it's 2013, why are women playing mother to their husbands?

My husband can not cook at all and I can guarantee you that he has no desire to ever learn how! If I don't feel like cooking, he grabs the jar of peanut butter and a spoon. Or a bowl of cereal. Or a microwaveable. Whatever, it doesn't bother me so I'm not sure why it bothers you. :shrug:


ETA: I grew up in a family where my dad was the WAY better cook and my brothers learned to use the stove by age 7. I'm not in the dark ages by any means, I just happen to have a husband who can't even boil an egg without tragic results! :P

Who are you even directing this toward?

My husband does all the cooking in our house. He loves to cook and I hate it.

I'm going to assume you don't have kids and you're not married.

I do all the cooking because I love to cook\!

Last time my dearly beloved tried to boil water, he started a fire. I'd prefer he not try again.

lol! Yep!

my personal opinion is that yes famnily should eat what is madde for them just out of pure respect! however,im very much a shovenist.lol i think the wife should take care of her hubby and chidren by preparing meals.if shes able.

My husband can cook. His mother-not so much. She didn't like cooking, but fed them enough to grow up on. I love to cook. I would rather eat my cooking than his. I cook, he cleans. If I don't cook, he can cook for himself or he can eat something not cooked. At lunch, we each cook our own. He cooks breakfast for himself since I don't eat brreakfast. If we have guests, I cook breakfast and he eats whatever I cook for them.

I guess it's complicate around here, LOL! When my kids were growing up, I cooked one meal for evceryone. Whoever wanted to eat it, fine. If not, they were free to eat elsewhere. Nobody was coddled at my house, except (according to my children) the dogs and the cat. When my Dad was alive and came to visit, I cooked lasagne for him by request. My mother cooked every day for him. He could open a can of Vienna sausages. His second wife purchased his favorite tv dinners. I'm not sure which of them used the microwave to hot up the food.

Lots of ways to work it.

I agree with you from a personal standpoint, about my life and my relationship goals.

I don't agree with starting threads just to judge other people's relationships. I think everyone can make their own choices about who does what in relationships. Judging gender roles for others based on your own preconceived notions is wrong.

Oh, and hes in the military on top of all that!

Thank you for your's and your husband's service.

Who are you even directing this toward?

I think I know a situation that this is directed at. My sister makes food for her and her husband. She also makes something different for her two boys who are 6 and 3 (mostly chicken strips or some variation) and sometimes a different meal for her and her husband.

She is a stay at home mom and pretty much does all of the family cooking and care.

My opinion? Quite accommodating to both kids and spouse. The kids need to be introduced to new foods or they will never find anything that they like. That is under mom's control as she is the one cooking for them. As far as her husband, she needs to tell him what she is planning on making. Sure, be somewhat considerate, but he's a grown man and shouldn't expect her to make whatever he wants whenever he wants it. It is downright sad.

My wife and I mostly cook separate. We have enough differences in what we like to eat that it makes sense. She will tell me though, "I'm making swordfish tomorrow so you are on your own." It works amazingly well.