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  • GottaBurnEmAll
    GottaBurnEmAll Posts: 7,722 Member
    edited January 2017
    I try to be very nice but I do get concerned about people who want to try diets that aren't sustainable. I don't want to see anyone fail because they erroneously believe that they "can't" have potatoes, or full fat dairy, or a glass of wine. I also don't want people to put their own health at risk. This whole weight loss thing is a journey and we need to come to terms with taking is slow, enjoying the journey, and learning how to eat in ways that make our bodies feel super great.

    I'm diabetic and I accept that people on the forum will always want to know WHY a poster is considering a low carb diet. Personally, I respect that. I don't want a person thinking that they HAVE to eat this way to lose weight. It takes commitment and you really have to pay attention to your day as a whole. I've never had anyone be disrespectful to me about my choice. Maybe it is because I have a medical reason to moderate my carb intake. I have no idea. All I know is that I'm generally treated with respect here.

    Some people CAN'T have some of those things. Why do so many people here not understand that some people can and some really can't? People are way too hung up on deciding that everyone can and should have everything any day and at anytime. This is just not the case for everyone. There needs to be more respect for others as no one here knows personally what is the case for an internet stranger. Some people really do have to avoid certain foods altogether. But there is this large crowd with criticism at the ready for anyone who feels they want to eliminate that which has been dragging them down. I don't see where that is ever going to help anyone.

    Ok, so why CAN'T you have potatoes? Allergy?

    And honestly, I'm a psychologist by trade and advise against elimination. That sort of cognitive inflexibility is generally not healthy.

    Did I say "ME"? I said SOME people., Because YOU can doesn't mean everyone can. You are now doing an excellent job of proving my point. Step back and think a little before assuming we all came out of a cookie cutter and are therefore all exactly alike 100%. Not everyone can follow YOUR diet and be successful. Which is the original point of this whole thread. If someone finds something that works very well and it happens to be different from what works for you why do you care? I would rather people get there in what ever way works for them than to keep doing what is holding them down.

    What people CAN do and what people CHOOSE to do are often two different things.

    Yes, we are all different. But many people erroneously believe that they CAN'T have something because of random internet advice. If you carefully read my original statement, I used the phrase "erroneously believe", which means that their thinking is not correct because they actually CAN have that. Obviously it does not apply to you if you truly cannot have an item due to an allergy or intolerance.

    You mean I shouldn't start an "I can't eat beets" thread? ;)
  • crzycatlady1
    crzycatlady1 Posts: 1,930 Member
    lalysolon wrote: »
    New here. Not up on the acronyms. What the hell is CICO? Thanks, and sorry for the stupid question!

    Calories in, Calories out :)
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    lalysolon wrote: »
    New here. Not up on the acronyms. What the hell is CICO? Thanks, and sorry for the stupid question!

    CICO = calories in vs. calories out = how many calories are you eating vs. how many are you burning all day long
  • Emily3907
    Emily3907 Posts: 1,461 Member
    lalysolon wrote: »
    New here. Not up on the acronyms. What the hell is CICO? Thanks, and sorry for the stupid question!

    Calories in/calories out
  • estherdragonbat
    estherdragonbat Posts: 5,283 Member
    Calories In-Calories Out. In other words, if you have more calories coming in than going out, you will gain. If fewer, you will lose. It doesn't matter whether they're fat, sugar, etc.

    Note that's talking from a weight-loss NOT a nutrition angle. Clearly, if you eat nothing but junk food every day (which, I don't believe anyone advocates) but stay within your calorie totals, you will likely be hungry, and setting yourself up for health issues. But what that means is that if you decide that you want a 270-calorie jelly donut and you are on a 1700 calorie/day budget and you stay within that limit, you are going to lose the same amount of weight as you would if that 270 calories was taken up with grilled fish and salad.
  • Tacklewasher
    Tacklewasher Posts: 7,122 Member
    I think eggs are icky. I get that they are healthy, a good source of protein etc., but I just never liked the taste.

    Not once have I been told here I have to eat them.

    Send me all your eggs. I will eat them for you.

    You can eat all the beets.

    And what would I do with the damn things? At least eggs are good for throwing.

    Really, I drive my wife nuts because I am a picky eater. Lots of healthy stuff that I don't eat because I don't like it. I'm doing better than I was, but I eat almost no cooked veggies and not a good range of raw ones.
  • RAinWA
    RAinWA Posts: 1,980 Member
    I think eggs are icky. I get that they are healthy, a good source of protein etc., but I just never liked the taste.

    Not once have I been told here I have to eat them.

    Send me all your eggs. I will eat them for you.

    You can eat all the beets.

    And what would I do with the damn things? At least eggs are good for throwing.

    Really, I drive my wife nuts because I am a picky eater. Lots of healthy stuff that I don't eat because I don't like it. I'm doing better than I was, but I eat almost no cooked veggies and not a good range of raw ones.

    You sound exactly like my husband - he tries but he is a terribly picky eater. He can't cook so I end up hiding vegetables in things so he gets some. Please give your wife my sympathies. :)
  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    RAinWA wrote: »
    I think eggs are icky. I get that they are healthy, a good source of protein etc., but I just never liked the taste.

    Not once have I been told here I have to eat them.

    Send me all your eggs. I will eat them for you.

    You can eat all the beets.

    And what would I do with the damn things? At least eggs are good for throwing.

    Really, I drive my wife nuts because I am a picky eater. Lots of healthy stuff that I don't eat because I don't like it. I'm doing better than I was, but I eat almost no cooked veggies and not a good range of raw ones.

    You sound exactly like my husband - he tries but he is a terribly picky eater. He can't cook so I end up hiding vegetables in things so he gets some. Please give your wife my sympathies. :)

    I do this, but unfortunately it's in cake. Carrot cake, courgette cake, chocolate and beetroot cake.... you get the picture.

    Is there a problem with that? <grin>
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    Calorie In Calorie Out, or more technically Calorie In < Calorie Out, for weight loss.
  • ogtmama
    ogtmama Posts: 1,403 Member
    I think eggs are icky. I get that they are healthy, a good source of protein etc., but I just never liked the taste.

    Not once have I been told here I have to eat them.

    Send me all your eggs. I will eat them for you.

    You can eat all the beets.

    And what would I do with the damn things? At least eggs are good for throwing.

    Really, I drive my wife nuts because I am a picky eater. Lots of healthy stuff that I don't eat because I don't like it. I'm doing better than I was, but I eat almost no cooked veggies and not a good range of raw ones.

    Have you tried roasting them or BBQing them?
  • Tacklewasher
    Tacklewasher Posts: 7,122 Member
    RAinWA wrote: »
    I think eggs are icky. I get that they are healthy, a good source of protein etc., but I just never liked the taste.

    Not once have I been told here I have to eat them.

    Send me all your eggs. I will eat them for you.

    You can eat all the beets.

    And what would I do with the damn things? At least eggs are good for throwing.

    Really, I drive my wife nuts because I am a picky eater. Lots of healthy stuff that I don't eat because I don't like it. I'm doing better than I was, but I eat almost no cooked veggies and not a good range of raw ones.

    You sound exactly like my husband - he tries but he is a terribly picky eater. He can't cook so I end up hiding vegetables in things so he gets some. Please give your wife my sympathies. :)

    Oh. She tries. Puts peas in pasta and I'm better than the dogs at picking them out. In some ways it's become less of an issue in the last few years because of her food issues. She can't do gluten, lactose and a bunch of other things so making 2 dinners is pretty much the norm now.
  • ogtmama
    ogtmama Posts: 1,403 Member
    edited January 2017
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    ogtmama wrote: »
    For the record I just think that sayingeat whatever you want/the only thing that matters is cico is simply over-simplified to the point of being untrue.

    Of course technically if you stay under your calorie goal you'll lose weight BUT what you eat (your level of satiety, your energy level, etc) has an immense contribution to how difficult/ easy/sustainable it is.

    It's on the same level as saying there's no such thing as a plateau/stall...you know perfectly well that all they mean os that their scale has stopped moving and they don't know why...or that muscle doesn't weigh more than fat...don't be ridiculous, its perfectly obvious that people assume you are comparing like volumes.

    I think it's difficult to remember after seeing so many of the exact.same.ridiculous.question we forget that it's still new to the person asking it. They truly don't know and if the goal really is to help them than be welcoming and kind not snarky and sarcastic to amuse your friends.

    I disagree very much...that was exactly what got me going. I had tried a few different diet plans over the years and always lasted about two weeks because all of them had me going from eating like X to eating like Y overnight or they were super restrictive, etc...I crashed and burned every single time.

    When I figured out that I could eat what I was eating, just less, that was a big time start for me...it wasn't the end, just a start and something I was able to work with and evolve my diet from there. It made things very easy and made the transition to eating better much easier.

    Well...I guess we agree to disagree...some of us can't eat whatever we want because we'd eat one bowl of ice cream for breakfast and starve the rest of the day. You need to be clearer about what you mean...that's what I mean by over simplified.

    Eta: god the typos.
  • Tacklewasher
    Tacklewasher Posts: 7,122 Member
    ogtmama wrote: »
    I think eggs are icky. I get that they are healthy, a good source of protein etc., but I just never liked the taste.

    Not once have I been told here I have to eat them.

    Send me all your eggs. I will eat them for you.

    You can eat all the beets.

    And what would I do with the damn things? At least eggs are good for throwing.

    Really, I drive my wife nuts because I am a picky eater. Lots of healthy stuff that I don't eat because I don't like it. I'm doing better than I was, but I eat almost no cooked veggies and not a good range of raw ones.

    Have you tried roasting them or BBQing them?

    Can't get the peas to stay on the skewer :)

    I'll do corn on the cob, but not off the cob (and creamed is disgusting). I like peppers roasted. And a few others. But no broccoli, cauliflower (she turns them into rice or potato substitute) and not a lot else. Raw peas and carrots are my staple so I get 2 servings of each most days.
  • ogtmama
    ogtmama Posts: 1,403 Member
    ogtmama wrote: »
    I think eggs are icky. I get that they are healthy, a good source of protein etc., but I just never liked the taste.

    Not once have I been told here I have to eat them.

    Send me all your eggs. I will eat them for you.

    You can eat all the beets.

    And what would I do with the damn things? At least eggs are good for throwing.

    Really, I drive my wife nuts because I am a picky eater. Lots of healthy stuff that I don't eat because I don't like it. I'm doing better than I was, but I eat almost no cooked veggies and not a good range of raw ones.

    Have you tried roasting them or BBQing them?

    Can't get the peas to stay on the skewer :)

    I'll do corn on the cob, but not off the cob (and creamed is disgusting). I like peppers roasted. And a few others. But no broccoli, cauliflower (she turns them into rice or potato substitute) and not a lot else. Raw peas and carrots are my staple so I get 2 servings of each most days.

    BBQed asparagus is fantastic...you've got to get bigger ones though. They burn quick
  • Tacklewasher
    Tacklewasher Posts: 7,122 Member
    RAinWA wrote: »
    I think eggs are icky. I get that they are healthy, a good source of protein etc., but I just never liked the taste.

    Not once have I been told here I have to eat them.

    Send me all your eggs. I will eat them for you.

    You can eat all the beets.

    And what would I do with the damn things? At least eggs are good for throwing.

    Really, I drive my wife nuts because I am a picky eater. Lots of healthy stuff that I don't eat because I don't like it. I'm doing better than I was, but I eat almost no cooked veggies and not a good range of raw ones.

    You sound exactly like my husband - he tries but he is a terribly picky eater. He can't cook so I end up hiding vegetables in things so he gets some. Please give your wife my sympathies. :)

    I do this, but unfortunately it's in cake. Carrot cake, courgette cake, chocolate and beetroot cake.... you get the picture.

    She hides zucchini in chocolate cake. I've not not eaten it once.
  • leanjogreen18
    leanjogreen18 Posts: 2,492 Member
    ogtmama wrote: »
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    ogtmama wrote: »
    For the record I just think that sayingeat whatever you want/the only thing that matters is cico is simply over-simplified to the point of being untrue.

    Of course technically if you stay under your calorie goal you'll lose weight BUT what you eat (your level of satiety, your energy level, etc) has an immense contribution to how difficult/ easy/sustainable it is.

    It's on the same level as saying there's no such thing as a plateau/stall...you know perfectly well that all they mean os that their scale has stopped moving and they don't know why...or that muscle doesn't weigh more than fat...don't be ridiculous, its perfectly obvious that people assume you are comparing like volumes.

    I think it's difficult to remember after seeing so many of the exact.same.ridiculous.question we forget that it's still new to the person asking it. They truly don't know and if the goal really is to help them than be welcoming and kind not snarky and sarcastic to amuse your friends.

    I disagree very much...that was exactly what got me going. I had tried a few different diet plans over the years and always lasted about two weeks because all of them had me going from eating like X to eating like Y overnight or they were super restrictive, etc...I crashed and burned every single time.

    When I figured out that I could eat what I was eating, just less, that was a big time start for me...it wasn't the end, just a start and something I was able to work with and evolve my diet from there. It made things very easy and made the transition to eating better much easier.

    Well...I guess we agree to disagree...some of us can't eat whatever we want because we'd eat one bowl of ice cream for breakfast and starve the rest of the day. You need to be clearer about what you mean...that's what I mean by over simplified.

    Eta: god the typos.

    Some of us discovered 100 calorie ice creams and we get some protein in along with plenty of calories left over for the rest of the day:)!

    Personally ice cream for breakfast though, yuck! :)
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