WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2020
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Lisa: I’ve been taking Wellbutrin for many years. It has done a great job for me. I used to have trouble with wintertime depression, aka seasonal affective disorder. It is no longer the problem it once was. We have also installed daylight temperature lightbulbs everywhere in the house. The combination of Wellbutrin and daylight temperature light bulbs has gotten rid of SAD for me. :bigsmile:
Barbie: Enjoy your snow.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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Katla I'm smiling at the vision of your dog & your husband each getting their CBD doses. Maybe your husband would like his CBD on a cookie, too. Gluten free. LOL!!!
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My grandson is building a virtual Dodge Challenger for me on his new Xbox. It's hot pink (the car, not the Xbox).
He has finished all but one piece of today's classwork.
Karen in Virginia6 -
Took the extremepump class today. The plan for tomorrow is to do Patrick Godeau’s Hard Work Conditioning DVD.
Tomorrow after lunch I get the wonderful <snicker> job of starting my prep for my colonoscopy. Oh, goody, goody, goody….. I’m planning to have a high protein lunch – yogurt, eggs,. I also started making my jello (yippee!...not). I saw that you can’t have anything red (which makes sense) so I was making orange jello. Vince said that you shouldn’t have orange, either. Never heard of that.
Karen – welcome! Happy early birthday! Bookmark this site…I see others have given you great instructions as to how to do it so I won’t go into it
NYKaren – did you arrange your hubby’s birthday to be on the day of your anniversary so that he wouldn’t forget the date of your anniversary…lol? We have friends who did the exact same thing!
Karen VA – Bailey is so cute!
Barbara – That BB&B class sounds awesome. Wish we had something like it around here.
Carol – The Pom doesn’t want you to cry. My heart goes out to you. Remember, he feels what you feel. He knows you’re sad. When one of our cats was sick and had to be put to sleep, I will swear on a stack of bibles that he looked at me as if to say “it’s OK”. That helped me so much.
Off to bowling, ceramics tonight then mahjongg.
Michele NC
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Michele- anything pink,red,blue,purple,or orange dyes y natural foods used to make dyes like beets in other words of red is the primary color to make that color it can color the intestines make it look redder or bluer so get misdiagnosed as inflamed or having something you don’t . Can’t have orange to grape kool aids either .
https://stopcoloncancernow.com/spread-awareness/news/five-red-and-purple-foods-to-avoid-before-your-colonoscopy
Amber Tx
If you can mix red or blue to make it avoid it.
Can have lime or lemon jello tho I used to be served it in the hospital before a procedure as a baby on up.1 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »Rebecca - Athena could be a baby model with that cheeky smile. So much character! Who takes the photos? They are very good.
Today we have to pay the balance on our cruise to Norway in April. The money I retrieved from deep savings takes six days to appear in our joint account and, unfortunately, won't be there until tomorrow. DH is doing something with his money to enable me to pay it.
Yesterday it didn't work, so I hope it will today. 
I also hope to unpack the mirror we ordered to go above the fireplace. It has been sitting in the hall in a big box for ages. Sometimes I get really anxious about doing things. I'm scared I won't like it, or it won't fit, or it'll be difficult to put up, or, or, or......
I still haven't got my website up and running.
Barbie - I wish I had Jake's attitude! New technology terrifies me!
However, given that my word for this year is UNLEASH I am going to unleash my mirror.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
I guess both of them do, but yes I agree! I told my son that Athena is exceptionally cute! Like pay for her college cute!💖
💖Rebecca6 -
Flea your post touched me. Brave of you to speak of your fear/worry. I leave many of mine unsaid, afraid to give them substance by putting them out there… BUT… doing so is the first step in facing them down. Good on you for doing your research, knowledge is power to combat fear. Finally, I try to remember that I was me before all the lovely changes life brings those of us lucky enough to live long enough… and hope I’ll be “me” afterwards too… ;} ((hugs))
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
Thank you, Barbara. These are very kind words, which I appreciate very much.
Flea
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Today husband took our Chevy Spark to the dealership for its oil change and tires, maybe brakes. I had taken $800 over the course of 4 months, so its a big purchase. He will be hanging out at the waiting area for awhile today. The weather cooperated so it snowed but the roads are clear. Its not often I am by myself, so feeling out of sorts.
On Friday, I bought a ceremonial tea cup from Japan from a gal here. She had posted her ad on Whidbey island buy site on Facebook, so we met at the Starbucks here. Husband was with me, because we organized the exchange before our shopping run. It was only $9 and the run thing was it had Sumo wrestlers around the ceramic mug. Turns out the cup was bought in the 80's when we were stationed there! The main kanji character in it was the Sumo wrestler we used to cheer for! Crazy coincidence huh. So, I made a new friend, and bought a mug I was supposed to.👍
I also went thru my pantry and got rid of items I probably won't ever use. I put it on Whidbeys free site and a gal from Freeland asked for them. Since we have so many military people coming and going, I ask for boxes posted by military PCSing to another command from the site. Its free, so I am not picky or choosy about what they post. Usually its 60% stuff I will use and %40 of stuff I give away. Its a nice system, and food travels eventually to everyone that wants it. She was supposed to come and get it today, but with the light snow she's just being careful. n
Today's first meal was yogurt, 1/2 banana and my breakfast flat bars crumbled over it all. Happy belly.
💖Rebecca5 -
Shingles - Well, I'm pretty sure I have them right now....for the second time. The first time I didn't even notice them until they were healing--possibly due to so many other things going on at the time. This time, I noticed them but I have no symptoms other than the bumps in the same spot. So, yes you can get the more than once. As for intensity the second time, mine were so mild the first time that it's hard to say.
Guess I am a bit stressed.
Tina in CA7 -
coastalgosgal wrote: »Athena is getting her first tooth!💖
💖Rebecca
Oh my land. She is so full of personality!
Flea
Willamette Valley, Oregon
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He is changing so quickly! Time for me to plan my next visit. Grateful this morning for the internet, that keeps me "close" to my far away family and has given me you lovely ladies, as well!
ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
Another beautiful baby full of personality! Thanks for sharing, Kelly.
Flea
Willamette Valley, Oregon2 -
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grandmallie wrote: »Being able to love this way has alot to do with forgiveness.. I forgave Tom for his indiscretions and poor Elena probably didnt know he was cheating on his wife... she is the type who would be mortified..and I would never spoil our friendship by sharing that..
Don't you think she knows now, even if she didn't know at the time? I get not talking about it with her. That would be super awkward, but she must have figured out the time line.
Flea
Willamette Valley, Oregon
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Good morning -- well, I guess it's still only morning on the west coast!
My mil passed away yesterday afternoon. Thankfully my husband got there Saturday evening and was able to spend some time with her, even though she never did wake up. Unfortunately, no one was actually with her when she died, even though almost everyone (all of my husband's five kids, their spouses, their small children, her ex-husband and his wife, her estranged son) were in another room visiting. My husband went in to check on her to see if it was okay for the young great-grand children see her, and she was gone. My husband sounds better than he has sounded in weeks. He says it comes and goes, but over all, I think everyone is relieved. She had been suffering so much, and she is not one to suffer in silence. My son has been very weepy, so I know this will be difficult for him. My father died when he was just an infant, so he doesn't have many feelings attached to that death. This is his first experience with someone close.
Anyway, my son and I are the only ones coming from a distance, so we will fly out Tuesday afternoon. Funeral is Friday. Basically the list in the previous paragraph is everyone who will be at the funeral. She hadn't been to church in years, so not many people remember her, but the clergyman said that he would ask around and see if anyone would like to come. She has two sisters, but the eldest is also in a care facility and her children will not attend. Her younger sister just lost her husband a couple weeks ago, and I think she is still reeling from that. One or two of her children might attend, but my husband seems fine if they don't. (We were the only ones of the nieces and nephews to attend her husband's funeral, so maybe it's just not something they do?)
She would have been horrified to know that her ex-husband, wife, and estranged son were all there at the end, but I think it was very healing for them. A couple months ago, we told her that her estranged son was interested in seeing her, and she said no. She was not interested. He is also explicitly not included, although he is mentioned, in her will. Not that there is much there, but he's not getting anything. She kind of cattily said that if he put up a fuss, we are to give him $1. Lol Gotta love grudges.
Anyway, no one wants to say anything at the funeral. I told my husband that I could say a few things, and he said, "You could say something nice???" Oh my. Yes, dear. Something nice.
So, I guess the funeral will be the minister and me. My husband wants to sing a hymn or two, but most of the group doesn't attend church, so I can't really imagine them singing. This could be interesting.
ETA: It doesn't help that we just attended my husband's uncle's funeral, which was a huge affair -- lots of people sharing, lots of singing, nearly 90 minutes, and really beautiful. In comparison, this is going to be quite short and little fanfare. The family asked me to write the newspaper notice, and it is decidedly short. They couldn't think of anything to add either. It is sad, but that is the way she chose to live her life.
Flea
Willamette Valley, Oregon11 -
Hugs and prayers for you, your hub and family Flea!
Okie in the TX Hill Country2 -
Flea- Same when my Mom passed was relief yet hard all in one.No one wanted her to suffer anymore,was getting harder on all her many caregivers (Daughter even contiplated not joining the military to move in help my Dad care for her/ Dad was having heart attacks from the stress of New Affordable Care Act taking away her insurance (Texas - age gap that effects special needs (Autism to DownSyndrome patients on Disability are forced off into early normal people retirement SSI which means their Medicaid poofs they fall under buy insurance at a very high rate even tho they get $500 a month or Medicare have to pay half then hit gaps. No big deal you say we’ll try paying for Chemotherapy with that! She died as a result she made $1 too much for Medicare lawyers said they didn’t understand the new laws yet turned her down y many repeals think they call it where you say they made a mistake it is re looked at were again NO’s. In the end no pain meds with her bones breaking to no chemo or oxygen machines - they were confiscated because no way to pay it. As a family we pulled our money together to get her all we could from gauze to her over the counter meds even oxygen tanks which the oxygen place tossed a few in for free cause they felt this wasn’t right). Was very bad in the end for her so her passing even tho it was an agonizing death the suffering was finally over days before Christmas (I cleaned up hand prints of blood to trails she got up then went back to bed 🛌). We grieved took a toll on us but the air lifted we felt at peace that she was no longer suffering without medical care y medicine . The medical examiners y funeral homes said her stomach was rotting away before death so even if she would have woke Dad up which it looked like she was going to try to do the hospital would have only prolonged it a few days it would have been worse end. Sometimes it’s just your time. Celebrate the memories of her with your hubby. Happy memories to songs with children laughing playing is a better way to go than a boring service y everyone crying believng a laugh or smiles bad . My family has always believed that well every funeral on that side I remember happily. My Moms side it has to be a miserable time they believe so all deaths on that side I remember with such agony that I don’t want to remember them at all. Prayers your way Flea for the days ahead for Hubby y you.
Amber Tx2 -
Outlook still can’t be fixed. The problem is still intermittent, which can be a real pain
Tina – I’m so sorry to hear this. Please get better fast.
Flea – my deepest condolences on your loss. In some ways, they were prepared. I think she needs to have stated in her will that her estranged son was to get $1. Otherwise, he could contest the will and say that she wasn’t in her right mind when she made out the will. How is it in your state?
Michele NC
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Today is Stephen Foster Memorial Day!
"Stephen Collins Foster (July 4, 1826 – January 13, 1864), known as 'the father of American music,' was an American songwriter known primarily for his parlor and minstrel music. He wrote more than 200 songs, including 'Oh! Susanna,' 'Hard Times Come Again No More,' 'Camptown Races,' 'Old Folks at Home' ('Swanee River'), 'My Old Kentucky Home,' 'Jeanie with the Light Brown Hair,' 'Old Black Joe,' and 'Beautiful Dreamer,' and many of his compositions remain popular today. He has been identified as 'the most famous songwriter of the nineteenth century' and may be the most recognizable American composer in other countries."
Lilylady - I have a recumbent exercise bike too. I like it because I can do it while reading a book so I'm less likely to get bored and quit!
SuziQ - I really like the asymmetry of your rose arrangement, and the way the folded leaves made such a dramatic backdrop.
Lisa - I'm OK with snakes but your son-in-law needs to learn better snake handling manners if he doesn't want his ball python to get hurt. Not everybody is going to welcome a surprise reptile in their lap!
Kelly - The storm that was presaged by a lot of warnings for our area about severe thunderstorms, high winds, two-inch hailstones, and tornadoes turned out to be nothing but a couple of minutes of rain by the time it got to us. Not complaining - sounds like some people to the west of us got hit hard!
Michele - My doctor told me the same thing when I was having trouble with yeast infections on the skin just above my bra line. She said yeast "doesn't like air" so hitting it with the blow dryer when I got out of the shower might help.
Sue - So sorry to hear you had shingles twice! Between the expense of the vaccine and all the side effects I've been reading about, that must be pretty disappointing! I wonder if having the vaccine at least made it less severe?
karencpnp795 - Welcome! You should totally make room in your plan for a glass of wine now and then!
Flea - Wishing you and your family the peace of knowing your mother-in-law is at peace. It is sad to think people had so little to say about her, but who knows what ripples she left during her lifetime.
I'm busy trying to flog myself back into a solid routine. All the enforced rest over the holidays messed up my schedule, and now we've got record-setting cedar pollen counts so almost nobody in central Texas is at 100 percent. At least packing up the garage is adding some extra activity, the scale is up and it's past time for me to straighten up and fly right again.
-Yvonne in TX3 -
Flea ~ Good thoughts for you and your family as you travel through this sad time.
Amber ~ I am so sorry that your mom suffered.
Carol in GA1 -
Flea - I'm sure you will find a few wise and consoling words to say at your MIL's funeral. Brave and good of you to offer. That was always my role as well.
Sending best wishes for it all to proceed smoothly.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx2 -
Outlook still can’t be fixed. The problem is still intermittent, which can be a real pain
Tina – I’m so sorry to hear this. Please get better fast.
Flea – my deepest condolences on your loss. In some ways, they were prepared. I think she needs to have stated in her will that her estranged son was to get $1. Otherwise, he could contest the will and say that she wasn’t in her right mind when she made out the will. How is it in your state?
Michele NC
It is explicitly stated in the will. $1 if he should contest. It was written by an attorney, so I think it will be fine. I don't think he is of a mind to contest, in any case. I would be very surprised.
Flea
Willamette Valley, OR1 -
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Michele, during my prep day for my colonoscopy I had only clear chicken broth and apple juice--very tasty and very nutritious. I normally don't drink apple juice (too much sugar) or chicken broth (too much sodium) so it was a day of great treats. 3 -
Flea - sorry to hear about your MIL and that family dysfunction. Bless your heart for offering to speak a few words. So often older folks who have lost touch with neighbors, friends and family have very small funerals it seems. Does she have much property in her estate that will have to be sold or distributed?
Rori - hope you have a good birthday and are able to find some time for you. My DH has been getting up super early to build a fire in the woodstove - normally I have an hour or two alone in the mornings to do Tai Chi or whatever. So, I've taken to doing standing meditations "Wu Chi" whenever I can.. Kitchen, bedroom, deck while the dogs are out running about. Doing them with my eyes closed helps my balance as well.
Barbara AHMOD - so glad you are hooked on BB&B. I thought of you yesterday as I was carrying in a small container of firewood and was unable to walk up 2 steps onto the deck with it. Despite my SWSY, I had to set it on the deck, walk up and pick it up from there. I am definitely going to get an aerobic stepper and practice stepping up and down on alternate legs. I know it's probably more fear of losing my balance than it is strength that makes me leery.
NY Karen - Happy Birthdays and Happy Anniversary to you and your DH! I love that idea! You kids are still newlyweds, lol.
Heather - Oh boy, a new season of VERA!!! I've been watching reruns for the past week. Hopefully we'll be able to see them in the states in a month or so.
Carol - sending big hugs to you as you care for your Pom. Our furkids are such big parts of our lives.
Karen in VA - your Coton is just adorable.
Every time I look at our 13 year old Schnoodle I am grateful that she's still doing well despite some fatty tumors under her skin. Still has most of her teeth but keeping them clean is a challenge - I know bad teeth and gum disease take a toll on our pupsters. I am able to rub enzyme toothpaste on her teeth each evening and both dogs get Oravet dental chews twice a week so I think that's helping.
Machka love your long hair but not sure I could keep up with it if I it were mine.
The techies at MFP helped me with something this morning. For the past month or so, a "Maintenance Photo Thread" has been showing up in my feed, no idea how it got there and couldn't figure out how to remove it. Often glutted with photos of already skinny folks now skinnier, lol.
BAH!
So I messaged MFP for help and they removed it this morning.
We had an inch of wet snow this morning, more on the way. Thankful we don't need to go anywhere.
Hope you all are having a fabulous Monday. Hello newbies!! Hugs to all!
Lanette
SW WA State4 -
Carol GA - Thanks hugs back. Luckily being childlike kind wise with Alzheimer’s starting she seemed to take it in stride with a happy disposition.She just wanted to know when Jeopardy was on y ice cream 🍨 or popcorn how we were doing. She said in the end that she was seeing her Father who passed in a car accident saving her at age 14. So her time was obviously closing to an end. She used to say she saw him every blue moon but at the end she saw him almost daily. Shows God takes special care of the ones with retardation or spectrums in ways he doesn’t for us. Her family refused to see her until a few months after she passed it was more I wants it was my Moms can’t be passed down to you talks.Well grandma left it in her will to my Mom to be passed down to me then my Children so raspberries . Plus Mom sold them when she was alive lol 😂 so no one got them in the end. Probably bought AVON her favorite with the money 💰.
Yvonne TX - Kerrville,San Antonio,y Fredericksburg Texas cedar pollen counts through the roof so JRs been put on that exspensive Zyrtec for kids. Pull out your nose saline to throat spray cough drops the whole arsenal. My heads pounding to nose running with cedar fever.
Amber Tx
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »Flea - sorry to hear about your MIL and that family dysfunction. Bless your heart for offering to speak a few words. So often older folks who have lost touch with neighbors, friends and family have very small funerals it seems. Does she have much property in her estate that will have to be sold or distributed?
Lanette
SW WA State
Thank you, Lanette. There is not much. She has a home and a car. I don't know how valuable the car is; it hasn't been driven in years, but she wouldn't let us sell it or give it to one of the grandkids. I have been trying to get my husband to give it to one of his boys, especially since they are both struggling with reliable transportation, but he didn't want to go against his mother. Now that it has been sitting, I just don't know if it will even work for either of them anymore. The house is a horrible eye sore, and whenever we are there, we have neighbors come ask us if they can buy it. I'm pretty sure they want to buy it and remove it!
The following is family drama:She has told all of us since I've known her (15 years), that the state gets her house when she dies. She claims she wrote it over to them in lieu of them paying for some experimental medical treatments. The attorney and two of my husband's sons have both checked for liens, and there aren't any recorded. If the state does indeed take the house, we are in a bit of a fix. The two boys (my husband's from his first marriage) have been remodeling it, with the help of my stepdaughter and her husband, for months, and they just moved in at the end of December. My mil was not told this, because she would have had a fit, but it's been sitting vacant for years and the insurance company finally said they would not insure it if no one was living in it. If we really do inherit it free of liens, then we can sell it to the boys for a very reasonable price, helping them with financing. If it has a lien, we may try to pay off the lien so that the boys can keep it. If the lien takes all of the equity, we may just have to turn the house over to the state, and the boys will have to find somewhere else to live. This will be a stress point for the next few weeks/months, as we wait to see what the state does. If anything.
The house was in terrible shape, and my advise from when it became clear that his mother was not going to return to it was for us to clean it out, gather together as a family and thank the house for the service it has provided, and walk away. But my husband didn't want to do that. He still saw it as an asset, so he encouraged the remodeling and the boys moving in. On the day they were moving in, he was really fretting that he had made a huge mistake. That perhaps all of our time and money was just going to improve the state's property. We will see.
She has/had some beautiful household effects (her father served in occupied Japan after WWII) which she was going to give to nieces and nephews (because, as my husband says, they don't know to think poorly of her, so she wants to buy some good wishes/remembrances from them), but since my husband has control of the estate, that is not happening (with the exception of a couple pieces of furniture which none of us want anyway.) Once when he and his daughter were going through some things, they found some beautiful rings which were marked to go to a great niece none of us has ever met. My husband said his daughter was devastated, because it was an obvious slight on her and my husband's family. He just gathered them up, gave them to his daughter, and said that they rightfully belong to her. So, as we have been cleaning the house, we have been taking what we think should belong to my husband and offering to the kids things they might want. Honestly, this generation isn't really interested in much of it (at least his kids and my kids), and that has been hard for my husband to accept. Like I said, his daughter took some rings, and the boys are keeping some of her furniture, but they don't want much of it.
My mother and I have talked a lot about this, and we have both decided that we are giving/offering things to people before we die. She's already started doing it. I told all three of my boys when they move out, if there is something of mine they want, ask me/tell me, and if it isn't giving me joy anymore, they can have it. It will just save everyone a lot of pain and perhaps bickering later.
Bless any of you who read my ranting/venting.
Flea
Willamette Valley, Oregon
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Karen in VA: DH likes his CBD oil in a glass of whisky on ice. It turns out that the whiskey he likes, Seagrams 7, is gluten free. Cookies are off of his island due to diabetes and gluten intolerance. Like many people, he just needs to keep track of portions.
Rebecca: Congrats on finding your ceremonial tea cup.
Felicia: I am sorry for the loss of your DMIL. It is good that your DH was able to be there to say his good byes. As time goes along, I’m sure his being there will bring him comfort. I hope the situation with your MIL’s house is cleared up without too much trouble, and doesn’t cause harm or hurt feelings in the family. :flowerforyou:
Yvonne in TX: Thanks for the information on Steven Foster. I’ve always loved his music.
Lanette: It is good to know that MFP responded to your complaint regarding the maintenance photo thread. I wouldn’t want to see it, either. :noway:
A longtime friend called today and asked if he could get some sourdough starter from us. His evidently went bad and can’t be saved. I told him that I’d be delighted to share some of mine, so I got my crock out of the refrigerator and doubled it. The sourdough starter will be fresh and ready to go when he shows up. I’ll give him a cup or so. He can double it when he gets it home.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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Flea,
I'm sorry for your family's loss. She sounds like she was a tough cookie. Love DH's comment, "something nice?".
Big hug to you.
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Flea,
Sorry to hear about your MIL.i have been down that road with my dad,reverse mortgage on the house and cleaning it all out...grandkids didnt want much,and both Sean and I took what we wanted..
Never ever easy.. had dinner with friends here one of them going to Florida for a few months.. so we all brought something.. went off keto and will pay for it for a day but will get right back on track.
Gonna go to sleep now..4
And the count goes back to 0. Bah Humbug.
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