Men Are Husbands, Not "Hubbys"

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  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
    I love my husband! I call him hubby sometimes when I talk to other women because I want them to know that he is dear to me and husband or just calling him by his name seems stiff. If it bugged him I would stop but he knows it is a term of endearment and I think he likes that I want to show other people I am thrilled with him. :-)
  • ladyfox1979
    ladyfox1979 Posts: 405 Member
    HUBBYHUBBYHUBBYHUBBYHUBBYHUBBYHUBBY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Sue me:tongue:
  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
    For the record I often call him Hunny bunny to his face so I think if he was worried about being demasculenized by a nickname he would start with that one. Fortunately for me he is very secure.
  • new_blossom
    new_blossom Posts: 111 Member
    I agree, no big deal here, it is a term of endearment in conversation. I use the word husband in a more professional situation or formal manner when around a serious surrounding. I am going to ask him if he likes it or not. I never wondered about it.


    Now, I HATE when a man refers to his wife or girl friends as "HIS OLD LADY" uggh! Makes my blood boil to hear that one.
  • basschick
    basschick Posts: 3,502 Member
    I only use the word "hubby" on this site when referring to him as my hubby/trainer since my husband is also my personal trainer. I only do it because I'm lazy and hubby is shorter to type than husband. In real life, I don't refer to him as my hubby, but he wouldn't mind if I did.
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    Can't believe this made it to 14 pages....no way I am reading all that....Hubby......Husband.....who cares. At least she's not calling you dumba$$.
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    I mostly refer to mine by his name, Brian... or "my husband" or "husband". I'm not fond of hubby. It sounds like boobies or bewbies instead of tits or titties. :P

    ETA: I do however want to barf and hit things when guys refer to their wives or gf's as "my old lady"... I personally feel "hubby" is MUCH less offensive.
  • valeriebpdx
    valeriebpdx Posts: 497 Member
    With you. Hate it!
  • Pimpmonkey
    Pimpmonkey Posts: 566
    When I was in a college fraternity, the old joke was it was a "fraternity" not a "frat" because you would never shorten the word "country." (Maybe I have the joke wrong...that's what college partying will do!)

    Anyway, as a man, I do not like it when women refer to their spouse as their "hubby." I'm sure in most cases it's meant well, but in many it's not. I'm talking about the women who don't particular like their husbands (and I've talked to some of you so I know you're out there!)

    But either way, I find "hubby" to be a touch condescending as a man. I have a feeling most women would feel the same way if all of them were referred to as "wifey" in each instance.

    I realize most of you mean it as a term of endearment and it's shorter, but that doesn't mean it can't be nails on a chalkboard to me. Could I be the ONLY person that feels this way?

    (Let the flaming begin.....)

    I call my man "my old man" hee hee.
  • takehimaway
    takehimaway Posts: 499 Member
    "DH" Is more annoying and silly than hubby to me. And all the lame, desperate, "d" acronyms....like fingernails on a chalkboard. Just use real words, it's not all that difficult.

    This.

    THIS.
  • MochaMixAZ
    MochaMixAZ Posts: 844 Member
    Don't mind it - don't mind being called wifey... don't really mind any of the terms my husband uses when they are used in affection. I've heard witchy women snarl "Sweetie, Honey, Jim, John" and other given names.... and I think it all has to do with the tone, not the word. As far as I'm concerned, he can refer to me as Funny Pants Freckle Face as long as he says it with a smile and *that* look in his eye.
  • CoffeeNBooze
    CoffeeNBooze Posts: 966 Member
    omg i HATE the word hubby, hate it!!!! I feel like a douche if I say it and it is kinda condescending imho. Or hubs. "The Hubs" = me wanting to punch you.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    But either way, I find "hubby" to be a touch condescending as a man. I have a feeling most women would feel the same way if all of them were referred to as "wifey" in each instance.

    Agreed!!
  • jnhu72
    jnhu72 Posts: 558 Member
    That has always drove me nuts and I don't know why! I hate the word "Hubby"
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
    My husband is my husband. He really would NOT like being called a "hubby" and I don't think it would apply to him anyway. If he called me "wifey" I would fall out of my chair, it would be so out of character for him.
  • themommie
    themommie Posts: 5,033 Member
    I use the term hubby quite a bit. i dont mean anything by it . Me and my husband have been married almost 21 yrs together 25 yrs so I guess it hasnt hurt our relationship.I didnt realize that it really mattered to others what I call my husband as long as he is ok with what I call him, but maybe now I will be more mindful of it.
  • Missmissy0003
    Missmissy0003 Posts: 250 Member
    I can't think of anything I care less about right now that how other people are referring to their spouses. I've got bigger *kitten* on my mind; like how can I get a better parking spot at work.

    Now that's funny:)
  • lauradupree
    lauradupree Posts: 32
    I loved this
    I live in the UK - specifically Wales. In Wales, they shorten every name. So, if your name is Caroline - you get called Ca, David is Dai, Andrew is And, Julia is Ju etc.,

    As a wife I am known as; The other Half (OH), The Wife, Wifey, Her Indoors, The Mrs and rather affectionately Woman. In conversation my husband calls me by my name - he's tried calling me by other women's names but really, that just doesn't work for me!

    As a husband, I call him; By his name or refer about him in conversation as my husband. However, on forums he may get called hubster, hubby or OH.

    All done with the affection and understanding and the formation of idiosyncratic ways of being together for 30 years.

    Oh, We are kindred spirits.

    I have been married nearly twenty-two years. I give my friends and family nicknames which are generally shortened versions of their given names because I love them. I am a sixth generation Californian on my father's side, and his mom was Canadian. Perhaps, it is not only the Welsh who shorten names. By the way, my husband calls me his "wiff" which is considered an endearing term. But to those we don't know well, we properly introduce one another by saying, "I would like to introduce you to my husband/wife, Mike..."

    At any rate, it had not occurred to me that it might be offensive as it had never been voiced as a put-down. .
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    I only ever viewed it (and heard it) as a term of endearment when i was married or when I've heard my female friends refer to their spouse. It's just a word. There are worse things that a person can be called. I don't see the big deal.

    I agree!!!!
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Dont you have anything better to complain about? I will call my HUBBY whatever the hell I want!

    THIS IS THE INTERWEBS !

    The virtual complaint box for the entire world !

    Letting people complain about trivial things since... when did Al Gore invent this thing?

    Someone should slap him.

    ^^I agree with you both!
  • Rosa1213
    Rosa1213 Posts: 456 Member
    Hm. I don't like that word just because it sounds ugly. It just doesn't roll off the tongue with grace.

    At the same time, I don't think "husband" rolls off the tongue with grace either...

    I have to say though, anything is better than "babe". I cringe when people call each other "babe".
    Babe is the pig in the city, not your lovely significant other.
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  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
    I dislike the name Bob as a shortened form of Robert. Therefore from now on anyone who knows anyone named Robert may refer to them as Rob or Robert. Since I also dislike adding a 'y' on the end of a shortened name Robby and Bobby are also out. However, Hubby is OK since it's not the person's name.
  • Nataliaho
    Nataliaho Posts: 878 Member
    I dislike the name Bob as a shortened form of Robert. Therefore from now on anyone who knows anyone named Robert may refer to them as Rob or Robert. Since I also dislike adding a 'y' on the end of a shortened name Robby and Bobby are also out. However, Hubby is OK since it's not the person's name.

    What about bobbie or robbie? I always spell hubbie with the "ie" not the "y", I believe it shows a level of sophistication otherwise missing...
  • kvf323
    kvf323 Posts: 16 Member
    I always swore i would never use the word "hubby" but then i got married and i have used it lol. although when talking to other people and talking about my husband, for the most part, i call him husband or "the man"
  • jenj1313
    jenj1313 Posts: 898 Member
    All right Jacksie... we won't call you hubby :-p
  • ComicBookGeekGirl
    ComicBookGeekGirl Posts: 202
    Hubby! Hubby!! HUBBY HUBBY HUBBY!!! lol

    You know what? Its just easier to type out hubby than husband. Or the Hubs...but I try to avoid that one if I can. lol
  • Candi_land
    Candi_land Posts: 1,311 Member
    It's even more annoying when they're not even married but yet the woman still refers to her boyfriend as "hubby". I call it being "Puerto Ricanly married". I'm Hispanic and of Puerto Rican heritage so i can say that ;)
  • ProudArmyWifey8
    ProudArmyWifey8 Posts: 41
    Husband sounds so serious. Hubby is in a cute short way Who gives a crap...marriage is between 2 ppl so if i wanna call my husband hubby who gives a shi* :)))
  • nheilweil
    nheilweil Posts: 82 Member
    First world problem. :-)
  • dovesgate
    dovesgate Posts: 894 Member
    Hubby, hubs, hubster, hubbykins, love, lovey, loveykins, shmoopsiepoo, wifey, wifeykins, honey, baby, and babe are foremost amongst others in our household.

    We love having pet names for each other. :drinker:
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