WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2020
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Walk w/family- 1hr 40min 55sec, 3.67ap, 95ahr, 119mhr, 101elev, 6.15mi= 545c
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Katla - I should clarify I watch a lot of tv as well, my problem with DH’a is the volume and content. He watches the paranormal shows, forged in Fire, wrestling, a bunch on History Channel.
I watch the singing competitions and mostly dramas or Dateline.
I know the show you are talking about, some of it is filmed here in Alberta. It sure is a feat to get the accidents cleared safely and quickly.
Happy that your DH is doing better today after his incident last night.
My Mom was in the hospital for 2 weeks after almost slipping into a coma once.
Debbie - I like the quiet too, it I like listening to music. I forget to mention the zombie shows mine watches. We did watch a show last night we both enjoyed, the new one called Next and there are a couple shows we watch together.
Your Mom was married young, I did the math. 🙂 I think if I was home all the time I would start volunteering or something. I want to stay active in something that uses my brain.
Heather - I complain a bit, but in the evenings we only have 4 hours from the time I get home until he goes to bed. We usually eat dinner together, I go take a bath, we visit and if he wants to watch something I don’t I go to the bedroom and watch what I want or I sit and catch up on here. He goes to bed at 9 so I lower the volume, walk to some show I have on and then go to bed at 10. On the weekends he usually goes to the bedroom as he knows I like to have the space to clean with him out of my way.
This is why I want to make the craft room a sitting room, so we don’t have to go to the bedroom to watch tv. In warm weather my DH spends a lot of time out in the shop. It’s not heated though so not for Winter.
Michele - I hope Vince is doing better.
Lanette- it’s opposite in our house I have sensitive hearing and hubby has difficulties in some registers. He says, “if people would quit mumbling I could hear them”, my response is always “or you could look at hearing aids as was suggested”. 😂 we have a lot of respect for each other though and have each other’s backs. Even if we do have habits that irritate the other sometimes.
It’s taken a lot of work to get here though.
I have been giving thought to getting one of the puppies that would be a sibling to the one my daughter is getting. I have convinced myself not to, my biggest fear is not having money in the event of a medical emergency and needing a vet. I also don’t know if DH and I would agree on how one is raised. I think I’ll just enjoy the Grand puppy I’ll be getting.
I am off for my bath.
Tracey in Edmonton3 -
Snowflake1968 wrote: »Barbie - I am a little envious of your alone time. I have not been alone during waking hours in my own house since June 2019. I am alone each morning from 5am until I leave for work, but I don’t really count that time as I’m asleep for most of it.
Tracey in Edmonton
I have only been alone in my own house once since July 2018 when my husband came home from the hospital ... it was when he stayed overnight in the hospital in March 2019 because of his first seizure. The rest of the time, he's home or out with me all the time.
The only breaks I get are going to work, and when he sleeps.
M in OzSnowflake1968 wrote: »Machka - what a long time to have no down time.
😂I loved your mindfulness story.
Tracey in Edmonton
I don't know where I would go or how I would take a "day off".cityjaneLondon wrote: »I have to ask, why do you stay with these men? I would say to them, "Shape up, or ship out!"
I am baffled. Why would you let anyone else dictate what happens in your personal space?
We, DH and me, are not perfect, but we respect each other's privacy and choices. No one overrides my space. Especially audible.
It's so easy these days to each have your own audible space with headphones etc. If they are annoying you, say so. Why would you let anyone take away your liberty?
Truly baffled, but said in love, Heather UK xxxxxxxx
What would you do if your husband started showing signs of dementia or had a stroke?
M in Oz1 -
Snowflake1968 wrote: »I was up early this morning so got some housework completed before leaving for work. I hope that doesn't become a habit as I like my sleep.
Tracey in Edmonton
I had a chuckle at this !!
My sentiments exactly!
M in Oz
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Exciting day already and it's only noon.
I had my final university workshop (online of course) this morning. The very last one ... no more lectures, workshops, tutorials, labs, or related things for this degree!
During the workshop, it was advised that my group reduce the size of our assignment. We were told that if we were actually doing this for a business, the size would be perfect, but because we're doing it as an assignment with a word limit, it should really be shorter. That means a bit more work. <sigh>
But overall we're well on the right track.
I just need to pass this assignment with 50% to pass the course and be finished the degree. I suspect we could hand it in now and get that, but we're putting in a final effort up to the due date/time of tomorrow night at midnight.
There is a severe weather warning and accompanying severe weather going on again out there. We're in the midst of a big "swirly" (you can see it if you look at Windy) which is bringing a whole lot of wind and rain. By October 5th we were already over the monthly average rainfall, and this system could dump another 20+ mm on us.
So I dressed for the weather and headed out to catch my bus ... which was late. But it wasn't too long before we discovered why. The driver kept having to stop the bus and turn it off, wait a bit and then turn it on to try to get the hydraulics working so that the bus could lower itself toward the entry door which would allow the ramp to be used. But that didn't seem to be helping.
And then, just as we were about to pull out of a stop, the right front tyre blew with a very loud BANG and the front of the bus dropped. In good news, the ramp could be used!
But we all had to get off the bus and walk to where we could catch another bus ... in the wild weather.
And now, I'm at work with both some work and some uni stuff to do. Hoping for a peaceful afternoon.
M in Oz4 -
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Machka - woohoo no more lectures! I am so happy for you.
That was an exciting ride to work, I hope the ride home is better for you.
Tracey2 -
Machka -That is a very good question and one to which I have given a lot of thought. I don't actually know the answer, but I do know I love my husband very much. I would do my best to help him, as long as something was coming back and I felt loved. I am not a carer by nature and I would not sacrifice myself, past a certain stage. I admire carers like you and Rori, but I couldn’t do it if the person I loved was gone. A care home would have to be the option, once things got beyond a certain stage.
For myself I am resolved not to get to the stage where I no longer in charge of my own life. I have plans to end it and have read up on the subject. DH does not agree with me, but it is my choice. I do not want to go into a home.
Like most things, it's complicated.
Heather UK xxxxxxxx3 -
Snowflake1968 wrote: »Machka - woohoo no more lectures! I am so happy for you.
That was an exciting ride to work, I hope the ride home is better for you.
Tracey
Yes, I hope going home will be all right. It has been pouring out there which tends to snarl traffic, so I hope that road situation is still good.
Regarding TV ...
My husband and I don't have it on until about 5:30 or 6 pm, with the one exception that if the Tour de France has highlights on during the day on a weekend, we might watch that!
There's just nothing all that interesting to watch.
Even in the evenings there's not much. Fortunately right now, it's OK. We have programs from 6 pm to 10:30 pm each night. But that changes from month to month. In a few weeks, they could drop a show or two. The only reason we have something to watch each night right now is because they are running three episodes of Midsommer Murders - one on Saturday and one on Monday and one on Wednesday. That's a bit unusual and I wouldn't be surprised that as we get closer to summer the Saturday one will be dropped, and possibly Monday as well.
Between December and March, we usually end up popping in a DVD and watching a movie one or two nights a week because there's nothing else on.
M in Oz1 -
"Get to do"s and "chose well"sChose well: eye exam, Post Office, Farmers’ Market, dogs to powerline, resisted the temptation for “just one” orange cranberry biscotto.
Bonus: Grocery Outlet, Dollar Tree, Woof’s.
Get to do: chiropractor, inventory donation then call for appointment, take pics of car, test Bluetooth speaker so can do BB&B or T’ai Chi from voice recordings, Pilot tech support 5034447924 to link subscription and fix login, make experimental almond paste, declutter sideboard, practice new dances (Nothing but You, Shake it like that, Larger than Life, Here I Go Again/Mama Mia, Real Deal, Get it Right); make garlic almonds for Barb and Dan; prep potato area and raised beds for beets, carrots, parsley root, parsnips, radishes and sow; weed drive again, finish weeding flower bed, mulch flowerbed; invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine. Reward: inventory seeds, plan fall cool season garden, order replenishments, figure out where to plant naked lady bulbs, Tuesday: call Progressive adjustor.
Self Care October
8: make progress on a task you’ve been avoiding: inventory donation
Fae Never fear, I spend very little time doing chores! Forgot that my best personal alone time is with the dogs down at the powerline. Since we were 35 when we started keeping company and 38 when we married, we’re both pretty self sufficient and give each other lots of personal space. it’s just that he really can’t stand the noise of the vacuum or the washing machine (it frequently gets off balance and bangs or moans.) That’s ok. I’d rather have Joe around than worry about dirty floors and clothes.
Annie well done!
Katla I also enjoy The Weather Channel’s Ice Road Truckers, Highway Thru Hell and So You’d Think You’d Survive. Hope you get your little while with lack of drama wish. ((hugs))
Debbie in Napa, I’d get really crabby if Joe vacuumed while I was trying to watch TV or talk on the phone. Fortunately it’s not going to be a problem :laugh:
Rita glad Wicket’s on the mend
Michele praying Vince’s a fib event resolves quickly and well. ((hugs))
Carol I like leather furniture best too, stands up to the dogs and doesn’t hold their hair like cloth. Alas, Joe got two thrift store recliners that he loves. They look like H E double toothpicks, but I must confess the smaller one fits me perfectly. One day I’ll insist on new furniture but for now I’m saving for a water system simplification/upgrade. Priorities
Debby in VA so glad to see you posting. “remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you” oh yeah.
Tracey when Joe wants to watch something he knows will bother me (think horror movies) he takes himself out to the garage where he has a man cave setup with TV, fridge and yes, another awful thrift store recliner. He just hasn’t felt well enough to go anywhere, including the garage, for the past few weeks, so the floors are a mess. I’m going to have to kick him out some tomorrow to do the laundry, we’re about out of clean clothes (that we like to wear.)
Machka tomorrow at midnight and you’ll be done? Bravissima! Hope you didn’t get soaked and chilled.
Good report at the Eye Dr. No significant change in the rx, cataract a little larger than 2 years ago but still not bad enough to require action. After the stinging drops, and the dilating drops, I feel a little more sympathy for what Joe is going through with 6 different drops at multiple times per day. I could see well enough to drive but not to read fine print. Everything seemed starred. Had a headache and planned to lie down but instead kept my commitment to the dogs and took them down the drive to the powerline. Felt better for it.
Amber, JanetR, Kylia, Lisa, Rori, Sharon, Suebdew missing you and wishing you well.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMODOctober: better than September.
daily: sit with Joe: 7, weigh: 7, steps>5491=5511 vits=7 log=7 CI<CO=7 CI<250<CO=6 Tumble & Shadow 5=8 mfp=7 outside=8 up hill=8
wkly: T’ai Chi or BB&B x3= rx=1 dance= clean 30 mins=1
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Good morning ladies
Recliners - the most comfortable recliner I ever had was a naugahyde Stratolounger I picked up a yard sale 40 years ago. When we moved to the farm into a house with a with a teensy living room, I let DH talk me in to getting rid of it because the footrest, when engaged, impeded the flow of traffic. I haven't found one yet that I can sit in for more than a couple minutes without 2 or 3 various sized pillows wedged in behind my back. I'm missing the upper curve in my back for some reason, and need a big lumbar support if that makes any sense. Being tall, the cushioning hits me in the wrong place in all of them since. Sigh.
Wanted to mention my Amazon find of the month. A lady in a FB group I'm on talked up these microfiber cloths as reusable replacements for paper towels, which are getting pretty expensive:
Finally, I have a lightweight dishcloth that suits me, plus these guys are really absorbent so they can be used like towels. The Amazon blurb says don't use bleach - I have used them in the sink with Clorox cleanup spray to get out stains, no problem. Not supposed to wash them with other fabrics, so I put launder them in a little washtub by themselves and squeeze out the water, hang to dry. I'd say I've cut down paper towel usage by at least 2/3 so far.
Chicken chili turned out yummy but a bit salty. That's OK, I'll eat it anyhow. I didn't take into account that rotisserie chicken has already been brined, salt added to the beans and the McCormick chili spice mix I threw in there.
Machka - I guess you had an exciting day! That poor bus! Your wet "swirly" weather sounds neat, actually. If the weatherman doesn't change his mind, we're due for about 4" of rain this Friday night through next Tuesday, plus some nice wind gusts to go with it.
Question for you yoga buffs - how are you faring now that your classes have been shut down for a while? Are you continuing with stretches and poses on your own? Following something online?
I noticed yesterday as I was out in the garden attacking the dead tomato vines, how inflexible I was despite doing a few morning stretches, especially the old hamstrings, so need to add dedicated stretches that to the routine.
OK ladies, dogs are giving me the look.
Make it a fabulous day!
Lanette
SW WA State
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Carol I hope hearing aids will help you. Hearing aids won't work for me. They would cause the left to go into hyperacusis and my right requires cochlear implants which at best would be a tinny ringing sound. My main problem is I cannot tell what direction sound is coming from and must turn around in a 360-degree circle to try and figure it out. Both ears have roaring tinnitus 24/7 to which I have adjusted over the years and seldom notice it
Barbara Glad you have your getaway time and self-sufficiency. I hope Joe can get better and feel like getting out to his cave. I can relate to that as I have a wonderful little studio/shop room in my garage for projects like my wood sculpting and messy art. I haven't been out there to mess about for over a year. Now that my eyes are best they will ever be, I just can't find the interest to be creative. It is easier to be in here on the computer trying to be a comedian.
I hope all you ladies will continue to share about your lives. It helps paint a realistic picture of aging and the issues we face as women from all walks of life, beliefs, ethnic backgrounds, relationships, etc. This thread may help younger women to seek fitness and learn self-worth and deal with life in a better way as they age. No school can teach the wisdom of experience.
We must look back and then share it forward, both good and bad, and that will make the world a better place.
Fae headed to her music room to break the silence of the early morning air.
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A few quick pics: My coffee companion most mornings this week, Miguel. He wakes up at about 5:30am wanting a bottle; Lauren brings him to me and we drink our morning cup/bottle together and he goes back to sleep.
One of our stops this week was a dairy farm because Joaquin is cow crazy right now. We all had a good time here and learned a lot. My son, Colin is holding Joaquin at the steer pen, there is also a pic of my daughter Lauren and the two boys on the dairy wagon. Then happy Miguel, waiting for some lunch- grilled cheese, and milk all from the dairy.
More later! Love and hugs to you all! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)12 -
SophieRosieMom wrote: »Good morning ladies
Recliners - the most comfortable recliner I ever had was a naugahyde Stratolounger I picked up a yard sale 40 years ago. When we moved to the farm into a house with a with a teensy living room, I let DH talk me in to getting rid of it because the footrest, when engaged, impeded the flow of traffic. I haven't found one yet that I can sit in for more than a couple minutes without 2 or 3 various sized pillows wedged in behind my back. I'm missing the upper curve in my back for some reason, and need a big lumbar support if that makes any sense. Being tall, the cushioning hits me in the wrong place in all of them since. Sigh.
Lanette
SW WA State
Recliners ...
My ex and I had one way back when. He liked it. I didn't. I think it went with him when he left. I also tossed most of our soft furnishings then.
I have tried other recliners and the bigger and cushier they are, the more uncomfortable they are.
Instead, I purchased a sofa that suited me much better and I have had that sofa now for 20 years. I can hardly believe it! It was the only piece of big furniture I had shipped to Australia. I still call it my magic sofa ... I lie down on it and I'm asleep.
I am looking forward to spending some time on my sofa soon!
Meanwhile, most of the time, I sit in a large comfortable desk chair. I have spent so much time in this desk chair, I think I'm on the verge of needing a new one. The faux leather is all falling apart. That's also a possibility for a grad gift for myself.
M in Oz3 -
We're caught up in this ... a dual low-pressure system which probably explains my headache today. It has brought a lot of rain to my island to add to all the rain we had last weekend! I'll start swimming to work soon.
But meanwhile, there's another hurricane bearing down on my brother and his family. They've evacuated again to Houston. Unfortunately, there area has hardly had a chance to recover from the hurricane just a few weeks ago.
Machka in Oz2 -
KELLY ~ Love all the photos you have shared. You are so pretty and I think your daughter looks so much like you. The boys could be twins...So Cute!
Carol in GA3 -
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From Action for Happiness ...
"Life is far from perfect, but there are lots of reasons for optimism. Setting positive goals for the future gives our lives a sense of direction and purpose. And although we face many challenges there are also lots of reasons to stay hopeful. By consciously choosing our priorities we can overcome issues, make progress and focus on what really matters."
https://www.actionforhappiness.org/optimistic-october
Remember that things can change for the better
Hopefully soon! Like perhaps when I finish this assignment!!
Make progress on a project or task you have been avoiding
Not avoiding ... diligently chipping away at this assignment.
However, I did have a look at something to do with the Brain Injury COM I'm on.
Kind of looking forward to having projects or tasks that have nothing to do with assignments!
M in Oz
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »Machka -That is a very good question and one to which I have given a lot of thought. I don't actually know the answer, but I do know I love my husband very much. I would do my best to help him, as long as something was coming back and I felt loved. I am not a carer by nature and I would not sacrifice myself, past a certain stage. I admire carers like you and Rori, but I couldn’t do it if the person I loved was gone. A care home would have to be the option, once things got beyond a certain stage.
For myself I am resolved not to get to the stage where I no longer in charge of my own life. I have plans to end it and have read up on the subject. DH does not agree with me, but it is my choice. I do not want to go into a home.
Like most things, it's complicated.
Heather UK xxxxxxxx
I'm not a carer by nature at all and hoped I would never be in the situation where I would have to care for someone. It was actually one of the reasons I didn't try for children ... not that I could have had them anyway, I found out later.
So I've been surprised that I'm doing this. I haven't gone into it gracefully or peacefully, but somehow I've become reasonably comfortable with it while still trying to maintain as much of my liberty as I can. I love him and just couldn't walk away. It would break my heart to do that.
You just never know what life will give you.
M in Oz5 -
Morning ladies
Im up here with Faith,she has had her breakfast and is in her room organizing her bed.. keeps her out of trouble.. in my mind I was brought into Toms life to be there for his parents ,especially his dad.. I have no regrets taking care of either of them.. my dad either.1 -
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Kelly You are a natural beauty! The boys are just way too cute! That dairy farm photo took me back 16 years ago when I kept my besties, two young grandsons, once a week to give her a break until her daughter recovered from an illness. One time I took them to a goat farm where kids could interact with the small goats and play king of the hill with them. The boys played for hours. At lunch (sandwiches made at the farm), they ate without any fuss and drank the chocolate goat milk like it was liquid candy. Finally, I was able to load them up and get home where I put on their favorite movie "Hoodwinked" and they fell asleep after the goat played the banjo. Miguel and Joaquin might also enjoy it. Disclaimer: Once you watch and listen, you may never get this out of your head. I have been trying for 16 years without success.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eOJY3ygcAtg
Fae lost in the past in the hills of the gorge2 -
Rebecca: I hope things all work out to your benefit. Your DH deserves the kind of care he gets at OHSU. Whether you’re north of the Columbia River or south of it, I hope it all works to your DH’s best advantage.
Michele: I’m sorry that Vince isn’t doing okay. A-fib is something I don’t know much about, and that makes me worry. I hope all turns out well for Vince and flor you. :flowerforyou:
Allie: I am glad that you are happy. Canines are loyal and trustworthy friends. Tom was neither loyal nor trustworthy. :noway:
Tracy: I love Forged in Fire. DH thinks I’m nuts. My dad was a Mason and always had a sword. I grew up with it in my home. When dad passed away his sword went to his lodge. I wished it was mine, but that is not what he wanted. :ohwell:
Lanette: My dad also had a stratolounger. It was huge and had a horrible pea green color. We have a couch with recliners at each end and two chairs that rock and recline. None of them seem as huge or ugly as my dad’s old stratolounger. :noway: I have not been to yoga since the pandemic began. I miss yoga and the other students. :sad: DH is afraid I’ll bring home the virus. I ride my exercise tryke in the garage and take long walks. I haven’t had a chance to ride Arrow in weeks. :ohwell: The air quality is improving and that will be a huge help.
KJ: I love the photos, especially the last one.
Machka: “You just never know what life will give you.” The choices we have are to run away and hide or make the best of the situation. Hiding doesn’t help in my experience, although taking time to plan a positive change does help. :flowerforyou:
Lisa: Thinking of you. I hope things are improving.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon3 -
Michele: Any news. We are worried about you.2
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Get back on track with weight loss.
adding friends on Myfitnesspal to help me stay on track (and vice cersa)
pre-plan meals
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Michele Sending hugs! Those hospital waits are so long and finding a comfortable place to rest is difficult especially in these times. I sure hope Vince improves today and you both can get back home. Take good care of yourself and keep us informed.0
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Hi all,
I have not read everything as I wanted to get this out, Lisa has been in ER twice this week, things have been very hard for her. For the next few days to a week her daughter is going to be there to help. She's not regularly reading our forum as she just doesn't have the strength. At this point, the only thing we can do is send good thoughts and healing energy.
She has found some pretty helpful medical staff, after getting some info that really made things worse.
I will stay in touch with her, and will keep you posted.
Kim, Northern California7 -
Kim: Sending good thoughts and healing energy for Lisa.
Also for Michele Vince.
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