Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    levan11 wrote: »
    Thank you @lbuehrle8! Was just going to edit my post to say "agree to disagree?" at the end. No hard feelings, and definitely not trying to get this thread shut down, I've been reading since page 1!

    In my perfect world everyone who worked an honest day's work would make enough to live on and enjoy some simple pleasures. In my perfect world people would have good nutrition and a place to live. In my perfect world those who worked hard for extra education or had great ideas and started companies would be compensated more. In my perfect world. Meanwhile I'm doing the best I can to navigate this imperfect world.

    Welcome @Levan11

  • MelissaPhippsFeagins
    MelissaPhippsFeagins Posts: 8,063 Member
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    TigerNY128 wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Can't believe I forgot to tell you all this!!
    Remember my special needs boy who almost missed his exam and you all talked me down when I was freaking out about it?! He passed!! That means he's graduated high school, so we are all very, very happy and relieved.

    @raelynnsmama52512 - This is the boy who at 3 was assessed and had virtually no language (receptive or expressive), plus a bunch of other learning issues, and at 15 was diagnosed on the autistic spectrum. He now has a girlfriend and a little circle of good friends, and has now graduated from the regular school program. I would never in my wildest dreams imagined he would be at this point when he was very young. Stick with it and I'm sure she'll surprise you.
    (Now he has to get a job!!)

    @Tubbs216 This made me cry. My nephew, who is 3, has just been diagnosed with autism, literally two weeks ago. He has virtually no language, he doesn't speak. He also has hearing problems and has to wear hearing aids. He sees a speech therapist, an occupational therapist, and a physical therapist. His doctor that diagnosed him with autism is recommending an intense therapy program of 30 to 40 HOURS A WEEK, every week, year round, from anywhere from TWO TO SIX YEARS. My family was devastated by this, as it's hard to imagine our sweet little boy having to go through therapy all day every day. This costs around $50,000 a year. We're hoping my sister and brother in law's insurance will cover most/all of it. If not, we're planning to pull together as a family to make it work. We just want to give him the best chance possible at living a healthy, happy life. It is so encouraging to hear about stories like yours. I will share this with my sister, it will give her some hope.

    First off in my friend capacity, I am sorry to hear this. Second, in my special needs mom capacity, never stop advocating for him. Third, in my professional capacity, he should qualify for Medicaid as a disabled person, and really, if he's this profoundly autistic, he may qualify for SSI and Medicare. Those would be secondary to the family's health insurance, but every penny helps.

    I got my son qualified for SSI after his second heart surgery when he was 3, for one year. It was the most brutal interview, series of paperwork, horrible experience. I wanted to make sure we had his needs covered but even though I'd been paying into the system since I started work at age 16 the woman interviewing me made me feel as if I was the most evil, incompetent mother ever for not being wealthy enough to cover all his costs and basically threatened me with an audit. It is 12 years later and I still have all my receipts from the money of what I used it for on him that year. (SHUDDER). I will probably have to help him through the process again but I'd rather work my tucus off an become wealthy so that I can take care of him. It sounds easier than going through that again. He is very well documented with a genetic disorder and autism but UGH!!!!!

    Yes, it's a nasty process designed to make you throw up your hands and quit and some of the people involved are nastier than the wicked witch in OZ. I think I would rather take my chances with the flying monkeys, but we do what it takes. Good luck and I hope you can avoid the meanies this times.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    Dnarules wrote: »
    Woke up to find our dog had died in the middle of the night. She was 11 years old. And we have no idea why it happened.

    One of my kids is devastated. The other doesn't even know yet, and I have to tell her soon.

    Soooo sad. I'm sorry. (Hugs)
  • CooCooPuff
    CooCooPuff Posts: 4,374 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    I'm here! Are you missing me?! I'm in Mexico and I'm definitely gaining weight. Damn you, all inclusive buffet and bar! Last time I was away I gained a pound for every day, but only one was 'real' weight, so I'm hoping this time is similar.
    Best wishes to all! I'll catch up when I'm home on Friday. xxx
    Hope you're having fun! My sister loves to take her family on cruises to Cozumel.

    I used to go to Mexico with my parents all the time when I was younger, but I don't feel safe in the town they go to anymore. The last time I went, my dad and his cousin were pulled over by a corrupt police officer looking for a bribe, and my dad's relative was giving him attitude. Plus, they go by bus through very seedy border towns.

    I've only had the salt and vinegar Quest Chips. They were AWFUL but I am very interested in giving them another shot, especially BBQ.

    @MelissaPhippsFeagins I need to work on my sentences better, but that's definitely a good system.

    Speaking of Girl Scout Cookies, this year, a troop that themselves stationed outside an HEB had the BEST Samoa cookie costume. I had to buy two boxes from these kids. :p

    I just tried to sync my Fitbit and it's down for maintenance. :s

    I need to work on my sentences, too. I don't mind other people realizing that kids could be a burden and choosing not to have them. I chose to have mine because i knew i would not feel that way. I travel less, but i am really fulfilled by being a mom.

    Edited for spelling...
    I can definitely see that. I tend to set "guard" myself around the parents in my family because some bad experiences with them.

    The kids themselves are pretty chill.

  • CooCooPuff
    CooCooPuff Posts: 4,374 Member
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    @pofoster21, good job with your race. Congrats on placing and being called petite! :) I also want to say I love how you responded to Crosby's post! And also, how much you've "learned" from this thread. Although it took you 47 years to realize you are super great, at least now you know it! And I think that's awesome!
    @raelynnsmama52512, good luck going forward with the house!
    @Lefty1290, welcome back!
    @Italian_Buju, I think it's great that you stand up for what you believe in.
    @riderfangal, hope your foot feels better soon!

    As for me...I'm taking a real rest day today! No running or treadmill...for the first time in well over a month (not quite sure exactly how long). I will walk outside if the rain holds off and I might do my short circuit training video. My step count will be waaay down today... I know I've said it so many times, I know rest days are good..it's just so hard for me!
    Also, I slept almost a full 8.5 hours...that's 3+ hours more than a normal night for me!! Wowza!
    Happy Sunday to everyone!

    You need to rest if you haven't in a month. Seriously. You should take a few days off. Otherwise you will burn out or injure yourself. It's important and can only improve your health and run times!

    I know..which is why I finally did it. I ended up doing my video and got two walks in but NO TREADMILL as promised!!! To be honest though..my mileage was still somewhat high (without any running) at 11 miles and almost 22,000 steps.
    And to get some extra rest...I even napped for 45 minutes! :)

    Oh! And I got new running sneakers today!!! I was way overdue!


    Doesn't sound like enough rest to me...but at least you got new sneaker! Very cool. I love buying new sneakers. I MIGHT have about 6 pairs in boxes in my closet...

    I know..but like I've said a bunch of times, it's hard for me to take a rest day. Yesterday actually was a rest compared to my usual day considering I would have had 6-8 miles on top of that if I had done the treadmill. I am working on it...baby steps! :) This is part of the reason that I am taking time off from joining the Fitbit weekly challenges too.

    Do you always stick with the same type of running shoe? Or do you wear/try out different ones?

    I have a tendency to get like that too... I don't really know how to rest, which is dumb but true. I am looking at getting an elliptical for our home gym and I know I'll always be on it in between my lifting sessions, plus doing my C25K.

    I love Brooks and Mizuno for shoes. Brooks Ghost is I think what I normally get and then whatever Mizuno Wave is a couple iterations back, because I'm cheap lol.

    So I have a bit of anxiety- I'm calling plastic surgeons today to get consults in a couple weeks when I have 2 days off work. I really need an extensive list of surgeries, like a lower body lift, brachioplasty, and a breast reduction/lift, but... I don't have a ton of $. So I think I'll divide it up and do what I can. I may get lucky and have insurance cover some because I have skin issues on my belly button/under my stomach skin, but I doubt it. I need some professional opinions and need to know how much $ we're looking at saving.

    I missed this earlier today. It's *possible* that the tummy surgery could be considered medically necessary but in 13 + years, I have only successfully argued to get 5 paid for. You are much more likely to get the breast reduction covered because oversized breasts have been documented to cause disabling back and even breathing problems in some patients. The vast majority of my job is fighting to get surgeries covered. It's ridiculous the lengths insurers go to in order to keep patient money in their pockets. As I said last week, we should have skipped the ACA and gone straight to single payer. At least then I would only have to argue with CMS, not 6-8 huge insurers, a multitude of smaller ones and all the varieties of coverage each insurer offers. Good luck with it. I will be hoping you can get the tummy and the reduction covered.
    I was pretty fortunate and never had to deal too much with insurance and medical costs until this year. It really does get terrifying pretty fast.

  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    ythannah wrote: »
    kecmw25 wrote: »
    Another confession: I really want pizza tonight even though we had pizza last weekend. I kind of hate it when my in-laws order pizza because they always get 1/2 mushrooms on it and I abhor them. Those stinky little fungi never stay on their side.
    I feel the same way about Italian sausage. Even if I picked them out of the pizza, their flavor still lingers... :s

    This, but olives. :p

    We went out for dinner last night and I had salad bar... thought I'd scooped up a black grape but considered it might be an olive... inspected it closely, decided it was definitely a grape, so in it went... OLIVE!! BLECH!

    Fortunately I had a forkful of broccoli salad ready to kill the taste, just in case.
    I had a dog that LOVED olives...but not in the eating kind of way. If someone dropped a bit of olive she'd roll and roll and roll on it. I never understood it but it made me laugh.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    So, I need to tell a sweet hubby story since everybody else is.

    I love to go dancing. Hubby can not find a beat. He signed us up for private dance lessons so he can dance with me. :grin:
    Last night was the first lesson. This will be a fun little diversion for us.

    Sounds like fun! <3
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    Just_Ceci wrote: »
    Speaking of dancing- did I tell you guys I was in the newspaper for sharing a dance with a resident at the local Veterans' Home on Independence Day? (I can't remember if I shared and don't want to look back through pages...) I was volunteering, helping serve lunch and just chatting with the residents. When he found out I was from Texas, he asked if I could 2 step and I said, "Of course!" The reporter took a pic of us dancing and it was published in the Sunday paper. My DH doesn't dance.


    ETA: That's my husband standing behind the fence in the background watching.

    Awwwwwww! Love it!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    Thanks for all the compliments ladies. Maybe it was just the jeans, but I really liked the view in that mirror today. It made me proud of all my hard work and dedication.

    That baby's going on Instagram. :smiley:
    Nice! Way to go and enjoy those jeans!

    I admit I will admire my backside from time to time...I think it is a natural thing to do!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    I'm a emotional eater and feel like I cant stop.

    Don't give up. Try again and again until you make new habits. You can do it. I journal my emotions. It helps me.

  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    crosbylee wrote: »
    Confession: I have not been pushing myself as much as I feel I should with the exercise because, I feel I am scared to see the results. If that makes any sense?? I have lived in this fat suit for so long now, it's like my personal protective gear. I want to lose this weight, but I think I am a bit scared to see the actual results.

    I understand this. Push through. Work on your braveness. You can do it and you will LOVE the results.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    Hi from page 1246! Im reading and trying to catch up, it may take a while.

    I miss you guys. I have been having a bit of a rough time. I'm seeing a trend of this as I read through. I hope everyone is doing alright, and I will check in as I can.

    What's wrong? I hope everything is ok......

    Everything is OK. My mom had back surgery, and then a few days later had a stroke. She is alright, but her brain still isn't working quite right. She had a heck of a time trying to explain things to the ER, and my brother (who was with her at the time) called my sister instead of me.No one called me at all until like 4 days later. I had no clue.

    My sister went to the hospital, and before she left, she dropped a bag of drugs somewhere in the exam room. When my mom tried to leave the hospital the next morning, cops were waiting outside to arrest her, because when the hospital staff cleaned her room, they found a bunch of heroin. She was super upset and scared about her brain issue, and then almost got arrested. She was banned from that hospital! I mean, really. Does no one have any common sense? I swear to goodness that I was switched at birth.


    YIKES!!! I hope it all got sorted out ok.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    So, about the house situation, hubby seems to have changed his mind. He really wants this house, and to be honest so do I, so we are going to get the down payment and deposit figured out so we can get the house. There's a lot of ways to try to get those up, so now it's just figuring out the best way to go about it. :smiley:

    Good luck!!!! I hope it all works out beautifully.
  • creationscrown
    creationscrown Posts: 304 Member
    This is the funniest thread ever! Such honesty! Love it! Ditto to nearly all.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »

    ETA: I can't believe I forgot this part! So my NSV in my 260 day logging streak... Yesterday at the race expo, I was buying a new reflective vest to be able to run early am/late pm (to keep my motivation commitments) and the guy sized me up and said 'you're pretty petite you may not need...". PRETTY PETITE! OMG. No one has EVER called me that. I wanted to kiss him. My friend, who is ALWAYS petite, just rolled her eyes when I turned to her and said...Did you hear what he said?????????????????????????
    Yay for your NSV!!!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    Confession: I have not been pushing myself as much as I feel I should with the exercise because, I feel I am scared to see the results. If that makes any sense?? I have lived in this fat suit for so long now, it's like my personal protective gear. I want to lose this weight, but I think I am a bit scared to see the actual results.

    To be honest, I have heard this is not an unusual reaction. Because... and please don't take this the wrong way... weight is armor. You can hide behind it. I can't remember who early on said that when they were heavy the were not noticed, and when they lost weight, people smiled at them, opened doors for them, etc.

    Its a cover. You can hide behind it. Be invisible. But you know what? WHY do you want to be invisible. Accept people suck. You don't. So look in the mirror. Be proud of what you have accomplished. And just plain of who you are. Whether you ever lose the weight or not... you have to be happy with yourself. I would guess if you are afraid of losing the weight...because you are afraid of who you will be when you lose the weight...because you are afraid of being noticed... you need to realize weight is window dressing. We all think you are terrific. I think you are married... I imagine he thinks you are terrific. Your dogs (if you have them) probably think you are terrific. I know my cats and horses think I am terrific. Just find yourself (at whatever weight) and realize you are a super great person. It took me 47 years to realize that. And I am sad it did. But I did. And you can too. And if being 125 makes you happy or 225 makes you happy (and healthy... please be healthy) then that is where you need to be.

    Thank you Patricia, I appreciate the words of support and kindness. I have dealt with weight most of my life, but have been at a normal weight more than half my life. As we are fond of saying, I wish I weighed what I did when I thought I was fat before. (That was a healthy 135, then). I am still making my way through this process and realizing that I am doing this for me and no one else. My feelings about what I am doing and how I need to go about treating myself to get there are the only ones that matter. We are pretty close in age, so I can understand how you feel about it taking so long to realize what you needed to do. Baby steps, just keep on taking them.

    Yep, and I have been overweight most of my life. My 'thin' periods I can count on one hand. Seriously. I have been active most of my adult life, but 'thin' hardly ever and mostly because of an unsustainable diet. I have never been "super" heavy, but have had a lot of weight on my body. Because I hated myself. I was an unattractive, awkward, unhappy kid who was surrounded by gorgeous OR genius OR successful OR both people. Being generally good at a lot of things, but not great (or super smart) at anything, plus being a middle child in a familly of 5, was really hard. Seriously. I know it sounds crazy (seriously crazy) but talking to all of you finally made me realize I am ok. Not for any reason except none of you have a SINGLE expectation of me. And frankly, until today's picture, had never seen me (except in the batcave). So there was no preconceived notions. Or expectations. And learning about why people hate people who are always late (I try not to be now), why people binge eat, struggles with family, sisters, parents, ,etc. have finally made me realize...I am not a freak. And to have a better understanding of people in general. So yes, I am a work in progress, but I am finally starting to figure out I like who I am .... whatever I look like (facially or weigh wise). Plus.. I have killer taste in shoes. That counts for something. :)

    I quite like you!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    Waving at @nonoelmo. Welcome back!

    Thank you. I think I am still a few pages behind but I'm catching up.

  • BodyByBex
    BodyByBex Posts: 3,685 Member
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    jthurman3 wrote: »
    Confession: I drink a fair amount of Crystal Light and I never, ever log it. I treat it like a diet soda, even though it does have some calories.

    Meh - I wouldn't log it either.

    Oh - that's another good word for the pronunciation question: EYE-ther or EE-ther?
    Eether!
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    Okay, as another word comparison, how do you say batteries?

    Bat-trees or (the correct way lol) batter-ees ?

    DEFINITELY batter-ees!!! Bat-trees is just weird.

    It is! I have an uncle that says it that way and it really bothers me. Now I think he does it just to bug the rest of us.

    This reminds me that my husband will mispronounce things on purpose just to annoy me. He says stuff like 'antibeeotic' or 'vittamins'. I ignored it for years and when I snapped he was like "Finally!". He's a big jerk, btw.
    My boyfriend does the same thing. Then again, I like to frustrate him, too. The other day I was arguing quite seriously that the spinal chord is a big muscle and bones don't grow in our backs ("That's why some people are paralyzed when they damage their spines! If it were a bone the doctor would be able to set it back and it would fix itself... duh!"). My motive was to annoy him. Kind of makes me sound a little bit evil, doesn't it?

    That made me laugh out loud. Did he start to believe you at all?

    I had a boyfriend try to explain to me that his junk was a muscle and got bigger with exercise... Umm I really don't know if he actually believed that or not.

    LOL!
    Although, I did read (on the internet so I didn't put much weight in it) that it can shrink a little from 'lack of use.'

    :astonished:
  • BodyByBex
    BodyByBex Posts: 3,685 Member
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    I'm a emotional eater and feel like I cant stop.

    Don't give up. Try again and again until you make new habits. You can do it. I journal my emotions. It helps me.


    I find it difficult to journal my POSITIVE emotions. I go back and read past entries sometimes and just...yuck...sometimes I sound like a whiney baby other times I'm like "That guy was a (EXPLETIVE)! Why didn't I reread this and realize that SOONER?!"
  • nonoelmo
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    Just_Ceci wrote: »
    Nice 45 mile bicycle ride this morning, hoping I can keep from eating 5,000 calories today!
    Go Just Ceci!!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    Just_Ceci wrote: »
    We got one peach off our tree this year, first time it produced fruit. It was delicious!

    We have a peach tree in our yard and it has only given up tiny sweet peaches.


    Confession: Tonight I slathered myself in a blend of coconut, tea tree, and cinnamon oils on top of my prescription cream(after it dried) and I smell mostly like cinnamon. As long as I don't smell like a rotting mushroom that is FINE BY ME!

    Confession: Today was my dad's 63rd birthday and I had a slice of cake and didn't log it.

    Confession: After gaining 2 pounds yesterday(bringing me to 186 lbs), I had a woosh when I woke up this afternoon and the scale said 183. I'm not believing it until I get tomorrows reading as well.


    I bet you smell yummy! I hope it works for you.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    Cool. I've started to catch up to myself. (big goofy grin.)
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    I had two giant baskets of peaches yesterday, and it did not go as well as planned, lol.

    The first basket was half full of peaches that I think might have gotten frozen in the fridge so I had to throw them out as they were all mushy and gross. My guy delivered them last Sunday, so I had to fridge them so they would not go bad before this past Sunday, and because it is a fridge downstairs that was empty, I think it was too cold.

    The skinning part was super hard.....like 1% of them came off properly.....most of them I had to peel manually. I think some of them were not ripe enough again, in the fridge that takes a while, should have taken them out before Saturday afternoon, ugh. My son ate a few leftover ones last night and said they were kinda hard, so I am hoping the sealing process made the other ones softer.

    Then we lost a jar, and I use the really large jars. The last batch was sealing and I could smell sugar or something so I check and the bottom of a jar is broken right off and there were peaches everywhere :|

    I only got six large jars out of two large baskets. Last year I had Monday picked peaches that we canned on a Thursday and they were perfect. When I am ready for my next batch I am gonna ask them to be picked on Wednesday since I have to do the canning on a Sunday.

    Now I am gonna have to do two more sets instead of one because this batch was so crappy......

    But, on the bright side, I have six more jars of peaches that I did not have yesterday......

    Good luck getting through them all. I've done a little canning. I made an Italian Plum jelly once. It took so long...but was so good.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    I confess that I judge the people on my Facebook page who get into relationships where both parties tell eachother how much they are in love and will always be together.... only to break up a week later.

    I just saw this happen... but it didn't even last one week. They broke up after four days. Made me cringe. :(

    I want to say to these people "Can't you just text each other your nauseating messages?!"

    I have zero idea if my SO has "in a relationship" marked on his facebook page or not. I don't know if it would occur to him or not and I don't care either way. I don't do facebook. :smiley:

  • BodyByBex
    BodyByBex Posts: 3,685 Member
    Confession: I am REALLY hoping there is a slice of cake waiting for my when I get home and a glass of wine to go with it.

    A straight 12 hour shift, 12 days into a 14 day streak of straight 8's....I can do this....

    I feel so exhausted. My friend Alycia and I are SO having a girls day on my only day off. Thursday can not come quickly enough.
  • nonoelmo
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    kyrah702 wrote: »
    Ugh I was dreading weighing myself because in the past, I got too stuck on the numbers and it hindered my weight loss and was very discouraging. I stupidly took the advice of other and weighed myself for the first time in well over a year after my swim at the pool and I'm 20lbs heavier than I thought I was. Ugh.

    I feel so crappy now and wish I'd never done that. I was going to just use a measuring tape to keep tabs on losses. I wish I had listened to myself rather than others.


    Start from now and try different things until you find what works for you. Weighing daily works for a lot of people. It helps me keep on track but now I have my scale hidden from my daughter b/c it was not healthy for her... but there is no "right" weight for me. I have a range that works depending on what my goals are. Right now I want to be a little leaner so I'm slowly getting there.

    Welcome and good luck.
  • nonoelmo
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    edited July 2015
    jthurman3 wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    Confession: It really annoys me that kids around here beg for their extracurricular activity funds. I can't tell you how many cars I washed for yearbook club or how many candy bars I sold for everything else!

    Another confession: If you come up to me and say that because I don't have kids I should buy some cookie dough or giftwrap from yours, I ain't doing it.

    Yep... what happened to the days of bottle drives, bake sales, and car washes? I love it when someone brings in their kid's chocolate bars to peddle... and they usually disappear fast, so I'm not the only one.

    I don't ever get the "because you don't have kids" spiel but I'll go along with that argument the day someone throws me a puppy shower :)
    Where is everyone?? ;)

    Wondering the same thing myself...

    My old co-workers actually DID throw me a puppy shower! It was fantastic. I was SO excited about getting my puppy that I talked about it for MONTHS. My boss made some excuse to pull me into a conference room (I thought I was in trouble and was super nervous), but when we got there, everyone said "Surprise!!!" It was a surprise puppy shower for me. There was cake, dog toys, treats, and a gift card to a pet supply store. It was a little over 11 years ago, but I still remember how happy it made me. One of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me! (The puppy that was the subject of the party is the dog in my profile pic. I :heart: him.)

    I love it.

    I had to sell stuff in school. Didn't like it. Preferred paper drives and car washes.
  • nonoelmo
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    nonoelmo wrote: »
    Ok, new Raelynn update!

    I finally got a call back from Help Me Grow (program through United Way), and the lady was so helpful! She did suggest that I call our county mental health center to see if we could possibly get some kind of counseling for her, and she will also be looking for some occupational therapy offices for us that may not be so much of a financial burden until we can get Medicaid going. She's going to be emailing me that information sometime tomorrow so that hubby and I can see what would work best. She also told me about Family Connections which is some kind of network/program for special needs children and their families, so that if we needed some support or to see if we could connect with another family that has a child with the same disorders as Raelynn for support and help with everything. I've got to call about the counseling tomorrow, and I have to call the doctor and give an update as well, so tomorrow should *hopefully* be a productive day.

    I feel for hubby though, this is all getting to him so much. He's so afraid that she's not going to be able to have a "normal" life, and that's the only thing he wants for her. It goes without saying that I want her to have as much of a "normal" life as possible, but it's so scary when there's so many unknowns and we don't know what will happen. I'm trying to stay positive and optimistic about things, but it's overwhelming at times.

    Hugs. And hope...my son who has Aspergers Syndrome is starting college in a few weeks. He has fewer friends than some teens, but he doesn't seem to mind that. Raelynn will find her own normal. It really will be hard but it really will be better than either of you thinks right now.
    I second this. My son is 15 and we have done a lot to support his growth in all areas. Sometimes he is "normal" and sometimes he needs a lot of extra support. I just saw the results of his cardio exam. He had an open heart at 3 days and 3.5 years. It was horrible watching him go into congestive heart failure at 3 years old. Well, this report looks as if that he may end up needing another surgery. I have some follow up to do with the doctor and probably have another doctor look at him. UGH. But we do what it takes to take care of our kids. Hugs and love
    Hugs and love to you and your son. I will pray for no surgery to be needed, but, yes, we do whatever we have to.

    Thanks. At this point they just want to see him in another year....but...last time they felt it would be longer than it was so I will have him looked at in 4 - 6 months. Thank you again. He is visiting my parents for the summer so it will still be a few weeks until he's back at home. I can tell by his behavior pretty well how his health is and I will get lots of things double checked when he's back.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    ythannah wrote: »

    @nonoelmo hoping for the best for your son!

    Thank you.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    I'm a emotional eater and feel like I cant stop.

    Don't give up. Try again and again until you make new habits. You can do it. I journal my emotions. It helps me.


    I find it difficult to journal my POSITIVE emotions. I go back and read past entries sometimes and just...yuck...sometimes I sound like a whiney baby other times I'm like "That guy was a (EXPLETIVE)! Why didn't I reread this and realize that SOONER?!"
    My journals are often whiny and pouty pages long pity parties. They get all of that crud out of my brain and onto the page where I can examine it. If I feel strongly about something I make myself explain it to myself. I make myself dig into WHY I feel what I feel. I've done it for years and it is so private that I often rip up the pages soon after writing them.