Would you date someone overweight?

FlyThisKite · March 2014

Personally,I would date a man regardless of weight. Personality and similarities in interests are important. I am very active, which means I would much rather spend the day looking for a new adventure, like a new beach, new antique store, mini golf, used book store, cosmic bowling,museums, exhibits, pirate invasions etc......than veg at home.

But where I live if you don't aspire to eat kelp, do yoga, crossfit or be some or another kind of health guru with the body of a God other than Buddha you pretty much have a low to 0 chance of dating...

If i don't fit the bill for the dating criteria here soon I'll be eligible for my crazy cat lady starter kit in about 5 years...

67667 · March 2014

I would but I would want to help them to be healthier.

xNausicaa · March 2014

Yes! I mean I love lanky guys but this guy I had a crush on was chubby when I first met him, but now he lost all the weight. I prefer him chubby though, he was super adorable, but he looks great regardless c:

dodochoga · March 2014

If you are someone obsessed with weight, that'd be a criteria. If it is someone who obsesses about their own weight, they will obsess about your weight. That usually happens to weak individuals who lack self-confidence because of years of bullying or emotional trauma. Otherwise, you really don't know who you will fall in love with and once you are in love, it doesn't matter how they look(sometimes even how they act, but I digress).

nigelwood3 · March 2014

Once my fat girdle is gone I will continue to work hard to keep it off. That means a lot of my diet behaviours such as calorie counting and daily cardio are now permanent.

I have dated someone who was overweight. I could do so again but only if they supported me choosing a fitter, leaner, healthy lifestyle for myself and that seems unlikely. A relationship with someone who wasn't supportive or encouraged me to back slide wouldn't work and I'll respect myself enough to end it.

luvmydog2 · March 2014

One never knows just what we will be attracted: to now or in the future .
I prefer sense of humour ... myself .
Wasn't over weight when hubby and i got married ... but we both are at the moment and doing something about it !

I am 66 yrs of age and hubby 69 yrs of age ... never too late to take charge of your lifestyle .

aka_Kamalevantis · March 2014

My hubby was 30stone when I met him (he is 7ft tall) and I was about 16stone, we've been together 10 years, married for 9 years..... So yes I guess I would.

That said I didn't notice my hubby's size (weight) when I met him, I noticed his height, wonderful personality and kind nature.... Size was not even a consideration for me.

xXx

desireecl · March 2014

I have and would again. I know the shame and feelings of exclusion and being unattractive whilst overweight...I am overweight now and it was only a few lbs ago that I was obese. I know that despite being heavy and having neglected my health and appearance for too long,I am still a beautiful, intelligent, funny, kind, amazing woman who is deserving of love and respect just as every human being is.
As long as all of the other attributes of a happy relationship are present, I don't mind a man being slightly to moderately overweight. There is a point where I have to draw the line...I will not date someone who is overweight to the point where it is endangering his health or that the danger is imminent, unless he is actively trying to transition to a healthier lifestyle and reduce his weight. I can't deal with a person who is sick, but too complacent or lazy or whatever to do what is necessary to save his own life.
Taking charge of one's health after a period of poor eating and exercise habits is something that only the individual can do, no matter how much I love a person, I cannot love them into good health and it would kikk me to watch them deteriorate when they have the power to make the necessary changes.

skinnyinnotime · March 2014

I never did and I don't think I would. I just find it really unattractive. It's not a judgement thing; I'm just not attracted to overweight guys. This doesn't mean that I couldn't love someone overweight. It would be different if something happened and my husband gained weight.

Pretty much this

Josh_lol · March 2014

I would date someone who was overweight. I'm not really active relationship-wise but if I met someone who I connected with, it probably wouldn't cross my mind.

lookinggoodkel · March 2014

i have

Its their personality and if we connect that makes me date

LeanneHarrington3 · March 2014

I do

suzyque32 · March 2014

I'm overweight but I would date me! LOL Except I'm not into girls... To each their own. No matter how thin, heavy, tall, short, whatever physical characteristics you have - some will find you attractive, and others will not. In the mean time, I'm working on getting healthy and out of the overweight category. Not to attract men, but to stick around for many more years to torture - I mean be there for- my sons

Still1Workoutatatime · March 2014

I'd much rather date someone that makes me laugh and treats me with respect who has a some extra pounds on him than someone who is super fit but treats me poorly.

pretty much sums it up, and hey if there game to workout EVEN better!

jenilla1 · March 2014

I don't have a specific weight requirement. He just needs to be attractive to me physically, emotionally and intellectually. I generally am attracted to fit, healthy people (not perfect, over-the-top fitness model types because that's a little too intense a personality for me) who share a similar lifestyle and values. If a guy had a little extra but he was a good match, I wouldn't rule him out. Being perfectly honest, though, obesity isn't attractive to me, just as I am not attractive to people who prefer a more voluptuous partner. Each to his/her own.

You can still be fit and healthy and be a little borderline overweight I think, but most guys beyond that point just don't seem to have much in common with me in terms of interests. (I'm sure there are exceptions, but I haven't seen too many.) I'm not a sit around and drink beer and watch football kind of person. I'd rather go out and hike in the mountains or go for a run instead.

I'm married to a good looking middle-aged guy who's in pretty good shape, so I don't think about dating anymore, but if my man packed on some pounds due to injury or health problems he would still be my guy, no question. I'm already hooked! You never know what's in the future and you have to be willing to adapt...I just wouldn't be too happy if he willingly chose to let himself go. I'm glad my husband is as motivated as I am to maintain our health and fitness and to stay awesome for ourselves and for each other for as long as we can.

madisonsmith1297 · March 2014

I have almost exclusively dated obese men. I do believe for me personally its more important who they are not what they look like. But I am overweight myself so I think more often similar bodies find each other. My dilemma was that while dating overweight men who were not active at all they couldn't keep up with my physical needs. So maybe i should be dating thinner men, and they can keep up with me.