my hubby paying me to lose weight

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  • NRSPAM
    NRSPAM Posts: 961 Member
    But isn't your husband's money already yours?
    Cause if not.. girl, we need to have a talk!

    Lol. Yep!
  • TheFitHooker
    TheFitHooker Posts: 3,357 Member
    why do people get so grumpy on these forums? low blood sugar dieters, perhaps? ;P

    I'm not sure if you're speaking about the folks talking about how kinda creepy it is, because honestly it is, my money and his money is our money in my marriage. However, I can see it motivating to lose weight, "Oh I can make an extra $10.00 to go buy those cute yoga pants if I lose 10 lbs, or whatever, it depends on how it was offered. I think I'd be a bit offended if my husband offered to pay me to lose weight though, his mom though, yeah she I expected it from. Now if the story went like she wanted to lose weight and kept on hassling him about it and ranting to him about wanting to lose weight, and he says "Tell you what, if this will motivate you, you can have this amount of money for spending if you lose this amount of weight and so on." That would be different, I mean after all, I kept ranting to him about it, and he is just trying to help me. In a guys mind I would assume he would just think he's helping.
  • J_Tap
    J_Tap Posts: 2
    That's generous of him! I wish my hubby would pay me for each pound, but our budget is tight. We are treating ourselves though for motivation. Last week I got a pair of hand weights.

    Next week, I plan to buy a scale and see how much we've lost! We've been judging by how loose our pants are. haha.
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,406 Member
    ....I dont know how I feel about this.
  • Rachelc1992
    Rachelc1992 Posts: 246 Member
    I think it's great!!! And don't worry about the negative people, they won't be on your shopping trip at the end!! Go for it. Xx
  • Allterrain_Lady
    Allterrain_Lady Posts: 421 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Actually I find this offensive. My boyfriend would in real trouble if he even tried to offer something like that.
  • gettinfitaus
    gettinfitaus Posts: 161 Member
    My DP is offering incentives in the form of a few new tops or a new dress from my current fav shop each time I go down a size. Mind you some money for each kg? That would be nice too!
  • gmom316
    gmom316 Posts: 244
    Had the page saved from last night and couldn't figure out where everyone was...haha.

    Good Morning to all,

    Because I don't like to share my peaceful space as much as my exercise equipment during my time, I was up at 5 and am done with the treadmill. HAH!

    Have to get my boy up and ready for school. Can't wait to feel the below zero temps. Mornings like this when I miss living in Florida. Thankful for down.

    Catch up with ya'll in a bit.

    Oops wrong thread...
  • snappled
    snappled Posts: 48
    I hope all you women doing this also have the hubby losing weight or not if he's already in shape.
  • Erindevon1
    Erindevon1 Posts: 22
    Lucky you.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    Just wanted to say I don't find this creepy but then my husband and I don't share money (what? No joint funds/accounts? Scandalous!) I give him money for my part of the bills and we occasionally split the bill when we go out but beyond that his money is his and mine is mine. So if he gave me money for losing weight well...extra bonus cash is always nice.

    That's just my household though.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    Just wanted to say I don't find this creepy but then my husband and I don't share money (what? No joint funds/accounts? Scandalous!) I give him money for my part of the bills and we occasionally split the bill when we go out but beyond that his money is his and mine is mine. So if he gave me money for losing weight well...extra bonus cash is always nice.

    That's just my household though.

    How dare you everyone's household must be run the exact same, to deviate from this will probably bring about the apocalypse.
  • KnM0107
    KnM0107 Posts: 355 Member
    why do people get so grumpy on these forums? low blood sugar dieters, perhaps? ;P

    I'm not sure if you're speaking about the folks talking about how kinda creepy it is, because honestly it is, my money and his money is our money in my marriage. However, I can see it motivating to lose weight, "Oh I can make an extra $10.00 to go buy those cute yoga pants if I lose 10 lbs, or whatever, it depends on how it was offered. I think I'd be a bit offended if my husband offered to pay me to lose weight though, his mom though, yeah she I expected it from. Now if the story went like she wanted to lose weight and kept on hassling him about it and ranting to him about wanting to lose weight, and he says "Tell you what, if this will motivate you, you can have this amount of money for spending if you lose this amount of weight and so on." That would be different, I mean after all, I kept ranting to him about it, and he is just trying to help me. In a guys mind I would assume he would just think he's helping.

    God forbid someone run their household different from the way you run yours. I find it sad that you think it would be better if she nagged him into it.
  • jonnythan
    jonnythan Posts: 10,161 Member
    why do people get so grumpy on these forums? low blood sugar dieters, perhaps? ;P

    I'm not sure if you're speaking about the folks talking about how kinda creepy it is, because honestly it is, my money and his money is our money in my marriage. However, I can see it motivating to lose weight, "Oh I can make an extra $10.00 to go buy those cute yoga pants if I lose 10 lbs, or whatever, it depends on how it was offered. I think I'd be a bit offended if my husband offered to pay me to lose weight though, his mom though, yeah she I expected it from. Now if the story went like she wanted to lose weight and kept on hassling him about it and ranting to him about wanting to lose weight, and he says "Tell you what, if this will motivate you, you can have this amount of money for spending if you lose this amount of weight and so on." That would be different, I mean after all, I kept ranting to him about it, and he is just trying to help me. In a guys mind I would assume he would just think he's helping.

    God forbid someone run their household different from the way you run yours. I find it sad that you think it would be better if she nagged him into it.

    My problem with it is not how they run their household, but that the pair is entering (or, more realistically, revealing) a control relationship. Paying someone to perform some function is inherently about control, and I think that's something that has no place in a marriage. I find it degrading.
  • TheFitHooker
    TheFitHooker Posts: 3,357 Member
    why do people get so grumpy on these forums? low blood sugar dieters, perhaps? ;P

    I'm not sure if you're speaking about the folks talking about how kinda creepy it is, because honestly it is, my money and his money is our money in my marriage. However, I can see it motivating to lose weight, "Oh I can make an extra $10.00 to go buy those cute yoga pants if I lose 10 lbs, or whatever, it depends on how it was offered. I think I'd be a bit offended if my husband offered to pay me to lose weight though, his mom though, yeah she I expected it from. Now if the story went like she wanted to lose weight and kept on hassling him about it and ranting to him about wanting to lose weight, and he says "Tell you what, if this will motivate you, you can have this amount of money for spending if you lose this amount of weight and so on." That would be different, I mean after all, I kept ranting to him about it, and he is just trying to help me. In a guys mind I would assume he would just think he's helping.

    God forbid someone run their household different from the way you run yours. I find it sad that you think it would be better if she nagged him into it.

    You totally miss read what I said, I never said it was better to nag, in fact I was saying that if she nagged her husband and ranted to her husband that she needed to lose weight and he finally got fed up and said "Hey tell you what, If you lose this amount of weight, I'll give you an extra $10.00 for spending money on yourself." I said that this I could see as a way of motivation and be better then out of the blue "Hey you're fat, drop weight and I'll pay you."
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Just wanted to say I don't find this creepy but then my husband and I don't share money (what? No joint funds/accounts? Scandalous!) I give him money for my part of the bills and we occasionally split the bill when we go out but beyond that his money is his and mine is mine. So if he gave me money for losing weight well...extra bonus cash is always nice.

    That's just my household though.

    How dare you everyone's household must be run the exact same, to deviate from this will probably bring about the apocalypse.
    M fiance and I have lived togather for nine years and do not mingle money. We probably won't after we're married, either, simply because we're used to the way things are. That isn't what bothered me about this post. As Jonny said, it's the power and control thing that's just odd.

    But after long and heated discussions with some of my friends here (whom I respect), I think it's possible (though we'll probably never know since the OP doesn't seem to want to explain further) the issue is in the wording of the post and not in what is actually going on. If it's just a silly game between them, no biggie. It came across as something a little darker to me, though. That is all.

    Either way, if she's happy, that's all that really matters. Still, when you put something like this out in the public domain on an Internet message board, it's ridiculous to think there won't be people who it rubs wrong and that everyone will react the same way to it.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    why do people get so grumpy on these forums? low blood sugar dieters, perhaps? ;P

    I'm not sure if you're speaking about the folks talking about how kinda creepy it is, because honestly it is, my money and his money is our money in my marriage. However, I can see it motivating to lose weight, "Oh I can make an extra $10.00 to go buy those cute yoga pants if I lose 10 lbs, or whatever, it depends on how it was offered. I think I'd be a bit offended if my husband offered to pay me to lose weight though, his mom though, yeah she I expected it from. Now if the story went like she wanted to lose weight and kept on hassling him about it and ranting to him about wanting to lose weight, and he says "Tell you what, if this will motivate you, you can have this amount of money for spending if you lose this amount of weight and so on." That would be different, I mean after all, I kept ranting to him about it, and he is just trying to help me. In a guys mind I would assume he would just think he's helping.

    God forbid someone run their household different from the way you run yours. I find it sad that you think it would be better if she nagged him into it.

    My problem with it is not how they run their household, but that the pair is entering (or, more realistically, revealing) a control relationship. Paying someone to perform some function is inherently about control, and I think that's something that has no place in a marriage. I find it degrading.

    ^ the final judge of all things related to marriage. Again, massive assumptions about what is actually going on in someone else's house. If its not for you cool, it's not for me either, but absent actual evidence of abuse it comes off as judgmental and catty. It's like a church but with a new religion.

    Next subject, anything but the missionary position is pure evil . . .
  • KnM0107
    KnM0107 Posts: 355 Member
    why do people get so grumpy on these forums? low blood sugar dieters, perhaps? ;P

    I'm not sure if you're speaking about the folks talking about how kinda creepy it is, because honestly it is, my money and his money is our money in my marriage. However, I can see it motivating to lose weight, "Oh I can make an extra $10.00 to go buy those cute yoga pants if I lose 10 lbs, or whatever, it depends on how it was offered. I think I'd be a bit offended if my husband offered to pay me to lose weight though, his mom though, yeah she I expected it from. Now if the story went like she wanted to lose weight and kept on hassling him about it and ranting to him about wanting to lose weight, and he says "Tell you what, if this will motivate you, you can have this amount of money for spending if you lose this amount of weight and so on." That would be different, I mean after all, I kept ranting to him about it, and he is just trying to help me. In a guys mind I would assume he would just think he's helping.

    God forbid someone run their household different from the way you run yours. I find it sad that you think it would be better if she nagged him into it.

    My problem with it is not how they run their household, but that the pair is entering (or, more realistically, revealing) a control relationship. Paying someone to perform some function is inherently about control, and I think that's something that has no place in a marriage. I find it degrading.

    That isn't what I got out of it at all. I really think you are putting your own spin on this. The op is happy and excited about this and we don't even know the whole story. People do things differently. The close mindedness on this thread is just mind blowing. I would suggest some people here really need to venture out of their own little world and experince life in a different way.
  • jonnythan
    jonnythan Posts: 10,161 Member
    why do people get so grumpy on these forums? low blood sugar dieters, perhaps? ;P

    I'm not sure if you're speaking about the folks talking about how kinda creepy it is, because honestly it is, my money and his money is our money in my marriage. However, I can see it motivating to lose weight, "Oh I can make an extra $10.00 to go buy those cute yoga pants if I lose 10 lbs, or whatever, it depends on how it was offered. I think I'd be a bit offended if my husband offered to pay me to lose weight though, his mom though, yeah she I expected it from. Now if the story went like she wanted to lose weight and kept on hassling him about it and ranting to him about wanting to lose weight, and he says "Tell you what, if this will motivate you, you can have this amount of money for spending if you lose this amount of weight and so on." That would be different, I mean after all, I kept ranting to him about it, and he is just trying to help me. In a guys mind I would assume he would just think he's helping.

    God forbid someone run their household different from the way you run yours. I find it sad that you think it would be better if she nagged him into it.

    My problem with it is not how they run their household, but that the pair is entering (or, more realistically, revealing) a control relationship. Paying someone to perform some function is inherently about control, and I think that's something that has no place in a marriage. I find it degrading.

    ^ the final judge of all things related to marriage. Again, massive assumptions about what is actually going on in someone else's house. If its not for you cool, it's not for me either, but absent actual evidence of abuse it comes off as judgmental and catty. It's like a church but with a new religion.

    Next subject, anything but the missionary position is pure evil . . .

    I applaud you for being so laissez-faire that you don't feel you have the right to have an opinion on the degredation of women, but I don't feel that way. I have no problem saying I am repulsed by the idea of women submitting themselves to the control of their husbands. If people want to do that, fine, but that doesn't mean I like it or will give a big thumbs up to them just because it's a free country.

    Your final line is pretty much the logical equivalent of "if we let gays marry, then people will be marrying their pets next." In other words, it is a travesty of logic. Pure silly hyperbole meant simply to mock and not actually make any sort of point.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    Just wanted to say I don't find this creepy but then my husband and I don't share money (what? No joint funds/accounts? Scandalous!) I give him money for my part of the bills and we occasionally split the bill when we go out but beyond that his money is his and mine is mine. So if he gave me money for losing weight well...extra bonus cash is always nice.

    That's just my household though.

    How dare you everyone's household must be run the exact same, to deviate from this will probably bring about the apocalypse.
    M fiance and I have lived togather for nine years and do not mingle money. We probably won't after we're married, either, simply because we're used to the way things are. That isn't what bothered me about this post. As Jonny said, it's the power and control thing that's just odd.

    But after long and heated discussions with some of my friends here (whom I respect), I think it's possible (though we'll probably never know since the OP doesn't seem to want to explain further) the issue is in the wording of the post and not in what is actually going on. If it's just a silly game between them, no biggie. It came across as something a little darker to me, though. That is all.

    Either way, if she's happy, that's all that really matters. Still, when you put something like this out in the public domain on an Internet message board, it's ridiculous to think there won't be people who it rubs wrong and that everyone will react the same way to it.

    ^ this I can agree with or at least respect. We don't know what is going on, and who knows it may be dark, but to jump to that conclusion immediately absent additional evidence or questions is a bit much, IMHO. This site seems awfully quick to judgement when it comes to relationships.

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