WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR JANUARY 2019
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About having a will. Even having an imperfect one is better than having none. Also, finding an attorney has to come after figuring out what you want to put in the will. So while you're looking for an attorney (we asked a friend for a suggestion), we started listing our assets and family members and important charities so we'd be prepared to speak to the attorney. She did the legal part, but we had to know what we wanted to say.
About the Big Book of Death. We have had one for years and have updated it yearly. I added a few things based on what some of you have suggested. This month when I started working on the income tax, Jake mentioned that I have to stay with him forever because he had no idea how to do the income tax. Thus, as I stared doing it, I made notes of what I did and where I got the information. We have an accountant who fills out the forms and files for us, but we have to know what documents and numbers to send to her. I will type up the notes and put them where they can be found easily.
My friend emailed me today to say that she'd be taking hats to be given to homeless and needy people and I was delighted to find that I had six hats to contribute. All that riding the exercise bike while watching TV and knitting is paying off.
Mary in Ontario, You have crossed the hardest hurdle which is getting over the idea that you can't lose weight because of external circumstances. You have put a lot of great suggestions to work in your life. I hope you will continue posting and sharing how you are doing.
Barbie in beautiful NW WA
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Hi Everyone!
I have been reading but just now caught up. Things have been crazy here. We go from 50* to 10* and snow. Two weekends in a row we had snow. First one was 10" the next weekend another 8". We had a warm day in between both that melted the snow. Got about an inch of snow last night, but temps around 46* called for tomorrow and Tuesday. Then yes, joining KY and NC in the Artic OMG! High on Wednesday is -2*. Needless to say, we won't be doing any pickup or delivery of mowers except for Monday. They tend to freeze on the back of the truck! Not healthy for the driver either.
So I am doing well this month. Got frustrated when scale was reading exactly the same thing every day for a full week. I mean, exactly the same thing!!! I even weighed my trash can just to make sure scale was working! I have only missed my water goal one day since Christmas. I believe I have hit my step goal and exercise goals most days. Logging everything. If I can make it to the end of the month I am looking at a 3 # loss for the month. Excited but.....we had dinner out last night with friends for his birthday. Dinner out today with my family for my husband's, my grandson's, and my birthdays. Most likely dinner out again on Tuesday for husband's birthday. My birthday is on Super Bowl sunday again. Not sure if going to friends' house for Super Bowl party, or just staying in for quiet meal at home and commercial watching. This is same friend that caused lots of drama with my girls about my birthday last year. A lot depends on weather as well since I try not to drive in the snow. I am not spending my birthday throwing up from driving in the snow;) Lots of eating out, so water and steps most important. MFP has me set at 1300 calories a day. I am staying close to that. May need to eat a bit more for loss. Will try out next month with eating more of my exercise calories.
Update on Aubrey- Little one is off oxygen for the first time since she was born!!!! She is in clothes! She is such an awesome fighter!
She is still in hospital for a while, but we are so proud of her!
Meanwhile
Who couldn't love this face!
I agree with so many of you, YOU ARE ALL AMAZING WOMEN!!! From the support given, the sharing done, the tips for everything from eating to dealing with emotions, from births to deaths, from up days and down days! I may not always respond to posts, but know that I read them all! Your sharing touches me every day!
Lisa- I am so happy for your upcoming surgery. I know it is a big deal, but excited for you to be pain free.
Sharon- Such beauty is found in you! Hope your healing is doing well.
Michele in NC- Do you plan what you are going to eat each day or just post when you pluck something in your mouth? Your food diary fascinates me! I see how just a bite or two of something satisfies you. I need to message you about some embroidery stuffs. Will so that soon.
Welcome to the new ladies (at least to me since I missed most of Oct-Dec) I think there are two of you from KY... I am near Dayton, OH. My daughter lives in Independence, KY and is a UK and WKU grad. My MIL is currently selling the farm that they own in Maysville, KY. You live in such a beautiful state!
Healing and peace prayers to all those who are injured, ill, or dealing with either. I have learned things from all of you!
May your day be full of love, laughter, sunshine (even if you have to make your own), and the best choices you can make at the time. We can't redo the past, but we can learn and move forward!
Time to pay some bills and taxes-ugh as well as get paperwork together for accountant.
Kylia in Sun is shining but man is it cold Ohio
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Barbie: Your comments on knowing what you want to put in the will are right on. We know what we want to put in the will, we just need to get it done and copies sent to both of our kids. :ohwell:Regarding taxes, we also use an accountant. It is worth the money ten times over in the reduction of stress and worry. My husband keeps all the records and it will be hell for me if he passes on before I do.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon1 -
M in Oz, I am sorry people close to you downplayed what you were feeling. After I spoke with a therapist, I realized that I had shared in the experience of my husband's illness, and healing. That I survived a traumatic event. That sentence alone gave me permission to grieve, to adjust, and to be empowered. It was like I had been holding my breath for months, and the therapist told me to breathe deep. I know my husband makes light of his experience. But I have another version, the daily stress of him not understanding, or comprehending his life. All while raising a teenager in whatever normalcy I could make. You bet we survived! Any day where I feel my inadequacies, I remember what we all went thru.💗. You, and husband share and live a life of epic triumphs!
💗Rebecca4 -
Yup! Off my cholesterol meds, but doubled my Nexium and Celexa. I tried to get off both but ended up paying in the ER with panic attacks and constant diarrhea these past four weeks. Now dealing with water retention and constipation. Upped my water / liquid intake to half my body weight with one 20 oz bottle of power are zero included in that for electrolytes. Helping. Water weight gone. Constipation is a side effect of keto so upping fiber intake. I take psyllium husk pills daily for fiber, need to add more of a different form that is keto friendly.
RV Rita4 -
Today is my 2500 day logging streak on mfp, 😎13
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Excited! Just measured myself and list 2.7 inches off my waist and 2.5 inches off my hips since January 9!
Yay me!
RV Rita on Keto!12 -
Kylia ~ So glad to see Aubrey flourishing and pray it will continue.1
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Rita~ I wa looking for that too today, but isnt there a bit of carbs in that... I have to pick some up.. I am down 12 lbs and feeling great.. bought a cute summer dress is he juniors dept at Walmart, but the biggest size, so I should be able to wear that in august or so,,
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stats for the day:
manual treadmill- 13.26min, 142ahr, 154mhr, 1mi= 150c
arm dip-chin-up assist machine- 17.23min, 5sets of 10ea w/3diff exercises in btwn, 143ahr, 158mhr= 200c
hoist core machine- 142mhr= 13.05min, 3sets of 10ea with 4 diff exercises in btwn, 120ahr, 142mhr= 119c
total cal 4694 -
Still sneezing, nose running, coughing like a mad woman.
Ugh.
Someone stole our general trash bin last week, so I've been piling up trash in the garage. Tonight the next door neighbour knocked and said we could put some bags in hers.One bag went in the other side's bin. We have ordered another one from the council, but it could be some time.
Really hoping I improve tomorrow. Hoping to sleep.
Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxx7 -
Read/ inwardly digested posts, but too tired to comment. Suffice to say that I am in awe of your compassionate souls.
Time for bed where I live. Enjoy your morning/afternoon/evening/sleep. Whichever applies!
☘️ Terri
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Pip: Congrats on 2500 days! WTG!!!!
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Rebecca: I love your comments to Machka. You are a person who has been there through your husband’s health crisis and your words are eloquent.
Rita: Congrats on your loss of inches! Yay you!!! I’ve suffered from acid reflux for years but have found relief in a combination of avoiding food triggers and dropping some Rx drugs in favor of others. I also have to sleep partly propped up on pillows if I've eaten the wrong thing. :ohwell: I wish you best luck. :flowerforyou:
Heather: Sending you Peter Rabbit medical advice—drink chamomile tea or mint tea. It helps me as well as Peter so we both recommend you try it.I hope you feel better soon.
We had a lovely skype chat with our son, DDIL, and grandson this morning. It was a real pleasure. They are lobbying that we visit them first on our planned cross-country RV trip this spring. DS will be travelling abroad for work for part of the summer. We want to visit before he has to leave on his trip.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon9 -
Did 10 Minute Solution Slim & Sculpt Pilates DVD today. The plan for tomorrow is to hold my plank then take the extremepump class.
Sharon – what a wonderful family you have! You must be so proud. Our second home was the neighborhood meeting place, too. I almost never had just my own kids. I’d drive to the house and kids would beat me there.
Heather – your dh sounds like he’s getting worse and worse. Is he on any type of antibiotic? And you're not doing so hot, either
Lisa – have a question for you. Vince just bought some GS cookies (I knew I should have gone to the store in place of him!). Anyway, they had this pricing of 5 for $20. Did the cookies go up to $4.50 a box?
Kylia – what I do is I mark down on a piece of paper what I ate during the day and what I will have for dinner. Then I log it all. Many times I find that I need to eliminate something just so I come under goal. Yes, I have planned what exercise I will do each day and what we are going to have for dinner (the main portion, I add in the veges etc later in the day). You are doing so great, making fantastic choices. Sometimes (like for the past few years for me) we don’t lose weight even tho we’re doing everything right. Basically, that’s our body’s way of saying “you’re at the weight I want you to be”
Rita – way to go girl! You rock
Mary – I’m so sorry you have had such a hard time lately. (((HUGS))) Safe travels!
I’ve been thinking about the shower. Right now I’m thinking that making a diaper ship would be nice. Gotta think more on the favors. I don’t want to make something that looks cheap. But I have ideas, like a bag of Chips Ahoy, something where people can write on a diaper hints for the mom-to-be, a bottle of nail polish with some sort of sticker “10 fingers and 10 toes” (not sure about that one) Maybe some popcorn kernels in a small popcorn container with a saying “she’s about to pop”, maybe a tea bag with a saying “something’s brewing”. I remember they didn’t do any games at the wedding shower so I’m thinking that they won’t be wanting to do any games at a baby shower. What I think would be cute but I don’t know if I can do this since it’s not at a house is make ice cubes and in each one put a plastic craft baby. When the ice melts, someone can yell “my water broke”. But I don’t know how to do that. Wonder if I can ask them to write on the cake “from beer bottles to baby bottles” and have a bottle of each – one on one side and one on the other. Maybe I can put these all in a gift bag with something on the front saying “thank you for coming to Denise’s baby shower”. I saw this apron for the dad and on it says “daddy Duty” and below it says “panic button” “call grandma”. I thought that might be cute for Pete. Denise said that he’s supposed to be at the shower. Well…if he isn’t, she can take the present home to him.
Katla – I told Vince that I do enjoy Newcomer membership, but I don’t enjoy the way I’ve been treated and I really don’t want to work with this “new directory”, it doesn’t have the functionality. So if it comes to it, I’ll just say that in good conscience I can’t use the new directory and if we’re going to use it, I think they need to look for someone else to do membership
Michele in NC
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Psyllium husks do have carbs but minus the fiber and it evens out to 1 or 0 net carbs depending on the type and brand you get.2
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Rita and Allie, and all who've had success of late, well done!
Heather, I'm so sorry you and your DH and family have all been so badly affected by this bug. 'Flu season's in full swing here, my grandson is really ill, as well. Tough year for this everywhere, I'm thinking.
Michele, every Girl Scout council sets the prices of their cookies in their own area. All cookies here in Arkansas are $5.00 a box this year, but across the U.S., they range in price from $4.00 to $5.00, with some varying the price by the cookie type, or at the same price for all, as they do here. There's an official Girl Scout Cookie Finder app, and a Digital Cookie program where cookies can be ordered online. All the net revenue stays with the local council and troops.
And I just found out a few hours ago that the Membership Director of my new council, whom I had met a few times, but did not know well yet, was killed in an accident last night. She was 42, and has a son and daughter that are just barely grown. Will be going to a candlelight vigil tomorrow evening in her honor. Life is so precious, and so fragile, and so easily gone.
Love y'all,
Thinking about you all tonight,
Lisa in Arkansas13 -
Barbara,
My Mom was ready to talk about death and dying..she wanted to live while she had quality of life but knew she didn’t want to live on artificial life support. She initiated getting everything in order.
My husband was the opposite. He was totally uncomfortable discussing end of life concerns. When he had his major heart attack in 2006 the heart surgeon encouraged him to fill out medical directives before his open heart surgery. He couldn’t and wouldn’t discuss what he wanted. Recently his cardiac tests were alarming and his cardiologist insisted on sitting with us and filling out medical directives in her office and a power of attorney for medical should he not be able to make decisions.
I’m so relieved that our paperwork is in order. My husband wants life support and all intervention possible to prolong life. I can respect his wishes. I don’t want that for me.
I don’t know how to have this end of life discussion with a loved one who isn’t ready to talk. It took the cardiologist forcing my husband to communicate his wishes. She was amazing, informative and compassionate but firm in insisting on completion of the paperwork.
Betsy in NW Washington6 -
Great day, long day, tiring day! Time for bed. Husband has a stress test in early morning-3 hours!
Lisa- That is so tragic! Prayers for all!
Kylia2 -
Hi Gals,
Thanks for the support gals, I will fill 3 of the hours a week with the embroidery business growth. I can fill the rest with gardening no problem, but in working for the YMCA I was getting some benefits – sick time, some taxes and social security paid by the company, and if I fill the time with private clients the benifits come out of my money, and it’s just nice to have someone else pay for it… Additionally over the weekend someone from the park department and I were talking and he said so I hear the Y is leaving, there are a few other groups considering taking over, I asked do you think they’ll keep the garden, he was not sure but felt it was a priority for the park department. I’ll be working on my resume!
Lisa – knee replacement! That’s exciting and quick! Were you able to move over sick time so you can have off the time you need? How sad to hear of your co-worker
Viv – hang in there, vent to us, get support from your friends and try to listen and not judge too much for your mom, mine lives her whole life in denial and really there is nothing to do for or with it. I refuse to validate it – but just let her talk when she wants to.
Tracey – a walking commute is great! Tailor that resume !
Heather – take care of you and DH
Kelly – I want to come to day care! I am so sad to hear about the child who isn’t getting quality/quantity of food that would be good. But so glad he’s with you for a few meals a week. I love the idea of sharing a recipe with the parent, one that he likes and is both healthy and less expensive. I think many of us that have worked with kids have heard a story about food insecurity from a child it’s heart breaking. There is more poverty and food insecurity than many imagine. Some of it comes from not knowing how to cook well enough to make things that stretch a budget, the American dependence on pre-made food (from a restaurant or the grocery store –frozen) has many down sides. Health, budgets, even time together.
Allie – so glad the doctor is saying nice things, you sounded unsure of him at first. Take care of yourself, it’s important to find the way that is best for your body, and it may not be a cookie cutter of a diet plan but a plan with the tweaks that make it yours.
Kim from N. California
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