WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2019
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Barbara sending
and healing thoughts, getting more information and relief for his pain first, one step at a time. ((( )))
Lisa & Kim Negotiate, I agree with Lisa's well thought out reply to this situation. Infuriating, they may call it a miscommunication but good that they want to talk and clear things up. Deep breathing, write things down, don't make any decisions while talking this out with them. If you don't know what to say, say nothing but thanks for clarifying and then make some decisions when you have space to think and feel your feelings.
Barbie I haven't been needling my DH about food choices and he seems to be on a very good path of self-regulation and better choices. He's dropped weight and is more likely to work outside with me on the backyard without saying a word.
Hitting the gym first thing in the morning this entire week, food is prepped and I'm staying away from red meat for a month just to see if I can.
NYKAREN
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Goal: More than May!!
Saturday, 1 June 2019 … 1.0 km walking + 32.3 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Sunday, 2 June 2019 … 0.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Monday, 3 June 2019 … 0.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Tuesday, 4 June 2019 … 2.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 14 flights of stairs
Wednesday, 5 June 2019 … 2.7 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 2.5 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs + Pilates
Thursday, 6 June 2019 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 3.2 km rowing + 14 flights of stairs
Friday, 7 June 2019 … 5.4 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 3.2 km rowing + 14 flights of stairs
Saturday, 8 June 2019 … 2.8 km walking + 16.6 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Sunday, 9 June 2019 … 0.0 km walking + 27.1 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Monday, 10 June 2019 … 0.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Tuesday, 11 June 2019 … 2.6 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 14 flights of stairs
Wednesday, 12 June 2019 … 1.3 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 6 flights of stairs + Pilates
Thursday, 13 June 2019 … 4.4 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
Friday, 14 June 2019 … 0.0 km walking + 7.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Saturday, 15 June 2019 … 0.0 km walking + 29.4 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Sunday, 16 June 2019 … 0.0 km walking + 27.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Monday, 17 June 2019 … 2.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 14 flights of stairs
Tuesday, 18 June 2019 … 2.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 14 flights of stairs
Wednesday, 19 June 2019 … 2.5 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs + Pilates
Thursday, 20 June 2019 … 2.5 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
2019 Monthly June
Walking Distance (km): 33.8
Walking Time (min): 422.3
Cycling Distance (km): 139.4
Cycling Time (min): 467.0
Flights Stairs Climbed Number: 106.0
Flights Stairs Climbed Time (min): 84.8
Rowing Distance (km): 8.9
Rowing Time (min): 56.0
Other Distance: 0.0
Other Time: 90.0
Totals
Total Distance (km): 182.1
Total Distance (miles): 113.1
Total Time (min): 1120.0
Total Time (hr): 18:40:012 -
x1. weigh in
?2. log all yest
-3. 30 min exercise yest
-4. five minutes meditation
1 5. Take care of at least 3 shorter (1 pagish) writing or administrative task/bill, (union work doesn't count) yest
✔️6. At least 15 min cleaning
-7. At least 5 min day filing
-8. average 1100 calories net yest
• Overall Feeling : ok
• Log all : not sure yesterday
• Exercise :
• 1100 calories net average : went about 950 over yesterday!
•3 Short term writing/admin per week: 1?
•cleaning : 120 min today
•filing:
Grateful :
1.papers are slightly more organised for now in living room area
2. summery weather
3. several of my colleagues
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Barbara - Sending good thoughts for Joe. He is in the right place.
Machka - With all your huge responsibilities that you shoulder alone, is there any possibility of going back to Canada for family support? If I remember, your husband is Australian. Would that mean he wouldn't get Canadian health care?
I've hidden anything valuable for the cleaner coming this afternoon. My son is backtracking on it being them, but it's a precautionary measure.
My son "forgot" to ask us to do a whole day's babysitting in July for their 10th wedding anniversary.
They want to go to London for the day. Hmmmmmm. Luckily we can do it. They got married on the same day that I married my first husband. This year would have been 49 years. It will be Bea all day and picking up the older ones from school.
We are happy to do it and I will give him his cash 40th birthday present at last so they can enjoy themselves, but we have also agreed to do the nursery and school pickups the day before, not knowing about this. Oh well. He didn’t tell us about the Elton John concert until almost the last minute either! :grumble:
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
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Barbara~ sending healing prayers....
Jay still hanging in there but keep the prayers coming..
I broke down and had a bagel with cream cheese.. I haven't had one and was really craving it.. tons of carbs, but that will be it for awhile..
working 9:30 5 today...2 -
@trucker743 Sharon, I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that.0
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@auntiebk sending supportive thoughts your way0
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Possible pneumonia??? Sent home with antibiotic rx and told to see
Primary care dr Friday. Sure hope we can get in that soon. Thanks all for thoughts, prayers, vibes et al.
Kim swallowing helps me stop tears from flowing, so sip and swallow as needed.6 -
Kim -In my experience, most insurance companies don't offer coverage for people that are part time. The hours required to be full time vary, but often it is 30-32 hours a week. I only work 12ish hours a week and my boss offered me life insurance, the insurance company flat out wouldn't write it. I know they wouldn't because I was the one working with them, it wasn't her just saying that. That said, they should have known that when they made the offer. I think your only option is to ask for an hourly increase to cover what you can like the other ladies suggested. I would ask for more than it will cost to cover your premiums, and then you can "settle" for less and still cover them. I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I can only imagine how upsetting it is to have something you want so much dangled in front of you and then taken away. I too cry when I am frustrated.
Hugs!
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »Machka - With all your huge responsibilities that you shoulder alone, is there any possibility of going back to Canada for family support? If I remember, your husband is Australian. Would that mean he wouldn't get Canadian health care?
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
We can't go back to Canada ... at least not for a while.
I could, but that would mean that I'd either have to leave him home alone or arrange for a carer.
He can't because he can't fly well. We flew to Melbourne & back about a month ago (about an hour and 15 minutes in the air each way), and he was OK but not great. That was kind of a test run to see how things would go. He was restless and irritable in the air and had a meltdown in the airport on the way back ... too much noise, too many people, too much stress. I don't think he's ready for anything much longer. I was debating about a short trip to Brisbane in July, but decided that would just end up being too stressful.
Also one of his specialists told us that the cabin pressure could possibly present issues on the long haul flights in the first few years post-accident. That specialist recommended that IF we attempted a flight to Canada, we should do it in short hops with overnight stays. So like perhaps Hobart to Brisbane, and overnight, Brisbane to Singapore, and overnight, Singapore to Tokyo, and overnight, Tokyo to Vancouver. But that adds all kinds of extra stress.
I think we will have to build up to taking short flights before we ever attempt a big trip.
Plus, as long as he is being covered by Worker's Compensation, he can't leave Tasmania. I mean, we can fly to Melbourne for a weekend but he can't go for any length of time.
And no, he wouldn't get Canadian health care.
So ... here we stay.
And I continue to look for people I might hire to do stuff and for ways to simplify things.
Machka in Oz
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Barbara - Hope your hub is feeling better soon!
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Oh ladies thank you thank you thank you, I can’t believe you guys looked up covered California and figured it out just didn’t dawn on me last night it’s brilliant.
I totally agree that it was weirder than weird they were offering me either healthcare or participation in the retirement plan. When they told me about it in the interview I even question them saying I’ve never heard of that before. But they insisted it and I was delighted. So after all of that to have it ripped away just sucks.
I surprisingly slept like a baby so I’m going into this rested and will look information up and be armed with info.5 -
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Kim - (((HUGS))) I agree, going in with the idea of negotiating for something is a good tactic. I don't know about California, but in WA State I'd be calling the State Labor & Industries Division and run it by them and see if they have any ideas. I bet they get these scenarios a lot.
Barbara AHMOD - pneumonia? He must have had a fever. My money was on a kidney stone.
Hope the antibiotics are working and Joe is doing better. I give him kudos for wanting to go to the hospital. My DH's usual method of dealing with these medical situations is to get real grouchy, curl up on the couch, deny he's feeling sick/pain, and not talk much except to say "leave me alone!" My reaction is to engage a scene in my head of a virtual cast iron frying pan heading for his hard head.
Nurse Ratched, lol.
Make it a great day, Ladies!
Lanette
Showery and cool SW WA State4 -
@Machka9 I finally was able to get into app on new smartphone and access weekly settings. it's weird that weekly exists on phone app but not on desk top. I think looking at weekly is much more appropriate and realistic for me.
one good think Is that I've been tracking every days of June
1st week of June 1312 net and not 1100 net goal for very modest weight loss.
2nd week of June Seems to be on track due to lots of activity on Sunday
3rd week of June (this week, in progress): 1258 net average due to going way over yesterday.still have the next 3 days to get through, to balance things out (or not) somewhat.2 -
bananasandoranges wrote: »@Machka9 I finally was able to get into app on new smartphone and access weekly settings. it's weird that weekly exists on phone app but not on desk top. I think looking at weekly is much more appropriate and realistic for me.
one good think Is that I've been tracking every days of June
1st week of June 1312 net and not 1100 net goal for very modest weight loss.
2nd week of June Seems to be on track due to lots of activity on Sunday
3rd week of June (this week, in progress): 1258 net average due to going way over yesterday.still have the next 3 days to get through, to balance things out (or not) somewhat.
You can kind of see it on the website as well, but not quite as clearly.
Go to Reports (at the top).
Choose the Net Calories report
Choose a time period (like 7 days)
You can also select Weekly Digest ... which is something new, I think. I've just discovered it now.
I haven't logged food since June 11 when I got really busy with my studying, so I need to get back into it again.
Machka in Oz
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Hi Gals,
So I am sitting at my desk, feeling hurt, disappointed, betrayed….. I work at a kids camp as the gardener – it’s just 10 hours a week, but I really like the people, have learned a lot and get to eat there and bring vegies that are not perfect home. It is a great side gig to my main gig of owning my own machine embroidery business.
The embroidery business is small, and makes enough but no extras. I have health care via Covered California, but no vision or dental. I have tried all sorts of options for affordable dental care but it just doesn’t exist here. The closest dental school is 40 min drive each way and a cleaning is $65 plus more for xrays. So when the company that runs the camp that I work at changed and the new company came in offered me the same job with a few cents an hour more, dental, vision and a retirement program. I was delighted.
They have been who I have worked for, for 3 weeks now, and they still have not gotten info for insurance, retirement or how to use the online time card program to us. I emailed my boss, he cc’d me and emailed his boss and the head of HR. Forms for retirement program appeared, but not the booklet, nor forms for insurance.
My boss is on 5 days of vacation so I emailed the same group back, thanked them for the forms but asked how I could get the booklet and the insurance forms.
The response from my bosses boss in email was “ I’ll be there tomorrow and can talk with you about this. What I found out was that it requires employees to work 30 hours a week before they are eligible for the plan. I’m so sorry this message got garbled before I got the chance to talk with you. I will be there tomorrow or you can call me tomorrow to go over the information and if I can help find other alternatives for you.”
My response:
This was offered in my offer letter, and was a huge part of how I made my decision to accept this offer.
I will be at camp tomorrow morning, and will be happy to talk to you then.
Their response:
Thanks Kim, yes, I figured this would be a big deal. Thanks for coming by to talk.
My vent to you guys –
“garbled message”? What the ??? you lied. It’s simple you didn’t do your homework, and lied. My offer letter says 10 hours a week, a pay rate and the opportunity to have vision, dental and 403 matching (retirement). This is not a contract but it is setting expectations on both sides.
There have been a few other red flags about how together this company was – and now this. And it appears that the boss has known for some amount of time and just didn’t tell my boss or me… what thought I’d forget? I was looking forward to the tax savings of the retirement program, and to go get my teeth cleaned. I just feel betrayed. And I know me… I am not good in these situations. If I get to flustered, disappointed, my eyes fill with tears, it’s not really sad crying but more like my frustration pouring out of my eyes…. I need to think this through and decide what will make this ok for me. Do I just accept? Ask for something to “make it better”? Or accept for now and find a replacement job and move on.
I can’t tell if this is that none of the benefits are available or if it is just part of them. I do need to verify that when we talk tomorrow. Right now I want to stomp my feet and call the boss a dirty name. Not what I will do…. But I need to go to bed.
Many of you have more experience than I do in these things, while right now my brain is angry, I'd love any insight especially before 7am pdt
Kim from N. California
Kim My advice is to look at this as a fact-finding and problem-solving mission. Don't leap to any conclusions. Assume they are going to make it right and keep aiming for that goal. Expect the outcome you were promised. xoxo Karen in Virginia2 -
Kim:. Although the “offer” letter is not a contract, once you “accepted” the offer by taking the job, you do have a contract. These are the two basic concepts of contract law, offer & acceptance, all the statutes are based on this common law concept. Several of the options you can consider: 1) stick to your guns and make them honour the deal (if they give you the excuse everyone will want it, tell them you will keep your deal confidential); 2) use your leverage to negotiate something else they can give you (more bucks, not cents, they’ll save a lot if you don’t take them to court); or, 3) leave, but try to get something ($$) for them breaking the contract.
Make sure you point out you are valuable and have considerable history doing this job, in addition to your points (you specifically took the job based on their misrepresentation and you even specifically asked the questions about that particular term). Would you buy a car and then be told, “Oh so sorry, we made a mistake, it doesn’t come with the “air conditioning” you specifically asked for and we promised? UMMM This is not legal advice, my disclaimer, just beadowl advice.
Re the points the other folk have mentioned. Yes, it’s true most companies do not provide any benefits for part time workers under a certain level of hours, usually 25-30 hours. But remember, the insurers can write any group plan a company wants, they could have written a group plan that included part timers at your hour level, they don’t because the company would have to pay a much larger price tag. Insurers won’t write a plan for one person, but that’s not your problem. Your problem is a negligent misrepresentation, made by a person fully authorized by the company (it was their responsibility to know the offer terms) induced you into a contract you would not have otherwise taken.
And for the final part of my rant, do you think any guy would put up with this? We women have to be much better negotiators and stand up for our rights! Ok now, I have to go calm down.
Over and out from beadowl in the Big Smoke (Toronto).5 -
auntiebk prayers
(((Kim))) unfortunately it does appear to get insurance through a company there is a minimum number of hours you have to work in most cases. I think they do this because insurance is expensive for these companies, too.This is true for the subbing company I now work for. They offer insurance only after a certain number of hours and you still have to pay something for it. I do not work that minimum nor do I plan to.
They do offer a 401K but I am not part of it because I have one from when I worked full time. The 401K are run by different financial organizations so I do not get add to my original one. The problem is the fees. Until you have a massive amount of money in your 401K the fees are much higher.
I have another year to have to pay for private insurance it is 600 a month just for me. It was my DH company that he worked for helped pay for this up until last year. The money ran out.
The 600 does not include dental or vision and is a high deductible. I went with a HSA to help with taxes and pay the routine medical and dental expenses. This helped bring my actual cost down to about 400 a month.
I figure the amount I work basically pays for this insurance.
That is perhaps a way to look at this is the extra money you are making taking this part time job pays for your insurance.
If you like and this job I myself would tread lightly because I think the place you are working for does not want to deal much with this. Another possibility is work for them and look for something else that would better suit your needs.
Unfortunately when you are in the 60-65 you have the highest rates.
Some states offer help with insurance too if you are within a certain income bracket. This might be something you could look into.
The cost of health care itself is sky high.
Another thing you could do Kim is if you have a high deductible you could pay in full when you use health care. I know when I had my physical therapy I paid 90 a visit and not the 150 it would have been had it gone through insurance. I was risking I would not have major medical bills because then it would have counted towards my deductible.
There are so many options and way too complicated. I try to stay educated in this to save what money we can and still be protected.
I do find it frustrating, too. Margaret 2 -
Barbiecat: Thanks for the posting instructions.
Bobi, my Pom-Pom. He was stolen (at Christmas in front of my house). As soon as my knees are better, I’m definitely getting Bobi2. Nothing like a warm cuddle from your dog.
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Machka Perhaps you could travel by sea?
Karen in Virginia1 -
trucker743 wrote: »Heather UK,
RV Rita, I thought your SO had left because you posted "My Luke is gone!" I have no idea what that might refer to then. Stay cool as best you can! I can't take that kind of heat at all. Anything over 85° and I go aquatic, pronto!
Sharon Near Seattle
LOL. I don’t know who ‘Luke is either!’ Must have been the spell check?
Pic of yesterday’s high of the year.
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grandmallie wrote: »Barbara~ sending healing prayers....
Jay still hanging in there but keep the prayers coming..
I broke down and had a bagel with cream cheese.. I haven't had one and was really craving it.. tons of carbs, but that will be it for awhile..
working 9:30 5 today...
Don’t beat yourself up! I had carrot cake at Golden Corral on Sunday and it was heavenly! A treat like it’s supposed to be! Made me happy and I stopped there. Even more happy!
It’s ok to go high carb once in a while as a treat. Good for the soul.
‘Nurse Ratchet’ my DH is the same! When he had kidney stones he was also dehydrated. Refusing to believe he needed as much and more water than me. He was in so much pain, he eventually asked me to take him to ER. He never admitted that I was right about water. Even after docs told him I was!
RV Rita
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KetoneKaren wrote: »Machka Perhaps you could travel by sea?
Karen in Virginia
Waves ... seasick ... vestibular disorder ...
And we don't have that much time! We can only be out of Tasmania for a few days at a time. We're stuck here now.
However we have taken the opportunity to see more of Tassie.
M in Oz3 -
Pip: I love Bullwinkle’s blanket. You have a thoughtful friend.
Sharon: My parents took me to the World’s Fair in Seattle, and we went to the Space Needle. The view was spectacular. We rode the monorail then, too. Good memories. :bigsmile:
M in OZ: Today’s caregiver’s tip is spot on. You won’t get a day off, but in my experience, there are some good days. :flowerforyou:
(((Connie in KY))): I hope the sun comes out and you have a nice day.
(((Kim))): I hope you are able to get a satisfactory improvement in your employment situation. You deserve to get what was promised at the outset. :grumble: Lisa has some great advice & so does Karen in VA.
runlaugheatpie: Welcome to a great group.
Barbara: Sending prayers and good wishes for Joe and for you. Possible pneumonia? I hope the antibiotic turns out to be helpful. I understand that there are two pneumonias, viral and bacterial. Viral has to run its course, but bacterial can respond to antibiotics. I’ve been helped by peppermint tea in the past. It doesn’t cure the pneumonia, but it does relieve some of the congestion & helps me to feel a bit better. :flowerforyou:
Machka in OZ: I have never taken a flight of the length it would take to get from Tasmania to Canada. I hope you’re able to travel in the future. Would Canadian health care be available to you? Could your DH eventually apply for Canadian citizenship?
We have an overcast day so far. It feels cozy to be at home. Tonight there will be a concert in the park. I have no idea what band will be playing. I tried to look it up & they’re posting information on facebook, but the site there is totally unhelpful. :grumble:
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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Machka I meant: as an alternative to flying if you decided to move back to Canada. I have a vestibular disorder also. Big cruise ships are much less likely to trigger my problem...and there are always Transderm Scop patches and other medicines like meclizine that help if I do get queasy. I actually get more "seasick" on most airplanes than on large cruise ships.
But I see from subsequent answers that it's all moot. He can't leave Tasmania, so there's no point.1 -
Yes, Machka, I also meant moving back to Canada, where there must be warm support for you. You would have no trouble getting a job, I'm sure. You may not realise it, but I'm struck by how alone you seem. Is your husband's old company not paying comp for the accident? I would have thought there would be a huge insurance payout. Health care in Canada would be an issue clearly, but as an immigrant and married he would eventually be entitled to it.
Battling on alone with an uncertain future doesn't seem very attractive.
Sending love and hugs.
Heather UK xxxxxxx2
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