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  • bobsburgersfanbobsburgersfan Member Posts: 3,313 Member Member Posts: 3,313 Member
    Lietchi wrote: »
    I've only had two spontaneous remarks so far (down 44 lbs from a BMI of 34 to 27, since August of last year).

    One person remarked that I looked good and asked if I had changed anything, indicating my face. Funny that she didn't consciously notice the weight loss, but a compliment nevertheless.

    Then last week another person blurted out: "You've lost a lot of weight, no?!"
    Which was funny since I had seen her mid-June (only a few lbs difference) and she hadn't noticed anything then.
    "Did you lose the weight after the last time I saw you (June)?" Nope, lol.
    "Since Covid then?" Nope again, lol. Apparently it was my face (again) that made them notice the weight loss.

    The funniest thing was how they focused on my food afterwards. Asking if I was 'allowed' a scoop of ice-cream with the fruit tart they were offering.
    But especially: "Are you not drinking alcohol because of your diet?" I've always been someone who drinks very little alcohol (usually one drink at the beginning of the evening is enough) and they've known me for at least 15 years!
    I've noticed this, too! This spring/summer, I mostly plateaued on the scale, but I've been getting more positive comments in the last couple of months. I think it was my face, too. :)
  • danae16danae16 Member Posts: 55 Member Member Posts: 55 Member
    AnnPT77 wrote: »
    gcminton wrote: »
    Well, it finally happened. When asked how I lost weight, another woman interrupted to say that CICO is no good.

    Apparently there’s a thing with estrogen being stored in fat that prohibits pre, peri, and post menopausal women from losing weight.

    I feel like I need to pinch myself to see if it’s all real. Because, according to this otherwise lovely woman, it’s “impossible”. Maybe I’m a figment if my own imagination?

    Absolutely bizarre. I guess my 110lbs lost so far is all imaginary, too. I mean I do swear I still see it in the mirror sometimes...

    I have heard stuff about estrogen being stored in fat, but that was more along the lines of being mindful that it may/will be released into your bloodstream as you lose fat, affecting your moods. No idea if that's true, either, if I'm honest, but it at least sounds more plausible.

    I'm not going to go into details (too personal), but I had experiences with how I felt during one stage of weight loss (for a couple of months) that lead me to suspect the estrogen release might be a thing. I'm post-menopausal, and it definitely hit me for a while there in ways like earlier-life estrogen levels felt.

    This is interesting...I've noticed that I have more cystic acne (I'm well into my 30's) while losing weight. It so annoying!
  • Tracyr202Tracyr202 Member Posts: 1 Member Member Posts: 1 Member
    Living in the south, I hear people tell others"you will look sick if you lose too much." Another is "you don't need to lose any weight" I always try to counteract what they say and tell the person, "it isn't about weight, do what makes you feel good inside and out."
  • ixchelkeshetixchelkeshet Member, Premium Posts: 32 Member Member, Premium Posts: 32 Member
    When given contrasting "compliments," does anyone else feel defensive for their formerly less energetic, comely, etc. self?
  • AliciaHollywoodAliciaHollywood Member, Premium Posts: 97 Member Member, Premium Posts: 97 Member
    Usually people don’t even notice! I can easily gain or lose quite a bit over time without anyone noticing too much because I’m 5’8” and my legs are long and thin so when I start to feel uncomfortable, I can hide the fat parts until I lose the weight. Over 5 year periods I’ve gone from 109lbs to 135lbs and back again and I guess because it’s so gradual no one even noticed! I gained some weight during Covid, back in the 130’s and hope to be back to my thin self by the time we are allowed to be social again. Which could easily be next year, the way things are looking! When I was 109 lbs, it was considered “underweight” by those stupid charts (and by this apps standards) but my doctor had no problem with it, never even questioned it. All my test results were great. This is LA and it’s totally normal. That’s actually when I did get a few compliments. I really enjoy being thin and like that there’s sort of a cultural expectation among the people I’m around to stay thin and healthy. I like being vegetarian, eating organic & healthy and don’t like being around the “eat a cheeseburger” people you can run into outside of LA. I never understood that mentality. I bet anything my medical report is WAY better than theirs!
  • Sand_TIgerSand_TIger Member Posts: 318 Member Member Posts: 318 Member
    When given contrasting "compliments," does anyone else feel defensive for their formerly less energetic, comely, etc. self?

    I suppose I might have the impulse - but so far I've been too busy noticing how I really am more energetic, lively, happier, etc. It's not that my past self was less worthy, or anything, but before I started my health journey I knew I needed to make health improvements anyway.
  • ixchelkeshetixchelkeshet Member, Premium Posts: 32 Member Member, Premium Posts: 32 Member
    From both my sister and sister-in-law (at different meetings) "Don't lose anymore!"
    I'm 5'6" and 145 lbs - literally 1 lb away from the 'ultimate goal' I picked for myself when I started 74 lbs and 78 weeks ago. This figure is in the upper end of the healthy-weight range for someone my height. Since I'm 55 years old there's a lot of saggy skin, but still extra fat under it, especially around my midsection, butt, and thighs, so I've been considering a new goal of 135 which is more in the middle of my h-w range. I don't want to be 'model-thin' by any means, I'd be happy with 'healthy non-athlete'.
    I was feeling pretty good about it too, but the speed/urgency with which they each blurted out the comment now has me worried that I may have some degree of body dysmorphia.
    So now I'm not so happy.

    I feel for you. Maybe rest at your original goal weight for a while. Keep exercising and eating healthfully. See how you look in your clothes and how you feel after some time has passed. Then reevaluate where you are, how your body is handling it, and what you want. Meanwhile, enjoy your success! A 75 pound weight loss is something that you can see and feel really good about yourself for achieving!
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