The most annoying 'compliment'?

People have told me I have child-bearing hips, which apparently is great for giving birth lol. When they say it they're saying it like it's such a compliment! But when I hear it, all I hear is that my hips are gigantic and that people notice.

Hopefully they're saying it sarcasitally and you'e not truely wasting away. Take it with a grain of salt, they're just trying to be funny or something. And some people find others' health triumphs intimidating, as if it makes their own short comings more obvious.

Let's just worry about our own goals and measures and give others the benefit of the doubt. We'll all be happier if we try to take the most possitive interpretation.

I heard the "She's so pretty, too bad she's so fat!" comment. It was uttered by my FIL and repeated to me, God alone knows why, by my MIL. Well, by the day he died, I had gained nearly eighty pounds (his son had gained even more), so I guess I showed him! :embarassed:

As for the well-meaning (we hope) coworker who brings in the pizza and McDonald's, I would say, firmly and calmly,"No, thank you. I am watching what I eat. Also, I don't want you wasting your money." If that failed to get the message across, I would just let it sit there. I do not have the time or patience for passive-aggresive crap.

The most annoying one to me is "You look great! How did you lose so much weight?"

As if it's some sort of secret that consuming less calories makes you lose weight..

Most annoying comment: "Oh my god I couldn't do it!" with a grimace on their faces.

I just want to say: "It's not even ABOUT you!"

I've had two that stand out.

Preface: Three years ago I gained 40 lbs in 2 months from being on massive steriods from 2 horrible bouts of pneumonia in 6 weeks. It was very hard to get it off. I've lost it 2 times only for it to come back when I have to take steriods again for asthma.

Most hurtful thing I heard about my weight..............My MIL had not seen me since I gained the weight (3 years ago. I was also very self conscious about it too) anyway, we went to visit them for a week. One night after dinner she she came out with dessert. She had enough plates for everyone but me. She said "I would offer you desert ******, but YOU don't need any." I cried later. It really hurt my feelings.

Since I've lost the weight.............last week. The gal who does my nails says "You have a rockin' body......for your age". Why couldn't she leave "the age" part off.

I don't mean to brag, but I have a better body than most 20 year olds and I'm damn proud of it. I worked HARD for it!


EDIT:

Oh yeah, my MIL was out this weekend for my Son's graduation and she made the comment of "if you lose anymore weight you are just going to blow away".

After I dropped from 260 to 145lb, I admit my skin didn't just snap back as quickly as I hoped. I tried not to advertise this fact so instead wore clothes that covered all my bits, but fit appropriately. I also always try to look professional/well put-together at work… (FYI: eventually the skin did start to catch up with me, but it took some time.)

So a b/witchy coworker comes up to me while I'm talking with some other coworkers - "Wow, you've lost a lot of weight, right?" (Okay, not a compliment, but at least an acknowledgement of sorts. I let it pass with a polite nod.) "So are you gonna get plastic surgery to fix all your loose skin now?" … as she's squeezing my upper arm. (I was so dumbstruck that she would even go there. I literally lost the ability to speak - an insanely rare situation for me - all I could do was turn heels and walk away mid-discussion.)

Second instance was with a handsomer, younger male coworker who was a work-friend of sorts. I noticed he had started being a lot friendlier once I had lost about 70-80 pounds. We're chatting over lunch together and he says "Well, I don't have fat friends…" (jerk alarm starts to go off) and "I definitely wouldn't date a girl over, say, 170 lbs, ever." (Suddenly it dawns on me. Okay, so just recently you became my "friend" after over 3+ years of being work acquaintances? Gee, wow! I must have just dropped below your fat threshold for acceptable friends/girlfriends! What an egotistical pig!) Fast forward 5 years - he has nice baby beer gut and his hair has all but retreated (guessing down his back). Sorry, dude, I don't hang out with/date losers.

You have such a pretty face!

You don't need to lose anymore weight. (really, I'm 80 f#cking pounds from a really good, healthy weight. Are we talking about the same person?)

Don't lose much more, you'll waste away and look anorexic. (No. I'll look healthy and fit. There is a difference)

You've lost so much weight, its not healthy to lose it so quickly (23lb since March) .I usually think to myself weighing 327lb is a lot more unhealthy than losing weight supposedly at too rapid a pace

My boyfriend asked me about a month ago if I was still losing weight. I confirmed it and he said "You're looking great by the way. Not that you didn't look great before. You were sexy before. And sexier now... I'll shut up now." I just laughed. It didn't bother me and he rarely has to put his foot in his mouth that I liked seeing him squirm a little.

I weigh more than I did when we met, but my boyfriend has always said that I am beautiful and he loves my body. I think he will love it still when it's smaller too.

that's mine too! he said he notices the subtle differences in my body, and that he really loves my *kitten* (the worst part of my body)...i love the fact that I have a man that makes me feel sexy no matter my body shape.

Well, in this case it wasn't really the compliment itself I guess. My aunt noticed that I'd lost some weight and "complimented" me but later shared her real opinion (not to my face) which is that yes, I lost weight BUT it's due to the fact that I am gay and gay people always just start to "waste away" :l. Not sure where she got the logic behind that one but I still think it's hilarious.

One ex-boyfriend said - after I lost 40 lb through phobic anxiety about 15 yrs ago - that it was like "sh*gging a new bird". Nice.

Throughout my yo-yo years I've had all the usual about wasting away, not needing to lose weight, not needing to lose any more etc etc, even when my BMI is still way high. And the "You're looking really well" comment grinds my gears a bit as its a polite way of saying you look like a fattened goose.

I think what bothers me most, though, is the blatant insincerity of some remarks. The lady who does my nails (who is a UK size 10 with implants and would look great in a bin liner) often looks me up and down appraisingly and says, "You really look like you've lost weight!!" when I've actually put on a good few lbs since I last saw her. She then goes on to pinch a mm of skin on her ribs and complains she's getting fat, and she only ate 3 cals yesterday to try and lose some weight. Yawn.

One more....my boss, who is a semi pro tennis player and pretty fit, tells me off for making self-deprecating jokes about my weight, always rounding up with "You're not fat!" Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful for this backhanded compliment, but it simply isn't true. My BMI is 34, so I'm in fact obese and a UK size 16-18.

If I'm not fat, someone's playing a massive f***ing prank on me. :sad:

The one not spoken.

A bouncer looked at my id (100 lbs heavier in the pic) and said, "wow, that's bad. I wouldn't have even talked to you back then." That hurt. So I said, "That's funny, because I don't really feel like talking to you now!"

ok you lost enough! and the person is 2 sizes smaller than me!: smile: