Would you date someone overweight?

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  • amy8400
    amy8400 Posts: 478 Member
    I'm happily married but if I were dating...I wouldn't cross off a guy if he had a few extra pounds. If he's a wonderful person to be with, loves to be active and do things together, worships the ground I walk on...yeah, I could overlook some weight. Because right now, he'd have to overlook some weight that's on me.

    Oh wait, that's my husband of 32 years! We're both on this fitness journey together and it's been one of the best things we've done as a couple next to having 3 great kids.
  • kimosabe1
    kimosabe1 Posts: 2,467 Member
    my husband was overweight when I first met him. He has dropped 50 with my knowledge. My only real issue is water.
  • 1pandabear
    1pandabear Posts: 336 Member
    whenever chicks start saying they care about "personality" and "conversation' it just makes me LOL because it is the biggest load of BS ever….

    For some women (and men), it quite possibly is a load of BS, However, if it is a mature person instead of someone looking for eye candy and a good time in bed, conversation is a definite plus. As is personality. I'm pretty sure when I am 80, wrinkled and saggy no one will be looking at me and thinking, "Hey, what a hottie!" SO...that being said...if you are looking for long term...you better be building it on something other than someone's 6 pack abs, and nice booty. ;)

    This
  • HungryasFuark
    HungryasFuark Posts: 463 Member
    If she is overweight and confident yes ..if not then no
  • Azurite27
    Azurite27 Posts: 554 Member
    I've always preferred thinner guys but it really depends on how someone carries their weight when it comes to physical attraction. I wouldn't automatically say no to someone overweight. Overall though, a guy would need to be supportive of my new lifestyle regardless of size. Someone always wanting to go out to eat at places with only rich food choices and not being very active probably just wouldn't work.
  • Mrsallypants
    Mrsallypants Posts: 887 Member
    Overweight yes as overweight just implies a BMI of 25 to 30. It also depends on how she distributes her fat, I've dated a girl technically considered obese by BMI standards, but she looked curvy and voluptuous. Her arms weren't fat, her face wasn't fat, and her stomach wasn't huge - and she had an hour glass figure.

    Now if she has a fat face, double chin, huge stomach, and really fat arms i wouldn't date her because I wouldn't be physically attracted to her. I would however probably have sex with her after having a lot of drinks though.
  • darkrose20
    darkrose20 Posts: 1,139 Member
    Yes. I perfer cuddly teddy bear types...more specifically people who are made of muscle but let go just a bit to be a big, STRONG teddy bear. I'm currently with a thin...ish...guy, and he treats me better than all the big men I've been with combined (well, except my first, but that was my first, ya know???).

    It's not truly body size/looking yummy/whatever that I need. It truly is personality (and...erm....talent with...er...other things:blushing: ).
  • beckyboooo87x
    beckyboooo87x Posts: 173 Member
    Yeah well im ovee weight myself.. I fall for people for more who they are not there size.
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
    Now if she has a fat face, double chin, huge stomach, and really fat arms i wouldn't date her because I wouldn't be physically attracted to her. I would however probably have sex with her after having a lot of drinks though.

    How kind of you.
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    If she is overweight and confident yes ..if not then no

    I love this!
  • Mrsallypants
    Mrsallypants Posts: 887 Member
    Now if she has a fat face, double chin, huge stomach, and really fat arms i wouldn't date her because I wouldn't be physically attracted to her. I would however probably have sex with her after having a lot of drinks though.

    How kind of you.

    Yeah, those types of girls have to get me drunk to get me in bed. The thing is, fat women suck in bed.
  • darkrose20
    darkrose20 Posts: 1,139 Member
    Now if she has a fat face, double chin, huge stomach, and really fat arms i wouldn't date her because I wouldn't be physically attracted to her. I would however probably have sex with her after having a lot of drinks though.

    How kind of you.

    Yeah, those types of girls have to get me drunk to get me in bed. The thing is, fat women suck in bed.

    **shakes a fist angrily at you** I do NOT! (At least...no one's told me so.)
  • WontShareChocolate
    WontShareChocolate Posts: 107
    I prefer my men to be bigger then me, I tend to gravitate more towards personality though sweet, kind, kinky, I LOVE intelligence my dirty talk consists of discussion/debates on the impact of medical science talk dirty to me baybay ????????????.
  • bettacheckyoself
    bettacheckyoself Posts: 570
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    So true. Funny because one is more controllable than the other... I said "more" .

    And yes, there is an error in that image.
  • ATGsquats
    ATGsquats Posts: 227 Member
    Probably not
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
    I like men that are larger and stronger than me. I'm rather small and like to feel protected, and loved at all times. :)
  • HawkeyeTy
    HawkeyeTy Posts: 681 Member
    Define overweight?
  • Kat2795
    Kat2795 Posts: 8 Member
    I agree with you! Crossfit all the way!
  • lmmathis86
    lmmathis86 Posts: 223 Member
    When I met my husband he was thin....in the last 7 years he has put on some weight....I love him and still find him attractive all the same. By no means am I thin...but i'm tring. With my husband he is not do I care that he is overweight? No I just worry about his health. I want him with me for a long time.
  • DJManos
    DJManos Posts: 220
    Simply put, yes.
  • lisalsd1
    lisalsd1 Posts: 1,519 Member
    I'm not usually attracted to overweight men. I'm also not usually attracted to blondes. That's just me. It's just personal preference. I am sure there are women who are attracted to larger men and blondes.

    Although, I know for a fact that my husband likes what I have coined as "cute chubby" girls. This term probably did include me at one time! Just a personal preference thing.
  • kittykat1994
    kittykat1994 Posts: 149 Member
    I've dated guys before who have been classed as obese. That doesn't bother me as obese guys aren't always unattractive and I do like a bit of fat on guys. Even if they are really obese there still maybe something physically attractive regardless of their size.

    The limit to what I'd find attractive in a guy that is really obese is someone who can't get on with normal day to day life.

    I've never dated anyone who doesn't have brown hair and brown/blue eyes. I've dated guys of most sizes. My fiancée is pretty skinny (and I weigh more than him) and I still find him attractive as I could a large man!

    He's still taller and stronger than me, and he has broad shoulders which I love.
  • Alehmer
    Alehmer Posts: 433 Member
    My wife has been overweight to varying degrees her whole life. I think she's beautiful and never thought twice.

    Person > Waist size
  • in_the_stars
    in_the_stars Posts: 1,395 Member
    Define overweight?

    It depends on the person. Overweight as in 250 pounds or less in most cases. :)
  • WontShareChocolate
    WontShareChocolate Posts: 107
    My wife has been overweight to varying degrees her whole life. I think she's beautiful and never thought twice.

    Person > Waist size

    Love you.
  • BraveNewdGirl
    BraveNewdGirl Posts: 937 Member
    Absolutely. I've dated men and women of many different shapes and sizes. For me, attractiveness isn't really something that a measuring tape can manage. Intelligence, empathy and vitality are so, so much more important and they are not conditions of any particular physique. I won't claim that I don't judge people based upon their physical appearance, but I make a conscious effort not to draw conclusions until I've given them an opportunity to show me who they really are.
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  • crazie4lulu
    crazie4lulu Posts: 762 Member
    working in a gym atmosphere... i see men of every size... its how they act that would attract me... or make me duck and hide!!!!!
  • raven_ous
    raven_ous Posts: 223
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    So true. Funny because one is more controllable than the other... I said "more" .

    And yes, there is an error in that image.
    Yep my bad, accidentally put an extra s in loses. Still stand by the premise of the meme though, in the sense I have seen numerous threads that go on for countless pages where people state that height is the given deal breaker, particularly if the male is shorter than the female.

    OP on this thread simply asks the question "Would you date someone overweight? why or why not?" and for the few that answered no quite a few people were all to ready to jump all down their throats. Now given that who you would date is highly subjective and based on personal preference I don't see why people got so upset with these individuals unless they wanted to date the people that stated no.

    I guess when you post a question like this on a site where a large percentage of the members are trying to lose weight there are bound to be some knee jerk reactions and hurt feelings.

    BTW: I was not one of the nos I had written a different response before I posted the poorly spelled meme.

    ETA: In case anyone is curious I am not short, just find it amusing how height which is a physical attribute is an acceptable reason not to date someone but if you mention weight which is also a physical attribute people tend to get well a little more passionate.
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    Define overweight?

    It depends on the person. Overweight as in 250 pounds or less in most cases. :)

    It depends on gender as well and how the person is carrying it. Some people can technically be overweight but carry it quite well and look average. Some people can technically be obese and only look overweight. Personally, I get frustrated because I am still considered obese yet I am always told I just look overweight.

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