Would you date someone overweight?

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  • itsfatum
    itsfatum Posts: 113 Member
    There are other traits that are more important than being fit, but I want my kids to have their parents around when they are old. Same for my grandchildren. I don't want to be with someone who flirts with illness every single day.

    I've been overweight for 28 years, so I understand that people can wake up and change. Could I date an overweight woman? Sure. But I would never ever marry one who isn't taking care of her health and fitness already.

    It's not about the damn looks. It's about health!
  • DawnieB1977
    DawnieB1977 Posts: 4,248 Member
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    lol yea because overweight/fat people cannot be active ....how silly

    Indeed! I've always been active, even when I was overweight. I'm 34 weeks pregnant and still incredibly active. I know slim people who are lazy slobs.

    I've always just been attracted to tall men, who are usually slim. My husband is 6 foot and I think he's gorgeous! His BMI is possibly a little bit over, like maybe 27, but he's definitely not fat.
  • zephtalah
    zephtalah Posts: 327 Member
    I am married and not interested in dating anyone other than my sweetheart. However, to answer the question, I think I would struggle with the idea of someone who was morbidly obese and didn't even try to do something about it. I am personally more attracted to strong thicker guys ( I married one. ) For me,a very thin guy wouldn't be my first choice, but looks aren't everything either. I am all for active lifestyles, but I would also hesitate to get attached to someone to whom fitness/ working out was everything. It's important, but not the main focus of life IMO. My husband is overweight and I adore him. I don't like it when I am overweight so I focus on that not his weight fluctuations.
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    I think the real challenge is the difference in lifestyle regardless of respective weights. I know from own experience that planning an outing is not easy if you dont share similar lifestyles - one person looking for pizza places, the other looking for healthy food places, one person looking to spend the weekend lying on the grass, the other wanting to run instead.
  • hbk991
    hbk991 Posts: 192 Member
    As a former super heavy guy and as an overweight guy (10 lbs to go!) i think would be wrong reject someone by his weight.
    Now, i like women of all shapes, but never to the extremes, So i would date someone overweight as far she is, smart, confident, funny and tender (haha thats a plus for me) :D
  • some_betty
    some_betty Posts: 322 Member
    One could always encourage an overweight person to diet. A bad personality is harder to change.
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    If I'm attracted to somebody then I'm attracted to somebody. I'm quite random, to be honest!

    I can completely relate!
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    One could always encourage an overweight person to diet. A bad personality is harder to change.

    very doubtful that you can change a person's dietary habits. nobody changes for no one
  • Docmahi
    Docmahi Posts: 1,603 Member
    absolutely
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    One could always encourage an overweight person to diet. A bad personality is harder to change.

    very doubtful that you can change a person's dietary habits. nobody changes for no one

    I don't think you should enter a relationship with the intent to change someone. It just won't work unless they want to change.
  • madisonsmith1297
    madisonsmith1297 Posts: 22
    I did, and the sex was great but going out was not so good

    Jealous. I had the opposite experience, which ultimately ended both of my long term relationships. I can go all night, so overweight or not thats something I need in a man.

    All night? Who has the time?

    If someone doesn't have the time to do that at least once and awhile I won't be happy haha.

    I have a job. I need at least some sleep.

    I do too? Well I guess we won't be dating anytime soon. Also no need to talk down :). Everyone has different likes.
  • dpwellman
    dpwellman Posts: 3,271 Member
    Depends how much overweight. . more than 60, definitely not. Less than that. . *shrug*
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    Depends how much overweight. . more than 60, definitely not. Less than that. . *shrug*

    Are you going to eyeball it or get a scale out?
  • Supadoopafly
    Supadoopafly Posts: 248 Member
    Depends how much overweight. . more than 60, definitely not. Less than that. . *shrug*

    Are you going to eyeball it or get a scale out?

    Times like this I wish there was a 'like' or 'recommended' button. This made me lol a lot! :-)
  • Michelle2W
    Michelle2W Posts: 163 Member
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean they don't live an active lifestyle.

    What a ridiculous statement and assumption to make.
  • MizMiami305
    MizMiami305 Posts: 188 Member
    No
    We would eat too much! :noway:
  • Michelle2W
    Michelle2W Posts: 163 Member
    ...????
  • Booksandbeaches
    Booksandbeaches Posts: 1,791 Member
    One could always encourage an overweight person to diet. A bad personality is harder to change.

    That will go over like a lead balloon! I can see all sorts of bad things coming out of trying to encourage someone to lose weight. It's up to the person if he/she wants to lose weight.
  • Staniel_2013
    Staniel_2013 Posts: 120 Member
    Honestly, all that really matters is that I'm attracted to that person at all. If I'm not, I'm not. Doesn't mean they have a little extra or are really skinny. It's THEM that matters.

    Everyone has their "type", even I do. Although I think it just matters that you click with each other. If all your worried about is looks, I'm sort of in the assumption you aren't looking for an actual LTR but just some late night fun.
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    Depends how much overweight. . more than 60, definitely not. Less than that. . *shrug*

    Are you going to eyeball it or get a scale out?

    Times like this I wish there was a 'like' or 'recommended' button. This made me lol a lot! :-)

    I've been thinking that a lot lately, we NEED a "like" button!!
  • daw0518
    daw0518 Posts: 459 Member
    One could always encourage an overweight person to diet. A bad personality is harder to change.

    very doubtful that you can change a person's dietary habits. nobody changes for no one

    I don't think you should enter a relationship with the intent to change someone. It just won't work unless they want to change.

    Totally agree with this. Your healthy eating and successful losing might inspire them to start on their own and come to you for support and advice, but trying to shove it down someone's throat will never, ever work.
  • Supadoopafly
    Supadoopafly Posts: 248 Member
    Some of the chaps (& chapesses) who have posted on this thread must be the exception to the rule and I'd like to socialise where you guys do so there is a chance I can sate ..lol.

    I haven't had a boyfriend since 2000 and I have needs ........ lol.

    Despite being told, I'm stunning, very atractive a head turner, pretty, I carry my weight very well and looking nothing like I weigh (I don't believe them btw), my last piece of love and affection was years ago.

    Can't hate people and their preferences. I'll be making up for lost time ... I shall date and look hot!

    For the time being just keep batting off the creepy old men who think I'm fair game/desperate because I am a fattie.
  • bhoelscher
    bhoelscher Posts: 21 Member
    What if they got overweight after you were together? WHat if she had a hard time getting the baby weight off? Is that a deal breaker? This is an interesting topic.

    Personally, it doesnt matter much to me. Im attracted to intellect and personality above the physical. Being a fat girl myself, I don't know what my husband saw in me, but he valued it and looked past the fact that I'm very overweight.
  • some_betty
    some_betty Posts: 322 Member
    One could always encourage an overweight person to diet. A bad personality is harder to change.

    That will go over like a lead balloon! I can see all sorts of bad things coming out of trying to encourage someone to lose weight. It's up to the person if he/she wants to lose weight.

    First off, I don't mean to say that I would force the issue. But I think that most everyone who is overweight might like to reach a healthy weight one day, even if he/she is in denial. A person is so much more than an extra layer of fat. If subtle hints don't work, there is always brain-washing.


    * that last part is a joke

    ** maybe
  • Michelle2W
    Michelle2W Posts: 163 Member
    No.... I lead a active lifestyle and we probably wouldn't have anything in common

    Just because someone is overweight doesn't mean they don't live an active lifestyle.

    What a ridiculous statement and assumption to make.
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    Let me get this right. If you're overweight, it means you don't live an active lifestyle? That's like saying, everyone that has a brain, is smart.
  • Ohmydaze
    Ohmydaze Posts: 403 Member
    Depends how overweight. I dislike both thin and fat male bodies, but would prefer a thick but healthy male over a thin one. (plenty of rugby players are pretty big lads and I find them attractive) I don't think I'd date an obese man. Ironically, I find larger women much more attractive than larger men, probably because some women seem to carry it very well and are truly *curvy*. In any case, I don't find obesity attractive at all.

    I'm also not really into 6 packs. *shrug*.
  • Docmahi
    Docmahi Posts: 1,603 Member
    did anybody actually answer no on this?
  • sunshine4040
    sunshine4040 Posts: 29 Member
    whenever chicks start saying they care about "personality" and "conversation' it just makes me LOL because it is the biggest load of BS ever….

    For some women (and men), it quite possibly is a load of BS, However, if it is a mature person instead of someone looking for eye candy and a good time in bed, conversation is a definite plus. As is personality. I'm pretty sure when I am 80, wrinkled and saggy no one will be looking at me and thinking, "Hey, what a hottie!" SO...that being said...if you are looking for long term...you better be building it on something other than someone's 6 pack abs, and nice booty. ;)
  • MissyMissy18
    MissyMissy18 Posts: 315 Member
    I have dated dudes of all different sizes and felt equally attracted to each of them. When it comes to physical attraction, I'm more about a guy's face than his body! Of course, there are men I find too overweight or too thin to be attractive, in which case, no I wouldn't date them!
  • lj5109
    lj5109 Posts: 81 Member
    did anybody actually answer no on this?

    Not directly, but there were some answers that came close

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