WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2022

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  • minicooper452
    minicooper452 Posts: 646 Member
    <3
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,203 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Debbie — We have lost beloved dogs. They have been cremated and we have their ashes. They will be scattered with us someday. Hopefully it will be a long time from now.

    Now we are looking for a new puppy. We’ve found a terrific breeder and are looking forward to getting a new puppy when it is old enough to leave its mama and come home with us.

    Katla


    I really don't have a problem with him keeping the ashes of the pets. I understand. It is more about how much feelings he has towards them(living and dead-the living ones he spends so much time with, pampering them all the time and the humans in his life are ignored, myself and our son included.
    He will say, Oh, when did Jona (Jonathan) get home or leave? I tell him and say if he was ever out of his room he would know these things. He hangs out in his room at the back of the house, working on a project or just watching tv with the cats, coming out to use the bathroom and to go to bed- even eats in there.
    Compassion and caring for the animals is great but there should be a little more of a balance.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,203 Member
    Get to stay home and do what I want today- yeah, no shopping!
    Having my second cup of tea then heading out to start pruning all the roses and raspberry plants.
    Weather is supposed to be up to 75 today(66 already now)
    We haven't had any real frosts so the roses are still blooming some, never lost all their leaves- will make pruning a bit harder. I am hoping to get some cuttings from the raspberries to root so I can plant them at mom's- haven't had much luck the two years I have tried. I have better luck just digging up the stray plants that pop up in my lawn(I planted four plants about 5 or so years ago, now I have a row over 15' long)
    Tomorrow my son has asked me to help him make some Valentine treats for his girlfriend.
    Cracker toffee for sure(she loves it) and maybe some caramel corn- I like that he wants me to help him(I offered a few weeks ago then he asked me last night if I could help him). DH is going out to breakfast with a friend then hitting some comic book stores and ???- I will watch church while son sleeps in then we can start making candy. I have a bunch of candy /heart shaped molds out- I think I will make extra and take to Zumba Monday night.

    I used to joke about my now former brother in law's girlfriend being jealous of Jake, Tracy's dog because she said Tracy paid more attention to the dog than her, well, now, that is ME- I have talked to him about this too many times, he thinks it is funny, just jokes about it.

    Time to finish this tea and get my gloves on and grab the pruning shears.

    Debbie
    Napa Valley,CA
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,296 Member
    Beth hope your mom feels better and heals quickly!

    Annie in Delaware
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,105 Member
    Beth- geesh if its not one thing its another..
    Im totally spent...
    Trudy and I went up to Susans this morning after I dropped Alfie off,
    And it took us 3 hrs to get the TV mounted and going.. its a 40 inch TV and not that heavy but when 2 of us are trying to hold it in the air and try and screw bolts into the mount.. it was a feat in itself..
    Tom and Elena just dropped Alfie off and i left his leash in my car lol so i had to carry him down the hall the little pork chop..
    Glad he had a good time.Tom took Homer and Alfie for 2 walks and he got to run around the house and enjoy his vacation home..
    I just dont have the stamina to do all that.. maybe some of this stuff has to do with the dopey thyroid thing too ...who knows.. we shall see.
    Im hungry ,but not hungry.. guess ill just drink some water or have a cup of tea.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,288 Member
    Stats for the day-

    Walk/jog w/family2hrs 16min 16sec, 3.56mi= 831c
    Strava app= 981c
    Zwift home bike trainer- 20.18min 16.6amph, 83w, 5.60mi= 140c

    Total cal 971
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    B)
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,614 Member
    (((Beth & Kay)))

    Carol in GA
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,724 Member
    Beth and Katie - words fail me. It must all be so overwhelming. Sending all my best wishes. <3<3<3

    Weigh day tomorrow. :*
    I may do my roots to look nice for Valentines Day. I also want to work on my article. Got to wrap DH's presents and write his card I printed.

    I made Spinach and Feta Pie today for the first time in ages. Left overs for lunch tomorrow. It was delicious with a mixed salad and chilli sauce. I did some oven fries for DH.

    I had a good, long chat with my friend L for about an hour.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,262 Member
    edited February 2022
    Allie DH went on thyroid meds and it has made a difference for him in terms of energy. It has been about a month. If you do go on them have doctor prescribe the pill version not capsule. We got a $350 surprise bill because Doctor ordered capsules. Pills have a $4 co pay. By the time we discovered what happened it was too late to return the capsules. At least we caught it and it will not happen the next time he orders the pills.

    (((Beth and Kay)))
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    Beth and Katie -- I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourselves as best you can.

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, OR
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,203 Member
    Taking a break from pruning- still have half the raspberry plants and 9 more roses to prune(after about 2 1/2 hrs of pruning). It is a bit too warm to work more, will go out later and do some more-LOVE being out in the sun 74 right now. Had to change from fleece pants and hoodie to capri leggings and tank top. Not the best to wear while pruning roses but I was miserable being too hot.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,630 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Debbie — We have lost beloved dogs. They have been cremated and we have their ashes. They will be scattered with us someday. Hopefully it will be a long time from now.

    Now we are looking for a new puppy. We’ve found a terrific breeder and are looking forward to getting a new puppy when it is old enough to leave its mama and come home with us.

    Katla


    I really don't have a problem with him keeping the ashes of the pets. I understand. It is more about how much feelings he has towards them(living and dead-the living ones he spends so much time with, pampering them all the time and the humans in his life are ignored, myself and our son included.
    He will say, Oh, when did Jona (Jonathan) get home or leave? I tell him and say if he was ever out of his room he would know these things. He hangs out in his room at the back of the house, working on a project or just watching tv with the cats, coming out to use the bathroom and to go to bed- even eats in there.
    Compassion and caring for the animals is great but there should be a little more of a balance.

    Is he on the autistic spectrum?

    https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/facts.html

    Signs and Symptoms
    People with ASD often have problems with social, emotional, and communication skills. They might repeat certain behaviors and might not want change in their daily activities. Many people with ASD also have different ways of learning, paying attention, or reacting to things. Signs of ASD begin during early childhood and typically last throughout a person’s life.

    Children or adults with ASD might:

    not point at objects to show interest (for example, not point at an airplane flying over)
    not look at objects when another person points at them
    have trouble relating to others or not have an interest in other people at all
    avoid eye contact and want to be alone
    have trouble understanding other people’s feelings or talking about their own feelings
    prefer not to be held or cuddled, or might cuddle only when they want to
    appear to be unaware when people talk to them, but respond to other sounds
    be very interested in people, but not know how to talk, play, or relate to them
    repeat or echo words or phrases said to them, or repeat words or phrases in place of normal language
    have trouble expressing their needs using typical words or motions
    not play “pretend” games (for example, not pretend to “feed” a doll)
    repeat actions over and over again
    have trouble adapting when a routine changes
    have unusual reactions to the way things smell, taste, look, feel, or sound
    lose skills they once had (for example, stop saying words they were using)
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,630 Member
    (((Beth & Kay)))
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,296 Member
    (((Katie))) Hope your father is comfortable. He is lucky to have you to care for him.

    Annie in Delaware
  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,847 Member
    Hey all! Hope the weekend is going well for everyone.
    Beth and Katie- Ugh! My heart just goes out to you both! Elder care is so hard emotionally and physically! Sending you lots of love and prayers/wishes for strength. <3
    Winter Olympics- I don't watch any of it (I used to), but I do catch the news and highlights. I do think the figure skating is beautiful, but if I were to compete in a sport it would probably be the speed-skating. I grew up skating, and had moments of pretending to be graceful like Peggy Fleming and Dorothy Hamill; but I spent the majority of time racing my brothers and neighbors around the ice rink in our yard. My dad built one every winter and I spent full days on the ice. *sigh* memories...
    Machka- Thank you for the tip about time management/budget. I have felt overwhelmed for the past year and I finally wrote down the hours I used and I was able to see how much "unused" time I have. This is what my 168 hours each week looks like:
    -50 hours- working with children
    -56 hours- sleeping
    -8 hours- cleaning
    -8 hours- cooking
    -4 hours- paperwork
    -3 hours- shopping
    -2 hours- errands
    -6 hours- exercise
    =31 unused hours

    I have a full day plus some extra of unused time! I am stunned! Just knowing this has taken a burden off my brain. I have 31 hours. Every week. I have time to rest, or get away, or work on a project, or... I think a big part of my stress was feeling like I couldn't fit anything more into my day/week/life and knowing that there were things that needed to be done. I can do it. Thank you for showing me how to put this on paper! SO HELPFUL!

    KJ (Kelly)

  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,203 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Debbie — We have lost beloved dogs. They have been cremated and we have their ashes. They will be scattered with us someday. Hopefully it will be a long time from now.

    Now we are looking for a new puppy. We’ve found a terrific breeder and are looking forward to getting a new puppy when it is old enough to leave its mama and come home with us.

    Katla


    I really don't have a problem with him keeping the ashes of the pets. I understand. It is more about how much feelings he has towards them(living and dead-the living ones he spends so much time with, pampering them all the time and the humans in his life are ignored, myself and our son included.
    He will say, Oh, when did Jona (Jonathan) get home or leave? I tell him and say if he was ever out of his room he would know these things. He hangs out in his room at the back of the house, working on a project or just watching tv with the cats, coming out to use the bathroom and to go to bed- even eats in there.
    Compassion and caring for the animals is great but there should be a little more of a balance.

    Is he on the autistic spectrum?

    https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/facts.html

    Signs and Symptoms
    People with ASD often have problems with social, emotional, and communication skills. They might repeat certain behaviors and might not want change in their daily activities. Many people with ASD also have different ways of learning, paying attention, or reacting to things. Signs of ASD begin during early childhood and typically last throughout a person’s life.

    Children or adults with ASD might:

    not point at objects to show interest (for example, not point at an airplane flying over)
    not look at objects when another person points at them
    have trouble relating to others or not have an interest in other people at all
    avoid eye contact and want to be alone
    have trouble understanding other people’s feelings or talking about their own feelings
    prefer not to be held or cuddled, or might cuddle only when they want to
    appear to be unaware when people talk to them, but respond to other sounds
    be very interested in people, but not know how to talk, play, or relate to them
    repeat or echo words or phrases said to them, or repeat words or phrases in place of normal language
    have trouble expressing their needs using typical words or motions
    not play “pretend” games (for example, not pretend to “feed” a doll)
    repeat actions over and over again
    have trouble adapting when a routine changes
    have unusual reactions to the way things smell, taste, look, feel, or sound
    lose skills they once had (for example, stop saying words they were using)

    former hubby is(diagnosed after he left me and is on meds, etc-one of the issues that caused him to feel it was better/safer for me for him to leave me) but I don't feel that dh is. I feel it is more of the way he was raised and just being self centered/narsacistic ways. He never had positive roll models as far as a normal marriage. There was no love between his parents. Total opposite of the way I was raised where there was love shown all the time up until my dad passed away after being married just 5 months before their 65th anniversary.

    Debbie
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,203 Member
    Beth and Katie- praying for peace and rest as you deal with all of that
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,049 Member
    Beth and Kay - hugs to you both. Remember you have 2 hands, one to take care of yourself and one to help others.

    KJ - I think I need to follow your example. I am feeling that time crunch and suspect I might have more time than I think.

    We all need to nurture ourselves as well as others. What do you do to nuture yourself? I find sitting on the gazebo with the barn cat for a while allows me time to relax and just be me.

    Everyone take care, Sue in WA
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,296 Member
    Did my dumbbells! Yay! But I ate back my calories. Oh well.

    Annie in Delaware
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,211 Member
    <3<3Beth and Katie
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,288 Member
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  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,535 Member
    Did Jari Love’s Get Ripped to the Core DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do a stretching DVD and then more of Leslie Sansone’s 5 Day Walk DVD.

    Rori – isn’t it grand when you are working you know deep in your heart that if for some reason you lose your job, food is still going to be bought (it may mean the difference between steak and chicken, but you’ll still eat) and the bills will still get paid? And that you can regulate things like how much you’ll work rather than being in the position of having to get as many hours as you can? I love it! You job sounds great. I, too, like my job, it’s only 6 minutes from the house. Works for me. I’m so happy for you and to see you wonderfully getting involved. That cartoon is so kewl

    Debbie – I needed to bury my father’s ashes asap. I just needed closure. Vince said “I have to work”. So I told him that I’d like him to be there, but if he wasn’t I was going by myself. I just needed the closure. He did come. Never did get to MO to bury his mother’s ashes. I knew he wouldn’t. It’s only been about 15 years. So that’s why I had them sent to his cousin in MO. I knew that they’d hold onto them but eventually bury them. Which is what should be done. Vince doesn’t want to bury any of the cats ashes, either. Actually, to me it’s a bit ridiculous to spend so much money cremating a pet. Don’t get me wrong, I would NEVER hurt an animal. But it’s still a pet, yes, it becomes a member of the family. But it’s not a child, it’s still a pet But if it makes him feel better, so be it. Fortunately, we’re in the position where we can do it.

    Yesterday I made a bad mistake. Vince called to say that he was at the place to get Clyde’s ashes and to stay by my phone (cell) and he would call when he was leaving so we could prebowl. Well, as I was driving the phone rang. I honestly thought it was Vince. The caller said “is this Michele” and I instinctively answered “yes, it is”. I seriously thought it was Vince with a bad connection. Well, after I said that the caller hung up. So I immediately told Vince and tried to do a reverse lookup on the phone number. Couldn’t find anything before I had to leave. Fortunately, they don’t have my credit card number or anything else. Wonder what they can do? Anyone know?

    Rebecca – I remember how I felt when Jess left for St. Kitts. One thing that kept my going was the knowledge that it’s not forever. In the end, she got tired of being out of the states (at least I think so) and she transferred to Iowa State. Speaking of which, she graduates in May.

    Getting ready to leave for FL. I wish Vince didn’t wait until the last minute to do things. Like I have the bags I’m going to take for grocery shopping. He just told me that he needs one for the cat’s food, etc. Not sure why he can’t put it in the container with their dry food. That’s what we always used to do. I already had the bags put away, now I need to go get one. I know that isn’t a big deal. But he always waits until the last minute to do things. Like I put insulated containers in the fridge for meds, etc. Today I got the meds out to see which container they’d fit into. He was going to do that tomorrow. Oh well, I’m just going to do my thing and if he forgets something – not my problem. Update, we're not taking the container of dry off. Clyde was really the only one who ate it. Loki doesn't eat much at all and Lexi doesn't eat any of it.

    Anne DE – would your mom respond to a “reward” – a chocolate only after taking the bp med. The downside is that you’d probably have to be there to give her the “reward”

    The guy (the one that I’ve been waiting almost a year for) came to talk about what plants they are going to put in. Wish he’d called first. Anyway, we have a plan. Honestly, he’s a great guy but it seems to take FOREVER and I have to call and call and call to get him to do things. I contacted another landscaper. I told him I was impressed (and I was) with the work he did for one of our neighbors and then I found out that he does the landscaping for the Green Room and I’ve always admired it. So I want him to do our landscaping.

    Beth – (((HUG)))

    Katie (((BIG HUG)))). Remember to take care of YOU, too. I’m so so sorry about your dad. I can feel your pain. Don’t worry about your health plan. Remember, tho, that worrying does burn calories so you might not be as bad off as you think you are. Love Sue’s words for you (having two hands). How right she is!

    Rebecca – you’ve made my day. Looks like we just may have a model in the making!

    Have a question for everyone. Getting ready to send Jess’ graduation announcements out. We’re just not sure if sending one to someone in the family who we haven’t seen (and neither has Jess) in years. Now a wedding invitation to me would be viewed as looking for a gift. But a graduation announcement? To me, it would (perhaps). But Jess says that it wouldn’t. What do you all think?

    Michele NC
    who is getting excited since FL is so close.

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