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  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    am i supposed to gaf if you want my reply? did i imply that at some point? thanks for your "permission", but its not needed :)

    OMG. Please keep posting. You're cracking me up.

    Why so angry?

    Best part is you are both trying to make the same point.....

    yes, i was trying to make the same point... thats why her comment made no sense, but, whatever...
    What? Just ... what?

    LMAO
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
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    am i supposed to gaf if you want my reply? did i imply that at some point? thanks for your "permission", but its not needed :)

    OMG. Please keep posting. You're cracking me up.

    Why so angry?

    Best part is you are both trying to make the same point.....

    Both saying the same thing...

    ...except one interjected awkwardly and is doing it much more angrily than the other.


    This thread continues to deliver.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    Or even better:

    Me to Poster A: "The sky is not green, it's blue."

    Poster B to me: "You're wrong. The sky is BLUE!"

    Me to Poster B: "I wasn't talking to you."

    Poster B: "I can reply to whatever I want!"

    I needed this laugh.
  • KatWood
    KatWood Posts: 1,135 Member
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    First thoughts were that the woman in your story probably didn't think about how her words could be construed. Then I read your replies and I have a few things to say:

    - One, well done on your success, and your self confidence in your achievement is awesome.
    - Two, even in your "before" pic you looked good
    - Three, my favourite pic of yours is the clubscene one
    - Four, you do indeed seem to be graciously accepting all comments geared at saying how awful/jealous etc the other person it is, but getting incredibly touchy any time anyone else expresses an alternate point of view. Which means now I've put that out there I'll probably get flamed or told you don't want my opinion. To be honest, I think people are going to be more judgemental of your attitude than your ribs

    I agree with this 100%. I don't think the woman in the story meant any harm and may have been expressing concern (whether misplaced or not) that the OP may be a bit too small now. In my unwanted opinion the OP does look a bit underweight now but if she feels good and her doctor say she is healthy then who am I to judge based simply on a few photos. She has obviously worked hard and feels great. So congrats to her for her success. Anyone who is posting on here should expect and welcome both comments supporting his or her point of view and criticism. In general, people are not posting these comments to be offensive, they truly care about the health and well being of their fellow members.
  • adorable_aly
    adorable_aly Posts: 398 Member
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    haha such an entertaining thread!
  • action_figure
    action_figure Posts: 511 Member
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    Hey, I think you did a great job with your weight. You're the only one here who really knows if you're at your healthiest. I mean, you are at the bottom range of healthy BMI. You are very lean. And you're strong. The way to know if you have enough fat is to look at how you function. Is your hair brittle, is your skin dry and thin and problematic? Are you still menstruating? (Note, I DO NOT WANT TO KNOW THE ANSWERS TO THESE QUESTIONS! They're just for you.) If all the things that are mediated by fat in your body are working fine, then you're fine. As you've said, people have different body types. I think it's natural though for people to worry about a beautiful woman who may be affected by the negative messages our culture sends out all the time. I mean, let's face it, even supermodels get airbrushed thinner, and have their skin enhanced, etc. etc. etc. No one is deemed "pretty enough" to grace the pages of a magazine unretouched, and even Cindy Crawford is quoted as saying "I wish *I* looked like Cindy Crawford." We live in a sick culture, and no matter where you are on that continuum of body types, people are going to have stuff to say. I do think most of it has been coming from a place of concern though, not hate.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,565 Member
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    Maybe she doesn't like having attractive competition in the office? :P
    Lol, this. Women are strange like that. Men just buy more toys.

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  • RGv2
    RGv2 Posts: 5,789 Member
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    am i supposed to gaf if you want my reply? did i imply that at some point? thanks for your "permission", but its not needed :)

    OMG. Please keep posting. You're cracking me up.

    Why so angry?

    Best part is you are both trying to make the same point.....

    Both saying the same thing...

    ...except one interjected awkwardly and is doing it much more angrily than the other.


    This thread continues to deliver.

    thread-delivers.jpg

    Yep...
  • Morwen1969
    Morwen1969 Posts: 11
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    Think of it this way, dear. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Strange, isn't it, how the beholder tends to be a tad overcritical if the beholder is yourself? This woman, who saw you at 200 lbs and said you looked beautiful, obviously saw something you missed. This isn't to say you didn't still need to lose the weight. That's only to say she saw something beautiful in you. Isn't that wonderful? My sister and I do this exact same thing to ourselves, so what we do is, whenever we happen to pass a mirror and the thought, "who is that ugly person?" crosses our minds, we will back up and look again until we find at least one beautiful thing about the face looking back at us. Personally, and not meaning to boast here, I'm fond of my eyes and my smile. I think they are what makes my face beautiful, even at 300+ pounds. They will still be what makes me beautiful when I reach my goal weight. So, I challenge you. Drag out that picture again when you have a private moment and look at it. What is there about that person that's beautiful, even if she's overweight? There must be something.

    Also, and this is just a suggestion, go to that coworker who said you were beautiful at 200 lbs and thank her. People who see the beauty in others are so rare nowadays. It's a real sadness.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    am i supposed to gaf if you want my reply? did i imply that at some point? thanks for your "permission", but its not needed :)

    OMG. Please keep posting. You're cracking me up.

    Why so angry?

    Best part is you are both trying to make the same point.....

    Both saying the same thing...

    ...except one interjected awkwardly and is doing it much more angrily than the other.


    This thread continues to deliver.

    thread-delivers.jpg

    Yep...
    Is that car from Krypton?
  • CarmenSRT
    CarmenSRT Posts: 843 Member
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    Weight loss can make you look older - facially. It happens to me, and looking at your pics it has that effect on you as well. People notice that and make an unfavorable comparison overall. If you're happy with how you look now then someone else having a different opinion should roll off your back like water.
  • runningagainstmyself
    runningagainstmyself Posts: 616 Member
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    You look fabulous. I think that what that woman said stems from jealousy, pure and simple.
  • RoadsterGirlie
    RoadsterGirlie Posts: 1,195 Member
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    Hey, I think you did a great job with your weight. You're the only one here who really knows if you're at your healthiest. I mean, you are at the bottom range of healthy BMI. You are very lean. And you're strong. The way to know if you have enough fat is to look at how you function. Is your hair brittle, is your skin dry and thin and problematic? Are you still menstruating? (Note, I DO NOT WANT TO KNOW THE ANSWERS TO THESE QUESTIONS! They're just for you.) If all the things that are mediated by fat in your body are working fine, then you're fine. As you've said, people have different body types. I think it's natural though for people to worry about a beautiful woman who may be affected by the negative messages our culture sends out all the time. I mean, let's face it, even supermodels get airbrushed thinner, and have their skin enhanced, etc. etc. etc. No one is deemed "pretty enough" to grace the pages of a magazine unretouched, and even Cindy Crawford is quoted as saying "I wish *I* looked like Cindy Crawford." We live in a sick culture, and no matter where you are on that continuum of body types, people are going to have stuff to say. I do think most of it has been coming from a place of concern though, not hate.

    Completely agreed 100%. Even the plus sized models in Dove's "real beauty" campaign are airbrushed to hell. I have no problem with companies using fit or thin models to sell clothes. After all, those are real women too. However, when they have to airbrush somebody who already looks fantastic, what kind of message is that sending?

    It's not just the media, but society and people in general. Damned if you are heavy, and damned if you are thin. If you have an hour glass figure, then your hips are too wide. If you have a small butt and no hips, then you are built like a little boy.

    Men may experience this a bit as well, but not to the extent that women do.
  • segwayne
    segwayne Posts: 52 Member
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    @RoadsterGirli

    How's that saying go? "Haters gonna hate" ?? :-)

    What's important is how you feel, not what someone who didn't know you back then thinks...Nothing else matters.

    Wayne
  • IamDIVAlicious
    IamDIVAlicious Posts: 19
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    All that matters is how you feel about you know. No one else's opinion does. She was rude to say that though. It's very presumptuous. Good job on your journey!
  • goodnamegone
    goodnamegone Posts: 237
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    Wow she sure wins the prize for stupid things to say so someone. I'm sure you looked beautiful when you were overweight but you also look amazing now and more importantly you FEEL better.

    People are weird, they can say the most STUPID things and have no clue about it. What can I say? Now you know who you're working with. I'm sure she meant no harm, one of those people that crashes through life with no idea ha ha ha.

    You know better than her, do you feel better? Do you think you look better? Yes you do.
  • fit4lifeUcan2
    fit4lifeUcan2 Posts: 1,458 Member
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    It's probably true. I find when some people lose weight their face changes, and not for the good. I liked my face a little better with the cheek chub.

    ^^ My thoughts as well. Could be your face looks a bit saggy in person now? or gaunt? Your BMI is underweight. Yes I know you said your not that your fine etc. etc. Just going by your profile and the info on BMI for your height and weight says your underweight. So maybe she is seeing something you don't?

    I'm 2 inches taller than you and when I was 130 which is just 3 pounds more than you are.. I looked sickly. I had to gain weight to get pregnant.
  • ekball
    ekball Posts: 12 Member
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    Weight loss can make you look older - facially. It happens to me, and looking at your pics it has that effect on you as well.

    *facepalm*
  • RoadsterGirlie
    RoadsterGirlie Posts: 1,195 Member
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    Weight loss can make you look older - facially. It happens to me, and looking at your pics it has that effect on you as well.

    *facepalm*

    No kidding. Things that people say to each other on the Internet they would never say to each other in real life.
  • supergirl6
    supergirl6 Posts: 224 Member
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    Think of it this way, dear. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Strange, isn't it, how the beholder tends to be a tad overcritical if the beholder is yourself? This woman, who saw you at 200 lbs and said you looked beautiful, obviously saw something you missed. This isn't to say you didn't still need to lose the weight. That's only to say she saw something beautiful in you. Isn't that wonderful? My sister and I do this exact same thing to ourselves, so what we do is, whenever we happen to pass a mirror and the thought, "who is that ugly person?" crosses our minds, we will back up and look again until we find at least one beautiful thing about the face looking back at us. Personally, and not meaning to boast here, I'm fond of my eyes and my smile. I think they are what makes my face beautiful, even at 300+ pounds. They will still be what makes me beautiful when I reach my goal weight. So, I challenge you. Drag out that picture again when you have a private moment and look at it. What is there about that person that's beautiful, even if she's overweight? There must be something.

    Also, and this is just a suggestion, go to that coworker who said you were beautiful at 200 lbs and thank her. People who see the beauty in others are so rare nowadays. It's a real sadness.

    This. Well said and beautiful too.

    Also, I think it is important at this point in this thread to remember that women are beautiful at all shapes and sizes and should never be made to feel they aren't or that they need more work before they can be called beautiful. We should be celebrating accomplishments and congratulating each other on how far we've come, not what we could be when we finally hit goal weight.

    And someone can still be fit even though they still have weight to lose. "Fit" is not an end destination, it's a journey with a constantly moving finish line. A 200 lb girl can still be strong and tough and beautiful and able to run half marathons and lift heavy and keep up. It sounds to me like your coworker was just recognizing that in you. That you were always beautiful, not just now that you've lost all the weight.
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