Online Cheating

well just for the record... I am a huge flirt, so is my wife we are very comfortable in our marriage, she has a few gyuys that try and hug her at work, mostly customers. I joke around with my Soccer mom's ( I coach my daughters team) anyway, it really depends on if you are comfortable with your marriage and who you are.

My friend jokes around that he is dying for a lap dance from my wife, I tell him to bring big bills because he can't afford her.


we can joke around and be open, I guess we are different then most, I really ahve no problem with her being a huge flirt as long as she lands in our bed at night..lol

I only add women on MFP - women who are similar in size, age and goals. I don't see the point reading and having some guy read my diary who's eating and doing things completely different to me (and women for that matter) with completely different goals and attitudes. I need supportive, active and similar women in order to get motivated and to help motivate. I'd rather keep to having a small supportive group and mainly people I know personally (however I had a few good MFP gals that are quite supportive that I don't know personally). Also, my partner wouldn't care if I had men on MFP (at least I don't think he would) however I'd rather not for my previous reasons and there really is no reason to rock the boat (just incase I am wrong!)

Most of my guy friends here are triathletes or training for tris and are very supportive, a lot are married as well, I often share what is said because my husband is thinking of doing a triathlon next year ...

My female friends are more of a mixed group

I only add women on MFP - women who are similar in size, age and goals. I don't see the point reading and having some guy read my diary who's eating and doing things completely different to me (and women for that matter) with completely different goals and attitudes. I need supportive, active and similar women in order to get motivated and to help motivate. I'd rather keep to having a small supportive group and mainly people I know personally (however I had a few good MFP gals that are quite supportive that I don't know personally). Also, my partner wouldn't care if I had men on MFP (at least I don't think he would) however I'd rather not for my previous reasons and there really is no reason to rock the boat (just incase I am wrong!)

well said and I totally agree

Let me explain a bit further......Do you feel that having friends at MFP of the opposite sex is maybe tempting? Not that you would really cheat, but maybe consider it because of your friends? Also, do you feel that online flirting is wrong?

Tempting - for me personally no. I guess it would be tempting if you are the sort who would be tempted normally and I guess the relative anonymity would make it feel safer than "the real thing". Also I've known people who have thought an online affair wasn't a "real" affair.

I "personally" think online flirting is wrong. Why would you want to do it aside from to bolster your ego or to fantasize? Those who do it tend to consider it to be harmless fun, that's their opinion and not mine.

Put it this way - re Facebook and MFP - I have personally NEVER messaged anyone on here a flirtatious nor provocative email or message that I didn't already know. On both MFP and FB I regularly (esp FB) get flirtatious messages or those keen on sex or the like. It's defo not just men!

I've always felt that if you're worried about either yourself or your spouse having friends of the opposite gender, it says a lot more about you than your spouse. Sounds pretty neurotic and controlling to me (and maybe a bit old fashioned?).

This was a huge issue for me in a previous relationship since I basically have only two female friends (at the time I had none). My boyfriend got really jealous and started pressuring me to stop hanging out with my friends. Needless to say that relationship didn't last long. I'm happy now though, great boyfriend who loves my friends as well.

As for this website I don't really see the problem. Meet fun people but if someone has an ulterior motive; deleting them as a friend is easy. Otherwise you're just judging an entire gender.

I have no intentions of an online affair. That's not why i signed up here. Sure i have female friends here, but i don't have any ulterior motives.

Well I treat this site as a weight lose support site not a online datging service. I do not flirt, may have ajoke or to at my expenses but nothing concerning what yho are talking about. I think its tacky to fllirt on a website that is supposed to be for weight loss just sayin. As for Facebook its the same they are family and friends male and female. Thats it and a lot are married engaged etc. If you are experiencing that on this site obviously they are not here for its rightul purpose. I want the male friends especially trainers for their advice and knowledge and the women supporters for the emotional support and advice males cant give. Flirting seems kind of well immature.

I'm going to have to politely disagree on the fact that men and women cannot be friends.


My best friend that I have known for 16 years, is a male. We have never done anything sexual or ever had the desire to. We are both in seperate relationships, and our partners both trust us.

I have a few male friends, and it's the same with them.

As for the online cheating stuff. I don't see the harm in adding people of the opposite sex. It's all about common sense.

Dr. Drew did a very interesting show on this the other night. He demonstrated that online flirting means alot more when men do so then when woman do so psychologically.

He explained that men only do things with intent. If they are trolling the web they are doing so to meet and cheat.

While woman whom are more social can flirt and turn it off and go back to their kids and husbands redirecting the online feelings into their current relationships, kinda like a romance novel.


While, I believe there is a certain point that it is cheating for both sexes don't get me wrong. I just found his theory on this subject interesting and thought I would share since you brought it up ^.^

Sounds about right

Gender doesn't come into it with my friend list.

I have people with simliar goals and people with completly different goals, this way I can find out about things I would never have known. Thanks to Matt I have leant lots about lifting and protein - Thenks Matt!

I would delete guys who added me to hit on, just the same as I would delete women who I didn't connect with.

I have never been tempted to cheat or flirt, my male and female friends alike are awesome, interesting and a great support!

Dr. Drew did a very interesting show on this the other night. He demonstrated that online flirting means alot more when men do so then when woman do so psychologically.

He explained that men only do things with intent. If they are trolling the web they are doing so to meet and cheat.

While woman whom are more social can flirt and turn it off and go back to their kids and husbands redirecting the online feelings into their current relationships, kinda like a romance novel.


While, I believe there is a certain point that it is cheating for both sexes don't get me wrong. I just found his theory on this subject interesting and thought I would share since you brought it up ^.^

Sounds about right

It's truish, but I would say exactly correct at all.

What about when the woman actively cheats, the above kinda makes it sound worse as its more of an emotional decision rather than the guy who is just trying to get his end?

Something that for sure stops cheating on MFP is giving your SO your logon details. We both have each others in case either is away from the Internet (how do we cope during those lonely minutes!!! :S) and want to check something or update some one. I'm also passing my logon details to my fiancee's niece in a couple of days so she can keep my "days logged on" etc going while I'm in the USA (NY / NOLA and a few other places) with my fiancee. She'll doubtless screw around on it which will make people laugh hopefully.

I'd be a bit screwed if I was cheating

I've seen Facebook ruin some relationships in the past though. I deleted my account there and I hide behind a mask here..but just because its so comfortable

Gender doesn't come into it with my friend list.

I have people with simliar goals and people with completly different goals, this way I can find out about things I would never have known. Thanks to Matt I have leant lots about lifting and protein - Thenks Matt!

I would delete guys who added me to hit on, just the same as I would delete women who I didn't connect with.

I have never been tempted to cheat or flirt, my male and female friends alike are awesome, interesting and a great support!

Thanks hun :flowerforyou: