Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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I was like this for years, and then found a hairdresser I really liked. Then she went on her own and works out of her basement now, so I go there. I love the way she cuts my hair, but don't like her colours any more - I think the lighting is bad in her basement maybe? Anyway, not sure what to do about it. I can't just not book with her because I know she'll call me.On the topic of hair...
I don't have a regular hair stylist. I know a lot of people that do hair, but I avoid getting my hair done by people I know. I don't want to get upset at them if they mess my hair up. I also used to be a receptionist at a salon, and it really upset me how bad the stylists there trash talked their clients... Even the ones they were friends with.
I've spent the last couple years getting my hair done by randoms. I hate it, but I know if I ask for recommendations, I'll just get referred to someone I know.
I finally bit the bullet and "broke up" with my stylist of 20+ years 2 years ago. Per my earlier post, my previously fine, thin hair has finally grown and thickened up, but she still styled it the same way instead of adapting to it. My hair is naturally curly and she'd never get it completely dry, which meant that about 15 min. after I left her shop (and paid her $65.00) I had to go home immediately and re-do it myself! I got tired of doing that after about 3 times and just stopped going.
I now cut and color it myself and I'm much happier! Plus, saving money. I did send her a really nice card to say "Thank You" and a brief explanation of why I stopped coming in. Perhaps if this happens with another client she'll be aware.0 -
I have done the hot chocolate powder thing. Just kept dipping the spoon in water and back in the powder, rinse and repeat. Was actually amazing so now I have to have the sachets instead of the big pot so I don't do it again haha.
Humm a confession. My daughter doesn't like crusts on her sandwiches so some days when I am prepping it I eat her crusts. There. I said it.
Am I not supposed to do that? Sometimes, I even put a little extra peanut butter around the edges so I can have a little bit when I eat her crust!
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<--- I've eaten a donut with a peep on it. this will prevent me from buying a box of peeps and eating them.0
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AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »<--- I've eaten a donut with a peep on it. this will prevent me from buying a box of peeps and eating them.
I'm very tempted to try Peep S'mores...0 -
JulieAnneFIU wrote: »I was diagnosed with posterior tibial tendinitis and am in a giant boot totally grounded from all things (walk, run, bike, lift) for four weeks. I cried right in the office. My entire deficit is because of my activity. I was eating over 2000 calories and losing. Now I'm down to 1600 to maintain 1350 to lose 1/2 a pound. A tiny part of me is glad because I was burned out but I have to really reign in my logging for the next month and it's mt birthday! Wah!
Sorry to hear about this... that must royally suck!
OTOH, you could always join the high-volume, low-weight arm workout club and build some enviable shoulders. Lol.
On an unrelated note, I discovered the other day that I can do hanging leg raises (NOT from a pullup, just dangling from my power rack) so I'm going to do those regularly. Just because I think they LOOK impressive... this despite the fact that I workout alone and nobody will actually see me.
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I confess, I'm such a number nerd! I stopped my car a few months back to catch this epic moment:
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I have done this with some numbers on my car's odometer. I think its cool too!0 -
I was 16 pounds away from goal and quit. I had lost 84 lbs. I gained back 46 lbs. Now I'm back at it but I'm so mad at myself and full of self loathing.0
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courtenaymichele wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »A more light-hearted confession for my American football friends: I LOVE J.J. Watt. And I'm a Bears fan...
You've made an opening for a confession I've been thinking about for a while. I also love JJ Watt but I'm from WI. BUT I can't stand Aaron Rodgers. I feel like I'm the only person in this state that doesn't worship him.
I like Aaron Rodgers... and I'm a Bears fan. *shame*
So then I might be the only person in the world that doesn't like him
In all fairness, when Cutler is your QB, what are you supposed to do? Us Bears fans have to have some QB to admire.
At least you have a qb. Try being a Vikings fan right now
I'm a Jets fan. Talk about lack of QB!
I'm a 20 year + Redskins fan. Enough said!! Still love my skins though!
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overlook237 wrote: »Kasey_Ford wrote: »When I'm fighting a craving, I eat other stuff to avoid the "bad" food and end up going way over my calories for the day. Also, I have no self-control when it comes to sweets. I've had to learn to just buy a serving instead of a package of something...I'm not done til it's all gone...
This is totally me with certain things. I try to buy the single serving stuff when it's available, but this weekend, I wanted plain tortilla chips and had to buy a regular sized bag. So after I ate what I wanted, I had to give the bag to someone in my house to hide from me! It sounds silly, but it worked. I didn't waste money throwing them away, and I have no idea where they are so I can't eat them all now
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I have a physically active 17 year old son who eats like a horse (he should he's always going and doing something like football practice, swim practice, beating up his friends in mock wrestling matches), and I give him leftovers. I know if he gets it, it will be gone from the house! lol0 -
xMrBunglex wrote: »nikimommy2 wrote: »drinking......
Hang in there. My drinking got pretty ridiculous after 40, and after several attempts, I finally quit for good.
I like to say my Drinking Novel had a lot of funny, epic, enjoyable chapters. Started off awesome, and included some of the most memorable times of my life...but towards the end they were just the same old boring depressing crap...page after page after page.
Dec 31, 2011 was my last drink...and I don't miss it. AT ALL.
Congrats. That's harder than some people realize0 -
I'm too vain. :::you're so vain... You probably think this song is about you:::0
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It's SO hard for me to stay focused on eating right, I just want to lose weight on the junk food diet.. le sigh to bad that will never be possible.. the struggle is everlasting.0
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xMrBunglex wrote: »nikimommy2 wrote: »drinking......
Hang in there. My drinking got pretty ridiculous after 40, and after several attempts, I finally quit for good.
I like to say my Drinking Novel had a lot of funny, epic, enjoyable chapters. Started off awesome, and included some of the most memorable times of my life...but towards the end they were just the same old boring depressing crap...page after page after page.
Dec 31, 2011 was my last drink...and I don't miss it. AT ALL.
So inspiring!! I'm 29 and while I've had some great times with alcohol I've had some bad times and I made the decision to quit! January 11th 2015 is my date! This weekend will be 12 weeks!! I feel so much better than I ever have in my life and so far I'm not missing it at all! I just take it one day at a time!
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I was at my goal for 2 years which was a 75lb loss (from doing WW online) . Then gained 30 in 6months stayed there for a few years. Now I am here starting weight up 55 lbs out of the 75lbs. Don't beat yourself up (I did for awhile). Remember you KNOW you can do this because you HAVE before. Believe it or not that is a leg up on most people facing this. Just have to decide to stop beating yourself up.bootsiejayne wrote: »I was 16 pounds away from goal and quit. I had lost 84 lbs. I gained back 46 lbs. Now I'm back at it but I'm so mad at myself and full of self loathing.0
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AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »<--- I've eaten a donut with a peep on it. this will prevent me from buying a box of peeps and eating them.
Glad I saw this so I can stop trying to figure out wtf that is in the picture.
Today's confession - last time I slept in, I lost a lb after I went back to bed. Decided to try it again today since the fluid is on a downswing this week, and I'm ticked I only slept away a half lb this time.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »xMrBunglex wrote: »nikimommy2 wrote: »drinking......
Hang in there. My drinking got pretty ridiculous after 40, and after several attempts, I finally quit for good.
I like to say my Drinking Novel had a lot of funny, epic, enjoyable chapters. Started off awesome, and included some of the most memorable times of my life...but towards the end they were just the same old boring depressing crap...page after page after page.
Dec 31, 2011 was my last drink...and I don't miss it. AT ALL.
I have been drinking a lot the last few years (maybe after 40?) to the point I started getting really worried. I attribute a lot of my weight gain the last 3 years to eating out every night and drinking (by myself, at a restaurant bar, with a book). It was my 'down' time and gave me a mental break. Work was stressful, going home (even though I live alone) always made me fee like I needed to do something...clean, homework, etc. Then I got sick of how fat I had gotten, and how I had lost all this weight 3 years ago, gained most of it back, and was bursting out of my clothes again (had donated all my 'fat' clothes when I lost the weight last time). Lost 20 lbs then stalled and quit eating out almost entirely and almost stopped drinking again. I feel better, etc, but the last 4 nights out of 5 between going out with friends and traveling, I had wine and ate out again. Starting 4/1 back on the right foot.
Its hard to stop, and I am still working on it, but and when I don't drink I feel so much better. My family is 90% alcoholics (100% Irish) and I don't want to join that club. Until the last few years I wasn't much of a drinker. Now I am. And it needs to stop.
One other thing that scared me too, was the restaurant where I was going for food (really 2) it had become like I was a 'regular', there was a group of us that were there all the time, they knew what I ate/drank, and it felt like Cheers. It as 'family' on one hand, but one day I got frightened...is THIS what I want my life to be like? My 'friends' people I only see at a bar? And that kind of scared the crap out of me. I was starting to prefer going there than seeing my real friends and spending time with them, because this was just so much less stressful and zero expectations. You never let down a bartender, or have nuances with the folks at the bar you say 'hi' to every night. And one day it was like looking in a mirror, and I got scared. So I stopped going. Just stopped. Sometimes I wonder if they think I got hit by a car or something, I just disappeared.
Whew. Okay that was my confession.
Good stuff!
I remember when my wife & I were regulars at our local "Drinking Establishment" in our early 30s, and there was a group of older folks (OK, barflies) that were ALWAYS seated at the end of the bar. (We decided to not have kids, so partying was a big part of our lives.)
Every time we went in there, whether it was 5:00 Tuesday, noon on Friday, 11:30 Saturday morning, 12:00 am Sunday night....they were there. I said to my wife "That's NOT going to be us, OK?" ... and ten years later, we were well on our way to joining them.
Like you, we both come from alcoholic households, and were are pretty much the only 2 sober ones now. (My wife still has a glass of wine occasionally, but I'm done.) When we go to family gatherings it's like a barbarian war party & we pretty much can't wait to get out of there!
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bootsiejayne wrote: »I was 16 pounds away from goal and quit. I had lost 84 lbs. I gained back 46 lbs. Now I'm back at it but I'm so mad at myself and full of self loathing.
First step to success is to get rid of all the negative thoughts! Easier said than done, but stop yourself from being angry and hating yourself every time those thoughts pop into your mind. They do no benefit to you and will hold you back.
Instead, try adopting the, "I've done this before, I'll do it again!" attitude. Keep saying it until you believe it. Good luck!0 -
It's SO hard for me to stay focused on eating right, I just want to lose weight on the junk food diet.. le sigh to bad that will never be possible.. the struggle is everlasting.
Have you heard about @tincanonastring and his Master Peep Cleanse (TM): Everything you wanted to know about losing weight 1 sugar coated rabbit at a time.0 -
bootsiejayne wrote: »I was 16 pounds away from goal and quit. I had lost 84 lbs. I gained back 46 lbs. Now I'm back at it but I'm so mad at myself and full of self loathing.
First step to success is to get rid of all the negative thoughts! Easier said than done, but stop yourself from being angry and hating yourself every time those thoughts pop into your mind. They do no benefit to you and will hold you back.
Instead, try adopting the, "I've done this before, I'll do it again!" attitude. Keep saying it until you believe it. Good luck!
You're pretty rad.0 -
My confession for today is that I REALLY want to throw my stapler at the man sitting at the desk in front of me, but my boss won't let me because apparently we need him
He is the most rude, vile person I have ever had the misfortune of meeting. For example, he thinks it is hilarious to burp the word BOLLOCKS or that in his opinion it is perfectly acceptable to interrupt a woman because he will probably be right anyway. 
Um. how old is this man/child? I have ZERO tolerance for people who do not use manners. Sorry you are dealing with that!
He is 50, (but don't tell his partners family, they think he is 40...) with the intellect of a 3 year old. Which ironically is the age of his daughter. I feel more sorry for her.
Oh, I REALLY hope she has other people in her life with some manners, class, and maturity so that she can learn.0 -
xMrBunglex wrote: »nikimommy2 wrote: »drinking......
Hang in there. My drinking got pretty ridiculous after 40, and after several attempts, I finally quit for good.
I like to say my Drinking Novel had a lot of funny, epic, enjoyable chapters. Started off awesome, and included some of the most memorable times of my life...but towards the end they were just the same old boring depressing crap...page after page after page.
Dec 31, 2011 was my last drink...and I don't miss it. AT ALL.
Congrats. That's harder than some people realize
Yes, yes it is. It's surprising how many things involve alcohol. You don't really see it until you stop drinking. That's been my personal experience anyway. I stopped completely for about 2 years simply due to some health reasons and those were some interesting times! I was always the designated driver, which I didn't mind because I felt safe that way, but being around drunk people is REALLY annoying when you are sober. (that sounds judgy and I don't mean it to be)0 -
xMrBunglex wrote: »nikimommy2 wrote: »drinking......
Hang in there. My drinking got pretty ridiculous after 40, and after several attempts, I finally quit for good.
I like to say my Drinking Novel had a lot of funny, epic, enjoyable chapters. Started off awesome, and included some of the most memorable times of my life...but towards the end they were just the same old boring depressing crap...page after page after page.
Dec 31, 2011 was my last drink...and I don't miss it. AT ALL.
So inspiring!! I'm 29 and while I've had some great times with alcohol I've had some bad times and I made the decision to quit! January 11th 2015 is my date! This weekend will be 12 weeks!! I feel so much better than I ever have in my life and so far I'm not missing it at all! I just take it one day at a time!
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AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »bootsiejayne wrote: »I was 16 pounds away from goal and quit. I had lost 84 lbs. I gained back 46 lbs. Now I'm back at it but I'm so mad at myself and full of self loathing.
First step to success is to get rid of all the negative thoughts! Easier said than done, but stop yourself from being angry and hating yourself every time those thoughts pop into your mind. They do no benefit to you and will hold you back.
Instead, try adopting the, "I've done this before, I'll do it again!" attitude. Keep saying it until you believe it. Good luck!
You're pretty rad.
Well, thank you. And I'm also glad you explained what your new avatar was because I was quite confused, although I KNEW it had to involve a peep!0 -
AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »It's SO hard for me to stay focused on eating right, I just want to lose weight on the junk food diet.. le sigh to bad that will never be possible.. the struggle is everlasting.
Have you heard about @tincanonastring and his Master Peep Cleanse (TM): Everything you wanted to know about losing weight 1 sugar coated rabbit at a time.
Lol see the ONE sugar diet and I can't stand peeps!! and so the search/struggle continues.0 -
IxMrBunglex wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »xMrBunglex wrote: »nikimommy2 wrote: »drinking......
Hang in there. My drinking got pretty ridiculous after 40, and after several attempts, I finally quit for good.
I like to say my Drinking Novel had a lot of funny, epic, enjoyable chapters. Started off awesome, and included some of the most memorable times of my life...but towards the end they were just the same old boring depressing crap...page after page after page.
Dec 31, 2011 was my last drink...and I don't miss it. AT ALL.
I have been drinking a lot the last few years (maybe after 40?) to the point I started getting really worried. I attribute a lot of my weight gain the last 3 years to eating out every night and drinking (by myself, at a restaurant bar, with a book). It was my 'down' time and gave me a mental break. Work was stressful, going home (even though I live alone) always made me fee like I needed to do something...clean, homework, etc. Then I got sick of how fat I had gotten, and how I had lost all this weight 3 years ago, gained most of it back, and was bursting out of my clothes again (had donated all my 'fat' clothes when I lost the weight last time). Lost 20 lbs then stalled and quit eating out almost entirely and almost stopped drinking again. I feel better, etc, but the last 4 nights out of 5 between going out with friends and traveling, I had wine and ate out again. Starting 4/1 back on the right foot.
Its hard to stop, and I am still working on it, but and when I don't drink I feel so much better. My family is 90% alcoholics (100% Irish) and I don't want to join that club. Until the last few years I wasn't much of a drinker. Now I am. And it needs to stop.
One other thing that scared me too, was the restaurant where I was going for food (really 2) it had become like I was a 'regular', there was a group of us that were there all the time, they knew what I ate/drank, and it felt like Cheers. It as 'family' on one hand, but one day I got frightened...is THIS what I want my life to be like? My 'friends' people I only see at a bar? And that kind of scared the crap out of me. I was starting to prefer going there than seeing my real friends and spending time with them, because this was just so much less stressful and zero expectations. You never let down a bartender, or have nuances with the folks at the bar you say 'hi' to every night. And one day it was like looking in a mirror, and I got scared. So I stopped going. Just stopped. Sometimes I wonder if they think I got hit by a car or something, I just disappeared.
Whew. Okay that was my confession.
Good stuff!
I remember when my wife & I were regulars at our local "Drinking Establishment" in our early 30s, and there was a group of older folks (OK, barflies) that were ALWAYS seated at the end of the bar. (We decided to not have kids, so partying was a big part of our lives.)
Every time we went in there, whether it was 5:00 Tuesday, noon on Friday, 11:30 Saturday morning, 12:00 am Sunday night....they were there. I said to my wife "That's NOT going to be us, OK?" ... and ten years later, we were well on our way to joining them.
Like you, we both come from alcoholic households, and were are pretty much the only 2 sober ones now. (My wife still has a glass of wine occasionally, but I'm done.) When we go to family gatherings it's like a barbarian war party & we pretty much can't wait to get out of there!
I, too, come from an alcoholic household. I got really bad. And it has gotten to a point when I can't control it. One shot will turn to two to five and before I realize it more than half the bottle is gone.
I haven't had a drop since March 12th, and I can truly say that I haven't had an urge to drink either.
I would drink when I was happy, when I was sad, when I was angry, when I was depressed. Every emotion was a reason to drink.
I can't tell you how much better I feel both physically and emotionally. And I'm hoping to continue this cleaner way of living.
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denielle715 wrote: »IxMrBunglex wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »xMrBunglex wrote: »nikimommy2 wrote: »drinking......
Hang in there. My drinking got pretty ridiculous after 40, and after several attempts, I finally quit for good.
I like to say my Drinking Novel had a lot of funny, epic, enjoyable chapters. Started off awesome, and included some of the most memorable times of my life...but towards the end they were just the same old boring depressing crap...page after page after page.
Dec 31, 2011 was my last drink...and I don't miss it. AT ALL.
I have been drinking a lot the last few years (maybe after 40?) to the point I started getting really worried. I attribute a lot of my weight gain the last 3 years to eating out every night and drinking (by myself, at a restaurant bar, with a book). It was my 'down' time and gave me a mental break. Work was stressful, going home (even though I live alone) always made me fee like I needed to do something...clean, homework, etc. Then I got sick of how fat I had gotten, and how I had lost all this weight 3 years ago, gained most of it back, and was bursting out of my clothes again (had donated all my 'fat' clothes when I lost the weight last time). Lost 20 lbs then stalled and quit eating out almost entirely and almost stopped drinking again. I feel better, etc, but the last 4 nights out of 5 between going out with friends and traveling, I had wine and ate out again. Starting 4/1 back on the right foot.
Its hard to stop, and I am still working on it, but and when I don't drink I feel so much better. My family is 90% alcoholics (100% Irish) and I don't want to join that club. Until the last few years I wasn't much of a drinker. Now I am. And it needs to stop.
One other thing that scared me too, was the restaurant where I was going for food (really 2) it had become like I was a 'regular', there was a group of us that were there all the time, they knew what I ate/drank, and it felt like Cheers. It as 'family' on one hand, but one day I got frightened...is THIS what I want my life to be like? My 'friends' people I only see at a bar? And that kind of scared the crap out of me. I was starting to prefer going there than seeing my real friends and spending time with them, because this was just so much less stressful and zero expectations. You never let down a bartender, or have nuances with the folks at the bar you say 'hi' to every night. And one day it was like looking in a mirror, and I got scared. So I stopped going. Just stopped. Sometimes I wonder if they think I got hit by a car or something, I just disappeared.
Whew. Okay that was my confession.
Good stuff!
I remember when my wife & I were regulars at our local "Drinking Establishment" in our early 30s, and there was a group of older folks (OK, barflies) that were ALWAYS seated at the end of the bar. (We decided to not have kids, so partying was a big part of our lives.)
Every time we went in there, whether it was 5:00 Tuesday, noon on Friday, 11:30 Saturday morning, 12:00 am Sunday night....they were there. I said to my wife "That's NOT going to be us, OK?" ... and ten years later, we were well on our way to joining them.
Like you, we both come from alcoholic households, and were are pretty much the only 2 sober ones now. (My wife still has a glass of wine occasionally, but I'm done.) When we go to family gatherings it's like a barbarian war party & we pretty much can't wait to get out of there!
I, too, come from an alcoholic household. I got really bad. And it has gotten to a point when I can't control it. One shot will turn to two to five and before I realize it more than half the bottle is gone.
I haven't had a drop since March 12th, and I can truly say that I haven't had an urge to drink either.
I would drink when I was happy, when I was sad, when I was angry, when I was depressed. Every emotion was a reason to drink.
I can't tell you how much better I feel both physically and emotionally. And I'm hoping to continue this cleaner way of living.
Taking it one day at a time.
Sounds like we were drinking twins, I too used alcohol for all my emotions and once I started I rarely ever cut myself off, it wasn't good! Definitely happier now that I quit, trying to get my family to quit as well!0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »Oh, here's another one. I was at the gym yesterday and hopped on a treadmill next to some ladies who were together. I was already going when I realized they were loudly talking about a multilevel marketing (pyramid) scheme I really despise. I was so enraged that even with my music up loud, I could still hear them talking about how their product can cure insomnia, diabetes, and asthma all at once. As I was running I just kept mouthing "shut up" over and over again. At least all that anger did give me a nice work out!
DoTerra? I can't stand hearing about that 'magic'. Urgh.
Yeah, or a similar company. I have a friend whose son had a severe allergic reaction to oils, so I feel pretty prickly towards people with no medical knowledge suggesting that they can cure cancer with oils. If it works for you, great, but go away.0 -
trish56832 wrote: »I confess I only live in Illinois because I was born and raised here and feel obligated to stay close to my mom and dad to care for them as they age but have every intention of moving as soon as possible!!
I often exercise extra so I can eat more chocolate or ice cream
I have 4 laid back awesome boys and am grateful I never feel pressured to buy them name brand Uggs or NorthFace jackets or pay for things just to "keep up with the Jones" like my sister is with her teen daughter .... I do however have every intention of spoiling a granddaughter rotten should I ever have one!
I think I could be the dog lady and have meaningful relationships with
My 4legged friends and not miss human companionship all that much!
This was me, too. I was very grateful for my boys! Not to say having girls is bad, but they do seem to be more expensive.
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denielle715 wrote: »IxMrBunglex wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »xMrBunglex wrote: »nikimommy2 wrote: »drinking......
Hang in there. My drinking got pretty ridiculous after 40, and after several attempts, I finally quit for good.
I like to say my Drinking Novel had a lot of funny, epic, enjoyable chapters. Started off awesome, and included some of the most memorable times of my life...but towards the end they were just the same old boring depressing crap...page after page after page.
Dec 31, 2011 was my last drink...and I don't miss it. AT ALL.
I have been drinking a lot the last few years (maybe after 40?) to the point I started getting really worried. I attribute a lot of my weight gain the last 3 years to eating out every night and drinking (by myself, at a restaurant bar, with a book). It was my 'down' time and gave me a mental break. Work was stressful, going home (even though I live alone) always made me fee like I needed to do something...clean, homework, etc. Then I got sick of how fat I had gotten, and how I had lost all this weight 3 years ago, gained most of it back, and was bursting out of my clothes again (had donated all my 'fat' clothes when I lost the weight last time). Lost 20 lbs then stalled and quit eating out almost entirely and almost stopped drinking again. I feel better, etc, but the last 4 nights out of 5 between going out with friends and traveling, I had wine and ate out again. Starting 4/1 back on the right foot.
Its hard to stop, and I am still working on it, but and when I don't drink I feel so much better. My family is 90% alcoholics (100% Irish) and I don't want to join that club. Until the last few years I wasn't much of a drinker. Now I am. And it needs to stop.
One other thing that scared me too, was the restaurant where I was going for food (really 2) it had become like I was a 'regular', there was a group of us that were there all the time, they knew what I ate/drank, and it felt like Cheers. It as 'family' on one hand, but one day I got frightened...is THIS what I want my life to be like? My 'friends' people I only see at a bar? And that kind of scared the crap out of me. I was starting to prefer going there than seeing my real friends and spending time with them, because this was just so much less stressful and zero expectations. You never let down a bartender, or have nuances with the folks at the bar you say 'hi' to every night. And one day it was like looking in a mirror, and I got scared. So I stopped going. Just stopped. Sometimes I wonder if they think I got hit by a car or something, I just disappeared.
Whew. Okay that was my confession.
Good stuff!
I remember when my wife & I were regulars at our local "Drinking Establishment" in our early 30s, and there was a group of older folks (OK, barflies) that were ALWAYS seated at the end of the bar. (We decided to not have kids, so partying was a big part of our lives.)
Every time we went in there, whether it was 5:00 Tuesday, noon on Friday, 11:30 Saturday morning, 12:00 am Sunday night....they were there. I said to my wife "That's NOT going to be us, OK?" ... and ten years later, we were well on our way to joining them.
Like you, we both come from alcoholic households, and were are pretty much the only 2 sober ones now. (My wife still has a glass of wine occasionally, but I'm done.) When we go to family gatherings it's like a barbarian war party & we pretty much can't wait to get out of there!
I, too, come from an alcoholic household. I got really bad. And it has gotten to a point when I can't control it. One shot will turn to two to five and before I realize it more than half the bottle is gone.
I haven't had a drop since March 12th, and I can truly say that I haven't had an urge to drink either.
I would drink when I was happy, when I was sad, when I was angry, when I was depressed. Every emotion was a reason to drink.
I can't tell you how much better I feel both physically and emotionally. And I'm hoping to continue this cleaner way of living.
Taking it one day at a time.
Seem to be a lot of us here. My parents appeared functional to the casual observer. All their friends were their drinking friends. I spent every weekend with grandparents or aunts so they could go out. We'd leave early on Thanksgiving or Easter so they could meet their friends at the bar after. I was an expert at pinball and shuffleboard tables by the time I was 10, because it was legal to have kids in the bar, as long as they didn't sit at the bar. As it happened, the friends I gravitated to in school came from similar households, so it wasn't until I was much older that I realized that wasn't normal. When I tell people now that I grew up in bars, they look at me like I have 3 heads.
My downfall is pain management. I went a long time with no insurance, and when I couldn't afford the appointment to get pain meds, I'd use vodka. The original pain would ease off after a few days or a week, but I don't give a damn what I eat when I drink, even if it's something that makes me sick. Then I'd keep drinking for that "pain" while still eating the stuff that makes me sick. Eventually I'd get sick enough that I'd say time to stop, but next time my back hurt too much to walk, time to buy another bottle.0 -
CountessKitteh wrote: »fitfatty88 wrote: »AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »Confession: I'm preparing to cut some of the folks who haven't logged in/never post/disappear and reappear at random off my friends list to trim it down...and I'm giddy about it. I'm a special kind of jerk sometimes.
I message inactive pals on 2 days, I cut them after 4 days of inactivity. DO EET, it's liberating.
Ruthless! I give em at least 2 weeks. Unless they are people I know personally who stopped logging for certain reasons.
Confession: it's more liberating for me to clear out my Facebook friends list than MFP.
I like to give them at least a week, unless it's a pattern of missing 4 days, logging for 3, missing two, logging for 5, missing 5, etc.
I give the IRL people a pass. Though @ladybuggnorris and her "MFP glitched, I swear!" plan is still tempting. Ha!
You would all cut me. I log every single day in a paper diary, it's just I only get on to MFP a few times a week, so I log several days at once on here. I never miss a day, I'm just a late logger. But it doesn't matter, as I confess I've never understood the friend aspect of MFP and have no idea what it is for and what difference it makes. I'm a crap online person.
Same here. I'm a terrible friend here, which is the only reason I haven't requested friends, particularly from this thread. I've "met" so many cool people here! But, I don't use MFP the way most do, so I've accepted friend requests, but I don't log food or make posts on people's walls.0
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