WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR JANUARY 2019

1948Peachy

We have so many interesting and wise women in this group!

Carol in GA

grandmallie

Well still laying low.. fed Alfie and got him outside.. having some lavender chamomile tea ,in my nightgown and in bed...going to just chill for the night and hope it goes away...I'm real chilly so have the heated mattress pad on..

klanders30

carol. I so agree with you-what a great bunch of minds and hearts in this group.

Having a quiet happy day with DH. We had a nap together and a nice long chat—my life is blessed

Got in a great workout this am as well so I fell I earned the nap

Poerava14

Carol: Sorry about your thumb. Hope it heals quickly. Have you tried arnica gel for bruising?

Sharon in WA: Thank you for sharing your Allan story.

Sue in WA: ((hugs)) Think of you often and sending you and DH healing energy.

Bone broth cooking in IP, then will make the Creamy Zucchini soup from Skinnytaste. Easy and delish!

Take care and stay warm friends. We can do this.

Rori
SMILING in Colorado Foothills

pipcd34

stat for the day:

bike ride, wk to hm- 1.04.57hrs, 12amph, 120aw, 130ahr, 154mhr, 12.9mi= 613c

evie1958

Sharon, in regards to getting another cat, we just don't want one right now. I'm so tired of the scooping and sweeping involved and yes, the upkeep of said kitties was up to me, for the most part. I scooped litter boxes for 20+ years, I have not missed that in the last almost 9 mos. We do miss the entertainment factor, they could certainly be entertaining! lol But, not the food and litter all over the floor and the hair, oh my! the hair!! lol And yes, I think our weather is very similar to the Seattle/Puget Sound area.
Tracey, fingers crossed for you for the scheduling job. Certainly sounds right up your alley! Is there any sort of gov't sponsored office that can help you jig your resume? Here in Victoria we have WorkLink, I believe it's throughout BC, but I could be wrong. Anyway, it's free and they can help with writing a resume that will really highlight your skills, the professional ones and the ones that can be translated into professional ones. After all, you don't need a degree to be able to budget funds or time, sometimes we don't see running a home as valid work experience.
Kim, sincerest wishes for you finding the perfect job(s) to fill those hours that have been lost!
Lisa, so happy that you are getting your surgery and on the correct knee also! It will go well and you will be up and dancing in no time! (I have faith!)
Heather, so glad your trip is still a go, sometimes we need time away with friends. I do hope you and hubby will feel better soon, glad to hear he's starting to feel a bit better tho.
Viv, so sorry that your mom is having such a tough time in regards to your dad. You've gotten really good advice from a number of people, I have nothing to add, just know that I'm thinking of you and your family.

I had a post half done, thought I minimized the screen but apparently I closed it, so of course, the post disappeared. I'm still reading, so many stories that are worthy of comments, I am just having a hard time getting and staying caught up! My eating has been out of control a bit the last few weeks, I haven't officially gained anything, but haven't lost any more either. I have also had a few salty meals lately (okay, a LOT of salty), so water retention has been a major issue (grrrr...). I keep getting interrupted (at work again), so I should just post this before I lose it again!
Hugs to those needing them, congrats to those celebrating and welcome to the newbies!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island

margaretturk

grandmallie wrote: »

Well still laying low.. fed Alfie and got him outside.. having some lavender chamomile tea ,in my nightgown and in bed...going to just chill for the night and hope it goes away...I'm real chilly so have the heated mattress pad on..

Might be related to your keto diet
This was one woman's response on a keto chat group

learned early on (hence this thread) that I just wasn’t eating enough. I was still trying to get my head around CICO and doing Keto at the same time. Not good. I upped my calories, while keeping carbs <20g total, and that fixed my being cold issues.

Hope that helps. Your body is going through a major adjustment switching to this diet. More water and rest would also help.

Margaret

OregonMother

Watched Roma last night. I highly recommend it. Subtitles are well done. The acting, directing, and story telling is top notch. There is a scene with male frontal nudity, but it is non sexual/non erotic and not gratuitous, I guess that's why it still had an R.

A beautiful story, that I have been reflecting on all day. I will definitely watch it again.

Anyone else seen it?

Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon

Machka9

Katla49 wrote: »

Machka: Is there an alternative medical care option for your DH that would allow you to ditch the stupid woman you’ve been dealing with? Can you ask for him to be transferred to another person in the group? You need to be respected and treated appropriately. :grumble: Happy Australia Day! :bigsmile:

auntiebk wrote: »

Machka Aaaaugh. The back-to-work coordinator is just so premature. Surprised she's even involved with no back to work date yet set by your husband's MD. Can the MD tell her "don't call us, we'll call you!"?

My husband's doctor is still the neurological rehab specialist. And that was an issue for the back-to-work coordinator. "Why is he still seeing a specialist? Why isn't he going to his GP?"

Unfortunately, her organisation is employed by the insurance agency (Worker's Comp), so I don't have much say in it. When he came home in July, a person from her organisation was assigned to my husband, and he seemed good. He seemed to understand what was going on, and we heard from him about once a month to check in on how things were going. He organised my husband's carers etc. which was fine. Then this other girl took over in October and it hasn't gone well from the beginning. She has been pushing hard to get my husband back to work and doesn't seem to understand his injury at all. And of course it is in their best interest to get him back to work as soon as possible.

I'm trying to give her the information she needs and to work with her ... but every time we make a bit of progress, she seems to go back to "what I usually do is ... "

I'm even trying to look at it as a "working with people" learning experience!!


M in Oz

Machka9

PurpleSparkles85 wrote: »

Viv: I think she is less in denial than beginning the grieving process. She is overwhelmed, tired, maybe even upset that she is giving over control to caregivers even though she knows she needs help. She is angry that he will leave her, doesn’t appreciate what she is doing and protecting herself from grief. Neither one can help what is happening and not really capable of supporting each other. It’s so difficult. Someone mentioned validation, and yes, she needs that too. I cannot tell you how many people that I have advocated for to meet death on their own terms, yet I was angry at my dad for years after his death when he did it his way. It was selfish, but I still needed someone to say that I could feel that way. Just being there, listening and loving, is an amazing help and gift 💜💜💜

That statement: "I still needed someone to say that I could feel that way" is very important.


When my husband had his accident, I had all sorts of different emotions about it and for a while I sensed that people close to me kind of wanted to downplay my emotional response. It wasn't until I went to my neuropsychologist and she told me very clearly that whatever emotions I was feeling were OK, that I began to be able to deal with it all emotionally. It was like I needed permission to feel angry, frightened, sad, overwhelmed, etc. etc. I needed to know that it wasn't wrong, and wasn't selfish, and was indeed all right to feel that way and to recognise my feelings.


M in Oz

Machka9

PurpleSparkles85 wrote: »

Feeling a bit puny today: blood sugars a bit low, but worse is this vertigo. Almost fell in the shower bending over to rinse out my hair. It makes me tired to be so nauseous and dizzy.

Later, ladies,
Kathy in KY

Have you been to this website? And have you seen a physiotherapist who specialises in vestibular disorder?

https://vestibular.org/understanding-vestibular-disorder/symptoms

pipcd34

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Machka9

I've been writing more of my husband's story in the evenings again. I'm about 9 days in. Fortunately, I emailed my parents a lot so that's what I'm using as the foundation of the story. Right now I'm just doing a lot of cutting and pasting of email conversations and detaching myself from the emotion. Once I've got that set up for the first 3.5 months -- to the point where he comes home -- I'll go over it again to flesh it out a bit.

When he comes home starts Part II of the story.

Machka in Oz

coastalgosgal

A giant in the woods by Deception Pass.👍
💗Rebecca

suebdew

Got a lot of paperwork done today and it feels good to be caught up.
Lanette- as for my sugar limiting diet, I started the day my DD and family left on 1/4/19. I got rid of all the left over candy, cookies, cake and anything else that was a sweet treat. The first week I did slip a couple of times but so far I have been able to stay away from sweet things. I don’t add sugar to my coffee and now not to my tea. I watched both programs “The Skinny on Fat” and Live Longer and Feel Better”. There was so much information and I took lots of notes but I did learn sugar is very bad for your body. I was going to focus on carbs next month but decided to work n sleep instead.
Lisa- good luck with your surgery. I am so glad you don’t have to go to the VA.
Machka- if you can retrieve your posts you wrote on MFP, you would have some good details also.
SueBDew in TX

coastalgosgal

Suki with leaf ears! This was during a trip they went on. I am not sure where this was taken. Germany?
💗Rebecca

pipcd34

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Snowflake1968

TerriRichardson112

1948Peachy wrote: »

We have so many interesting and wise women in this group!

Carol in GA

They truly are. And by the time I have read through all the posts, others have already said what was in my mind. Lol! Suffice it to say, you are all remarkable in you own unique way, and I love you for it.

☘️ Terri

teklawa1

Yes,so many wise women on this forum. I’ve enjoyed the book suggestions and the thoughts and personal stories. Some hit close to home and helped my processing. Hardest thing I’ve ever done that I had control over, was being my Mom’s medical advocate. She had three cancers and wanted to die with dignity in her time. She told me her wishes and gave me power of attorney for medical issues. It was hard to honor but I did. She died in January 2012 and I miss her. I wanted to keep her alive but knew she wanted no more forced intervention.

My husband and I discussed end of life issues and he said he couldn’t support my wish for no prolonged medical intervention in certain circumstances. He said there has to be hope and thus would want all possible measures taken to prolong my life. I would honor that as his wish but for me I chose my sister to have power of attorney for medical decisions should I be unable to communicate. Such a hard conversation.

Betsy in NW Washington