WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2021
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Skuehn48 - Strength to you through all this and I hope your mum passes peacefully. What a shock after all your preparations. Thinking of you all.
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I"m here and will be for many more hours tonight trying to prepare for tomorrow. I've decided not to quit just yet.
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I am going to try to keep this job for another 6 years ...
I would like to retire right now too. I don't mind my job, but I've got so many other things I'd rather be doing.
However, there's every chance I'll continue to my "retirement age" = 67. That's another 13 years away.
M in Oz
There is no chance I'll make it to 67. If I'm lucky I'll make it to 57 or maybe 58. Right now I'm just trying to make it to Friday.
Yes I switched into teaching from Engineering and took a huge pay cut to do it. I enjoyed teaching for a long time. Part of me still does. But this job they take advantage of you. I am wearing out of just wanting to help kids learn math. I now want more life balance.
I'm glad to hear you like data admin. If I quit teaching I'll probably not work anymore. I'm fortunate we can afford it and my husband doesn't care if I have a job. But if I do work again in will probably be in some kind of programming or data admin type position. I'm good with data queries, statistics, analyzing data and know several programming languages. I'd have to start at the bottom as I'm not an expert in any of these but I have skills.
Frankly teaching pays so little I could be an administrative secretary and only take a mild pay cut. But I think I'd rather just pamper my husband and focus on mine and his health. Make healthy meals, plan and cook more. Take better care of the house, grow my garden and stuff.
I am greedy though I love my husband and would like him to be able to retire with me. So the longer I work the slightly sooner I might be able to get him to retire. I know I can accomplish it at 60 but I"m aiming for lower. I say I know I can accomplish it because I am the one who takes care of our finances and retirement planning.
Kiz
North Florida
I'm the only one in our family (husband and me) who is working and I would like to spend more time with him. But so far we can't afford that.
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I went to CA to pick up my mom so she could move in with myDD and I on August 12. She had fallen off a chair trying to reach into a cupboard and was experiencing a lot of pain. We returned to WA 5 days later with her still having a lot of pain that she attributed to her sciatica. After a week here we had to take her to the ED by ambulance for intractable pain. A CT showed that she had diverticulitis and it had ruptured the bowel. They told us at 97 yo she would be unlikely to survive surgery so they admitted her to the hospital on antibiotics and bowel rest. She is now home on hospice and things are not looking good. Her breathing is very difficult tonight. I wish she could just let go.
So sorry.
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Sue in WA,
Oh...I'm so sad for you and your daughter and your mom. I hope very much for all of you that she can be at peace and in no pain as she passes. (((Hugs)))
Karen in Virginia
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Tracey - Love your outfits! Sounds like you all had a great time. I know it took a lot of organisation. Well done.
Great that hubby entered into the spirit of the party.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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skuehn48 I'm so sorry.0
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(((Sue in WA))) – Sending love and prayers to you and for your mom. Katla 1
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long whinge about minor thingI am way behind in paperwork, for somewhat valid reasons. like housework I've been having trouble keeping up over the past few years.
I sometimes call on an administrative assistance service.
I new person was to come this morning at 9:30 am. I wrote to him and called last week - at least by Thursday to ask him to call me. I was going to check with him to see if there were other more suitable times, for both of us. He never answered so I left it at that.
Since I hadn't heard from him it seemed wise to write to him an SMS at 9am to say see you at 9:30.
At 9:18 I got a message saying that he was running late due to transport issues. Anything is possible, but I question it. he didn't say when he'd be arriving. At about 9:50 - I wrote to ask when he would be arriving. He said 5 minutes. At 9:55 he sent an sms (rather than calling or asking the building concierge), or looking at the info sent to him, saying "he was downstairs" which I didn't see till 10 min later. It's unheard of for someone in that position that to wait downstairs for 10 minutes. He had multiple opportunities to re-ask for the floor and apartment.He finally arrived 40 min late, for a 2h work session. The company said that is not in his habits to arrive late. I felt very annoyed and not reassured, and preferred not to start the work session with just 1h20 minutes left.
It's not just that he was late - it's that 1) he didn't answer at all last week 2) he didn't confirm at 9am when I texted 3) when he said he would be late he gave no notion that he would be half an hour or 40 min late. - I would have thought 10 or 15 minutes. (there is no very major public transport issue locally - though he could have had a more distant one - but then he would have known in advance. 4) he didn't take any initiative to find my floor and apartment when he arrived - he would already have my floor and apartment - and could ask the concierge.
I am thinking he completely missed the appointment somehow and realised only when I texted him and then came as quickly as possible - saying it was a transport issue.
Even that would be okay - not great - but not being forthright.
It's uncomfortable partly because he would be in my home, looking at my papers, and if he is not organised and communicative - I don't know how he can be in administrative work.
It might well be that he made one big mistake - forgetting the appointment - and then was not forthright or clear about the situation.
I said I felt uncomfortable and I preferred not to work together today. I guess had I known he'd be 40 min late - I'd simply have cancelled. I find it not forth right to contact 10 min early saying he's going to be late for a 2h appointment -but not say how long.
I'm a teacher - and if I am more than 20 minutes late (it can happen - very rarely - if I have, say, a flat tire or something totally out of my control), I full well expect that many if not all of the students will have left, if I don't tell them that I am arriving at a specific time.
But what bothers me more than anything is that I feel really angry still over an hour later. I find it's not reasonable of me. I feel like it's underlying uneasiness that makes me feel more upset than is warranted for things that occur. I find that very unpleasant of myself and I feel pretty badly about that.
I didn't go overboard with him. I just said felt uncomfortable starting when he had arrived so late, and I'd prefer not to work together today. Then I called the service and said I felt uncomfortable about the communication and organization skills, given that he hadn't also never answered. I feel bad cause service industry can be hard and it must be discouraging for him to travel (no idea how far in reality) to have to turn around. This said, if I arrived 40 min late at 1st appointment anywhere -giving private lessons say- without confirming the previous week nor the same day - nor saying how late I would be when saying I would late - I would well expect the person to be very iffy at best - and would not consider him or her unreasonable if not wanting to pursue.
I'm gonna do 15 min on the recumbant to evacuate nervous energy, schedule an appointment with osteopath for late in the week, and meditate 15 min and then get to work on other stuff.
I would like to be less emotional when not very serious things go off.
This said I have more serious things that are cause for stress professionally - that are underlying causes for tension - among other things. but it's not useful to be stuck in angry or upset feeling frequently.
I started the day pretty good- I went out at 7:30ish for a standing up coffee at the bar- quite quick - less than 15 minute. then sat by the park (not yet open) and did a sketch (I had wanted to go the park as I'm trying to go daily for de-stressing - but It was slightly late in opening and then I got really into sketching at this non-descript corner.
then I had to tidy considerably to make home rather okay to visit and prepare a pile of papers that were easy to treat.
I was feeling upbeat. And if I dealt with this minor disturbance okay on an outer level, on an inner level I feel quite upset and stuck for something quit minor- in the large scheme of things.
I'm not sure how I can make headway in that level.
anyway
will follow the momentary game plan listed above.
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Michele,
It would be good if a positive Covid test always indicated the presence of live virus, but in fact it does not.
A Covid test taken during the convalescent and subsequent period may be positive because of the presence of dead virus fragments in the nose.
Or, rarely, a test may be persistently positive because of presence of live virus, although people in this category often still feel ill.
So it really isn't a good marker to determine when it's safe to return to work.
Last year, many businesses had "Negative Covid-19 Test" as a criteria for return to work, but most businesses have since dropped that requirement.
Karen in Virginia
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Sue in WA - I am so terribly sorry about your mother.
Rita - I'm so sorry for your co-worker's death.0 -
bananasandoranges wrote: »long whinge about minor thingI am way behind in paperwork, for somewhat valid reasons. like housework I've been having trouble keeping up over the past few years.
I sometimes call on an administrative assistance service.
I new person was to come this morning at 9:30 am. I wrote to him and called last week - at least by Thursday to ask him to call me. I was going to check with him to see if there were other more suitable times, for both of us. He never answered so I left it at that.
Since I hadn't heard from him it seemed wise to write to him an SMS at 9am to say see you at 9:30.
At 9:18 I got a message saying that he was running late due to transport issues. Anything is possible, but I question it. he didn't say when he'd be arriving. At about 9:50 - I wrote to ask when he would be arriving. He said 5 minutes. At 9:55 he sent an sms (rather than calling or asking the building concierge), or looking at the info sent to him, saying "he was downstairs" which I didn't see till 10 min later. It's unheard of for someone in that position that to wait downstairs for 10 minutes. He had multiple opportunities to re-ask for the floor and apartment.He finally arrived 40 min late, for a 2h work session. The company said that is not in his habits to arrive late. I felt very annoyed and not reassured, and preferred not to start the work session with just 1h20 minutes left.
It's not just that he was late - it's that 1) he didn't answer at all last week 2) he didn't confirm at 9am when I texted 3) when he said he would be late he gave no notion that he would be half an hour or 40 min late. - I would have thought 10 or 15 minutes. (there is no very major public transport issue locally - though he could have had a more distant one - but then he would have known in advance. 4) he didn't take any initiative to find my floor and apartment when he arrived - he would already have my floor and apartment - and could ask the concierge.
I am thinking he completely missed the appointment somehow and realised only when I texted him and then came as quickly as possible - saying it was a transport issue.
Even that would be okay - not great - but not being forthright.
It's uncomfortable partly because he would be in my home, looking at my papers, and if he is not organised and communicative - I don't know how he can be in administrative work.
It might well be that he made one big mistake - forgetting the appointment - and then was not forthright or clear about the situation.
I said I felt uncomfortable and I preferred not to work together today. I guess had I known he'd be 40 min late - I'd simply have cancelled. I find it not forth right to contact 10 min early saying he's going to be late for a 2h appointment -but not say how long.
I'm a teacher - and if I am more than 20 minutes late (it can happen - very rarely - if I have, say, a flat tire or something totally out of my control), I full well expect that many if not all of the students will have left, if I don't tell them that I am arriving at a specific time.
But what bothers me more than anything is that I feel really angry still over an hour later. I find it's not reasonable of me. I feel like it's underlying uneasiness that makes me feel more upset than is warranted for things that occur. I find that very unpleasant of myself and I feel pretty badly about that.
I didn't go overboard with him. I just said felt uncomfortable starting when he had arrived so late, and I'd prefer not to work together today. Then I called the service and said I felt uncomfortable about the communication and organization skills, given that he hadn't also never answered. I feel bad cause service industry can be hard and it must be discouraging for him to travel (no idea how far in reality) to have to turn around. This said, if I arrived 40 min late at 1st appointment anywhere -giving private lessons say- without confirming the previous week nor the same day - nor saying how late I would be when saying I would late - I would well expect the person to be very iffy at best - and would not consider him or her unreasonable if not wanting to pursue.
I'm gonna do 15 min on the recumbant to evacuate nervous energy, schedule an appointment with osteopath for late in the week, and meditate 15 min and then get to work on other stuff.
I would like to be less emotional when not very serious things go off.
This said I have more serious things that are cause for stress professionally - that are underlying causes for tension - among other things. but it's not useful to be stuck in angry or upset feeling frequently.
I started the day pretty good- I went out at 7:30ish for a standing up coffee at the bar- quite quick - less than 15 minute. then sat by the park (not yet open) and did a sketch (I had wanted to go the park as I'm trying to go daily for de-stressing - but It was slightly late in opening and then I got really into sketching at this non-descript corner.
then I had to tidy considerably to make home rather okay to visit and prepare a pile of papers that were easy to treat.
I was feeling upbeat. And if I dealt with this minor disturbance okay on an outer level, on an inner level I feel quite upset and stuck for something quit minor- in the large scheme of things.
I'm not sure how I can make headway in that level.
anyway
will follow the momentary game plan listed above.
"I would like to be less emotional when not very serious things go off."
My antidepressants take care of that nicely for me.
There are heaps of things I could get quite worked up about - angry, upset - but I feel very little. A bit frustrated occasionally, a touch annoyed, tired.
Mainly I don't feel much anymore. It's good.
M in Oz
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My antidepressants take care of that nicely for me.
There are heaps of things I could get quite worked up about - angry, upset - but I feel very little. A bit frustrated occasionally, a touch annoyed, tired.
Mainly I don't feel much anymore. It's good.
M in Oz
It's great that that works for you! As I have said before, I had tried and the specialised doctor recommending it didn't think it was worthwhile, to pursue with that nor another, hearing about it's effects on me. I think they work something like 12-35% of the time (other than placebo effect) which makes it worth trying, but also worth stopping if the side effects seem to be more impactful than the positive points.
It's great that in that area we can choose according to what works on our body/mind.
I gather that it can be vastly different from person to person.
I think my life is likely to be often stressful these next months and I need to find wells to manage with that. I've been scheduling less and less non-essential stuff to get through the present!
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"Get to do"s and "chose well"sChose well: BP, livestream church, dogs to powerline, start go bag, minutes progress.
Bonus: another load laundry, 36 mins vacuuming, Freddie’s, more veg prep.
Get to do: take BP, dogs to powerline, call pc guy to schedule tuneup, log into derm’s portal and update rx, post minutes and next meeting sign at fire house, USE those torture bands/do that BB&B video, Tues: am finish go bag, call S, fire district: finish board meeting minutes, research NFPA, grant NIMS requirements, input 2019 call sheets into NFIRS, work with chief on equipment letter, substance abuse policy, NFIRS mutual aid and other missing details, likewise Lee skills/tasks, ask for boots donator contact info, appreciation letter or certificate to boots donator, index mutual aid files; watch STAS Day 20, declutter sideboard, learn new dances (Tequila Little Time, Homesick, Nothing but You, A Little Less Broken, Blame it on my beating heart,; Do Your Thing, practice dances: One Margarita, I’m so used to being broke, All Night, Pure Movies to Wine, Beer, Whiskey, I ain’t never gonna love nobody but Cornell Crawford (Alley cat),); finish mulching flowerbed, invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, find and configure a screen time popup, figure out where to plant the last of the naked lady bulbs, and soon as it warms up above 50 and dries out below 60% humidity I’ll tape and spray paint those rusted areas of Aunt Elsie’s stove, ask Te about GB’s FD firetruck tax levy – contacts, media, advocate???, Reward: inventory seeds, plan this fall’s garden, wishlist replenishments (Milena F1 orange peppers and beit alpha cukes next year).
September
12: Get active outside and give your mind and body a natural boost: try again Monday
13: Be as kind to yourself as to a loved one. And to the loved one too!
Despite last night’s overindulgence, this morning the scale was kind. Down to the next decade. Adding a pound (just in case) and updated ticker for the first time in over a year. Movement!!!
Reading all but too pooped to respond except hooray to Heather, hugs to Rita, hugs and prayers continue for you Flea, thanks for the poem to KJ, YUM to Debbie for those popper pics, Tracey
your hippie party pics, SMH Michele at Pete’s company asking him to return to work even after testing C-19 positive-sounds like an OSHA violation to me 
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Oops, now I see Karen’s info that a positive test does not necessarily indicate live/transmissible virus. Whew, thanks Karen!
Julie hope your exercise helps release some of those bad feelings. Somehow inner stressors that are too big to face sometimes come out in reactions to lesser, external triggers. Be kind to yourself, ok?
Mahka glad you have something to help you. I cannot imagine living through the stress you do.
Oh Sue, was happy to see you popping in, now so sad to hear your hard news. ((hugs))
Lisa glad to see you popping in. Sending healing hopes.
At end of Livestream church service, president called a brief council meeting. Quick! Changed from bathrobe to FaceTime/Zoom appropriate shirt and waited for the call. . . that never came. ;} Maybe a lesson to me to dress to the shoes before church, even when its Livestream and not in person. :laugh:
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
September: leaner/stronger/kinder than August.2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
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bananasandoranges wrote: »
My antidepressants take care of that nicely for me.
There are heaps of things I could get quite worked up about - angry, upset - but I feel very little. A bit frustrated occasionally, a touch annoyed, tired.
Mainly I don't feel much anymore. It's good.
M in Oz
It's great that that works for you! As I have said before, I had tried and the specialised doctor recommending it didn't think it was worthwhile, to pursue with that nor another, hearing about it's effects on me. I think they work something like 12-35% of the time (other than placebo effect) which makes it worth trying, but also worth stopping if the side effects seem to be more impactful than the positive points.
It's great that in that area we can choose according to what works on our body/mind.
I gather that it can be vastly different from person to person.
I think my life is likely to be often stressful these next months and I need to find wells to manage with that. I've been scheduling less and less non-essential stuff to get through the present!
Evidently "Venlafaxine-XR demonstrated a 73.7% success rate".
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10211533/
There are, of course 2-3 weeks of side effects, but then everything is just - - - - - -
No more big ups and downs in emotions, and that is much better for me.
I hope you can find a way through.
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(((Kylia)))
(((Sue)))
(((Rita)))
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Hugs for you, Sue and best wishes for your mother. May she find peace.
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Well dropped the car off and Bill dropped me back off,its something to do with selinoids and timing to the tune of 450.00 but cheaper than looking for a new car aldo told him to look at the break pads and tires,if im putting money into it ,I want it to run well fo a good long time..5
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Rita - I am sorry that your co-worker passed away.
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