WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023
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Rori-sorry to hear you have another bout of Covid. Hope they are able to give you something, I think most stuff is recommended within just a few days of symptoms-let us know what they give you so we have it for future reference! Hope this weekend sees you improving.
Allie-that is a sweet picture of the siblings.
Heather-I love the zoo pictures. I may check and see if such an adventure is available at zoo near my grandchildren. Thanks for the retirement encouragement.
Karen-I agree with you-I plan on not being bored in retirement. Will wait on the medical stuff next week, but am seriously thinking late summer. I have a couple of more physical things I want done with house before I sell. I have some driveway work scheduled for this spring, I am going to get vinyl plank put on basement floor (where bar had been there is no tile and the tile there, I believe, is asbestos so getting it level and covered), a bit of work on downstairs bath). And, of course, the last major push for purging!
I share concern for Katla-I'm sure her family can help. It looks like both of her profiles have been switched to private. I'm glad she is at a facility with some supervision and close to her husband.
Somehow yesterday I picked up a sore shoulder. Not from exercise. My best guess is somehow I was sitting at computer. Worked from home yesterday and my home set up isn't quite as ergonomic as work office. Very sore at top of left arm front (so not on top of shoulder). Suspecting bursa or a bit of tendon irritation. Can move it. Going to use ice and heat today and ibuprofen and see if inflammation subsides. I figure doing movement with standard clean up will help keep it loose. When I had herniated cervical discs they rested on nerve so left side was painful-I hope those old fusions are still in place!
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio2 -
Thoughts on the disconnect from reality that a disability may render:
Our conjured future doesn’t match our real present or potential future.
Our hopes and dreams for retirement didn’t just go pffttt!!! - they are still there.
Thus, numerous times, we have looked at architectural plans and dreamed about building a green/solar home with an inner arboretum courtyard with capacity to sell back to the grid. We have planned an elaborate garden with secret paths and benches and surprises around every turn. We have planned trips down the Nile, to the Gobi Desert, and salmon fishing in Alaska. We have committed in our minds to rigorous volunteerism to help those less fortunate. We have looked into many hobby and educational possibilities, and fully intended to keep up our Master Gardening credentials.
Most heartbreaking, we planned to take trips at least twice a year to visit our Corsican Californian grandchildren Olivia and Phoenix. For reasons we aren’t sure of, Katie (their mom) doesn’t want to travel here with them to see us - it’s a mystery, because she FaceTimes with her mom (my spouse) every day; we have offered to pay for their travel costs to no avail. I have a sliver of hope that this may change if I am right about the cause of my wife’s pseudo-Parkinsonism, and that we will be able to travel to California in about a year.
Thinking of Heather's post, I am not reticent about admitting that I would like to have my wife’s smart brain and conversational skills back, and that I feel resentment at having been robbed of that. It’s the pits being a caretaker of someone constantly in a brain fog, with whom you planned to have stimulating conversation in your dotage.
Patience is not my strongest virtue, so sometimes I get snappish with my wife when we have gone over logistics numerous times. We are still working on the best system to keep her calendar up to date and accurate. She enters stuff on her calendar on the wrong days, sends texts to the wrong people, etc, and I have to go behind her and clean up the detritus. I have finally convinced her to stop sending me invitations to all the stuff she enters on her calendar, and to stop making appointments for me for mammograms, dental appointments, etc.
Acknowledging my own feelings and resentments about the way things are in no way takes away from my empathy and sympathy for what my wife is experiencing...emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I do not feel guilty for feeling resentment and sometimes self-pity. It’s all part of my self-care, which is necessary in order to be an excellent caretaker for my wife.
Karen in Virginia
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KetoneKaren wrote: »
That might work, but ours are in pots, not in rows.
Kind of like this image.- There's a fence on the left between our place and our neighbours.
- There's a row of 4 pots beside the fence and the raspberries (leaves, vines) have made their way up and over the fence and everywhere.
- Then there's a narrow boardwalk that I can just barely step on because the raspberries are all over that.
- And then there are another 4 pots with raspberries all intertwined everywhere
I can move the pots further apart and make the path between them wider. That would help.
Then I have to think about how to run wires or whatever.
Machka in Oz
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KetoneKaren wrote: »
That might work, but ours are in pots, not in rows.
Kind of like this image.- There's a fence on the left between our place and our neighbours.
- There's a row of 4 pots beside the fence and the raspberries (leaves, vines) have made their way up and over the fence and everywhere.
- Then there's a narrow boardwalk that I can just barely step on because the raspberries are all over that.
- And then there are another 4 pots with raspberries all intertwined everywhere
I can move the pots further apart and make the path between them wider. That would help.
Then I have to think about how to run wires or whatever.
Machka in Oz
You have a green thumb for raspberries. I am envious, although dealing with the pickers would be onerous. I adore raspberries - my very favoritist berry.
An arbor over your walkway would work but would be pricey.
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KetoneKaren wrote: »Thoughts on the disconnect from reality that a disability may render:
Our conjured future doesn’t match our real present or potential future.
Our hopes and dreams for retirement didn’t just go pffttt!!! - they are still there.
Thus, numerous times, we have looked at architectural plans and dreamed about building a green/solar home with an inner arboretum courtyard with capacity to sell back to the grid. We have planned an elaborate garden with secret paths and benches and surprises around every turn. We have planned trips down the Nile, to the Gobi Desert, and salmon fishing in Alaska. We have committed in our minds to rigorous volunteerism to help those less fortunate. We have looked into many hobby and educational possibilities, and fully intended to keep up our Master Gardening credentials.
Most heartbreaking, we planned to take trips at least twice a year to visit our Corsican Californian grandchildren Olivia and Phoenix. For reasons we aren’t sure of, Katie (their mom) doesn’t want to travel here with them to see us - it’s a mystery, because she FaceTimes with her mom (my spouse) every day; we have offered to pay for their travel costs to no avail. I have a sliver of hope that this may change if I am right about the cause of my wife’s pseudo-Parkinsonism, and that we will be able to travel to California in about a year.
Thinking of Heather's post, I am not reticent about admitting that I would like to have my wife’s smart brain and conversational skills back, and that I feel resentment at having been robbed of that. It’s the pits being a caretaker of someone constantly in a brain fog, with whom you planned to have stimulating conversation in your dotage.
Patience is not my strongest virtue, so sometimes I get snappish with my wife when we have gone over logistics numerous times. We are still working on the best system to keep her calendar up to date and accurate. She enters stuff on her calendar on the wrong days, sends texts to the wrong people, etc, and I have to go behind her and clean up the detritus. I have finally convinced her to stop sending me invitations to all the stuff she enters on her calendar, and to stop making appointments for me for mammograms, dental appointments, etc.
Acknowledging my own feelings and resentments about the way things are in no way takes away from my empathy and sympathy for what my wife is experiencing...emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I do not feel guilty for feeling resentment and sometimes self-pity. It’s all part of my self-care, which is necessary in order to be an excellent caretaker for my wife.
Karen in Virginia
I know what you feel like. Very much!
My most heartbreaking is not being able to leave this island and especially not being able to see my family.
M in Oz8 -
KetoneKaren wrote: »KetoneKaren wrote: »
That might work, but ours are in pots, not in rows.
Kind of like this image.- There's a fence on the left between our place and our neighbours.
- There's a row of 4 pots beside the fence and the raspberries (leaves, vines) have made their way up and over the fence and everywhere.
- Then there's a narrow boardwalk that I can just barely step on because the raspberries are all over that.
- And then there are another 4 pots with raspberries all intertwined everywhere
I can move the pots further apart and make the path between them wider. That would help.
Then I have to think about how to run wires or whatever.
Machka in Oz
You have a green thumb for raspberries. I am envious, although dealing with the pickers would be onerous. I adore raspberries - my very favoritist berry.
An arbor over your walkway would work but would be pricey.
Thank you, but so far all I have are vines and leaves ... and the prickly bits. We've not been able to produce raspberries yet! I've got to figure out what's wrong.
I love them too ... I just wish they'd produce a crop!
M in Oz1 -
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Going to get my tooth pulled at 10AM...
Carol in GA11 -
Good morning ladies!
Katla we all miss you!
Laura welcome! I also avoid dairy, and I also eat overnight oats. I put protein powder in mine and cinnamon and almond milk and blueberries. Very tasty and filling.
Karen I'm sorry that your plans have eluded you.
Machka you are doing great things with the garden you have. Raspberries sound delicious!
Ginny hope your shoulder feels better soon. Sounds like you are excited about retirement!
It's Saturday with nothing much on the agenda. Maybe trimming dog toenails. And I ought to dye my roots sooner or later. Since I stopped dating, I have let that slide.
Annie in Delaware4 -
Karen - What I think is most wonderful is that through these last few years, where the heaviest of the burdens have all landed in your lap, you have persevered in continuing to find an answer for your wife. My best friend felt as if she got her mother back after a number of medication reviews found that she was being overprescribed and that drug interactions between different doctors' prescriptions were making her sicker. Hoping for you both.
Rori - I hope your bout with the ro-ro lets loose of you soon. Corey's still got remnants after three weeks, and has been most frustrated with his sense of smell and taste. He brews his own beer, and his sense of smell has been shot, bless him. So he brings one to me (I do not like beer even a little, Sam I Am), and gets my description of the scent, which is not the same at all. Very frustrating for him.
Rebecca - It's so good to see you describing food again, dear heart. You'll find your way through the cholesterol maze, I have faith in you.
Evie - Sounds like you have a plan for the grands, hope you all enjoy yourselves!
Heather - You're a good friend.
Regarding Katla - I hope she's been able to read that we do miss her and think of her. If you're reading these posts, dear heart, we think of you often. The last year's progression through all of this has been heartbreaking, and I hope her son and daughter are able to help her regain what she has with us. Communication with the people you love is so important.
Welcome to Laura in the UK, @audreysoverhere , and anyone else who's new!
Frosty outside, sending Corey out for groceries once he's up and about and planning to enjoy my lazy Saturday. Or write. It will be one of those.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR2 -
Karen ... you said, "It's a choice..." This has been my life response. How we act, how we react ... it's all a choice.
Beth5 -
Good morning ladies!
Rori - sorry to hear you picked up the crud, hope you are back to normal soon and doing your fun job! Seems like a hallmark of repeat Covid infections is the lack of energy. Totally anecdotal, just noticing this among neighbors and acquaintances. Is it a cold? Allergy? Covid? A blend? How can we tell?
I mowed yesterday. There were just a few patches that needed to be cut - drainfield for one and along the tree line. When I finished, my sinuses started to complain so I took a zyrtec. I wondered for a bit if I'd picked up Covid from Walmart again.
This morning I am still a little stopped up but plenty of energy. I remembered I had some Immunex spray - nasal spray with povidone iodine I used during Covid - so will use that today to ward off viruses if that's the case.
Speaking of mowing - Kylia - miss you!
Karen - ((BIG HUGS))
I'm hoping you can find something to halt your wife's decline or at least identify the culprit. I'm grateful you are in a community now with plenty to do, and I'm sure your community loves having you there too.
Do you have any experience with Lithium Orotate? I was going to get my DH on it, 5 mg per day as some physicians are administering for prevention for folks with dementia in their family. DH passed away before I could try it on him (his mom had dementia.) But more research is coming out about it, and I'm following.
Katla - if you pop on here, I just wanted you to know how relieved I was for you when you said you were moving to Illinois to be near your daughter. You and your DH are under her watchful eye. I know you miss the Columbia but you have great memories.
Carol - good luck at the dentist! Which tooth is it?
Annie - you reminded me that when I do wake up with a headache - happens often if I forget to take a little Zyrtec to keep my nasal passages open - a cup of coffee or two is my drug of choice. The caffeine shuts down pain quickly.
Rebecca - I like your therapist, I think she'll be good to help you work through the feelings about your "missing" son.
Machka - good luck with the berry bushes! I have the containers ready, just need to stop at the nursery and pick up a few plants. You keep inspiring me!
Ginny - crossing fingers your shoulder is doing better today. As long as I can raise my arms above my head without pain, I'm a happy camper. Sending you strength as you work your way through getting your home ready for sale.
Rosemarie - miss you, hope you are doing well.
Chicken stuff:I went to Tractor Supply yesterday to order the chicken coop and pick up chicks. Decided to wait until more coops came in next week and order it then. The only chicks in the delivery were Cornish cross - meat chickens. So will keep on top of it next week and cross fingers I can grab some layers.
Getting my little brooder setup ready. Looking at different options as far as a pen for them while they are teensy. Wire dog crate? Large plastic tub? Whatever I come up with will need a heater - they need to be over 90 degrees the first week, then drop by 5 degrees each consecutive week for around 6 weeks. It's fun looking at all of the heating options that weren't available 20 years ago when all we had was a dangerous hanging or clamp on heat lamp. Now they have little warm pad the chicks can sit on and small low wattage heaters they can huddle under. (These also can be used for puppies and kittens.) Amazon gets more of my money.
We're supposed to see temps in the mid-60's this afternoon. My plan is to clean out the garage and continue working on cleaning the potting shed. I ran across a photo of it the other day when DH first built it - shelves were nice and clean, no clutter, very organized. That's my goal. I have a lot of storage containers in it that need to be in the shop on the shelves where three rows of drums are sitting. Sigh. They are going to new homes this summer one way or another.
My knee pain has pretty much resolved and I believe I strained it lifting heavy stuff earlier this week. Pavement walking doesn't do it any favors, but switching to new shoes is giving everything cushioning. At least it's not worse.
There was a lot more I wanted to comment on but it's getting light out.
Seize the day!
Make it a fabulous weekend!
Lanette
SW WA State
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Morning peeps and welcome new peep-ies5
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Welcome newbies and returnees! (((hugs))) to those who need them.
Had a wonderful day at school yesterday. Don't know if I shared this with y'all, but I've started buying chocolates and handing them out on Fridays during passing time. I started around Halloween treats, then kisses in different flavors. I found some wonderful Hershey bars with inspiring words on the back. Yesterday, I handed out those chocolate coins. I had on my green shirt and my rainbow hat; I was plenty cute and the kids just loved it! Some come into my room on the off days to ask for chocolates from my stash. I always oblige.
Freddy made us corned beef and cabbage last night. It really is one of my favorite meals of the year!
18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down... don't have much trouble with that. Heading up to the niece and nephew's house today for a game day with the fam!
Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN4 -
Life is a lot like the grocery store app that I use. I can search the data base and make choices of what I want. I can put them in the cart. I can choose the pick up day and time. But there are many things I can't control. I can't control the prices of the items. I can't control the weather and possible power outage that might affect my ability to pick up the groceries. I can't control supply chain issues that might make my favorites not available. While it would be nice to be able to make plans for how my life will go, there are many forces that will cause it to go in a different direction. I can choose my attitude about what happens. If I accept what happens and am grateful for the things that are working, I will be much happier than if I rail at the fates and complain and fuss about how things aren't going my way. I choose to be accepting ang grateful. Barbie in NW WA 9
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Lanette, Could you use a cooler for your chicks?1
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KetoneKaren wrote: »Lanette, Could you use a cooler for your chicks?
Karen - thank you, that is one option some folks have used. It sure would be insulated.
What I'm considering right now is using a huge clear Sterilite tote that I already have on hand, cutting out a hole in the lid and putting hardware cloth over it to keep them in and Rosie out. They also make "warming mats" for chicks they can stand on, and little brooders that aren't a fire danger the chickies can huddle under. I can keep this in the kitchen for the first few weeks of their (hopeful!) life.
So I'll need to go thru DH's hand saw collection.
I've turned it over to the "planning committee" in my head to work on.
Lanette
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I’m so happy that I can finally swing my Kettlebell! Since I started Monday I can see the difference and I have lost 3 pounds already. I’m also trying a new lifestyle change for the next couple months. It’s called souping. I saw an infomercial by Dr Kellyanne… what I loved about her is that she is selling her dehydrated bone broth, but she also gives you her recipe. Only makes money on people that want convenience. Bone broth is supposed to help with digestion, inflammation, collagen replacement, diminishing wrinkles, gut health and repair. Not a diet just a healthy addition to my daily intake. I will let you know if I have any results!
💕Mary from Arizona/Minnesota6 -
Debbie, that was quite the trek you made around the wetlands! I'd have been very nervous walking thru running water! You just never know what's under it....
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And once again, it's past my bedtime. Hugs for those needing them, congrats to those celebrating and welcome to the newbies!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island
I was very careful walking through the water. I walk that path every time I walk the wetlands which is usually 4 times or more every week(when the weather is better). I could see the bottom and walked slowly sideways, facing where the water was coming from.1 -
Mary congratulations on three pounds gone! Let us know how souping goes. (Does anyone else remember Soupy Sales? Totally unrelated!) And great going with that kettlebell!
Lanette those chickens are going to be pampered for sure!
Annie in Delaware3 -
March, 2023 Action for happiness.org
Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate slow mornings.Exercise goals added
Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 7/15-(100%,100%)
Walk 7,000 every day 12/31 (84%,86%,)
Arm weights twice a week 3/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow, hurt my shoulder)
Meditation: daily. 10/31 (82%(started Feb))
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 9/8–(100%,100%)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 9484, 9104 (7,700,100%-9851,100%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 1/2 —(100%,100%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 9/158/ —(100%,100%)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)25/64–(100%,100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2—(100%,100%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 10/20-(100%,88%)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 8/12 (100%,100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——3/12—(100%.100%,100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71(100%,100%,100)
Decided that if I do more than stated I will not grade higher than 100% 2/5/23
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met
April met
May met
June met
July met — met
August met
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with more awareness and kindness every day.17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant. Will do. 1. Lady wanting us to cut a lock off of her propane tank. 2. The rock formations around the park. 3. The lake surface when wind blows over it.
2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world. The blue water of Lea Lake, Snow on the mountains at a distance, walking a nature trail. All at Bottomless Lakes State Park.
3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I am healthy and above ground. I can walk,talk,hear, see, taste, and smell (mostly). I appreciate that I alive and have a healthy body.
4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. I will try…
5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. I sent texts to my long distance friends to send them love.
6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. Most days are like that for me. So much less stress!
7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day. Sounds like a plan.
8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and smell of your food. Started at breakfast.
9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others. I will need to keep this in the front of my mind all day.
10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face. Every day!
11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee. In the process of doing that right now!
12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying. I will have to really try to get this done today.
13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today. I love doing this!
14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do. I made a necessary task to go for a liver scan enjoyable by buying lunch for myself for a change.
15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly. I really need to do this today! Didn’t remember to do this.
16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity. I have stones to paint. Will be distributing along the trails in exchange for free peddle boat and paddle board rentals. Didn’t do this. Too windy out. I colored instead.
18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down. I will consciously try to do this.19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.
30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.Barbie's Happiness Commandments
Be Barbie
Lighten up
Do it now
Dance more
Choose strategy over willpower
Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
Come from a place of love
Stay in the moment
Act the way you want to feel
Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good
Don't expect praise or recognition
It is what it is
Don't take things personally
Treat yourself like a toddler
What's fun for other people may not be fun for you, and vice versa
You can choose what you do, but you can't choose what you like
Be kind, no exceptions
Ask always, how could my life be better with less?
RVRita
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Karen, wouldn't that be wonderful if all her wife's issues would be solved by a medication change/stoppage! Keeping you both in my thoughts!
Rori, so sorry that you have Covid 2.0 - the extended version..... Hope you feel better soon!
Allie, such a sweet pic of Carmine and Miles! I hope you are enjoying your time away!
Debbie, that was quite the trek you made around the wetlands! I'd have been very nervous walking thru running water! You just never know what's under it....
I'm hoping the weather will cooperate with me next week. It's spring break so my grandson doesn't have school. I was asked if I could take both kids for an afternoon so that some stuff can get done in their backyard, it's easier without 2 little supervisors! I agreed, so this is why I hope the weather is good. I can bring them over here for lunch then take them to a playground or two, that should fill up 3-4 hours. Maybe even make rice krispy squares with dgs, he loves helping. Doesn't always love washing his hands before helping, but that is something that I insist on! Typical boy, clean hands aren't a priority! Our granddaughter is certainly letting her personality come out these days, does not want to listen to anything that I have to say until I get cranky. And then she gets upset because I snapped at her, smh. Tried explaining it to her, I think she understood, but it hasn't made a difference yet. Good thing she's cute.....
And once again, it's past my bedtime. Hugs for those needing them, congrats to those celebrating and welcome to the newbies!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island
Athena is very opinionated too. There's that fact that no one has really told her no. One summer I was down visiting, I was having her help me make a scrambled egg for her. We mixed, we stirred, she had her apron on, it was great. But then came time foe eating she was like "no". I said well, we can't play until you eat something. She just frowned and stood in the corner mad at me. I just sat on the couch trying to look like " whatever, I am just reading here". Every so often I would say some like "wow I would really like to play that game with you"! She finally came over and took two bites but geesh it was like pulling teeth!
Rebecca
Whidbey
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I miss Katla too. I really hope she gets things worked out so she can visit us again. Poor thing, my heart breaks for her and all she has gone through this past year. No wonder she is overwhelmed.
I’ve been dealing with what I call ‘traveling arthritis pain’. It started in my left knee, added my right elbow, grew to tremendous pain in my right shoulder, affected my left ring finger and hip, then all converged in my back from my shoulder blades down to my lower back. This happens every so often and not sure what it is. I feel extremely tired and weepy due to the pain. Nothing seems to help it and it affects my sleep and everything I do. I plow through it best I can. Then, all of a sudden, the pain disappears! No clue!! Anyone else experience this? I have never told a doctor about it because it only last up to 2 weeks the longest.
Another question… Anyone know of a website or App where you can put in all your meds and supplements to look for common side effects and/or problems with the combination? I used to have an insurance company that did that for you but can’t seem to find where to do that anymore.
We had forgotten yesterday (Friday) was St. Patrick’s Day so are having corned beef and cabbage today. I love corned beef but we only tend to have it once a year at this time. It’s cooking and is all I can smell! Can’t wait!
Two odd animals I have recently discovered : for chickens, our Tractor Supply had ‘Turkins’ (cross between turkey and chicken) The were for laying, a little bigger than the chicks, and had bald necks. Weird looking. And the other is a Raccon-dog from China and Japan. Wikipedia says they have them all over Europe and are invasive. I’ll see if I can find pics of both.
RVRita1 -
Racoondog
Turken (turkin)
RVRita2 -
Lisa. Heehee, I will be the groups master food descriptor! 😜😂.
I know eating wise, there is a "sweet spot" where I wait until I feel hunger, feed it (just until satiated but not full) and I really love that feeling. Its paying attention to get myself there that's the tough part. It involves starting my day off with black coffee, and that's the hard part. I like the sweet. Granted its Truvia which is a Stevia plant sweetener, so its not actual sugar. But I know that takes me out of fasting. I am educated enough to realize that, but still in the mornings its "I deserve it" feeling. Drinking it, and realizing I haven't failed is I guess the lesson I'm trying to teach myself. Sure I am not a faster, and that's ok for now. I need to give myself grace in all things. Here endeth the lesson.😜
You van tug on my shirt anytime!
So today's going to be a soup of some such. I do have 1/2 cups worth f the soup I made yesterday with one lone cubed potato. I think I will fry up some shrimp pieces, with some garlic, Old Bay, turmeric, and lots of pepper, add more chicken stock to the leftover soup, and add some wild rice, and a splash of half & half. That should do it. I didn't buy any more onion, mushrooms or tomatoes (my go to veggies). So I am winging it.
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Barbie I like the "grocery shopping" mindset. I will use that visual when choosing what I want to concentrate on, in my life. What I need to realize is out of my control.💖👍🏻
Thanks!
Rebecca
Whidbey
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KetoneKaren wrote: »[
You have a green thumb for raspberries. I am envious, although dealing with the pickers would be onerous. I adore raspberries - my very favoritist berry.
An arbor over your walkway would work but would be pricey.
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I planted my raspberries in pots but, they didn't stay in them
They make runners from the bottom. Instead of just two pots and one half barrel of raspberries, I have a row about 20ft long. I have to dig up some because they come up IN the lawn five feet away from the original pot.
I have one of the trellis, kind of like your picture and let them grow up it plus other fencing trying to keep them out of the walk way.
I also now have two thornless black berry plants. Hopefully, they will do better this year. They are very special to me. My dad started them for me. He planted two 100ft rows of them at their place. So many great memories of him and I spending hours picking berries and just spending time together.
Debbie
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Lanetteah that darn planning committee in our heads. I envision mine, some in suits standing in the corner, wondering why they are even there (in my brain). Then others who are corralled by someone with a "guide" tag on their shirt. She is mindlessly pointing at parts of my brain and the group says "oooh, or ahhh" every so often. Then there is some looking intently at maps, turning them upside down or right side up. Then there's my cheerleaders. They are a healthy bunch of gals, pink cheeked, with paper handmade pom-poms. They bunch together saying "okaaay-ready" then one by one they hurl themselves into the far corners of my brain, doing cartwheels, and clapping. 😂. Yes my committee is a formidable circus of talent!
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Sometimes "a problem with time management/procrastination" is a sign that a person doesn't really want to do something. Voice of experience ... if I'm procrastinating, I am not overly enthusiastic about doing something.
It's obviously way too much for her to handle on her own and she has no consistent help that she can count on. There's a good chance she feels overwhelmed by it all.
Does she need the garden to make money or save money?
Is she keeping the garden out of a sense of duty to her husband/your father ... or to you?
Is there something else she would prefer to do? You mentioned that she's doing some things differently now that your father is gone.
Can you ask her if she didn't plant the garden, or only planted a very small garden, what she would really like to do with her time? Maybe she would like to travel or take an art class or something.
Just a few thoughts.
Machka in Oz
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YES, she really is overwhelmed!!
She really loves having the garden and wants to do it. She enjoys it and LOVES to share with others, especially older friends who don't have gardens.
She is just starting to realize that she can't do it all. She will be 80 in a few months. She doesn't have the energy she used to have.
She has the chickens so has to be there to let them out/lock them up every day. If they are not locked up, the critters will get them. Dad forgot to lock them up one night and lost half the flock when a bobcat got in and killed them.
She stays busy. Besides home, she is involved with church. Is there Sunday and Wed plus every Saturday morning she helps with the food bank food program at the church(up at 4AM to be in town by 5:30 to help set up)
Does she need the money from the garden? She doesnt have to have it to survive but it would be great to have a little more money coming in so she can not worry about it so much. She knows she has to be cautious about what she spends and make choices. Not buying things she really doesn't need or changing her options(like buying the small little mower/tractor instead of a full size one that was at least 4 times the price and would only get used a few times a year)
The biggest thing is being disappointed by so many that say they will help but are too busy or what ever.
Debbie
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