Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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seriously? yeah because trying to guilt me into letting you come over to my place is an AWESOME first date.
then i get home and i have all these msg's from him saying he's leaving the dating website he found me on because he just can't handle how ppl are, and what was my problem that i couldn't trust him?!
well duh, we live in the same area, of course that makes him trustworthy!
sigh...
Because he can't handle how dating website girls aren't easy lays?
Since "snuggle" sounds like code for "go to your place and proceed to manipulate/coerce/guilt trip you into putting out", I'd say you dodged a bullet with that one. Ick.
Isn't that what Tinder is for?
(I've never used it so don't actually know how it works)0 -
Alright, I'm now reduced to taking notes so I can respond to posts.... @Coastalpath , @raelynnsmama52512 , @FroggyBug and @xLoveLikeWinterx , I'm so sorry you gals are going through such rough patches right now.
In true fix-it style, I wish I had solutions or helpful advice... but all I've got is empathy.
And @susieqhusband, the bad-hair llama lady also requests that you provide your wife with a Fitbit! Heck, look at the money she's already saved you on all that live-in staff that she doesn't want (and, no, I didn't know that was the norm).
Most of the time I really enjoy driving. I wouldn't put up with being told I couldn't drive because of my gender. Good thing I live in North America!
LOL at the live-in staff part.
Preventing women from driving has NO basis in Islam, honestly. The excuse they use is that "women will use the driving to go to places that are forbidden and do forbidden things." Seriously?! Putting a woman in the car with an unrelated male driver IS actually forbidden in Islam, and that's supposed to be a better solution somehow than letting a woman drive her OWN car?
I don't think it's the government's job to "discipline" women as to where they can drive--That's up to their fathers, up to an agreement between their husbands and them about where they can't go (does that even make sense, though? "Wife, please don't go hang out with random men, okay?"). And who's to say that GUYS don't drive to "forbidden places and do forbidden things"? I hate everything about this so-called justification. -_-
Star fact: As a form of protest, a Saudi Arabian lady living in Emirates who holds an international driver's license tried to drive through the border into Saudi Arabia, and was prevented. When she insisted that it was her right to enter her home country, the government magically made her "disappear". When another female friend drove to the border to bring her fresh clothing and a toothbrush and such, she "disappeared" as well. One month later, some news surfaced that they were being tried IN A TERRORISM COURT, and then later on were released and pardoned after THREE MONTHS OF IMPRISONMENT. Yes, seriously.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »pearso21123 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I cried a lot this afternoon....a LOT
I am not gonna lie, grief bacon for the win! Perhaps during the week when I can just ignore the phone it won't be so bad....
Things have relaxed for now in intensity, but no resolution.......
My fitbit is charging now and seemed to be counting once I charged it a bit, so fingers crossed that it is ok.....weird that it did not warn me with an email before dying, but just gonna hope its a fluke at this point....
Did anyone see the second part of my left at the bar story? Someone (sorry, can't remember who), asked if I was there for a long time, so I told the rest of what happened, but it got trapped at the bottom of a page and it took me a bit to find it, so I am wondering if anyone actually saw it or not......
P.S. - then I have a DEAD spider, which is not much better.....what do you suggest I do with that??
I saw the second part and I would have super mad at my friend as well. Girls are supposed to look out for each other
As for the spider I would vacuum that sucker up. Oh yes I would
That's the agreement I have with ALL spiders that come into the house. They can live in the house, but they have to survive the vacuum cleaner. If they survive the vacuum cleaner, then they have to LIVE in the vacuum cleaner for the rest of their days or be revacuumed.
For all you cat lovers on this thread, don't your cats hunt spiders? I am not a cat person, but every once in awhile a make an agreement with our barn cats that they can have a reprieve in our house if they promise to catch all of the spiders.
My cat Shade eats spiders...she caught a Texas Yellow Garden spider and she killed and was ripping it apart yesterday...
This is what they look like:
That is not a spider. That is a prop in a horror story. Or a dinosaur. My sanity would not survive if that showed up in my house.
I would throw the keys at it and leave as it would now own the house.
There's a funny picture I like that says "I found a spider in my house today so I got a tissue and very carefully burned the house down"
BA! Lost it over that one, snorted all over the place
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riderfangal wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Guys, remember that London Dairy new ice cream flavor I mentioned? The Red Velvet Cheesecake one? IT IS TO DIE FOR. Seriously. It's SO good! It has swirls of ooey gooey red velvet caramel-textured stuff, chunks of a dense, chewy red velvet cake, and generously sized chunks of cheesecake. The ice cream itself has a cream cheese-like taste, similar to cream cheese frosting but not as sweet or rich. SO GOOD.
The other two are okay. I'm just sad that the cheesecake one is finished because I shared it with my husband (he didn't like the other two).
This was not nice. I want this now.
Oops. I'm sorry!
I figured that since you get all the good ice cream in the United States, you'd be able to get this one or at least one like it. 
Oh I am sure I can. I just can't. You know?
Makes sense!WestCoastJo82 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Okay, no one really took me up on our daily motivation, but I am going to go ahead and share progress anyway.
Steps: 19, 903 (vs. 25K goal) due to rain and help at barn, as I didn't do quite as much walking as I might normally due as I had help. +
Never got to my run. I had forgotten my shoes so had clothes but no shoes at barn. So had to come home (kiss of death) and try to motivate myself. Well, after eating, and dealing with a washing machine mess (standing water due to clogged filter from washing bathroom mat that disintegrated) it was 10:00. I just couldn't get myself out then. +
No alcohol +
Did not work on dissertation. For the above reasons.
So not great. Today:
Flying to Dallas on a 6:40 flight (hence being up so early) for a meeting. So... this is really going to be a challenge but going to try to:
Walk 10K
Run 1 hour
Work in dissertation (I will use the plane trip to read some articles I have lined up for my literature review)
No alcohol (this will also be challenging as I am going out with some of my team for 'drinks' as I am in Dallas and we don't see each other much.
So...on 3 hours sleep off I go. I'll probably check in at airport, etc. Have a great day all.
Way to go POF! I think you did pretty well on your goals, given what life threw (sp? that looks wrong, but I think it's right) at you. Man, three hours of sleep would have me sleeping on the plane rather than dissertating, but way to be a good grad student
I like this - are we going to do this here or in the Batcave? I'm sure I'll find out as I catch up this morning, but I'll contribute, too.
Yesterday I just *barely* hit my 10K steps. 100+ weather in the northwest, which is crazy hot for us, it should be 75ish. I was supposed to get a good step count in by walking Wilbur, but he was having none of it. Poor delicate 80 pound baby I did a 3 mile run first thing in the morning and then errands/food prep for the rest of the day.
Today, I've already gotten my SL 5X5 in, and walked to work, will walk home and go to the gym for an Insanity class (supposed to be kickboxing, but swapped out for the month). With Wilbur's mini-walks I should hit about 15K steps.
Is it such a bad thing that I'm picturing you walking an enormous, fat, pot-bellied pig whenever you say his name? Because I totally do, thanks to Charlotte's Web--Wilbur will always be a pig name for me.Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
During iftar, we were talking, and he was like... "Did you see that post?"
I replied, "What post?"
He said, "The @SusieQ's husband post!"
I was like, "No, not yet, I'm not caught up. What was it about?"
"Apparently the horse lady is demanding that I need to get you a Fitbit right now."
BAHAHAHAH Mr. Susie is funny!
Yup, he is. I'm constantly laughing at him, so much so that he calls me his gigglebox.
Random and completely off-topic: With all the housekeeper talk, I wondered if anyone here knows how common it is to have a LIVE-IN maid in the Middle East? Almost every family that's middle income or higher has a housemaid living in their house--it's so popular that houses are built with a "maid's room" in the blueprints! In my family, we grew up having them, but I've always hated it SO MUCH because I really treasure my privacy--she was never allowed to come anywhere near my room or my stuff unless I was supervising, and generally I cleaned and cooked for myself, even when I was living at home. I hate the whole idea of it, and completely banished the idea of a live-in maid as soon as I got married, which my husband thankfully agrees with me about.
Here in Saudi Arabia, since women aren't allowed to drive, almost everyone also has a driver living with them as well--usually in an outdoor room. Driver's rooms are also a very common built-in feature of Saudi Arabian houses.
I'm just curious if this knowledge is commonly-known, or if it's going to surprise everyone.
I did not know that but I wish I did have a house keeper!
I didn't know about that either. I have to ask, what does the driver do when a person doesn't need to go anywhere? Does he hang out in the rest of the house, or stays in his own room all day?
I'd like to have a live-in cook. I can handle the cleaning, but boy would it ever be nice to have my meals taken care of. I'd love to get home from work and have a healthy supper ready & waiting for me. And I'd never have to plan or pack my lunches!
Since the women are in the house, no--the driver is generally not allowed to enter the house at all. He just gets to sit around in his room until he's needed. He drops off and picks up kids from school, the woman of the house to and from work, and drives them to the malls/grocery stores/whatever is needed.
It actually seriously gives me the heebie jeebies to imagine letting a strange man take anyone's kids to school with no supervision whatsoever... The drivers are often brought from countries like India or Pakistan and put straight to work. How do you know what they might or might not be doing with your kids? Or even to the woman of the house when she's alone with him, for that matter?
Editing to add: Maids are expected to clean, cook, and babysit all in one go. There are horror stories about what maids have been caught doing to kids on nanny cams, though--a lot of people nowadays are much more wary of letting the maid watch their kids.
Although, the standard fare that maids cook can rarely be considered anything close to "healthy" or even "calorie controlled". 0 -
seriously? yeah because trying to guilt me into letting you come over to my place is an AWESOME first date.
then i get home and i have all these msg's from him saying he's leaving the dating website he found me on because he just can't handle how ppl are, and what was my problem that i couldn't trust him?!
well duh, we live in the same area, of course that makes him trustworthy!
sigh...
Because he can't handle how dating website girls aren't easy lays?
Since "snuggle" sounds like code for "go to your place and proceed to manipulate/coerce/guilt trip you into putting out", I'd say you dodged a bullet with that one. Ick.
Isn't that what Tinder is for?
(I've never used it so don't actually know how it works)
That's what I thought originally too but I guess it's becoming more and more like a dating site... I never used it either but from what friends tell me people use it for both- which is I guess just like other dating sites they're supposed to be used for dating but tons just browse looking for a quick easy thing...LAME.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »pearso21123 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »I cried a lot this afternoon....a LOT
I am not gonna lie, grief bacon for the win! Perhaps during the week when I can just ignore the phone it won't be so bad....
Things have relaxed for now in intensity, but no resolution.......
My fitbit is charging now and seemed to be counting once I charged it a bit, so fingers crossed that it is ok.....weird that it did not warn me with an email before dying, but just gonna hope its a fluke at this point....
Did anyone see the second part of my left at the bar story? Someone (sorry, can't remember who), asked if I was there for a long time, so I told the rest of what happened, but it got trapped at the bottom of a page and it took me a bit to find it, so I am wondering if anyone actually saw it or not......
P.S. - then I have a DEAD spider, which is not much better.....what do you suggest I do with that??
I saw the second part and I would have super mad at my friend as well. Girls are supposed to look out for each other
As for the spider I would vacuum that sucker up. Oh yes I would
That's the agreement I have with ALL spiders that come into the house. They can live in the house, but they have to survive the vacuum cleaner. If they survive the vacuum cleaner, then they have to LIVE in the vacuum cleaner for the rest of their days or be revacuumed.
For all you cat lovers on this thread, don't your cats hunt spiders? I am not a cat person, but every once in awhile a make an agreement with our barn cats that they can have a reprieve in our house if they promise to catch all of the spiders.
My cat Shade eats spiders...she caught a Texas Yellow Garden spider and she killed and was ripping it apart yesterday...
This is what they look like:
That is not a spider. That is a prop in a horror story. Or a dinosaur. My sanity would not survive if that showed up in my house.
I would throw the keys at it and leave as it would now own the house.
There's a funny picture I like that says "I found a spider in my house today so I got a tissue and very carefully burned the house down"
Bahahaha! I love that!0 -
@pofoster21 Since you're in my city of birth take a run out to Carrollton, TX and let me know how it is out there! Haha kidding! That's where I lived when my family was there and I guess now the neighborhood we lived in is a pretty bad area. Sad face 0
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seriously? yeah because trying to guilt me into letting you come over to my place is an AWESOME first date.
then i get home and i have all these msg's from him saying he's leaving the dating website he found me on because he just can't handle how ppl are, and what was my problem that i couldn't trust him?!
well duh, we live in the same area, of course that makes him trustworthy!
sigh...
Because he can't handle how dating website girls aren't easy lays?
Since "snuggle" sounds like code for "go to your place and proceed to manipulate/coerce/guilt trip you into putting out", I'd say you dodged a bullet with that one. Ick.
Isn't that what Tinder is for?
(I've never used it so don't actually know how it works)
I thought it was a legit dating site (saw a show about it, maybe Doc Zone??) but that -- like every other dating site, says my cynical side -- it was primarily used as a hookup site.
The one that really bugs me is Ashley Madison, which apparently is specifically for married/committed dudes to find a discreet piece on the side.
For the record, I have nothing against casual hookups provided all parties involved are on the same page about the nature of the interaction. Hidden agendas and pretense always annoy me.0 -
orangesmartie wrote: »@coastalpath
So I’d have an afternoon tea, catered by my favourite Torquay café, with made to order sandwiches (guests choose from a small list of fillings); bread is home made white or granary. A variety of home made scones, with cherry, or ginger, or white choc chips in. Lots of different fruit jams. And huge bowls of clotted cream. There may also be cinnamon toast. And lots of different cakes, like Victoria sponge, lemon drizzle, chocolate brownie. All served with either tea, coffee (from starbucks) or something sparkling, probably Prosecco or Asti (I’m actually a cherry lambrini kind of girl). Set to a background of string quartet music.
That cafe sounds amazing! If I'm ever up that way I'll have to get the name of the cafe from you, I love afternoon tea so much.AngryViking1970 wrote: »Holy smokes, you guys! I thought this thread slowed down on the weekends. LOL I have work to do!!! I also have an interview this afternoon for a promotion here, so if you could spare any extra mojo, I'd appreciate it!
*slinks off to catch up*
Super good luck with your interview! I hope it went/will go okay? (Unless you've already posted how it went in which case sorry I missed it haha).Susieq_1994 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »
During iftar, we were talking, and he was like... "Did you see that post?"
I replied, "What post?"
He said, "The @SusieQ's husband post!"
I was like, "No, not yet, I'm not caught up. What was it about?"
"Apparently the horse lady is demanding that I need to get you a Fitbit right now."
Haha this made me laugh. If you're still lurking, hi @Susieqshusband! <waves> (Also buy Susie a fitbit she's super great and deserves it!)seriously? yeah because trying to guilt me into letting you come over to my place is an AWESOME first date.
then i get home and i have all these msg's from him saying he's leaving the dating website he found me on because he just can't handle how ppl are, and what was my problem that i couldn't trust him?!
well duh, we live in the same area, of course that makes him trustworthy!
sigh...
Because he can't handle how dating website girls aren't easy lays?
Since "snuggle" sounds like code for "go to your place and proceed to manipulate/coerce/guilt trip you into putting out", I'd say you dodged a bullet with that one. Ick.
Isn't that what Tinder is for?
(I've never used it so don't actually know how it works)
Haha, funny story my boyfriend and I met on Tinder, my flatmates and I used to use it as a joke for each other, it's quite fun deciding who you think is/isnt a good match for people you live with. They were actually the ones who 'matched' me with him, one year on and we're living together! Although I'm sure we're the exception not the rule...0 -
seriously? yeah because trying to guilt me into letting you come over to my place is an AWESOME first date.
then i get home and i have all these msg's from him saying he's leaving the dating website he found me on because he just can't handle how ppl are, and what was my problem that i couldn't trust him?!
well duh, we live in the same area, of course that makes him trustworthy!
sigh...
Because he can't handle how dating website girls aren't easy lays?
Since "snuggle" sounds like code for "go to your place and proceed to manipulate/coerce/guilt trip you into putting out", I'd say you dodged a bullet with that one. Ick.
Isn't that what Tinder is for?
(I've never used it so don't actually know how it works)
hahahaha, right?
i was honestly too scared to go on tinder, i think that's a young persons game!
and now don't mind me as i tend my flowers and go watch my stories.... 0 -
Confession; I overate for dinner today. I'm still within my calories because I've had light meals the rest of the day, but I made way more veg and pasta sauce than I needed, but I just hate wasting food.
On a more positive note, I went for my trial shift today and I got the job! It's only kitchen work but I'm super excited to have something to do over the summer And I finally got round to finding a new pair of shorts (mine are a bit big on me) and I've gone down a size! 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »Oh finally have to start my meeting. So here is an update on my progress to date. Got to hotel. Had enough time to run and shower before meeting so ate a power bar to hold me over as I ate at 3:30 this am. Then got caught by this thread. Missed window. But now needed to grab lunch before meeting. So...wasted 240 calories. Now I have to force myself to run after "drinks" tonight. To make up for the extra calories. Hopefully reporting back to you all will make this happen!
ETA I thought I posted this hours ago!
Good luck. Hope the rest of your day goes smoothly!!!0 -
seriously? yeah because trying to guilt me into letting you come over to my place is an AWESOME first date.
then i get home and i have all these msg's from him saying he's leaving the dating website he found me on because he just can't handle how ppl are, and what was my problem that i couldn't trust him?!
well duh, we live in the same area, of course that makes him trustworthy!
sigh...
Because he can't handle how dating website girls aren't easy lays?
Since "snuggle" sounds like code for "go to your place and proceed to manipulate/coerce/guilt trip you into putting out", I'd say you dodged a bullet with that one. Ick.
Isn't that what Tinder is for?
(I've never used it so don't actually know how it works)
hahahaha, right?
i was honestly too scared to go on tinder, i think that's a young persons game!
and now don't mind me as i tend my flowers and go watch my stories....
I've never checked it out either. Kids these days and their crazy apps! Back in my day you had to go out to bars to pick people up. Lol0 -
Confession; I overate for dinner today. I'm still within my calories because I've had light meals the rest of the day, but I made way more veg and pasta sauce than I needed, but I just hate wasting food.
On a more positive note, I went for my trial shift today and I got the job! It's only kitchen work but I'm super excited to have something to do over the summer And I finally got round to finding a new pair of shorts (mine are a bit big on me) and I've gone down a size!
Congrats on both!0 -
Is @BZAH10 on vacation? Didn't see her on her all weekend.0
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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »@orangesmartie I'm really glad you're feeling better today. I hate that feeling that just sucks you down and you can't seem to pull out of it--that's what I'm going through today.
Confession: My favorite ice cream brand (London Dairy, as I mentioned before) just came out with three brand new flavors: Lemon Cake, Spicy Cranberry, and Red Velvet Cheesecake. The Lemon Cake flavor reminded me of all the recent talk of lemon flavored ice creams/gelato in this thread, so I HAD to buy it. The confession is that I bought one pint of each...
I also took a nice big bite out of each to decide whether I liked them. I'm not a big lemon fan, so the Lemon Cake is so-so. The Spicy Cranberry I had serious doubts about, but it's actually pretty awesome, with a spicy kick afterwards. The Red Velvet Cheesecake.. Mmmm.
The Spicy Cranberry seems interesting. When I looked at your food diary I wasn't sure if it was ice cream or a sauce.
Today I bought two more ice creams at Giant which was another Yuengling's Buttered Caramel Popcorn & Turkey Hill's Southern Lemon Pie. I am now banning myself from buying more ice cream unless Giant miraculously starts to stock the Talenti Raspberry Cheesecake.
i picked up the southern lemon pie too!
i haven't tried it yet....trying to pace myself, plus i hate freezer burn, which i get all the time on everything
So much for banning myself, because I bought more ice cream at this Grocery Outlet.
Today I went shopping at GoodWill & found absolutely nothing. I try not to go into a thrift store with an idea of stuff I want to buy, because you often will leave disappointed. I seen a pair of Free People jeans that looked so cute, but they were a 29 & I wear a 31 or 32. It seems that most of what I like at the thrift store is either way too small or way too big. I also get irritated when I see they overprice clothes that come from Wal-Mart, Target, or K-Mart. The one time at Salvation Army they had a new with tag sign that said something like $15.99 & it had a tag on from Ross for $5.99 (major fail). I did manage to find a cute dress for my niece that was around $2.50.
I then went shopping with my mom to help her get stuff ready for her vacation & we went to Giant, Weis, Rite Aid, & Wal-Mart.
I bought the most at Wal-Mart & the Grocery Outlet. The Grocery Outlet is a newish store that sells near expiration date foods; however, you still have to be careful since some of the food items are cheaper at other major grocers. I found Chobani yogurt the Simply 100 for $0.59 cents (cheapest I ever found that brand) & bought five packs of grape tomatoes for only $0.97 cents each. I bought some snacky things like seaweed in various flavors for $0.99 cents (never tried seaweed) & Ranch Kale for $2.99. After I went to the other stores I went back to stock up on more ice cream (I think I need to go to ice cream lovers anonymous) & bought the following:
Edy's Egg Nog ($1.99)
Ben & Jerry's Blueberry Vanilla Graham Yogurt ($0.99 the cheapest I ever found Ben & Jerry's)
Walgreen's Cinnamon Bun Blast
Kemp's Frozen Mint Trees
Yoplait Honey Caramel Frozen Yogurt
Some kind of Ginger Frozen Yogurt
I think from now on I'll go there & stock up on ice cream since it was dirt cheap.
I had a few weird comments buying my ice cream & even one from the cashier & I should've said yep & look at me I lost over 140-150 pounds.0 -
I missed the Tinder train by a year or so but My SO and I met on Plenty of Fish. Online dating is scary and fun!0
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On a more positive note, I went for my trial shift today and I got the job! It's only kitchen work but I'm super excited to have something to do over the summer And I finally got round to finding a new pair of shorts (mine are a bit big on me) and I've gone down a size!
Super Great X 2! Congrats on both accomplishments!0 -
MissKalhan wrote: »I missed the Tinder train by a year or so but My SO and I met on Plenty of Fish. Online dating is scary and fun!
I was on eHarmony a few years ago and did meet a nice guy. He wasn't right for me, but he proved that there are decent guys that use dating sites!0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »Guys, remember that London Dairy new ice cream flavor I mentioned? The Red Velvet Cheesecake one? IT IS TO DIE FOR. Seriously. It's SO good! It has swirls of ooey gooey red velvet caramel-textured stuff, chunks of a dense, chewy red velvet cake, and generously sized chunks of cheesecake. The ice cream itself has a cream cheese-like taste, similar to cream cheese frosting but not as sweet or rich. SO GOOD.
The other two are okay. I'm just sad that the cheesecake one is finished because I shared it with my husband (he didn't like the other two).
Yum sounds so good.
LOL since you guys have funny senses of humor I could see you two dueling over it like this Dairy Queen commercial .
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This is such a cute idea and I love all your posts. I cut a watermelon in half and eat out the middle with a spoon and then only log one cup. All.....the.....time. It keeps me from eating (and doing) bad things due to a state of hangry. Sometimes an active girl just NEEDS to grab a spoon and a watermelon to keep everyone else around her alive. I would also totally eat dried chocolate powder ANYTHING is I was having a craving, so I get that one!
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riderfangal wrote: »Confession: It was my sister's birthday this weekend, and we had ice cream cake for her yesterday. I just dug in with a fork once everyone else was done, and I regret nothing! I'd just finished a 6 hour round trip hike up a mountain with a 970m elevation gain in 31 degree Celsius weather and I was starving. I've been trying mindful eating for the past few days, with a fair bit of success, but that completely went out the window yesterday.
I would say after doing a mountain hike you certainly earned it!!
This! You definitely earned that ice cream cake.0 -
riderfangal wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »
Blah. I am so torn on this still. He keeps saying he wants to try but at the same time he admitted that whenever we fight now he withdraws more and more. He basically wants to start over and take things slow. I've only been seeing him about 3 hours each week. Since I'm a lady, I always think talking things over and working on it makes more sense but that's just me I guess...
He is still planning on spending the day before my bday and my bday with me Friday and Saturday so I'm curious to see how it goes.
I'm sick of being so negative and down about everything. I can't wait to be happy again.
I am not judging (well him maybe a little) but how do you start over after 11 years?
Exactly, it just sounds silly.
You don't. There's just too much emotional baggage to do that. Your man sounds like an excuse maker manipulating to maintain control while also not committing to anything. Sadly, I feel this will continue for the duration of you two being together.0 -
seriously? yeah because trying to guilt me into letting you come over to my place is an AWESOME first date.
then i get home and i have all these msg's from him saying he's leaving the dating website he found me on because he just can't handle how ppl are, and what was my problem that i couldn't trust him?!
well duh, we live in the same area, of course that makes him trustworthy!
sigh...
Because he can't handle how dating website girls aren't easy lays?
Since "snuggle" sounds like code for "go to your place and proceed to manipulate/coerce/guilt trip you into putting out", I'd say you dodged a bullet with that one. Ick.
Isn't that what Tinder is for?
(I've never used it so don't actually know how it works)
I thought it was a legit dating site (saw a show about it, maybe Doc Zone??) but that -- like every other dating site, says my cynical side -- it was primarily used as a hookup site.
The one that really bugs me is Ashley Madison, which apparently is specifically for married/committed dudes to find a discreet piece on the side.
For the record, I have nothing against casual hookups provided all parties involved are on the same page about the nature of the interaction. Hidden agendas and pretense always annoy me.
Ugh that's awful! I agree I have no issues with people who want multiple partners or enjoy casual flings/one night stands but at least be honest about your current partner status and what you want going forward!0 -
Wow, you guys, 900 new posts...
I had to skip some pages so I apologize.
I've got a serious case of the hangries today. Work is absolutely mental this month (big, big merger-type thing happening with the government involved) and all I want to do is eat all the stuff that keeps appearing in the kitchen (Nutella doughnuts?) But I've been having way too much fun already this month (camping trips, parties, hanging out with a beer at my pool, etc.) and none of my trousers are going to button if I continue in this vein, so...I'm living on vanilla orchid oolong tea and nerves until further notice. I'm usually a litres-of-black-coffee kinda girl but I've been really good at cutting that down over the past couple months so I'm trying not to backslide.
Still. Ugh.
My Modcloth dress order should be here tomorrow so I'll probably be able to pick it up on Thursday and show you guys photos of the dresses I posted last week so you can help me decide.
I'm really excited to have Wednesday off for Canada Day because it makes the work week seem so much better. I love weird holidays like that.
@KylerJaye and the online dating, good for you for sticking to your guns and not letting insta-creep push you into anything. It's terrible that you can spend a whole evening with someone and not see their crazy come out until hours later, but I guess that's online for you, right? Still, I'm wishing you better luck!0 -
Another who met their SO online right here- OKCupid haha who would've thought?0
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Wow, you guys, 900 new posts...
I had to skip some pages so I apologize.
I've got a serious case of the hangries today. Work is absolutely mental this month (big, big merger-type thing happening with the government involved) and all I want to do is eat all the stuff that keeps appearing in the kitchen (Nutella doughnuts?) But I've been having way too much fun already this month (camping trips, parties, hanging out with a beer at my pool, etc.) and none of my trousers are going to button if I continue in this vein, so...I'm living on vanilla orchid oolong tea and nerves until further notice. I'm usually a litres-of-black-coffee kinda girl but I've been really good at cutting that down over the past couple months so I'm trying not to backslide.
Still. Ugh.
My Modcloth dress order should be here tomorrow so I'll probably be able to pick it up on Thursday and show you guys photos of the dresses I posted last week so you can help me decide.
I'm really excited to have Wednesday off for Canada Day because it makes the work week seem so much better. I love weird holidays like that.
@KylerJaye and the online dating, good for you for sticking to your guns and not letting insta-creep push you into anything. It's terrible that you can spend a whole evening with someone and not see their crazy come out until hours later, but I guess that's online for you, right? Still, I'm wishing you better luck!
Good luck with the merger and avoiding all the treats at work. I am looking forward to Wednesday off as well and I also took Friday off so life is looking good!!0 -
I feel the need to confess: I don't like red velvet anything. I don't understand the hype. It tastes chemically to me.0
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quiksylver296 wrote: »I feel the need to confess: I don't like red velvet anything. I don't understand the hype. It tastes chemically to me.
I don't get like it either but more because it always has cream cheese icing & I don't like cream cheese.0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »@riderfangal eee I know the feeling when the guy is nice enough but that spark just isn't there and he keeps trying to touch you haha I hate that! At least you made a new friend and now you don't have to think 'what if' if you hadn't gone!
Lol yep it was pretty awkward and I am actually glad I went! Thank you all for the positive thoughts this week
That is so awkward!
I once went on a date and the guy was really into me, and I just was not feeling it....so we had went out for dinner and then went to a club I frequented....I thought he might have clued in when I kept introducing him as my friend and not my date, but he didn't. Finally, he leans into me and tells me how much he likes me....and I decide to be honest, and tell him he is a great guy but I am just not feeling it, that I will dance with him and such the rest of the night but I did not see it going anywhere.....he seemed fine, bought us another round of drinks, and then went to the bathroom, and NEVER RETURNED. He drove, so I was stranded a city away, at a night club. I was not impressed.....
this is one of my biggest fears! ugh, that's so terrible!
guys keep offering to pick me up and i'm like no thanks! a few seem put off by it, but your story is the EXACT reason why.
I agree with you. On a first date, when it's with someone I don't know, I'd much prefer to meet them somewhere rather than them know where my house is.
I'm stopping by at lunch time. I did a LOT of online dating until I met my SO. I got my screening down to a pretty good art. Message then email then phone call (optional) then a simple short meet date. Most guys who got to the meet part were nice enough guys but the meet for coffee or a quick lunch was plenty to let me know they were not right for me. I refused to have drinks as a first date, I want to know what I think of someone stone cold sober. SO and I had a lunch first date and had such a great time. I'd given him the wrong phone number so he was worried I was standing him up (I just transposed a number). He jumped to his feet, greeted me with a hug, was just fun the whole lunch. I'm with all the others who feel that you are super lucky your date showed what he's like so early on - he couldn't get through one date with decent behavior, who'd want a relationship where that was the norm. UGH! Enjoy the process. There are MANY many many men out there. It is a numbers game, you just have to keep trying until there is a good match for you both. If you want to take a break from it then take breaks as needed. I took a break when it started feeling like a chore.
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