WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2023
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Good Tuesday! As folks head back to work today, they may be overwhelmed, a little extra nice goes a long way. The rain today isn't going to help, but it is warm with no storms. Prayers for those today facing the dangerous weather north and south of us.
I feel blessed with health, love, strength, family and friends. Some days I forget this, then something will happen and I am quick to remember this.
Today is to remove 5 items from the house.....I will need to add to what I already have to go out on Saturday. I threw out half the magazines that I hadn't read last week. I have two large boxes of clothes already boxed up along with 3 pairs of boots to donate. We gave away some Christmas ornaments to a local senior home. I cleaned out the refrigerator last night. The boxes of clothes will go to a friend to take to donation place on Saturday. So....my challenge today is to find 5 more things to get out of the house.
Why is getting sleep so hard? I think I am going to use one of your ideas ( I don't remember which one of you lovely ladies). I will set an alarm for 9 pm to get ready for bed. Maybe then I can actually be asleep by 10. I am averaging 6.5 hours a night. This and drinking water continue to be big challenges for me. My steps are already up over my weekly average.
The scale was friendly today! Lost 1.5 lbs since Saturday. This just means that the water intake is better. Tuesdays are my weigh in days. I only weighed on Saturday as I hadn't been on the scale since July. Hopefully this trend continues.
Take care on the roads. They seem to be crazy deadly in Ohio lately.
Prayers for those struggling with health issues.
Welcome to the new ladies!
Kylia in Ohio working on Progression of my goals for health and life
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I guess I'm one of those rare people who is not negatively affected by the darkness. I didn't like it so much when I had to drive to and from work in the dark, but now I enjoy walking while it's dark. I do stuff in the house during the day and hardly notice whether it's light or dark. Something that is misunderstood about minimalism is that it is not just about decluttering and getting rid of things. An important component is "intentional living". That means being intentional about buying things so you don't accumulate still more "stuff" that you'll want to get rid of later and being intentional about what you choose to do and doing only what is important and essential. A good suggestion about all the books about decluttering is get them on audio and listen to them while cleaning, decluttering, or exercising so they don't require extra time that could be spend getting something accomplished. Barbie
When the time of year comes where it is dark on the way to work and dark on the way home, I often feel like crying. I feel so down.
I can't see my garden and exercising outside is next to impossible.
I often try to take some time off around then so I can be out during the daylight. That makes it a bit easier.
M in Oz
I have read that the tears shed due to emotion are chemically different from the tears shed due to eye irritation. Some people believe that crying when sad or happy is cathartic/therapeutic. Another of the amazing mysteries of our bodies.
Karen in Virginia1 -
Katla: Hope DH gets out of hospital soon.
WFTY: CONSOLIDATE
Working on consolidating my Solid Habits
Machka: I think that graphic encapsulates what I have been doing for most of my life. One needs to make peace with the past to move forward.
Accepting that past experiences made me the strong woman I am now was a key factor in my personal development.
Realising that I couldn’t change the past, but I could change my attitude to it was fundamental.
Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.
🙋♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.
☘️ Terri3 -
Machka I am in the same group as you as far as darkness. I am a sunlight baby! The rare days that the sun comes out in the winter you will find me finding that sunny spot at the shop and standing in it for as long as I can!4
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KetoneKaren wrote: » I guess I'm one of those rare people who is not negatively affected by the darkness. I didn't like it so much when I had to drive to and from work in the dark, but now I enjoy walking while it's dark. I do stuff in the house during the day and hardly notice whether it's light or dark. Something that is misunderstood about minimalism is that it is not just about decluttering and getting rid of things. An important component is "intentional living". That means being intentional about buying things so you don't accumulate still more "stuff" that you'll want to get rid of later and being intentional about what you choose to do and doing only what is important and essential. A good suggestion about all the books about decluttering is get them on audio and listen to them while cleaning, decluttering, or exercising so they don't require extra time that could be spend getting something accomplished. Barbie
When the time of year comes where it is dark on the way to work and dark on the way home, I often feel like crying. I feel so down.
I can't see my garden and exercising outside is next to impossible.
I often try to take some time off around then so I can be out during the daylight. That makes it a bit easier.
M in Oz
I have read that the tears shed due to emotion are chemically different from the tears shed due to eye irritation. Some people believe that crying when sad or happy is cathartic/therapeutic. Another of the amazing mysteries of our bodies.
Karen in Virginia
I have heard that the tears are somehow different. If I were to cry when it gets dark, I don't know what my tears would be like because it would be crying from frustration and depression knowing that there's nothing that can be done. I can't change the tilt of the earth or it's rotation. Not cathartic, unfortunately.
M in Oz4 -
minicooper452 wrote: »I really, REALLY like this gratitude thing, so I grabbed a boatload of these lists and I tweaked it big time! So I'm going to keep it going... myself. One day you're doing, or NOT doing... like the 1st, the next day you're thinking/reflecting.
1 Sit in silence for three minutes... it's harder than you think
2 List 5 things using each of your senses
3 Let go of at least 5 items in your house
4 What was your favorite Christmas gift? (this year or ever)
5 Move for at least 30 minutes today
6 Share a goal you achieved last year
7 Slow down and savor one meal today
8 Who was your favorite teacher
9 Create something today
10 What is your favorite lyric from a song
11 Send a card/note to someone today
12 What are you looking forward to in 2023?
13 Tell a random person they look "good" today
14 Tell us three amazing things that happened recently (you decide what "recently" means...lol)
15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week
16 What made you smile today
17 Take a photo of something you're grateful for
18 What material comforts are you most thankful for? You can make your list as long as you like...
19 Write a positive review for a company for goods or services you've received recently
20 Write down five things you like about yourself
21 Pay it forward in some way
22 What do you most desire in your life right now?
23 Go an entire day without complaining
24 What about you makes you special?
25 Spend time with a loved one
26 When was the last time you felt pure joy?
27 Hold the door for a stranger... or a friend
28 What fear have you overcome?
29 Engage in a random act of kindness of your own choice
30 When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?
31 Now try to "meditate" (sit in silence) for ten minutes...
1 Sit in silence for three minutes... it's harder than you think. Does silently working in the garden count? Done! I sat silently for 7 minutes and prayed.
2 List 5 things using each of your senses. Right now? I can see my Christmas decorations, I can hear Christmas songs, I can taste my coffee, I can smell my coffee, and I can feel a comfortable temperature in the room.
3 Let go of at least 5 items in your house. I'm not in a downsizing or reducing mode so I've taken some lunch things to work, I will take an item to be mailed and another to be given to the people at work.4 What was your favorite Christmas gift? (this year or ever)
5 Move for at least 30 minutes today
6 Share a goal you achieved last year
7 Slow down and savor one meal today
8 Who was your favorite teacher
9 Create something today
10 What is your favorite lyric from a song
11 Send a card/note to someone today
12 What are you looking forward to in 2023?
13 Tell a random person they look "good" today
14 Tell us three amazing things that happened recently (you decide what "recently" means...lol)
15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week
16 What made you smile today
17 Take a photo of something you're grateful for
18 What material comforts are you most thankful for? You can make your list as long as you like...
19 Write a positive review for a company for goods or services you've received recently
20 Write down five things you like about yourself
21 Pay it forward in some way
22 What do you most desire in your life right now?
23 Go an entire day without complaining
24 What about you makes you special?
25 Spend time with a loved one
26 When was the last time you felt pure joy?
27 Hold the door for a stranger... or a friend
28 What fear have you overcome?
29 Engage in a random act of kindness of your own choice
30 When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?
31 Now try to "meditate" (sit in silence) for ten minutes...
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Regarding sitting silently ... a perfect day at work for me would be if everyone were out at an all day meeting and I was alone on my floor or in my area all day. I could spend the whole day not saying a word to anyone and with no interruptions ... in silence.
Although I might have classical music on some of the time.
M in Oz4 -
Pip - I'm sorry the holiday ended up in an emotional uproar for your family. It is, unfortunately, one of the hazards of moving close to family. While at a lot of different levels I love my birth family, I do not want to live near them. We end up rehashing these traumas that we all tend to remember differently (and often at least one doesn't remember at all), and no one feels better about it once it's done. Drowning in my own and my brother and sister's emotion that fixes nothing is not my style. On the phone, I either stop listening or simply hang up. Honestly, if it fixed anything, I'd be all in, but it doesn't. No advice from me, your family is unique, as is mine, and your response to them seems calm enough. Sorry your mom is the way she is, you deserve better.ShelleyMJ46 wrote: »Hello all 👋 I would love to join this group. I am 55 ( how did that happen) and the heaviest that I’ve ever been 😳 Looking to join a fun, supportive, friendly group to help motivate and just make friends in a sense. Wishing you all much success!
Welcome, @ShelleyMJ46 ! Happy New Year, jump into any conversation that suits you, and don't forget to bookmark the thread. This is a good way to make friends, though many of us tend to use the thread only and not the "friend" function of the site. If you'll sign your posts with what you'd like to be called and a general area where you live, we can get to know you better. Glad you're here!
Kylia - well done on setting yourself up well for work, and getting your lunch ready before you went to bed! I cannot get Corey to do that... but he's the one making his sandwich at 5 in the morning, not me. Makes me a little gaggy, in all truth, though I've done it for months on end when I'm not sleeping well. Touching cheese and meat in the early morning is a true act of love, I'm thinking.
Allie - Miles seems like such a happy little person. Having so much time with his grandma probably helps that, too.
Karen - Hope all goes well with the inducement (induction?) and mom and baby come through with flying colors... So exciting!
Kim and Debbie - are y'all getting flooded? and Kim, you are a wonderful neighbor, well done on saving the chickens!
Still working on my New Year's post.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
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ShelleyMJ46 wrote: »Hello all 👋 I would love to join this group. I am 55 ( how did that happen) and the heaviest that I’ve ever been 😳 Looking to join a fun, supportive, friendly group to help motivate and just make friends in a sense. Wishing you all much success! Welcome. This is a great group for support and encouragement. The first trick to learn is to read this every day. It helps me to remember how important my health is and to know that others are on the journey with me. Barbie in NW WA 3
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Karen, I agree, being a grandparent is amazing. What a special day for you and yours.
One reason I don't winter in Northern Alaska now is the darkness. With the cold, I could put on more layers and enjoy being outside .... but the 20+ hours of darkness for months at a time was difficult.
I had the conversation yesterday with my in-laws, I said a clear no and they expressed disappointment. Thanks for the thoughts and the support. I feel a burden off my back. I waited to call back until yesterday because I didn't want the conversation to be part of my New Year Eve or Day.
Betsy in NW WA10 -
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Quick read in the morning. Sending love and hugs and healing thoughts to sweet Destiny. A big "hello" to Suebdew! I hope you are feeling better/stronger. You and your DH have really been through the ringer with Covid/long covid! The memory of our meeting five years ago popped up in my facebook memories this morning! A good lunch with you and Cathy from Arlington.
Karen VA- Oh boy, oh boy! Granddaughter coming! Aurora Rose on her way! Sending thoughts and prayers for a successful delivery! Your comment on the tears study made sense to me. OUr bodies are amazing in giving/releasing exactly what is needed. Studies in mother's breastmilk have shown that there is a chemical connection between the breast and the nursing baby. If baby is sick the saliva from the baby will be "read" by the mama's body and will produce milk with extra antibodies in it to help make the baby better. If mama is stressed, the milk will also change due to that and baby might not want it, or might get upset tummy from it. Amazing stuff.
Well, all three of the grandsons are awake now. DD has left for work and DSIL is sleeping and goes into work this afternoon. So...I will give the boys some breakfast and I have promised them a tub of bubbly water so they can play car wash and dinosaur wash outside this morning. lol It's the little things, for sure!
I think my word for 2023 will be "restore". I feel like I am doing everything I used to do, I just need to do it better and with a desire/good intent. So....I need to restore my soul, restore my health, restore my strength, restore my intellect, restore my happiness (which I think might be an end result of restoring the rest). ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)7 -
Morning ladies
Here with munchkin boy
He is napping..
I feel bad for Tracy... there electric bill was 500.00 this past month. And Kyle flipped out now here in Connecticut our rates have doubled since January 1st. And Kyle and Carmine argue early in the morning.. so that doesn't help.. so now Tracy has to get Miles in the car and drop Carmine at the bus ,when Kyle used to drop him off at school
All that stress doesn't help Miles either..
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Kim - I am amazed at your strength and resilience. I think I would have abandoned the chickens in panic. What a wonderful friend you are. It must have been terribly hard work!
Karen - Lucky you, another baby in your life. I do miss a baby to cuddle. Not in my future I guess, unless we have some accidents in the kids' teens.
The grandchildren have been here since before lunch. We had a grand painting session, which was fairly organised. Max was restless and the older ones are now playing Risk. Bea is playing games on my tablet.
I thought I would try to paint some flowers suitable for a general card for all purposes. I will wait to order any until I see the quality of the previous ones I ordered. These are my efforts today.
Quite pleased, considering the distractions!
May resort to Ghostbusters if all else fails.
Love Heather UK xxxxxx
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Heather ~ I really like the flowers you painted!
Pip ~ I'm sorry you had to participate in the family drama NY's Day. I am really glad that I am somewhat away from that to a great degree.
Allie ~ $500 electric bill???? That's terrible.
Kelly ~ Enjoy your week with the 3 grands.
Found out this morning that my brother had to leave his MnL's funeral and go to the hospital for breathing issues. This was not near their home but they were able to get to a hospital that was on the way home. He has really bad COPD and heart problems.
Carol in GA11 -
Good morning ladies!
Pip sorry about your mom. My sister is in Tennessee which is close enough for now. She thinks I ought to help my mom talk about my brother's death, but my brother was a vicious bully to me, so I can't do it. My sister can do it on the phone if she wants to. Every family has its quirks.
Such a gloomy day here. I have to buy groceries eventually.
I was good with my diet last night. I fed my mom's leftovers to Teddy the dog, since his teeth seem to be sore again. His dental is scheduled for tomorrow.
Yesterday my dad said that my mom should keep driving so she doesn't lose the capability. I said we are beyond that now. The moment passed but it scared me. My dad is in denial over my mother's decline. I don't think my mother could remember what she was doing long enough to find her keys. My current goal for her is to get her to the podiatrist.
So things are going well enough. Make it a good day, friends! Make good choices!
Annie in Delaware
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M One of the school's mission statement I worked in was
Look to the past to make way for the future and live in the present
Barbie I agree about being mindful about what you allow into your life. I have walked away from things in stores that five years ago would have come home with me. Now first question I ask myself do I have something like this already? do I have a place for this ? will this add something to my life?
I also think this spills over to how you spend your time and the people who are in your life.
I am still working on how to be tactful when situations and conversations arise that I find difficult... An example is I just explained to a group of women how difficult it is to live with someone with cancer and I do not want to talk about it. Yet, one of the women started talking about her daughter's ex who is living with her and I will give you to blow by blow of his cancer. I did say I am sorry he is ill but I live with this and I just cannot hear this.
Then a good friend tells me how her sister planned a Christmas party at their home the day they got back from a two week trip. Their return trip was in the middle of the chaos of all the travel woes. Fortunately they were not on Southwest but their plane became packed with all the people who were stranded by Southwest. I just flat out said your sister's action was totally insensitive to you. How she handles her sister is up to her.
Bottom line it is about healthy boundaries with myself and with others.
Goal for 2023 Creating and respecting healthy boundaries in myself and with others.
Pip When I review the painful incidences of my childhood I surround those memories with the love for that child who did not get the help she needed. I try to become the parent to that child who was hurt. Healing for me is an ongoing process. Love to you
HeatherLove the flowers!
Lisa I understand where you are coming from about poppies. I visited the WWI museum near where poppies became the symbol for the tragedy of war. What those men went through in those trenches was a nightmare. I also look at the poppy as a symbol that despite the tragedy new life and beauty (hope) will not die. While all this was going on the poppy did not give up. It continues to bloom despite the foolishness of man.5 -
LisaInArkansas wrote: »Pip - I'm sorry the holiday ended up in an emotional uproar for your family. It is, unfortunately, one of the hazards of moving close to family. While at a lot of different levels I love my birth family, I do not want to live near them. We end up rehashing these traumas that we all tend to remember differently (and often at least one doesn't remember at all), and no one feels better about it once it's done. Drowning in my own and my brother and sister's emotion that fixes nothing is not my style. On the phone, I either stop listening or simply hang up. Honestly, if it fixed anything, I'd be all in, but it doesn't. No advice from me, your family is unique, as is mine, and your response to them seems calm enough. Sorry your mom is the way she is, you deserve better.ShelleyMJ46 wrote: »Hello all 👋 I would love to join this group. I am 55 ( how did that happen) and the heaviest that I’ve ever been 😳 Looking to join a fun, supportive, friendly group to help motivate and just make friends in a sense. Wishing you all much success!
Welcome, @ShelleyMJ46 ! Happy New Year, jump into any conversation that suits you, and don't forget to bookmark the thread. This is a good way to make friends, though many of us tend to use the thread only and not the "friend" function of the site. If you'll sign your posts with what you'd like to be called and a general area where you live, we can get to know you better. Glad you're here!
Kylia - well done on setting yourself up well for work, and getting your lunch ready before you went to bed! I cannot get Corey to do that... but he's the one making his sandwich at 5 in the morning, not me. Makes me a little gaggy, in all truth, though I've done it for months on end when I'm not sleeping well. Touching cheese and meat in the early morning is a true act of love, I'm thinking.
Allie - Miles seems like such a happy little person. Having so much time with his grandma probably helps that, too.
Karen - Hope all goes well with the inducement (induction?) and mom and baby come through with flying colors... So exciting!
Kim and Debbie - are y'all getting flooded? and Kim, you are a wonderful neighbor, well done on saving the chickens!
Still working on my New Year's post.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
Thx for your kind words. What you say is true
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Finally able to string a few thoughts together without being interrupted, whether by my own distractions or others... and even that's not truly true... I've got bread dough proofing in the oven to make sandwich buns for the rest of Corey's workweek. Also got a cat door ordered and ready for pick up at Lowes so he can pick it up on his way home.
Regarding the cat door: The much-lamented Bella (who has never shown up) is an older yellow Lab mix, probably 50 pounds - and she tried to get through the cat door, snapping the rigid flap right in half. Again. We've already replaced it once due to a previous visit, so we're now working on our third cat door in four years. Ah well, water under the bridge now. Still pleased that Corey refrained from comment on it in front of Kelsey.
So... you might (or might not) be wondering why I'm not doing all the many and varied numbered lists, whether looking forward or back, and the answer is, I can feel my stress levels rising when I read them--and writing them makes me break a sweat. I did do the November one, but even so, had to break it into just a few numbers at a time.
Not sure why these ongoing lists overwhelm me so. Sort of anti-OCD? I don't know. I'm sorry I won't be responding to y'all's lists, but I just whiz right past them, no worries. I'm genuinely not asking anyone to stop! We all have our ways of making sure our mental health is in good shape. The lists just aren't an option for me. I don't know why.
I think it's vaguely possible, though, that making bread is one of my mental health exercises. It is comforting and makes me feel I've accomplished something, both for myself and for my partner in this life. The arts of baking and crocheting and quilting all make me feel the same way. Baking's just the fastest!
And... speaking of art, Haley and I carved out a little time to paint a watercolor piece each... Mine's on the left. I think that dress is a triumph for a 7-year-old. I may, however, be slightly biased.
Heather - I just saved my draft and reloaded the page and caught your two pieces. Love the saturated colors, and the blue flowers are such a lovely breath of serenity for me. Poppies will always remind me of the bloodshed they came to symbolize. I need to find a free online resource to learn how to use watercolors correctly...
Egg's sitting in the living room window watching the birds outside, doing that soft chittering that she does when she can't get to them. She'll just have to wait until Corey fixes her door.
Didn't mean to write a book! Still thinking about goals and such, so I'll post again before the day's out. My bread's finished proofing, time to shape it for the second proof.
Later,
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
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