Might as well starve!
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gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »Anyway trolls/bullies. I've got working out to do. Have a fun time amongst yourselves. I'm over it by now. I make a fuss then I get over it. I'm mature.
Mature? Yet throw hissy fits about mummy cooking you nuggets and chips. Preach sister! Ha0 -
gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »It's quite sad people make fun of self harm. Do you know what a serious condition it is to have? I still have scars and it is literally people being nasty to me that made me do it.
Stop. No one is making fun of you for it. It was an unnecessary comment for you to make in the first place. You came to a thread complaining. You're an adult. You need to understand that life isn't always sunshine and monkeys dancing with toothbrushes. You're not always going to hear what you'd like to hear.
You want sympathy? Talk to that one friend everyone has who will only tell you the things you want to hear.
You came to a thread expecting to be coddled for a rant. You didn't get the reaction you were hoping for, so now you're trying to get people to feel sorry for you.
It doesn't work like that.
And take it from someone who has experience with those who self harm. It's not something to brag about, and for most people who have lived through it, it's not something they go around waving like a god damned flag. It won't get you sympathy and it won't make people suddenly jump on the "my mom is such a *kitten* for making me food!" bangwagon.
Grow up. Admit that you may have overreacted or you may not have given the whole picture and move on.
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1. Don't be snotty to your mom. She just made you dinner. Thank her for trying. She's not obligated to keep up with every "kick" you're on.
2. Throwing a tantrum isn't helping you (ask me how I know.)
3. Can I eat the food you refused? 'Cause it sounds pretty tasty, and I know how to make it fit my calories for the day.
4. You can eat every kind of food and still lose weight if you keep a calorie deficit.0 -
gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »I don't tell my mum to cook for me, I'm capable of cooking my own meals, I do it often. I don't tell her to buy food for me. I already let everyone know beforehand I was on a health kick. I have every right to say, ''no, I'm on a health kick'', if food is cooked for me without my knowledge and then expected to eat. I don't even like chicken nuggets, and I don't like chips much. I feel people are making too big a deal of it now and missing the point
Is someone holding you down and forcing the food into your mouth?0 -
gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »Anyway trolls/bullies. I've got working out to do. Have a fun time amongst yourselves. I'm over it by now. I make a fuss then I get over it. I'm mature.
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Dear fellow 22 year old,
It sounds like you've had a bit of a rough life. Agoraphobia and self-harm are big issues to tackle as a young adult. It sounds like you've been seeking help for those issues, and that's something I think you should do for your weight loss as well -- perhaps see a registered dietitian to help you grasp what proper nutrition looks like.
Health kicks are great -- but they imply short term. You made a decision to change your lifestyle today, and believe me, everyone in this thread wants to cheer you on for that. But the reality is, you're 22 and you can take responsibility for yourself. If you want to live a healthy lifestyle, you're going to have to come to grasp the reality that every day will not be perfect - you aren't always going to hit the grams for your macros spot on (especially without planning ahead entirely), and there's always going to be events in your life that will make your weight loss harder -- family dinners, nights out with friends, weddings, camping (summer in general, I swear haha).
Learn to make the best of situations. So your mother made dinner without consulting you -- say thanks, that's 40 minutes YOU didn't have to spend in the kitchen and a free, hot meal. So, chicken nuggets aren't the healthiest option -- peel the breading off if you're worried about saturated fat etc. Swap out the chips/fries for those frozen veggies you mentioned. Going over your fat macro by a few grams (or even doubling it for a single day) won't matter. It's the sum of our actions over time that allow us to lose weight, become healthier, and live the lifestyle we want.
Over the past 4 years of actively losing weight, I've lived at home with my parents, in university residence, with roommates in a house, and now with my construction worker boyfriend who thinks anything all-you-can-eat is a challenge we should be partaking in. The reality is though, in every single one of those situations, I have been in charge of my own decisions, just like you are now.
You can come online, indulge your id a bit and make posts like you did: but the reality is, the majority of us who are 22, we're doing what we can to get our *kitten* together as adults. I'd encourage you to do the same.
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I don't think it's too kind to be angry at your parents for that. For all they know you were going to be on a health kick and you changed your mind. You live with them so they can make whatever they please. I don't think you should feel insulted that they would dare to offer you food! If you feel like you suddenly want to eat healthy you probably should plan ahead and purchase these foods ahead of time so you actually have food to eat. You can't honestly be mad that you decided you were suddenly going on a health kick and there aren't any healthy foods instantly there. If you are hungry eat the food and plan ahead for the next time. You were just eating similar foods so eating more certainly isn't going to do any harm. Eating those foods on a regular basis won't either. Moderation! Sometimes there isn't anything left to eat so you eat the chicken nuggets and fries, shrug, and move on.
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Getting food from the chip shop is eco-friendly? What the what now?0
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welp, this thread seems done.
theres only one thing left to do.
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gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »Sorry for the swearing. Just needed to get it off my chest. People won't understand unless they still live with a family who eat unhealthily.
Move out. Then you don't live with them anymore and can make your own choices.
I'm still recovering from agoraphobia. I have made many achievements, but unfortunately this is not an option currently.
Sounds like you should just appreciate that your family allows you to live there and eat the food they buy. I suffer from agoraphobia and at some point in life you have to do thing that cause you severe anxiety.
Do you know my life story? No. Do you know what I do most days? Go out. I have a social life. I have friends. I have pushed myself many a time and succeeded. As a fellow agoraphobic, you should know that you can't just move out like that. My friend who is a retired child psychologist knows that you have to take it in small steps. You cannot walk before you run. If you do, you'll eventually just go backwards. Anyway this is MAJORLY OFF TOPIC.
I'm sure it's a good 'small step' for you to go to the grocery store. I have severe anxiety and major depressive disorder, and was in an abusive relationship that once I got out of (still sometimes have problems with) I was in a state where I even had trouble recognising the need to change once I wet myself...outside...in public. And now I am the carer and spend my days looking after my dad. Did I get there whining like a child? No. Do you know what I did most days to get past it? I got the hell up and wrote a list of all the things I thought a person should be able to do and then every day I did at least one of them - I shopped some days, some days I just changed my socks... I now cook for the household every day using the money I claimed from benefit, recognising I was in no state to work. I later began visiting my dad daily because I realized he was struggling to do the things I had needed help with and now I get paid for that.
Go to a shop and stop being rude to your mother. You can ask her to go with you if it's too hard to face the store alone, and most stores are open late - they tend to be mostly empty after about 8pm.
Sorry for the image I just feel she needs a reality check guys.0 -
gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »Anyway trolls/bullies. I've got working out to do. Have a fun time amongst yourselves. I'm over it by now. I make a fuss then I get over it. I'm mature.
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People are in such a Rush to judge others. Hey, he who is without cast the first stone? I am sure the heat is a factor in losing patience. I give you credit for your accomplishments. Youre frustrated and we All get frustrated. And incase anyone has forgotten we are ALL sinners and are nOT PERFECT. Do NOT think you all are and you are all so free to condemn someone. She was just venting. Have you ever vented? this is sup to be aplace where people can reach out from frustrations etc. I think she has handled the criticism really well, and judgement. You all who condemned her should look in the mirror and apologize to her. I dont know her but this was cruel. Honey, we do NOT know all of your circumstances, and thats fine. I do not judge. Just try to plan ahead if you can, and proud of you for recognizing that you want to eat healthy. Peace to you and good luck. Food is not Easy. We all have to eat to survive and sometimes we want to grab anything. Sending you love and peace. 0
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gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »My mother just cooked me up a plate of fried *kitten* chips and *kitten* chicken nuggets. I said nope, not eating that because it's not healthy. I'm on a health kick. I don't want to be eating that. Yet I go to cook my own tea/dinner, and oh look the only *kitten* healthy stuff is frozen vegetables or *kitten* fruit. Yeah because that's going to fill me up. I so want to eat both of those things with the rest of my calories don't I. I may as well *kitten* just starve. It's hot here, I am so *kitten* hungry, it's tough to eat healthy in an environment like this! It's either starve, go over the macro with sugar which i already have done by eating more fruit, or just have some vegetables which are hardly any calories. The rest is just straky bacon, pizza, processed foods. No wonder I'm the *kitten* thinnest. I don't gorge on the crap.
Someone sounds Hangry... you better go get some of those nuggets, log it and move on before you kill someone with that hunger induced rage.... or go buy and cook your own food.
And Sugar isn't a macro... Carbs is... sugar is a component of carbs.
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mfp started working for me again after I finished reading all this!!! yay!0
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Marybeatles wrote: »People are in such a Rush to judge others. Hey, he who is without cast the first stone? I am sure the heat is a factor in losing patience. I give you credit for your accomplishments. Youre frustrated and we All get frustrated. And incase anyone has forgotten we are ALL sinners and are nOT PERFECT. Do NOT think you all are and you are all so free to condemn someone. She was just venting. Have you ever vented? this is sup to be aplace where people can reach out from frustrations etc. I think she has handled the criticism really well, and judgement. You all who condemned her should look in the mirror and apologize to her. I dont know her but this was cruel. Honey, we do NOT know all of your circumstances, and thats fine. I do not judge. Just try to plan ahead if you can, and proud of you for recognizing that you want to eat healthy. Peace to you and good luck. Food is not Easy. We all have to eat to survive and sometimes we want to grab anything. Sending you love and peace.
The WK has arrived.0 -
I just had to stop in to say "health kick"..because.0
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gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »herrspoons wrote: »This topic needs a Linkin Park video.
yes
I LOVE Linkin Park. One of my favourite bands
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We are all sinners? Except those of us who do not believe in heaven or hell.
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SconnieCat wrote: »Marybeatles wrote: »People are in such a Rush to judge others. Hey, he who is without cast the first stone? I am sure the heat is a factor in losing patience. I give you credit for your accomplishments. Youre frustrated and we All get frustrated. And incase anyone has forgotten we are ALL sinners and are nOT PERFECT. Do NOT think you all are and you are all so free to condemn someone. She was just venting. Have you ever vented? this is sup to be aplace where people can reach out from frustrations etc. I think she has handled the criticism really well, and judgement. You all who condemned her should look in the mirror and apologize to her. I dont know her but this was cruel. Honey, we do NOT know all of your circumstances, and thats fine. I do not judge. Just try to plan ahead if you can, and proud of you for recognizing that you want to eat healthy. Peace to you and good luck. Food is not Easy. We all have to eat to survive and sometimes we want to grab anything. Sending you love and peace.
The WK has arrived.
Playing the god card. This is a whole new realm of bingo.
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Marybeatles wrote: »People are in such a Rush to judge others. Hey, he who is without cast the first stone? I am sure the heat is a factor in losing patience. I give you credit for your accomplishments. Youre frustrated and we All get frustrated. And incase anyone has forgotten we are ALL sinners and are nOT PERFECT. Do NOT think you all are and you are all so free to condemn someone. She was just venting. Have you ever vented? this is sup to be aplace where people can reach out from frustrations etc. I think she has handled the criticism really well, and judgement. You all who condemned her should look in the mirror and apologize to her. I dont know her but this was cruel. Honey, we do NOT know all of your circumstances, and thats fine. I do not judge. Just try to plan ahead if you can, and proud of you for recognizing that you want to eat healthy. Peace to you and good luck. Food is not Easy. We all have to eat to survive and sometimes we want to grab anything. Sending you love and peace.
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Marybeatles wrote: »People are in such a Rush to judge others. Hey, he who is without cast the first stone? I am sure the heat is a factor in losing patience. I give you credit for your accomplishments. Youre frustrated and we All get frustrated. And incase anyone has forgotten we are ALL sinners and are nOT PERFECT. Do NOT think you all are and you are all so free to condemn someone. She was just venting. Have you ever vented? this is sup to be aplace where people can reach out from frustrations etc. I think she has handled the criticism really well, and judgement. You all who condemned her should look in the mirror and apologize to her. I dont know her but this was cruel. Honey, we do NOT know all of your circumstances, and thats fine. I do not judge. Just try to plan ahead if you can, and proud of you for recognizing that you want to eat healthy. Peace to you and good luck. Food is not Easy. We all have to eat to survive and sometimes we want to grab anything. Sending you love and peace.
Sending your mother love and peace if you went off on her that way...
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NotQuiteNorm wrote: »gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »Sorry for the swearing. Just needed to get it off my chest. People won't understand unless they still live with a family who eat unhealthily.
Move out. Then you don't live with them anymore and can make your own choices.
I'm still recovering from agoraphobia. I have made many achievements, but unfortunately this is not an option currently.
Sounds like you should just appreciate that your family allows you to live there and eat the food they buy. I suffer from agoraphobia and at some point in life you have to do thing that cause you severe anxiety.
Do you know my life story? No. Do you know what I do most days? Go out. I have a social life. I have friends. I have pushed myself many a time and succeeded. As a fellow agoraphobic, you should know that you can't just move out like that. My friend who is a retired child psychologist knows that you have to take it in small steps. You cannot walk before you run. If you do, you'll eventually just go backwards. Anyway this is MAJORLY OFF TOPIC.
I'm sure it's a good 'small step' for you to go to the grocery store. I have severe anxiety and major depressive disorder, and was in an abusive relationship that once I got out of (still sometimes have problems with) I was in a state where I even had trouble recognising the need to change once I wet myself...outside...in public. And now I am the carer and spend my days looking after my dad. Did I get there whining like a child? No. Do you know what I did most days to get past it? I got the hell up and wrote a list of all the things I thought a person should be able to do and then every day I did at least one of them - I shopped some days, some days I just changed my socks... I now cook for the household every day using the money I claimed from benefit, recognising I was in no state to work. I later began visiting my dad daily because I realized he was struggling to do the things I had needed help with and now I get paid for that.
Go to a shop and stop being rude to your mother. You can ask her to go with you if it's too hard to face the store alone, and most stores are open late - they tend to be mostly empty after about 8pm.
Sorry for the image I just feel she needs a reality check guys.
What an inspiring story!
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gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »It's quite sad people make fun of self harm. Do you know what a serious condition it is to have? I still have scars and it is literally people being nasty to me that made me do it.
Incorrect!! Literally YOU picked up whatever object you used to perform said act and Literally YOU did it to yourself. No one forced you to do anything. YOU had a choice, just like YOU have a choice to cook your own food instead of bitching about your mom not cooking something to your liking. YOU are responsible for YOU, NO ONE else is!
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gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »
Yeah, because that's how I cook things when I have other things to attend to and don't want to spend all day waiting around in a kitchen in hot weather waiting for an actual oven to cook two pieces of fish. It's called being smart and eco-friendly.
Also FYI, if you found it that funny, you might want to see a doc. Not humourous whatsoever.
That was for real? For real you use an Easy Bake Oven? I thought it was sarcasm.
Wowser. I am impressed.
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gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »Anyway trolls/bullies. I've got working out to do. Have a fun time amongst yourselves. I'm over it by now. I make a fuss then I get over it. I'm mature.
Love this! I am so stealing this! Inigo Montoya has the answer to everything...
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mamapeach910 wrote: »NotQuiteNorm wrote: »gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »gabrielleelliott90 wrote: »Sorry for the swearing. Just needed to get it off my chest. People won't understand unless they still live with a family who eat unhealthily.
Move out. Then you don't live with them anymore and can make your own choices.
I'm still recovering from agoraphobia. I have made many achievements, but unfortunately this is not an option currently.
Sounds like you should just appreciate that your family allows you to live there and eat the food they buy. I suffer from agoraphobia and at some point in life you have to do thing that cause you severe anxiety.
Do you know my life story? No. Do you know what I do most days? Go out. I have a social life. I have friends. I have pushed myself many a time and succeeded. As a fellow agoraphobic, you should know that you can't just move out like that. My friend who is a retired child psychologist knows that you have to take it in small steps. You cannot walk before you run. If you do, you'll eventually just go backwards. Anyway this is MAJORLY OFF TOPIC.
I'm sure it's a good 'small step' for you to go to the grocery store. I have severe anxiety and major depressive disorder, and was in an abusive relationship that once I got out of (still sometimes have problems with) I was in a state where I even had trouble recognising the need to change once I wet myself...outside...in public. And now I am the carer and spend my days looking after my dad. Did I get there whining like a child? No. Do you know what I did most days to get past it? I got the hell up and wrote a list of all the things I thought a person should be able to do and then every day I did at least one of them - I shopped some days, some days I just changed my socks... I now cook for the household every day using the money I claimed from benefit, recognising I was in no state to work. I later began visiting my dad daily because I realized he was struggling to do the things I had needed help with and now I get paid for that.
Go to a shop and stop being rude to your mother. You can ask her to go with you if it's too hard to face the store alone, and most stores are open late - they tend to be mostly empty after about 8pm.
Sorry for the image I just feel she needs a reality check guys.
What an inspiring story!
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I'm not up on this religion lark. I just tend to float along in a bubble of my own.0
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