and neither of us is interested in mixing porn into our sex. We've discussed this at length... we're newlyweds. This is the kind of stuff I ASK about and get out in the open. I do not assume anything.
He knows better than to lie to me. He will be booted out of my house for lying about something like this, and trust me... he knows and understands this.
I pride myself on being open-minded in life... but this is one of those areas in which I am content to be a bit close-minded.
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Submission? He freaked when he saw I looked at porn BEFORE we tied the knot. HE freaked. He'd be a fool and hypocrite to lie to me. And he'd better run FAST because I'd come after him throwing all kinds of stuff, including punches... this is one area we will disagree on.
Its honestly just porn... Fiance looks at it. I look at it. Its perfectly healthy.0 -
That's why there's the "secret oath". Lots of guys KNOW that there girl wouldn't approve so it's kept under wraps. In fact the most secretive ones are the ones whose girl will absolutely go ballistic if they found out. We don't like to throw each other under the bus like that.Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge. As men, there is usually a "secret" oath that we keep amongst each other when it comes to that stuff. We'll NEVER rat out our friend to their girlfriends or wives if asked. I have lots of friends, who are great guys and many of them religious, who have gone to clubs and have said "let's keep this between the guys".
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To be clear, I don't think for a minute that I am the only person he is attracted to on a day-to-day basis, I'm attracted to others too. But sending him off to a strip club on a Friday night, or condoning it in general seems crazy TO ME.
We love our women. If we didn't we wouldn't be with them. But we also like to just "look". It's a man thing, so trying to get a female to understand is usually vain in attempt. That's why we keep it between each other.
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Now that I get. I like to look at a good looking man now and then... but I'm not going to tell him out of respect, and he had better not tell me he is going to watch women take their clothes off.0 -
If a women can indulge in her fantasies (mental & emotional creatures) through romance novels, then a guy should be allowed to do the same (visual creatures), assuming it has no negative bearing on the marital aspects (cheating, spending too much money, touching the girls).
What if they, like me, don't dig that romance novel *kitten*? lol xD violent video games it is...0 -
Yes I mind0
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Its honestly just porn... Fiance looks at it. I look at it. Its perfectly healthy.
If it's not my p**** and my a** he's looking at, he might as well take his d**** and leave this house and go after all the p**** he wants then... NOT in this house. I'd rather be single. And believe me, I won't think twice about divorce if I find out different.
LOYALTY is paramount.0 -
Someone needs a hugIts honestly just porn... Fiance looks at it. I look at it. Its perfectly healthy.
If it's not my p**** and my a** he's looking at, he might as well take his d**** and leave this house and go after all the p**** he wants then... NOT in this house. I'd rather be single. And believe me, I won't think twice about divorce if I find out different.
LOYALTY is paramount.0 -
Hahaha! Most men would "cherish" the moment they caught their lady looking at porn and join in!!! Oh well, I hope it works out the way you want. I do sincerely mean that too.
Lol, so maybe you scared him into submission! You and I agree on a lot, but I guess this is one we don't.Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge.
Mine knows I'd leave him in a split f****** second. And I'm married. Actually, his a** would get kicked out the front door. It's my house. I have NEVER cheated on any man I've ever been in a relationship with, and I consider this cheating. Our sex life is outstanding and I would NEVER look at porn without involving him, and neither of us is interested in mixing porn into our sex. We've discussed this at length... we're newlyweds. This is the kind of stuff I ASK about and get out in the open. I do not assume anything.
He knows better than to lie to me. He will be booted out of my house for lying about something like this, and trust me... he knows and understands this.
I pride myself on being open-minded in life... but this is one of those areas in which I am content to be a bit close-minded.
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Submission? He freaked when he saw I looked at porn BEFORE we tied the knot. HE freaked. He'd be a fool and hypocrite to lie to me. And he'd better run FAST because I'd come after him throwing all kinds of stuff, including punches... this is one area we will disagree on.
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Its honestly just porn... Fiance looks at it. I look at it. Its perfectly healthy.
If it's not my p**** and my a** he's looking at, he might as well take his d**** and leave this house and go after all the p**** he wants then... NOT in this house. I'd rather be single. And believe me, I won't think twice about divorce if I find out different.
LOYALTY is paramount.
I like your style! I am ROTFLMAO at this reply. See, when people are clear about things, there are no misunderstandings. There clearly is no room for misunderstanding here. I LOVE it!0 -
My boyfriend and I watch porn together, and I'M the one dragging him out the clubs (mainly so I can wear tiny skirts that turn him on)
If he came home and caught me watching porn he'd be the happiest man on the planet0 -
You never answered my questions.
Are you saying that men don't treat women like pieces of meat in the strip joints?
And this is a good choice in career in your opinion?
And yes, I do think that women have more to offer than something to ogle.
I've seen men treat women like pieces of meat lots of places, this website included. We're going to have to shut down a whole lot of places if men ogling women is the criteria we're using.
My opinion on someone else's career choice is absolutely meaningless. I trust grown people to make their own choices for themselves. A lot of people wouldn't exactly be wowed with my career path. I don't really care.
I agree. But if that's what they would like to use that's their choice and more power to them.0 -
If it's infrequent and just spending time with the guys, I don't care. Plenty of my guy friends have been to strip clubs and they weren't there to get off. They liked the entertainment but it was more background than anything. The thing that weirds me out is the strip club before getting married....I mean, why? Are you grieving about having to see the same woman naked for the rest of your life?0
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Hahaha! Most men would "cherish" the moment they caught their lady looking at porn and join in!!! Oh well, I hope it works out the way you want. I do sincerely mean that too.
Lol, so maybe you scared him into submission! You and I agree on a lot, but I guess this is one we don't.Okay, I know many women here are against their men looking at porn, going to strip clubs etc, and are SURE that their man is TOTALLY happy with them, but don't be shocked if you find out that they have a "secret" porn collection or have been to strip clubs without your knowledge.
Mine knows I'd leave him in a split f****** second. And I'm married. Actually, his a** would get kicked out the front door. It's my house. I have NEVER cheated on any man I've ever been in a relationship with, and I consider this cheating. Our sex life is outstanding and I would NEVER look at porn without involving him, and neither of us is interested in mixing porn into our sex. We've discussed this at length... we're newlyweds. This is the kind of stuff I ASK about and get out in the open. I do not assume anything.
He knows better than to lie to me. He will be booted out of my house for lying about something like this, and trust me... he knows and understands this.
I pride myself on being open-minded in life... but this is one of those areas in which I am content to be a bit close-minded.
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Submission? He freaked when he saw I looked at porn BEFORE we tied the knot. HE freaked. He'd be a fool and hypocrite to lie to me. And he'd better run FAST because I'd come after him throwing all kinds of stuff, including punches... this is one area we will disagree on.
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Lol. Ok, now that I'm pretty calm again... I wanted to say "thanks" for that. And thanks for opening my eyes to the harsh reality, according to your experience anyway
And... he didn't let me know he caught me for a while... Lol. But, I don't think he liked it. He didn't seem too thrilled. I think he was just surprised more than anything. 0 -
So I'm with the "I definitely do mind" group. Purely because of my lack of self confidence. I've had exes in the past lie and cheat and all that stuff, so I'm very insecure. I've been with my current partner quite a while now and I've relaxed a bit - as in I'm ok with him having picture of half naked anime chicks on his computer as background images but I haven't got to the point of being ok with porn - I've made some for him occassionally though.
My big problem is I don't understand why a man (or a woman if it was the other way around I guess) would need to go to a strip club to watch other attractive women take their clothes off and shake it around if I'm waiting at home? I'd feel that I wasn't enough.
On that topic I would definitely do a strip dance for him - if I was capable of it! But I feel like a clutz.0 -
Don't mind at all...................'cuz I'm still going.0
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Call me jealous, a *****, or bossy: but if my boyfriend even WANTED to go to a strip club, I'd leave him. If he wants something that I don't have, and he's going to resort to strip clubs then that's it. He went to one before we got together.. He said it was honestly disgusting and he spent $1 the whole night....and that was 'to get that nasty ***** away from him' hahahah0
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Strip Clubs have no place in our marriage. That's something we agreed on before marriage.0
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It wouldn't bother me because I trust him entirely. Also he's the sort of person who would be extremely uncomfortable in that sort of situation so it's not anything I have to think about anyway. xD
Edit: Nope, I'm wrong. If he started going "just because" I would be uncomfortable. Stag nights, birthdays, whatever- but not because he's bored.0 -
From what I've heard from men - I think you should sneak into one some day. What you see there may totally change your mind. Also, I knew a woman who came out of that lifestyle and she said that the women who work in these places are strung out on drugs. Her statement was "do you think anyone would do THAT if they were in their right mind?" (Argue if you will; I'm only quoting someone who has been there.)
As a women, we should always have enough vision to see that these reduce our gender to chunks of meat. Anytime any human being is viewed as being less than a human being ALWAYS ALWAYS creates serious problems. History proves that out every time.
Personally, if my man went to a strip club, he needn't bother ever coming home.0 -
This situation has actually never come up yet--but if it did....
I would not mind (that much). My feeling is feel free to look-don't touch. (Not sure how a lap dance qualifies, but that may be where I lose my logic, ha ha) My thinking is, I know who he is coming home to, so I would not be that jealous. I'd probably even go for the experience, ha ha.0 -
hmmm not sure he wants to to be honest, he did go before we met, for stag parties etc, but we live in a place where there isn't one anyway and he would have to get on a ferry and a train to get to one, and why would he, he is 11 years older than me and I am pretty darn hot lmao0
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My girlfriend doesn't care at all and we been to a few together. She lets me go that it's not even fun anymore going to strip clubs. Seriously, it gets old after the first few hundred times :laugh: . Since she lets me go, it makes me not want to go anymore, reverse psychology I guess.
Women, you shouldn't be too worried about your husband/boyfriend going to them. After the first hour it really does get pretty boring. I'd rather go to a bar and spend money on myself rather than some hot chick trying to get every penny out of me.0
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