girls ... do you mind if your men go to strip clubs?
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I don't care where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home for dinner
Great answer it would not bother me at all0 -
This argument is dumb. I'm stating my opinion the same exact way everyone else has in this thread so far. Both sides. Thank goodness you are here to set me straight!
You are certainly entitled to your opinion (and for the record I don't think you are a prude for having it), but don't you think stating that other women who don't feel the way you do are letting themselves be disrespected and deserve more is a bit much?
No I really don't. I actually think it's a positive message and women deserve their husbands to treat them as though they are the sexiest, most beautiful women that they have ever laid eyes on and don't even want to have some random chick shaking her tits in their husband's face to keep him satisfied and happy.
My husband thinks I am the most sexiest, beautiful woman on the planet and tells me that about a dozen times a day.
He will also go to strip clubs with friends. He doesn't do it all the time but it something that he will do.
I will also go to strip clubs with him.
He loves and respects me.
We have an awesome relationship based on mutual trust and *gasp!* RESPECT!
We have never had an argument.
Jealousy is never an issue.
I know he would never cheat on me.
He's not having sex with the strippers that he goes to watch.
He loves women, especially naked women.
He loves my naked body and he loves to look at other naked bodies as well.
None of this means he disrespects me, doesn't love me or feels that I'm worthless.
None of this means that I don't respect myself because my husband enjoys beauty.
You don't know me or my relationship with my husband. To say that someone "Deserves Better" because he goes to a strip club is absolutely ludicrous.
You are not me.
You do not live in my house.
Do not throw out a blanket judgment on people like me.
That's wonderful that you really do feel that way. A lot of women don't and just let their men do as they please anyway. These are the women I'm referring to.
If you know these women personally, then judge away. I have a mind of my own and so does my husband. He does not control me and I do not control him. Women who "let their men" do anything are seriously over estimating their power. That or their men are just whipped.
Then I guess mine is whipped. Or maybe he's just the type of guy who doesn't need to go to strip clubs and is satisfied with his wife and his wife only?? I've stated like 3 times now that I am just saying that women who aren't really okay with it don't have to shove their feelings down and make themselves okay with it just to seem like the "cool wife/girlfriend"0 -
Doesn't bother me at all......He would be coming home to me anyway:)
Or you just install a stripper pole somewhere in the house......problem solved:)
Heckkkkk yeahh! I was thinking of a pole, he refuses hahha! Whatever either way my man is mine
My husband bought me one for my birthday a few years back and it's in our living room.
Lmao, did he really?
I'm going to have to present this idea to my fiance, we shall see what he says :O
But congrats, I'm jealous now !!
He did:
http://www.platinumstages.com 0 -
Thank you for posting this, but I am shocked with the answers to this question. I'm not married, but I'm definitely not going to marry the type of guy that would step foot near a strip club. That's what relationships and marriage are about, EACH OTHER, not only sexual indulgences.
& No little girl wants to grow up & take off her clothes for people to get off on. Seriously, that's someone's baby girl up there, someone's sister or best friend.
You all definitely need to do some research about human trafficking. Majority of those girls are completely broken, abused, drug addicted, and you are supporting that?
That's just messed up. I honestly don't care what your reasons or excuses are. That's disgusting.
I'm sorry, I'm going to school to be a counselor, taking all the classes on marriage & relationships, and have personally seen sexual addiction cause so much heartache, and ruin way too many relationships & marriages in my 20 years of life.
A man in a relationship who is going to strip clubs is pretty much turning to his significant other & saying, "Hey, you aren't enough for me." How is that okay with you guys??
Seriously, I'm just completely shocked that any girl would want her boyfriend or husband there.0 -
I try not to let it bother me, but it does.....0
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I know this was a question for the ladies, but going to a strip club is just a waste of money and time. I rather for my woman to act like a lady in public and be my stipper when we are alone.0
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I try not to let it bother me, but it does.....
Just like this girl. She shouldn't have to put up with that crap if it bothers her. That makes me sad. Anyway I've gotta go to class so I won't be responding anymore.0 -
I do mind. I know I shouldn't, but I do. It makes me uncomfortable and it's a waste of money (lol!).
However, I have told my boyfriend that if he does want to go with his friends or whatnot, I am not his warden and he can do what he wishes, I just have asked that he does not get a lap dance. That's is our agreement.0 -
My husband is a pastor. Say no more. Say no more.
Religious leaders can be the 'worst offenders' sometimes.
I'm sure your hubby isn't one of those but ...0 -
Doesn't bother me at all......He would be coming home to me anyway:)
Or you just install a stripper pole somewhere in the house......problem solved:)
Heckkkkk yeahh! I was thinking of a pole, he refuses hahha! Whatever either way my man is mine
My husband bought me one for my birthday a few years back and it's in our living room.
Lmao, did he really?
I'm going to have to present this idea to my fiance, we shall see what he says :O
But congrats, I'm jealous now !!
He did:
http://www.platinumstages.com
Mother of God!! You know what, if he says no you & I shall be friends and I'm coming over there haha0 -
wow you folks on here sure know how to argue lol damn just give your opinion and leave.. pretty sure this poster didnt mean to start some lil ***** fest about this..
I personally have a wonderful realationship with my husband where we love and respect one another and we have an amazing amount of trust because we have tied our lives together and neither of us is planning on leaving the other for anyone!
now saying that....we go to the strip club together.. my husbands last lap dance was paid for by yours truely. i enjoy seeing my hubby getting them and i also enjoy watching the dancers.. we both have a respect for the naked female body so i see nothing wrong with him going.. we go together.. he goes alone.. i dont care.. now this only happens everyonce in a while.. if it happened every night or he was spending so much that we were unable to pay to care for our child then yes it would be a problem... but the occasional visit is fine.. :-)0 -
Doesn't bother me at all......He would be coming home to me anyway:)
Or you just install a stripper pole somewhere in the house......problem solved:)
Heckkkkk yeahh! I was thinking of a pole, he refuses hahha! Whatever either way my man is mine
My husband bought me one for my birthday a few years back and it's in our living room.
Lmao, did he really?
I'm going to have to present this idea to my fiance, we shall see what he says :O
But congrats, I'm jealous now !!
He did:
http://www.platinumstages.com
Mother of God!! You know what, if he says no you & I shall be friends and I'm coming over there haha
Sounds like a plan! LOL!0 -
I do mind. I know I shouldn't, but I do. It makes me uncomfortable and it's a waste of money (lol!).
However, I have told my boyfriend that if he does want to go with his friends or whatnot, I am not his warden and he can do what he wishes, I just have asked that he does not get a lap dance. That's is our agreement.
Nothing is wrong with minding your man going to a strip club. I mean, nobody can control their feelings when it comes to certain things. Either way, whatever you feel about it does not make you a better or worse girlfriend. Still awesome 0 -
:drinker: :smooched:Doesn't bother me at all......He would be coming home to me anyway:)
Or you just install a stripper pole somewhere in the house......problem solved:)
Heckkkkk yeahh! I was thinking of a pole, he refuses hahha! Whatever either way my man is mine
My husband bought me one for my birthday a few years back and it's in our living room.
Lmao, did he really?
I'm going to have to present this idea to my fiance, we shall see what he says :O
But congrats, I'm jealous now !!
He did:
http://www.platinumstages.com
Mother of God!! You know what, if he says no you & I shall be friends and I'm coming over there haha
Sounds like a plan! LOL!
wohooo, party pants.0 -
Nope, I don't mind if my husband goes to strip clubs. I feel if someone doesn't feel comfortable having their husbands go to strip clubs than they aren't comfortable with themselves. I know my husband is coming home to me and not the stripper. Also I went to a strip club with my girlfriends to see Chip n Dales so who am I to tell him no!!! I think Men need to have friends time to hang out with their buddies. If it means going to a strip club go for it!!! I would go with him if he wanted me to lol. If your to clingy with your spouse/BF, they will find a way to do whatever but they just won't tell you. I would rather know than have them hide it!!
That's exactly it...I'm not comfortable with myself. I don't agree with my husband going to a strip club. I'm sure he'd like to, but it makes me feel lousy about myself that he would want to go see women dancing on poles naked, or close to it, who have great bodies to look at. It's great that so many women are OK with it, but even if I was more comfortable with myself, I don't think that's something any wife/girlfriend/partner needs to be OK with.0 -
Yes I do mind. If he isn't happy at home then dont come back. I should be enough for him. Not to mention we are both Christians and he should not be lusting after other women. Those women dont respect themselves or anyone else. Marriage is supposed to be a sanctity. Our bodies are supposed to be temples of God's Spirit and there is no way I'd do anything like that so I expect my husband to honor me as I honor him.
Thank you. I was starting to think I was the only one who felt this way. 0 -
I honestly expected a lot of you to say the opposite. I know as a man, if my women went to some sort of male strip club I would be upset. Knowing that your significant other, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is getting lap dances from another male. I don't know maybe I'm a pansy.
No...not a pansy at all!0 -
That's your religion talking, not typical common sense.Yes I do mind. If he isn't happy at home then dont come back. I should be enough for him. Not to mention we are both Christians and he should not be lusting after other women. Those women dont respect themselves or anyone else. Marriage is supposed to be a sanctity. Our bodies are supposed to be temples of God's Spirit and there is no way I'd do anything like that so I expect my husband to honor me as I honor him.
Not typical common sense??? Who cares if it's her religion talking. That doesn't change how she feels about it.0 -
Never had to worry about mine going to a strip club, he's always said he doesn't have an interest in it at all. If he wanted to, it would be a problem for me, yes. It's not just about being made to feel insecure with my body, but also jealousy. Yes, I get jealous when he looks at other women. Why shouldn't I? He's MY husband, who I married. If he wanted to look at other women, experience them, and think about them sexually, he shouldn't have gotten into a committed relationship.
I also don't want him looking at porn. I've talked to him about it and explained why it hurts me, and he eventually stopped when he finally understood. Just because you're not touching the person, doesn't mean it's not cheating. Sure, maybe it's not as bad, but it's still a degree of cheating. Phone sex or cyber sex would seriously bother some people I'm sure if they found out their spouse was doing those things - and for me, if he's looking at other women naked, it's just another way for him to cheat without really touching those women. I've looked at porn many times, yes, and you know what I found out? It bothers him JUST as much as it bothers me when he does it. I have never once felt good about myself after looking at other men naked. It always ends up with me feeling terribly guilty and disgusted with myself - so I don't do it anymore.0 -
This argument is dumb. I'm stating my opinion the same exact way everyone else has in this thread so far. Both sides. Thank goodness you are here to set me straight!
You are certainly entitled to your opinion (and for the record I don't think you are a prude for having it), but don't you think stating that other women who don't feel the way you do are letting themselves be disrespected and deserve more is a bit much?
No I really don't. I actually think it's a positive message and women deserve their husbands to treat them as though they are the sexiest, most beautiful women that they have ever laid eyes on and don't even want to have some random chick shaking her tits in their husband's face to keep him satisfied and happy.
My husband thinks I am the most sexiest, beautiful woman on the planet and tells me that about a dozen times a day.
He will also go to strip clubs with friends. He doesn't do it all the time but it something that he will do.
I will also go to strip clubs with him.
He loves and respects me.
We have an awesome relationship based on mutual trust and *gasp!* RESPECT!
We have never had an argument.
Jealousy is never an issue.
I know he would never cheat on me.
He's not having sex with the strippers that he goes to watch.
He loves women, especially naked women.
He loves my naked body and he loves to look at other naked bodies as well.
None of this means he disrespects me, doesn't love me or feels that I'm worthless.
None of this means that I don't respect myself because my husband enjoys beauty.
You don't know me or my relationship with my husband. To say that someone "Deserves Better" because he goes to a strip club is absolutely ludicrous.
You are not me.
You do not live in my house.
Do not throw out a blanket judgment on people like me.
That's wonderful that you really do feel that way. A lot of women don't and just let their men do as they please anyway. These are the women I'm referring to.
The whole idea that a woman would "let" her man do anything, or a man would "let" his woman do anything may be more at the core of the problem in those relationships. I don't entirely agree with your opinion; don't entirely disagree with your opinion. But a true partnership isn't about either party giving the other permission or about either party dominating the other.
I don't like strip clubs. Personal opinion. My spouse and I don't go. Neither of us has ever expressed an interest. But I think that has more to do with the fact that those found in our area tend to be kind of seedy and disreputable, and the fact that there is a subconscious awareness that neither of us would ever want our daughter to choose to work in a place like that, more than any sense of prudishness or discomfort.
But if two consenting adults in a relationship discuss it and have no qualms about it? So be it. It is at least as much the wife's responsibility to express her reservations as it is the husband's responsibility to respect them. Or vice versa, as the case may be.0
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