Embarrassed to go jogging because of pervs.

grammysboy

I used to know where your coming from and it was annoying as Hell. I just ignored it. I never understood why men do that? I mean has it ever worked in their favor? I don't seem to have that problem anymore and I like to just blame it on the fact I moved to a yuppy neighborhood, or the fact that I jog with my large hairy husband. Just wear headphones and ignore it ( or wear a t-shirt that says "I was once man" should help some. :laugh:

As one of the resident "old" guys here, I thought this was one of the best responses I've seen in this thread. I have to admit I DO notice when a pretty girl jogs by and I have occasionally whistled or said something like, "nice gait." But in reality, I'm actually pretty harmless. I would probably keep completely still if I saw a woman wearing that shirt! lol

artex1024

Just a note about earbuds, if you're concerned about safety, don't use them. We had an incident in Galveston where a a guy (one I used to work with actually) tried to rape two joggers. They didn't hear him coming because they were running with headphones in. Yes, it blocks out the honks, but it also blocks out any warning sounds of someone sneaking up on you.

SurfyFriend

I wear a big black hoodie and try to flatten my boobs so I look like a boy -.-'
Try to tuck my hair in a bun or down the back of my shirt

InnerConflict

I wear a big black hoodie and try to flatten my boobs so I look like a boy -.-'
Try to tuck my hair in a bun or down the back of my shirt

And get hollars from the Cougars! :laugh:

cheexy85

welcome to being a relatively hot woman.

i dealt with this **** walking home all four years of high school. a couple times guys would stop and try to get me in their car.

my trick? if i think someone is checking me out, i start picking my nose.

I think it is very irresponsible of you to share your nose picking trick without proper disclosures. An amateur nose picker could easily poke their brain out while jogging.

^^ this cracked me up!

ksmiley412

Am I the only woman of a certain age who finds her ego boosted by a whistle, hoot or whatever? Doesn't matter who it's from - if they can make the effort to do it you must be doing something right :-)

I am with you its nice to think people find you attractive as long as there not yelling derogatory things at you whats the harm.

RGv2

I run in daylight on busy roads with earbuds in. I crank the music loud enough so that when I don't care to be honked or howled at, I don't hear it.

I don't think running on busy roads with music loud enough to not hear what's going on is the safest thing in the world.

LoosingMyLast15

I'd quite like to start running outside, but I'd have to go on busy roads with other people and cars. I'm scared that people are going to take the piss. I already get honked at by pervy old men and stuff randomly while walking sometimes. Ugh, it just creeps me out and makes me angry. Unless I wake up super early and go while not many people are around I don't see a way to avoid this... help!

take it as a compliment. LOL! except for them pissing, ummmm i HOPE you are not using this word literally that would be really gross.

spicy618

I'm sorry those men make you feel uncomfortable. :flowerforyou:

I guess being born and raised in Bklyn, it would bother me if i went out and wasn't noticed. :laugh:

Unless, the car stops or i see the same car more than once, I don't think much of it. I always try Not to face traffic, so i don't look at the persons face, just hear them. Also having my earbuds, shades and a hat keeps me pretty secure. :flowerforyou:

I agree with the suggestions to get the earbuds or a dog.

Don't let other peoples actions take away something you enjoy. :flowerforyou:

nonstopper

Go To The TRACK! Best place to free run. The only people there are ones wanting to walk or run as well. and Nobodys messes with people at the track. I would run down the roads but my wife wont let me because i cant stop the women from honking at me . Those pervy women haha!:glasses:

InnerConflict

When you get older it is nice to be noticed, but the Op is a teenager. I'm sure you remember how overwhelming the amount of "attention" is as a teenager.

BP, I am not trying to make a hobby out of taking an opposing stance as you. In this case, my experience as a teenager was much different. There is a main road where I grew up where the teenage girls liked to walk in order to get attention. If you honked, they smiled and waved. And I met a couple of my past girlfriends that way. Pull over, exchange numbers, etc.

I just don't view this is a big epidemic. The issue is with the OP's self esteem. Not with guy's honking their horn.

BeachIron

I used to know where your coming from and it was annoying as Hell. I just ignored it. I never understood why men do that? I mean has it ever worked in their favor?

Have you ever been to Florida during spring break? On a college campus? At a car show or a bike meet? To the gym? Hung out at a bar?

Yes, talking to women works . . .

donald149

Most of the running stores have daily or weekly group runs. Try joining one of those.

danimalkeys

I used to know where your coming from and it was annoying as Hell. I just ignored it. I never understood why men do that? I mean has it ever worked in their favor?

Have you ever been to Florida during spring break? On a college campus? At a car show or a bike meet? To the gym? Hung out at a bar?

Yes, talking to women works . . .

talking works. Making kissy noises, grunting, commenting on "assets", telling a woman what you'd like to do to her? probably not so much.

BeachIron

I used to know where your coming from and it was annoying as Hell. I just ignored it. I never understood why men do that? I mean has it ever worked in their favor?

Have you ever been to Florida during spring break? On a college campus? At a car show or a bike meet? To the gym? Hung out at a bar?

Yes, talking to women works . . .

talking works. Making kissy noises, grunting, commenting on "assets", telling a woman what you'd like to do to her? probably not so much.

Yep. You've never been to spring break . . .

I'm not condoning the behavior, but it clearly works.

InnerConflict

I used to know where your coming from and it was annoying as Hell. I just ignored it. I never understood why men do that? I mean has it ever worked in their favor?

Have you ever been to Florida during spring break? On a college campus? At a car show or a bike meet? To the gym? Hung out at a bar?

Yes, talking to women works . . .

talking works. Making kissy noises, grunting, commenting on "assets", telling a woman what you'd like to do to her? probably not so much.

Exactly what you do mean by it working in their favor anyway? If they are driving by and not stopping, what do you think they are trying to gain?

And I didn't see the post where the OP detailed the "pervy" things she hears.

smantha32

I'd quite like to start running outside, but I'd have to go on busy roads with other people and cars. I'm scared that people are going to take the piss. I already get honked at by pervy old men and stuff randomly while walking sometimes. Ugh, it just creeps me out and makes me angry. Unless I wake up super early and go while not many people are around I don't see a way to avoid this... help!

Yeah I walk/jog outside in the middle of the night for mostly these reasons.

I think I'd be terrified jogging at night!

It's quiet at night where i am. No people out, and little traffic.

I just have to watch out for big dogs. There tends to be several running loose. And I can't turn my music up loud. I actually had a dog try to sneak up on me from behind. He was running up on me really quietly. I heard his toenails clicking on the pavement. But If I had my headphones on loud he might have bitten me.
I carry mace for that, but so far just yelling at them makes them run away.

But no pervs! lol

FromHereOnOut

I used to know where your coming from and it was annoying as Hell. I just ignored it. I never understood why men do that? I mean has it ever worked in their favor? I don't seem to have that problem anymore and I like to just blame it on the fact I moved to a yuppy neighborhood, or the fact that I jog with my large hairy husband. Just wear headphones and ignore it ( or wear a t-shirt that says "I was once man" should help some. :laugh:

I would probably keep completely still if I saw a woman wearing that shirt! lol

Guess the shirt would work.

Try something more clever, like:


Surgery Made Me A Woman
But Running Made Me HOT!

:laugh:

smantha32

I've been cat called by a group of women before. They weren't at a construction site they were in a limo celebrating something I can only assume to be a bachelorette party. So it really does go both ways. This isn't a male vs. female thing.

Also since you brought up entitlement what makes you the voice for all other women?

Oh please.

A guy being catcalled by a group of women has 100% never had to worry about those women dragging him off the street, throwing him into a van and gang raping him.

No man has ever had to fear for his safety by women shouting something at him in the street. Unless she was armed, or trying to drive over him, which is far less likely.

:huh:

InnerConflict

I've been cat called by a group of women before. They weren't at a construction site they were in a limo celebrating something I can only assume to be a bachelorette party. So it really does go both ways. This isn't a male vs. female thing.

Also since you brought up entitlement what makes you the voice for all other women?

Oh please.

A guy being catcalled by a group of women has 100% never had to worry about those women dragging him off the street, throwing him into a van and gang raping him.

No man has ever had to fear for his safety by women shouting something at him in the street. Unless she was armed, or trying to drive over him, which is far less likely.

:huh:

"Man Sexually Assaulted By Four Women"

BeachIron

I've been cat called by a group of women before. They weren't at a construction site they were in a limo celebrating something I can only assume to be a bachelorette party. So it really does go both ways. This isn't a male vs. female thing.

Also since you brought up entitlement what makes you the voice for all other women?

Oh please.

A guy being catcalled by a group of women has 100% never had to worry about those women dragging him off the street, throwing him into a van and gang raping him.

No man has ever had to fear for his safety by women shouting something at him in the street. Unless she was armed, or trying to drive over him, which is far less likely.

:huh:

But, but, my life is so much harder than yours!!!!!! :sad: :sad: :sad:

JuliaLee67

I run through an extensive hospital zone (a city hospital and lots of satellite doctor's offices and other medical buildings) that's spread out over a few blocks, with several busy streets I need to cross on the route. I was standing on the curb waiting for the light to change and a guy pulled up in a car and said "Ooooh gurl, where you goin'?" and I said, "To the VD clinic...you?" He drove off. :happy:

Don't be embarrassed about weirdos yelling things at you, OP. Just be aware of your surroundings and enjoy your workout.

Jchambers1130

Might be that same perv that helps call 911 when you break your ankle running. Chill out, a honk isn't going to kill you.

likitisplit

You could balloon up to 300lbs they dont whistle at you anymore and you're pretty much safe to go down any dark alley you want. Fat is a great defensive armor. I went from a scared eleven year old (pervy old men whistling at a child :mad: ) to a confident old obese woman thanks to fat.

Fat women get raped too.

BinaryPulsar

When you get older it is nice to be noticed, but the Op is a teenager. I'm sure you remember how overwhelming the amount of "attention" is as a teenager.

BP, I am not trying to make a hobby out of taking an opposing stance as you. In this case, my experience as a teenager was much different. There is a main road where I grew up where the teenage girls liked to walk in order to get attention. If you honked, they smiled and waved. And I met a couple of my past girlfriends that way. Pull over, exchange numbers, etc.

I just don't view this is a big epidemic. The issue is with the OP's self esteem. Not with guy's honking their horn.

I can see it being an issue with the Op's self esteem also. She has the feelings and I hope she can find a way to work past them and not have it hold her back. I think that self defense would help with her comfort and confidence, even if she (hopefully) never has to use it. I think it's better to take self-defense than to hide. I am a rape survivor, but I still have not let that cause me to be fearful.

CassandraBurgos83

I'm just embarrassed bc I suck so terribly bad at jogging not bc of "Pervs"..... Besides pervs are EVERYWHERE and not always noticeable. Happy Jogging

Jchambers1130

You could balloon up to 300lbs they dont whistle at you anymore and you're pretty much safe to go down any dark alley you want. Fat is a great defensive armor. I went from a scared eleven year old (pervy old men whistling at a child :mad: ) to a confident old obese woman thanks to fat.

Fat women get raped too.

Come on i'm at work I can't laugh that loud...

thisgirlhere

Running whilst listening to music seems really dangerous to me. Am I the only person who would worry about not hearing a kidnapper van screech up behind me to take me away?

I say just ignore them. Might make them feel stupid if you ignore them.

InnerConflict

When you get older it is nice to be noticed, but the Op is a teenager. I'm sure you remember how overwhelming the amount of "attention" is as a teenager.

BP, I am not trying to make a hobby out of taking an opposing stance as you. In this case, my experience as a teenager was much different. There is a main road where I grew up where the teenage girls liked to walk in order to get attention. If you honked, they smiled and waved. And I met a couple of my past girlfriends that way. Pull over, exchange numbers, etc.

I just don't view this is a big epidemic. The issue is with the OP's self esteem. Not with guy's honking their horn.

I can see it being an issue with the Op's self esteem also. She has the feelings and I hope she can find a way to work past them and not have it hold her back. I think that self defense would help with her comfort and confidence, even if she (hopefully) never has to use it.

I agree with you. I saw a post earlier where someone questioned how dad's would feel about this happening to their daughters. I would tell my daughter if someone honks at her, to take it as a compliment. If someone says something crude, just ignore it and continue her jog. If someone stops to harrass her, use whatever martial arts move she deems appropriate.

MireyGal76

wow... started at page one... scared to run because someone may whistle... to this page... where attractive female will be yanked off the path and gang raped. In a van no less. WOW

Running in a secluded place where no one will cat call is a heck of a lot more dangerous than running in a well lit, highly traveled area. Consider each cat call as to a validation that you're doing ok.

Or put in your earphones, do your thing, and don't even look at the people passing by.