WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2018
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Morning, I don't like the end of the school year, too many good byes . I said no to all the expensive retirement/end of year parties and am feeling slightly guilty about it. Just couldn't face the social interaction and the high cost of open bar when I really don't drink or eat all that is offered.
I have a few more packed/busy days ahead and sadly a young colleague of mine (a wonderful art teacher with 2 young kids) lost her 67 yo mother (bike accident) Shocking and tragic. I will attend the funeral Saturday and then make another long drive to hear a former student's violin recital after she kindly invited me! Saturday will be a day of whiplash emotionally I think.
I am down a pound, all from walking and eating more modestly, but can't seem to shake my blues this time of year.
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NYKAREN So so sad about your colleague's mother. Reminds me of Gloria being hit by a car while walking her dog. It is shocking and tragic. It sounds as if it happened during a time of emotional vulnerability for you. I am sorry. Sending (((hugs))).
We're your pocket angels, take us with you...
Karen in VIrginia3 -
Heather, I, too, am sorry to hear the news of your house in Hove. This has been such a tough experience for you.
Lisa, we changed insurance companies for house and auto almost a year ago. Jake did the research online about companies and it seemed to me that the better the ad on TV, the worse the rating. Good luck.
NY Karen, we routinely turn down invitations for social events for the same reasons you do. And we rarely attend funerals and memorials.
Katla, I applaud your willingness to drive the motorhome. In the five years we had an RV, I drove ours only once and only for a few minutes.
Barbie2 -
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Morning my friends!
Cheri3 -
Machka ~ What a sweet gift from your parents.
Lisa ~ Finding the right insurance can be tough. We went with a company called Cincinnati (sp?) because my DH's long time friend recommended them. When we had the bad water leak last Fall, they were very good about paying for the damaged floors.
Heather ~ I really think that the right house will come your way if it is meant to be.
NY Karen ~ I am sorry you are feeling blue but I understand. When I was teaching, it was my whole life and I was very sad when it ended. I hate social gatherings like you mentioned and always felt out of place.
The two dogs are surviving on the screened end porch with the door to outside opened so they can go out. They hate it out there and scratch on the inside door because they want to come inside. The small black dog and torn up two floor mats and started on a chair cushion today. Good thing the screen has been torn in so many places to begin with so they can't do any more damage to that.
Carol in GA2 -
Morning! Just checking in to say hi.4
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HEATHER so sorry to hear about the house, enjoy rest of your cruise
REBECCA I too love reading your posts, you always make me smile
Been out this morning to buy material to make a skirt, my favourite summer skirt has definitely got to go. It is made in 8 panels so I have made a pattern and hope to get down to it tomorrow.
Kate UK4 -
Rye - thank you for the SWSY information! Since I'm so tall, I was kind of off-kilter when I'd hang on to the counter to do my leg exercises and my hips would complain. I found something (a swimmer's noodle actually) to place on the counter to hang on for balance plus it made me stand straighter and while I didn't have to take off my shoe on the swinging foot, I think it kind of did the same thing. Love it that we can share tips like this!
Heather - Didn't the Hove house kind of fall through before then come back to life? Sending good thoughts that things will somehow line up for it. Great photos and love your travelogue. Those bulging cans.... yikes. Does anyone ever get botulism?
Rebecca - your dad was certainly handsome! And as I recall your mom was a doll as well. So are you! Way to go with the rock painting and pills. My DH does his own pills once a week and so far has kept on schedule and not missed anything except forgetting to take them if he's really tired as he takes them right before bed.
Barbara - I was glad to hear Joe is thinking of doing some biking. So important for us to move while we still can.
Karen in VA - I hear you on avoiding the retirement parties and expense/calories. Sorry to hear about your friend's mother. (((HUGS)))
I dropped off copies of our current auto and homeowner policies/bills (Hartford) at an insurance broker's yesterday and she's going to see if there's a better deal with a local company. I did a little digging and in most states (not all) credit ratings can be taken into account when determining auto premium rates. That's mind-boggling and not right in my opinion. I read that bad credit can sometimes impact a person's premium more than if they'd had tickets or accidents. A pox on insurance companies, lol.
I am so grateful I stuck with my county job even tho it drove me nuts the final few years - having a pension (not a very big one, mind you) comes in handy with all of these expenses and increases in insurance, power bill, property taxes etc. that we have no control over. And for utilities and property taxes, unless a person is truly destitute it seems a person can't qualify for low-income discounts.
Lisa - good luck finding insurance- I'm sure there's something out there but it often takes time we don't have or want to spend. I don't envy you that task and just thinking of filling out paperwork and dealing with dweebs over the phone makes me think about a cookie, or two.
Machka - I agree, what a sweet gift. An acquaintance of ours lost his son a few weeks ago - he died in his sleep and he was only 30 and the family flew to Anchorage to have him buried up there. They made a final swing by the cemetery on the way to the airport and the father somehow fell and injured his head and has been in the ICU. He's slowly getting better but reminded me so much of your DH.
Katiebug - what rotten luck! Hopefully the time will go by quickly.
Terry - how are you doing with your foot? We haven't heard from you in a little while. Thinking of you!! Hoping you and your DH are well. ((HUGS))))
Kate - have fun with the skirt! Make sure you post a photo of you modeling it!
Going to Area Agency on Aging meeting today. A hot topic is transportation for seniors who cannot drive because of health reasons or because they cannot afford a car (see discussion on costs above, lol.) There's a small government sponsored bus company that's been running in the more populated areas and wants to pass a sales tax in order to expand into the rural areas to help seniors get into town for groceries, senior centers, doctors, etc.
I think that's a good idea - but I'm curious on how these seniors will be able to get to the bus stops in the first place if they are so limited transportation wise to begin with? Hoping we can toss this around and find some answers. Our county is quite "poor" compared to the Seattle area where there's a huge tax base.
Hugs all around and welcome newbies.
Lanette
SW WA State3 -
Rebecca: I love this, "My mind is like my internet browser, 19 tabs open, 3 of them are frozen & I have no idea where the music is coming from." As long as you have music, you will be okay. :bigsmile:
Michele: I'm sorry that Vince hurt his back during shooting. I hope he recovers quickly.
Allie: Thanks for explaining CDL. :flowerforyou:
Sam UK: Welcome to a great group!
Lisa: I hope you are able to find suitable homeowner's insurance at a reasonable price. (((HUGS)))
(((NYKaren))) Like Karen in VA, your colleague's mother's situation reminded me of Gloria. Unexpected loss is difficult for everyone. :flowerforyou:
Machka: I'm happy that your parent's sent you hope. It is a lovely gift.
Kate UK: I hope you will share photos of your sewing project. I admire that kind of skill. :flowerforyou:
Lanette: We live in a relatively rural county. We have a local bus company, called CC Rider. The CC stands for Columbia County. They transport people to Portland for work. They also have a Dial A Ride service for people within the community. I've seen their buses in the local community more in the past year than before.
We see many disabled people riding their mobility devices to the grocery stores in our town. DH has done this as an experiment but we usually drive our car instead & he pushes a grocery cart if needed. The larger stores have handicapped carts to ride inside the store for those who need them. This partially has to do with those of us who are Baby Boomers. We are a big bulge in the population, and are getting older & in need of some services. However, MOST of those I see using mobility devices in the stores are morbidly obese, not seniors. :flowerforyou:
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
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margaretturk wrote: »The fence that took over a week to paint
I acquired Joe the turtle at a tea party. They had different things to bid on to raise money. I bid on him thinking someone would out bid me. I did find a good home for him.
This is as close to the color of the bouquet of peonies as I could get. They make me smile when I look at them.
I love the fence and the turtle. We have some scraps of some of that wood at home, I wonder if my hubby would make one for me.2 -
grandmallie wrote: »here I am home, and walked the dog.. and I am going to go through pictures now for Tracy for the wedding.. and something old... so im hunting, and dont have to go in until noon tomorrow
My daughter was a Maid of Honor at her best friends wedding two years ago. As a shower gift for the bride she provided all of the items. Something Old, Something New, it was really fun helping her find just the perfect things for the bride. I love all of the wedding traditions.3 -
Heather for the house. Tell us more about your performance on the dance floor?
Rebecca what kind of paint did you use on the rocks to get the shiny colors? Lovely pic of you and your Dad. Ditto the "my mind is like my internet browser" quote.
Kim pie for mirror damage, love the resourcefulness and kinder times.
Felicia "if my husband wants to... he can do it himself" ... Yup. 'nother thing I learned, was I was trying too hard, and the more contact I instigated with Joe's father, the more Joe withdrew. Now I do NOTHING with his family (except my SIL) and he actually calls his brother and takes his fathers calls, usually. Even invited them out to visit. So be it.
Kim and Katla colonoscopy prep Yikes!
Kay Oww. Surgeon?
Karen in VA you are psychic, they are bearded-not-Dutch iris. Will pull them up, break off the old stuff, and plop on a slide area near the road. If they take, great, if not... ;}
long BFF storyMy BFF "C" was 6'tall, blonde, pretty, with a sunny disposition and a smile and laughter that would not quit. We were like Mutt and Jeff, as I am not quite 5' tall, brunette, and in those days was considerably grumpier. We met in the elevator the day she came in for an inteview where I worked. She said I said something like "Welcome, we need more good people like you" but honestly I have no memory. She was hired and though we worked in different departments, we sat next to eachother, divided by a partition. I was always cold and wore an outerwear jacket at my desk. People would razz me, then walk around the partition and see her bundled in her parka. For reasons surpassing imagination, she loved and accepted me, always. For years she lived in the apartment above mine. We both had two dogs and a cat each. She was in a near fatal car accident, that left her unable to ring for a nurse. Her mom, my friend R, and I divided the day into shifts so she was never alone. Her dogs and cats came to live with me and either R or I walked the herd around the block twice a day. Yes even her cat walked with us. I was with her the day her daughter was born. Complications from the accident, hep c from the blood transfusions, and some mental health issues led to her self-medicating with alcohol, but she drove from California to Idaho to visit me when I got out of the hospital from my pneumonia. 6 years later, I was in Southern California to say goodbye to my biomom, hospitalized from a stroke. I had the chance to drive north and visit C but chose instead to stay in SoCal with another friend for R+R as C visits were physically and emotionally taxing and I was exhausted. Two weeks later I got the call she was near the end. I told her caregiver I could not take time off for another two weeks, but I would come then. She died 3 days before I got there. When I feel guilty, I try to remember that her caregiver said she didn't want me to see her "like this." It's so rare to have a human give unconditional love, I was inordinately blessed.Machka what an inspiring gift, can see your apple didn't fall far from their tree.
NYKaren ((hugs))
Welcome Sam UK!
Oops, yikes, too late to meditate and exercise, shower will be but a lick and a promise. Busy day, T'ai Chi this am, dog school this afternoon and RFPD board meeting this evening. Love y'all!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD.
60 g protein 10/12, meditate 10/12, walk one more step 10/12, knee exercises 10/12, 5/8 times walk Tumble, times SWSY 0/4, hang up or purge art 0.5 -
OregonMother wrote: »Snowflake1968 wrote: »spikeyhair wrote: »I think it's our role to provide the glue to keep family together.
I believe that is a woman's role as well. My husband is the same as yours, I have to do all of the communicating, even with his family.
I respectfully disagree. I did that in my first marriage called my father and mother-in-law for holidays, bought and sent the presents or flowers, called to chat -- never got credit for it from anyone -- not my in-laws or my then husband. I even kept it up for a couple years after the divorce -- sending flowers or gifts at Christmas -- never got any thanks. And my ex-husband was just perceived as a jerk by his own siblings because he completely ignores all of them unless he wants something and then bullies them until they tell him to get lost or he gets violent. (Yep. It happened to my ex-brother-in-law.) Just one reason we're divorced, but not actually THE reason.
So I don't do it this time. I do buy my step-kids and in-laws gifts, but they are from me, not us. If my husband wants to communicate with his family and buy them gifts, he can do it himself. I don't want to make my husband look bad, so I try not to be a jerk, but it's not my job to make him look good. If that makes sense.
Felicia -- struck a nerve
Willamette Valley, Oregon
I never looked at it from that point of view. I just took on the gift giving when we were first married and it's never stopped. To be fair to my husband though I make 95% of the gifts we give and 100% of the cards that are sent. I hate purchasing store bought items. He would never think of picking up a phone and calling someone, his whole family is that way.
I 100% understand about the no credit. I actually told one of our nieces off about that last year when I didn't do anything for my FIL's birthday, she tried to give me crap. I reminded her who the child was and pointed out that i have never received a gift in over 20 years from the family regardless of the fact that this was the first birthday I had missed in 30 years, so she should just think about who she was talking to. My family is no better since my Dad passed, it makes it hard not to be resentful at times.5 -
Me at the biggest volume of water waterfall in Europe. It was quite a sight.
Love Heather ☓ XXXXXX15 -
Snowflake1968 wrote: »OregonMother wrote: »Snowflake1968 wrote: »spikeyhair wrote: »I think it's our role to provide the glue to keep family together.
I believe that is a woman's role as well. My husband is the same as yours, I have to do all of the communicating, even with his family.
I respectfully disagree. I did that in my first marriage called my father and mother-in-law for holidays, bought and sent the presents or flowers, called to chat -- never got credit for it from anyone -- not my in-laws or my then husband. I even kept it up for a couple years after the divorce -- sending flowers or gifts at Christmas -- never got any thanks. And my ex-husband was just perceived as a jerk by his own siblings because he completely ignores all of them unless he wants something and then bullies them until they tell him to get lost or he gets violent. (Yep. It happened to my ex-brother-in-law.) Just one reason we're divorced, but not actually THE reason.
So I don't do it this time. I do buy my step-kids and in-laws gifts, but they are from me, not us. If my husband wants to communicate with his family and buy them gifts, he can do it himself. I don't want to make my husband look bad, so I try not to be a jerk, but it's not my job to make him look good. If that makes sense.
Felicia -- struck a nerve
Willamette Valley, Oregon
I never looked at it from that point of view. I just took on the gift giving when we were first married and it's never stopped. To be fair to my husband though I make 95% of the gifts we give and 100% of the cards that are sent. I hate purchasing store bought items. He would never think of picking up a phone and calling someone, his whole family is that way.
I 100% understand about the no credit. I actually told one of our nieces off about that last year when I didn't do anything for my FIL's birthday, she tried to give me crap. I reminded her who the child was and pointed out that i have never received a gift in over 20 years from the family regardless of the fact that this was the first birthday I had missed in 30 years, so she should just think about who she was talking to. My family is no better since my Dad passed, it makes it hard not to be resentful at times.
I’m another one who does not see this as my role. It does end up that I’m the one who buys the Christmas presents – but that’s partly because I very much enjoy doing so. OK that’s mostly because I very much enjoy doing so.
As for birthdays and my husbands family, if they remember me I remember them. So that means i’m very good with my mother-in-law. Everyone else usually remembers my husband birthday and the fact that he does not remember them is on him. Unfortunately I do know that my in-laws all feel that I’m the one who has fallen down on the job. Once again as far as I’m concerned that is on them.
But I’m the one who kept my own last name, and doesn’t have children, and is a northerner who didn’t even know what a hope chest was when I got engaged to my texan husband. So they all just think I’m kind of weird. And from their perspective I guess I am.
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heather - wow ! A waterfall - It looked like snow!2
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Hi all,
Thank you for your support about the house. The estate agent is v apologetic. Not his fault.
Not going to think about it right now.
If I seem a little selfish at the moment it's because the Internet is so patchy I only have time to get out the essentials. I am reading all and empathising. Photos are really hard to do.
Today we visited a wonderful old "church town" , but the photo I took of the video of the town in the snow won't post. Grrrr! It's a UNESCO site. Amazing. The church was ancient and had an old Catholic altar piece from Antwerp. The farmers who came from far and wide to worship built their own cottages to stay the night. We were able to go inside one of the cottages and talk with the owner. In the old days they had youth festivals and the young men went round serenading the girls and knocking on the windows. If the girl fancied one of the farmer's boys she would invite him in to spend the night with her in her bed fully clothed. Oh yer?!!? The parish is bigger than Belgium, Holland and Luxembourg.
Then we went to the waterfall. I know you have incredible ones in the States, but this was the biggest I've seen. We had a nice buffet lunch in a hotel with a good view of the falls.
The only sour note was that we chose to get off the coach in town to do some food shopping. I bought dried reindeer meat, rye cracker bread and some Daim bars. We will be sharing this with my son and family. A woman in the shop was very helpful about the right things to buy. That's the third really helpful Swedish /Norwegian woman we have met. Happy to help us stupid foreigners.
We had a coffee and then went to pick up the shuttle bus in the appointed place, but it didn't show up.
Turned out the pick up place had changed. Grrrrrrrrrr! We have let them know that we are not pleased. Not pleased at all. Eventually we found it.
So, our butler brought us extra tea and canapés. And we had a gin and tonic.
Feeling more mellow now.
Love Heather xxxxxxxxxx
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Hooray, posted! This is a picture of a video. We weren't there in the snow.
Love Heather ☓
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