going dutch on a first date
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This thread makes me glad that I don't date.
I'd buy for you in a heartbeat. As long as it was happy hour and $1 beers...
Be still my heart.0 -
chivalry is dead. he should pay0
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chivalry is dead. he should pay
I suppose he should put the toilet seat down too?
Open the door for you?
Pfft.0 -
I would love to go Dutch on a first date! But the guys don't like it if I do! They just ignore my offer!0
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chivalry is dead. he should pay
I suppose he should put the toilet seat down too?
Open the door for you?
Pfft.
HAHAHAHA0 -
chivalry is dead. he should pay
I suppose he should put the toilet seat down too?
Open the door for you?
Pfft.0 -
This thread makes me glad that I don't date anybody but Cliff.
Fixed it for you.:flowerforyou:
For the OP, I pay to me it's really no big deal.
You say "let's go dutch" you could be seen as being cheap.
If I ask a lady out I'm probably into her....so paying just shows I give a (bleep)0 -
No.
This gets me sh1t with the feministy types....of which I am one. But hair, clothes, shoes, makeup....the list goes on and on. These are all things I'm expected to pay for. Most men I know had their parents paying for their clothes up until college and own 3 or 4 pairs of shoes. I think that if I'm expected to dress up to go out on dates or to the bar and I have to pay for all that sh1t, then it's not too crazy to have a few of my drinks paid for or my meal.
And I'm not going to be a b1tch. If you can't afford my rum and coke or my $7-10 meal, we probably shouldn't be dating. No scrubs.
But it's funny how the gender norm I agree with is the one where I get free sh1t. Very rarely do gender norms swing towards the ladies.
Guys are spending more on their clothes and personal hygiene these days.
So, if a guy can't afford or doesn't want to support you, that makes him a scrub?
I am saddened that so many women feel they need to put men to the test, as if blowing money on a first date somehow showed how responsible or generous he is. It just shows how flashy he is.
I still say they have to put the toilet seat down.0 -
The man should ALWAYS pay.
Always.
Now that I am married, my wife always pays but, she is the one who balances the bank account and, lets face it,, our money is all combined anyway.0 -
I'll pay if I think he's gonna put out.0
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My take: I never ask guys out, but I think the person who asks is the person who pays, whether that's guy or girl.
But as Barbellerella said, I'd be willing to pay if I thought he'd put out for me.0 -
No.
This gets me sh1t with the feministy types....of which I am one. But hair, clothes, shoes, makeup....the list goes on and on. These are all things I'm expected to pay for. Most men I know had their parents paying for their clothes up until college and own 3 or 4 pairs of shoes. I think that if I'm expected to dress up to go out on dates or to the bar and I have to pay for all that sh1t, then it's not too crazy to have a few of my drinks paid for or my meal.
And I'm not going to be a b1tch. If you can't afford my rum and coke or my $7-10 meal, we probably shouldn't be dating. No scrubs.
But it's funny how the gender norm I agree with is the one where I get free sh1t. Very rarely do gender norms swing towards the ladies.
Guys are spending more on their clothes and personal hygiene these days.
So, if a guy can't afford or doesn't want to support you, that makes him a scrub?
I am saddened that so many women feel they need to put men to the test, as if blowing money on a first date somehow showed how responsible or generous he is. It just shows how flashy he is.
I still say they have to put the toilet seat down.
I don't understand the contention that guys should have to pay for the date because a girl has to pay to look nice.
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't do my hair or my makeup or buy my clothes for anyone other than myself. I'm not doing all of these things to attract a future mate. I'm not a peacock or something (though I know the ones that get their tails all displayed are the men..) but anyway, when I dress how I do it's for me, not for anyone else.
I am rather disgusted at the thought that how women look is to solely impress men and that men should have to pay for a woman because she had to pay to get her hair done.0 -
I'll pay if I think he's gonna put out.
You really are desperate, aren't you??0 -
My take: I never ask guys out, but I think the person who asks is the person who pays, whether that's guy or girl.
But as Barbellerella said, I'd be willing to pay if I thought he'd put out for me.
I would buy for you too. As long as it's 2 for 1's. Then it's like you're getting that *kitten* for free...0 -
I'm totally fine going dutch/paying for both of us on later dates (and I do this in my current relationship) BUT when a guy asks you out for the first time, I find it MUCH more impressive/thoughtful when he pays.
If I were to ask someone out for the first time, I'd assume I'm the one paying.0 -
No.
This gets me sh1t with the feministy types....of which I am one. But hair, clothes, shoes, makeup....the list goes on and on. These are all things I'm expected to pay for. Most men I know had their parents paying for their clothes up until college and own 3 or 4 pairs of shoes. I think that if I'm expected to dress up to go out on dates or to the bar and I have to pay for all that sh1t, then it's not too crazy to have a few of my drinks paid for or my meal.
And I'm not going to be a b1tch. If you can't afford my rum and coke or my $7-10 meal, we probably shouldn't be dating. No scrubs.
But it's funny how the gender norm I agree with is the one where I get free sh1t. Very rarely do gender norms swing towards the ladies.
Guys are spending more on their clothes and personal hygiene these days.
So, if a guy can't afford or doesn't want to support you, that makes him a scrub?
I am saddened that so many women feel they need to put men to the test, as if blowing money on a first date somehow showed how responsible or generous he is. It just shows how flashy he is.
I still say they have to put the toilet seat down.
I don't understand the contention that guys should have to pay for the date because a girl has to pay to look nice.
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't do my hair or my makeup or buy my clothes for anyone other than myself. I'm not doing all of these things to attract a future mate. I'm not a peacock or something (though I know the ones that get their tails all displayed are the men..) but anyway, when I dress how I do it's for me, not for anyone else.
I am rather disgusted at the thought that how women look is to solely impress men and that men should have to pay for a woman because she had to pay to get her hair done.0 -
I'll pay if I think he's gonna put out.
You really are desperate, aren't you??0 -
Definitely don't need a guy to spend money on me to be swept off my feet!0
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No.
This gets me sh1t with the feministy types....of which I am one. But hair, clothes, shoes, makeup....the list goes on and on. These are all things I'm expected to pay for. Most men I know had their parents paying for their clothes up until college and own 3 or 4 pairs of shoes. I think that if I'm expected to dress up to go out on dates or to the bar and I have to pay for all that sh1t, then it's not too crazy to have a few of my drinks paid for or my meal.
And I'm not going to be a b1tch. If you can't afford my rum and coke or my $7-10 meal, we probably shouldn't be dating. No scrubs.
But it's funny how the gender norm I agree with is the one where I get free sh1t. Very rarely do gender norms swing towards the ladies.
Guys are spending more on their clothes and personal hygiene these days.
So, if a guy can't afford or doesn't want to support you, that makes him a scrub?
I am saddened that so many women feel they need to put men to the test, as if blowing money on a first date somehow showed how responsible or generous he is. It just shows how flashy he is.
I still say they have to put the toilet seat down.
I don't understand the contention that guys should have to pay for the date because a girl has to pay to look nice.
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't do my hair or my makeup or buy my clothes for anyone other than myself. I'm not doing all of these things to attract a future mate. I'm not a peacock or something (though I know the ones that get their tails all displayed are the men..) but anyway, when I dress how I do it's for me, not for anyone else.
I am rather disgusted at the thought that how women look is to solely impress men and that men should have to pay for a woman because she had to pay to get her hair done.
A man pays becanse that is what a man does.
If a woman has a flat tire and is about to put on the spare.. NO!!!!
A man will always do that for her.
A man will do the dirty things although the woman is totally capable of doing it herself.
That is what a man does.
And a man pays for the meal when dating.
Even if she made it perfectly clear that she isn't going to "put out" yet.
The man picks up the bill.0 -
I'll pay if I think he's gonna put out.
You really are desperate, aren't you??
I'll buy you dinner at a fancy place like Denny's AND put out...0 -
My husband unapologetically used a coupon on one of our first dates. I put out.0
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I'll pay if I think he's gonna put out.
You really are desperate, aren't you??
I'll buy you dinner at a fancy place like Denny's AND put out...0 -
I'll pay if I think he's gonna put out.
You really are desperate, aren't you??
I'll buy you dinner at a fancy place like Denny's AND put out...
This is going to be THE BEST DATE EVER.0 -
I'll pay if I think he's gonna put out.
You really are desperate, aren't you??
I'll buy you dinner at a fancy place like Denny's AND put out...0 -
No.
This gets me sh1t with the feministy types....of which I am one. But hair, clothes, shoes, makeup....the list goes on and on. These are all things I'm expected to pay for. Most men I know had their parents paying for their clothes up until college and own 3 or 4 pairs of shoes. I think that if I'm expected to dress up to go out on dates or to the bar and I have to pay for all that sh1t, then it's not too crazy to have a few of my drinks paid for or my meal.
And I'm not going to be a b1tch. If you can't afford my rum and coke or my $7-10 meal, we probably shouldn't be dating. No scrubs.
But it's funny how the gender norm I agree with is the one where I get free sh1t. Very rarely do gender norms swing towards the ladies.
Guys are spending more on their clothes and personal hygiene these days.
So, if a guy can't afford or doesn't want to support you, that makes him a scrub?
I am saddened that so many women feel they need to put men to the test, as if blowing money on a first date somehow showed how responsible or generous he is. It just shows how flashy he is.
I still say they have to put the toilet seat down.
I don't understand the contention that guys should have to pay for the date because a girl has to pay to look nice.
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't do my hair or my makeup or buy my clothes for anyone other than myself. I'm not doing all of these things to attract a future mate. I'm not a peacock or something (though I know the ones that get their tails all displayed are the men..) but anyway, when I dress how I do it's for me, not for anyone else.
I am rather disgusted at the thought that how women look is to solely impress men and that men should have to pay for a woman because she had to pay to get her hair done.
A man pays becanse that is what a man does.
If a woman has a flat tire and is about to put on the spare.. NO!!!!
A man will always do that for her.
A man will do the dirty things although the woman is totally capable of doing it herself.
That is what a man does.
And a man pays for the meal when dating.
Even if she made it perfectly clear that she isn't going to "put out" yet.
The man picks up the bill.
Ew. I would never be with a man who thought I was somehow incapable of changing my own spare, or getting myself dirty, and of paying my own way.
That is so uncharming and so unappealing.
I would appreciate a guy who offered a help, but not a man who thinks I am incapable of doing these things on my own.0 -
Ew. I would never be with a man who thought I was somehow incapable of changing my own spare, or getting myself dirty, and of paying my own way.
That is so uncharming and so unappealing.
I would appreciate a guy who offered a help, but not a man who thinks I am incapable of doing these things on my own.
I like you.0 -
Ew. I would never be with a man who thought I was somehow incapable of changing my own spare, or getting myself dirty, and of paying my own way.
That is so uncharming and so unappealing.
I would appreciate a guy who offered a help, but not a man who thinks I am incapable of doing these things on my own.
I like you.
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No.
This gets me sh1t with the feministy types....of which I am one. But hair, clothes, shoes, makeup....the list goes on and on. These are all things I'm expected to pay for. Most men I know had their parents paying for their clothes up until college and own 3 or 4 pairs of shoes. I think that if I'm expected to dress up to go out on dates or to the bar and I have to pay for all that sh1t, then it's not too crazy to have a few of my drinks paid for or my meal.
And I'm not going to be a b1tch. If you can't afford my rum and coke or my $7-10 meal, we probably shouldn't be dating. No scrubs.
But it's funny how the gender norm I agree with is the one where I get free sh1t. Very rarely do gender norms swing towards the ladies.
Guys are spending more on their clothes and personal hygiene these days.
So, if a guy can't afford or doesn't want to support you, that makes him a scrub?
I am saddened that so many women feel they need to put men to the test, as if blowing money on a first date somehow showed how responsible or generous he is. It just shows how flashy he is.
I still say they have to put the toilet seat down.
I don't understand the contention that guys should have to pay for the date because a girl has to pay to look nice.
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't do my hair or my makeup or buy my clothes for anyone other than myself. I'm not doing all of these things to attract a future mate. I'm not a peacock or something (though I know the ones that get their tails all displayed are the men..) but anyway, when I dress how I do it's for me, not for anyone else.
I am rather disgusted at the thought that how women look is to solely impress men and that men should have to pay for a woman because she had to pay to get her hair done.
A man pays becanse that is what a man does.
If a woman has a flat tire and is about to put on the spare.. NO!!!!
A man will always do that for her.
A man will do the dirty things although the woman is totally capable of doing it herself.
That is what a man does.
And a man pays for the meal when dating.
Even if she made it perfectly clear that she isn't going to "put out" yet.
The man picks up the bill.
If I haven't changed my tire by the time you realize it is flat, it is because a lug nut has seized and it requires power tools. But a big thanks to the man who broke my tire iron trying to prove that he could do it.0 -
No.
This gets me sh1t with the feministy types....of which I am one. But hair, clothes, shoes, makeup....the list goes on and on. These are all things I'm expected to pay for. Most men I know had their parents paying for their clothes up until college and own 3 or 4 pairs of shoes. I think that if I'm expected to dress up to go out on dates or to the bar and I have to pay for all that sh1t, then it's not too crazy to have a few of my drinks paid for or my meal.
And I'm not going to be a b1tch. If you can't afford my rum and coke or my $7-10 meal, we probably shouldn't be dating. No scrubs.
But it's funny how the gender norm I agree with is the one where I get free sh1t. Very rarely do gender norms swing towards the ladies.
Guys are spending more on their clothes and personal hygiene these days.
So, if a guy can't afford or doesn't want to support you, that makes him a scrub?
I am saddened that so many women feel they need to put men to the test, as if blowing money on a first date somehow showed how responsible or generous he is. It just shows how flashy he is.
I still say they have to put the toilet seat down.
I don't understand the contention that guys should have to pay for the date because a girl has to pay to look nice.
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't do my hair or my makeup or buy my clothes for anyone other than myself. I'm not doing all of these things to attract a future mate. I'm not a peacock or something (though I know the ones that get their tails all displayed are the men..) but anyway, when I dress how I do it's for me, not for anyone else.
I am rather disgusted at the thought that how women look is to solely impress men and that men should have to pay for a woman because she had to pay to get her hair done.
A man pays becanse that is what a man does.
If a woman has a flat tire and is about to put on the spare.. NO!!!!
A man will always do that for her.
A man will do the dirty things although the woman is totally capable of doing it herself.
That is what a man does.
And a man pays for the meal when dating.
Even if she made it perfectly clear that she isn't going to "put out" yet.
The man picks up the bill.
Ew. I would never be with a man who thought I was somehow incapable of changing my own spare, or getting myself dirty, and of paying my own way.
That is so uncharming and so unappealing.
I would appreciate a guy who offered a help, but not a man who thinks I am incapable of doing these things on my own.
"A man will do the dirty things although the woman is totally capable of doing it herself"
I suppose I am still just a bit old fashoned.
But, the "charm" of it has yet to fail me.
Well, I wouldn't know anymore since I have been off the market for over 14 years but, it worked in the past.0 -
No.
This gets me sh1t with the feministy types....of which I am one. But hair, clothes, shoes, makeup....the list goes on and on. These are all things I'm expected to pay for. Most men I know had their parents paying for their clothes up until college and own 3 or 4 pairs of shoes. I think that if I'm expected to dress up to go out on dates or to the bar and I have to pay for all that sh1t, then it's not too crazy to have a few of my drinks paid for or my meal.
And I'm not going to be a b1tch. If you can't afford my rum and coke or my $7-10 meal, we probably shouldn't be dating. No scrubs.
But it's funny how the gender norm I agree with is the one where I get free sh1t. Very rarely do gender norms swing towards the ladies.
Guys are spending more on their clothes and personal hygiene these days.
So, if a guy can't afford or doesn't want to support you, that makes him a scrub?
I am saddened that so many women feel they need to put men to the test, as if blowing money on a first date somehow showed how responsible or generous he is. It just shows how flashy he is.
I still say they have to put the toilet seat down.
I don't understand the contention that guys should have to pay for the date because a girl has to pay to look nice.
I don't know about anyone else, but I don't do my hair or my makeup or buy my clothes for anyone other than myself. I'm not doing all of these things to attract a future mate. I'm not a peacock or something (though I know the ones that get their tails all displayed are the men..) but anyway, when I dress how I do it's for me, not for anyone else.
I am rather disgusted at the thought that how women look is to solely impress men and that men should have to pay for a woman because she had to pay to get her hair done.
A man pays becanse that is what a man does.
If a woman has a flat tire and is about to put on the spare.. NO!!!!
A man will always do that for her.
A man will do the dirty things although the woman is totally capable of doing it herself.
That is what a man does.
And a man pays for the meal when dating.
Even if she made it perfectly clear that she isn't going to "put out" yet.
The man picks up the bill.
If I haven't changed my tire by the time you realize it is flat, it is because a lug nut has seized and it requires power tools. But a big thanks to the man who broke my tire iron trying to prove that he could do it.
Seriously, bro. I got this. I'll change my own damn tire, but thanks.0
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