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Four bags of Oreos
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jofjltncb6 wrote: »
This is the greatest problem I've read so far in this thread. That is crazy talk. If there's going to be an intervention, it should be for this egregious violation.
Srs wtf are you gonna do with stale Oreos0 -
I haven't read all the comments, but I think I may have 4 bags of oreos in the house right now! (I buy things in large quantities when they're on sale.) Does he eat a bag at a time like my husband used to? But nowadays we go through them at a snail's pace, even with kids. New habits aren't formed overnight, and honestly, major health conditions outstanding, there's no reason not to have those things once in a while. What helped my husband was realizing how much "real food" he could have for the caloric price of a few oreos. Maybe a visual demonstration would help?0
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He pretty much won't eat anything I cook - he grew up in the restaurant business and as a young cook, it was all about fat, sugar, and salt. I grew up in a household where my parents tried to eat healthy (blood pressure issues are pretty prevalent in my family), so I like flavor.
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It sounds just like me husband so I cook for me and he can cook his hamburger and chips. I've finally accepted that he won't change and he's accepted that my health is more important to me than his health is to him.
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TimothyFish wrote: »
Why would you assume that? I bought two packages of Oreos two weeks ago. I bought two packages of lemon cookies last weekend. I also bought two half gallons of ice cream. I haven't binged on any of it yet. In fact, I still have most of it, along with five packages of cookie dough mix, two cake mixes with icing, and three tubes of Pringles. Not to mention three boxes of cereal that I haven't opened. If having it in the house equals binging, I'm in big trouble. I'm especially worried about those two packages of trail mix I bought. Oh, what a world, what world. What am I going to do?
Be as snide as you wish, Timothy Fish, (that rhymes, LOL!) but unless the Oreos were on sale and he was buying them to share with the family, why on earth would he purchase four bags at once just for himself? Wouldn't they go stale unless you kinda binged on them?
And before it gets suggested, I'm not one of those sugar-is-the-devil types. My point is that the OP's concern for her husband is justified, whether it is her place to do anything about it or not.0 -
reynolds3371 wrote: »He can eat all of that food in moderation by keeping it under his calorie count for the day and logging everything in
Agree but that stuff is so calorie dense it seems like he bought home a lot of overhead. Four bags of Oreos in moderation should last....0 -
JustinAnimal wrote: »Nothing got me moving like seeing my wife lose weight while I got left in the dust and only gained. I agree with the lead by example sentiment. It might take a month, but when he sees how excited you are for your weight loss, I imagine he'll drop the junk and start moving his body.
This I agree with totally.
My husband (if he's not sick with something) sees me working out, getting fit, benching more than him and he knows....and he starts..then stalls due to some cold/flu/strep etc...
It might take a month...it might take longer but trust me nagging, cajoling etc will not make it go by quicker..APeacefulWarrior wrote: »
I don't know... around his WLS, I made sure I supported him... we're supposed to be in this together, and I hate knowing I'm in it alone, I guess.
You are not alone...that's part of why you are here...
For 2 years...I have lost weight and gotten healthy...as mentioned my husband starts then stalls...my son..yah no he's 21 he wants beer and fries all the time...he says he will be nope...
You might find you like it as an almost "solitary" journey...I prefer it this way...if they want to join me they can but if not I am just as happy.
note yes my husband has health issues too and he is young...33 with high blood pressure and a history of massive killing heart attacks in his family....
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Srs wtf are you gonna do with stale Oreos
Yah this would tick me off more than anything else...*smh*0 -
Yeah, darlin, you're getting torn up over there too. Check it out.
And...
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...because Church of Sugar is Poison.0 -
jofjltncb6 wrote: »
The thread was actually going fairly well too. There wasn't much flaming. Are they not going to let any conversation like that happen on the boards any more?
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mamapeach910 wrote: »
The thread was actually going fairly well too. There wasn't much flaming. Are they not going to let any conversation like that happen on the boards any more?
They will...
...but only on the Premium side.0 -
5. use communication to fix the relationship first, then communicate effectively about the eating and healthy lifestyle changes they want to make together.
That's nice to say but they may or may not already have good communication. We all know communication is essential for a healthy relationship. I have a hard time believing that they are not communicating about the OPS wishes. It doesn't sound like the hubby agrees with her. He believes she is too "militant", and he comes from a background where he sees normal eating as a completely different definition than she does. Good communication doesn't mean he will not disagree with what actions she wants from him and it doesn't mean one person will become able to change the behavioral trends or beliefs of another.0 -
enterdanger wrote: »Not everyone's relationship dynamic is the same. Think about the couples you might know where one is more dominant and the other of the pair more submissive and it works. I'm not talking 50 shades of grey stuff here people. My grandparents were like that and open, honest communication would make them laugh. Their marriage worked for them.
Yes, ultimately OP's husband decides what goes in his body. But when I put myself in her shoes I'd be damned if I let the father of my children think he could endanger his health that way. None of us are getting out of here alive, but I need him to be around for a long time. I would nag, cajole, bribe, do whatever I needed to do light a weight loss fire under his *kitten*.
That kind of relationship dynamic should be based on consent of both parties and a compatibility and preference. If her husband is a man who like to be told what to do and allow her to make his food choices that approach might work. If he isn't nagging, cajoling or whatever gets old really fast and isn't going to result in obedience to her wishes. His agreement to her point of view and deep commitment to change is the only thing that would create sucess.0 -
mamapeach910 wrote: »
The thread was actually going fairly well too. There wasn't much flaming. Are they not going to let any conversation like that happen on the boards any more?
Very odd. I was actually going to do a final post to say thanks to everyone (including you) who chipped in with something useful to say, but I didn't get a chance.
I thought it was an interesting subject, anyway...0 -
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jofjltncb6 wrote: »
This is the greatest problem I've read so far in this thread. That is crazy talk. If there's going to be an intervention, it should be for this egregious violation.
No joke. I don't care if my husband wants to eat cookies, but I'm not gonna have multiple open containers of the same thing in my house.0 -
I think your husband could work those things in to a weight loss plan, but only if he knows moderation. I personally have done okay with occasional sweets and convenience food while losing, but some people can't handle it. Some people can;t have any candy, sweets, pop, chips, junk food, etc around them AT ALL, because it is too much of a temptation. I had ice cream while losing weight... what might help get appropriate sizing is getting a scale and measuring cups. I had a 1/2 cup or a 1 full cup of ice cream.0
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janejellyroll wrote: »
No joke. I don't care if my husband wants to eat cookies, but I'm not gonna have multiple open containers of the same thing in my house.
Perhaps they are different flavors of Oreos.
And she did say they would likely be gone within the week. No chance to go stale.0 -
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I might come across someone saying what I'm about to say as I read the next page but as far as both side feeling as they are being heard I agree but just because you express something to your partner does not mean that person must oblige.
Yes, this is what I meant with the counseling forcing the issue and one side "winning". Thanks for parsing out my thoughts for me better than I did.
Healthy dialog is a give and take, it does not mean someone talks and another person capitulates.
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Sounds like he was hungry when he went shopping0
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So essentially, if you witnessed your spouse or significant other downing a bottle of poison, you'd just sit back ( or join them) and say "hey, he (or she) is an adult and if they want to finish off that poison, well then, that's their right."? That doesn't seem very loving, concerned or compassionate, but maybe that's where we are as a society... accepting and then sticking your head in the sand to ignore seems to be the expectation. Not sure I can be on board with that, but I think that's what he expects of me too.
https://youtu.be/5Ev5K23nwJQ?t=2m47s
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jofjltncb6 wrote: »
This is the greatest problem I've read so far in this thread. That is crazy talk. If there's going to be an intervention, it should be for this egregious violation.
My thought was that he came home with 4 different kinds of Oreos: there are a bunch of different varieties now..golden, traditional, strawberry, chocolate center, etc.
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My thought was that he came home with 4 different kinds of Oreos: there are a bunch of different varieties now..golden, traditional, strawberry, chocolate center, etc.
Lies.
There is only One True Oreo™*.
To say otherwise is blasphemous.
* Double stuffed. Original Oreos are more properly called "half stuffed"...or "Oreos Lite"...or "diet Oreos".0 -
this sounds like a case for judge judy ....0
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jofjltncb6 wrote: »
Lies.
There is only One True Oreo™*.
To say otherwise is blasphemous.
* Double stuffed. Original Oreos are more properly called "half stuffed"...or "Oreos Lite"...or "diet Oreos".
I think you just released the Oreo Wraiths....0 -
I was in it alone for the past 2 months. He had his cookies and treats and chips at night and I had my healthier options. He would cry (not literally lol) when there were no more cookies or chips and say he had nothing to eat even though my food was still there cause I dont eat it all in one night like him. But I make healthy meals and he eats them.
Then, one day, we went went clothes shopping together. He was a size 42 in shorts/jeans, that always fit him. He went to the changing room, came back out and said none of them fit and that even 40s were loose on him. Then he told me that we have to keep doing this diet, that its working. I swear, he doesnt even have to try to lose weight!But basically he has to come to some sort of turning point or realization for him to commit like you have. Most men are like that.
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Living a life with uncontrolled Diabetes is a hell but also is the hell being a family member of one.
Neither is in a better place than the other.
Sucker called Diabetes is a silent disease that does it work in silence no pain, no suffering until one fine day the world just collapses.
So if anyone is thinking OP's husband is a grown man and is thinking OP shouldn't and won't be affected.... sorry, OP will get affected if husband doesn't take control of his health now.0 -
fallenoaks4 wrote: »
Perhaps they are different flavors of Oreos.
And she did say they would likely be gone within the week. No chance to go stale.
What I thought when I read he opened all 4 packages and took 2 cookies out of each: he knows she's snooping the food packets to see what he's eating, so if he only takes 2 out of each, she won't think he's going ham on Oreos.
But yeah, OP might want to find out why her hubby bought 4 Oreo packets. I buy a lot of cookies when they're on sale.0 -
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