Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »So, I finally heard back about "first steps" today. Apparently, it is through a daycare, and only for 4K, they do have a 2 and 3K, but you have to enroll them in daycare, whereas the 4K you have the option to not send them to daycare and just do the half day class.
Since we can't afford a daycare, we looked over our finances again and talked things over, and I re-enrolled Raelynn back in the private church preschool she was in for 2K last year.
The director there was more than happy to have her come back, and will actually be teaching Raelynn's class this year, so she will be familiar with someone already and it may be an easier transition. I feel stupid now for pulling her out to begin with, but I was going off the doctor's recommendation, and she wanted to get the district involved in some way or another.
The good thing is, the district sends out speech therapists to the 3 and 4K classes to screen for any issues, so she would still be evaluated and if she qualifies for help, could also get OT through the district.
Another good thing, there was a guy quit at hubby's job recently, and they gave hubby an additional part of his route permanently. This means his route goes up roughly $1000 or so in production which equals to a few hundred dollars more on his commission each month, so we will be able to afford her tuition this year! I'm not overly religious by any means, but when I say I believe God makes a way for things to happen, I mean it!
I've spent these past few months and weeks so ridiculously stressed out and worried about everything. Between everything with Raelynn, our financial situation, and some other personal issues, I've been stretched so far thin it blows my mind. Hopefully now, I can breathe and shift a little of my focus to getting ready for tax school in 2 months (I have to go to a 10 week class each year to keep my job and certification) and get back to trying to get fit/healthier/lose weight. I know things are still going to be a bit rough and Raelynn isn't totally "out of the woods" as they say, but I'm finally feeling like I can somewhat breathe again, which is wonderful.
I really appreciate all the kind words and well wishes, you've kept me going and motivated countless times! I'll definitely keep you all updated as things go along and with Raelynn's progress! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Great to hear that things are working out especially with Raelynn's preschool & nice to hear everything else is falling into place. God is good.0 -
Yayyy @raelynnsmama52512 I've been sending positive thoughts and keeping my fingers crossed, very happy things are falling into place for you and your family!!
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pofoster21 wrote: »Okay, I deleted my last post, but I'm going to reword it here, it's regarding the DLB comments.
It bothers me that people are being encouraged to be more body positive, and not body shame people who are overweight, but people who are super fit are still picked apart. I get it, I don't want to look like DLB either, but I don't think it's right to say she looks manly or scary. It's still body shaming. Just because she's muscular/fit doesn't make it okay. People wouldn't post things like that about an obese person, or they'd be torn apart!
I hope that makes sense. I know it's judgment free and I think you are all super great, but I just had to put my $0.02 in.
I wondered what your 'deleted' meant. Good point. I don't care for that look. I don't care for the anorexic look either. Both are too extreme. But totally get your point. And won't do it again and luckily, its within the hour, so I'll go delete it!
That's totally fine. Everyone's "ideal" varies of course.
It may have been mentioned already way back, but there's a double standard on body acceptance. You (general you) can't put down or say anything bad about an overweight person, but skinny people are told to "eat a hamburger" or accused of being anorexic when they're not. For some reason it's more acceptable to make remarks to a skinny person. I'm not sure why. I can only imagine the types of comments women like DLB must get, and while they might be used to it, I know I wouldn't want to hear unnecessary negative comments about my body.
ETA: Now I'm stressed about these posts. I am not trying to stir anything up so I hope nobody takes offence to me stating my opinion.
I've heard it all my life, from my mother's "Men like women better who are pleasingly plump" to my coworker's "You look too skinny to live" to another coworker's "So.... *kitten* happens to skinny people too, eh?" when she overheard me talking to someone else about my lymphedema, like it was a trade-off for not being overweight.
I don't care for that DLB woman's body either... not sure how much of the look can be attributed to prepping and flexing and posing and possibly even a little graphic enhancement, however... but I don't have a hope of ever achieving that physique either, it's just not in my genes. Maybe if it was remotely possible I'd try for it, who knows? Everyone's goals and ideals are different.
This is more like what I can realistically aim for:
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If you can't tell, I'm wasting time at work, but enlightening your day
Yes, you are! Thanks for the smiles.kelly_c_77 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »@raelynnsmama52512 glad the evaluation went well and hope they find some programming to help her!
Can somebody please explain to me how it is that I can stop at the store, buy black beans, brownie mix, and ALL the ingredients for pistachio salad from memory... but can't remember to buy the toothpaste I've needed for the past couple of days? *bangs head*
(no, I'm not entirely without toothpaste, it just takes me 5 minutes to squeeze the dregs out of the tube)
And, for the record, black beans smell like cat food.
Ditto to @raelynnsmama52512!!!
And I love this whole post.
Ditto!
I've always thought that Refried Beans while tasty looks like dog food/cat food.
Oh definitely. I love them...but they look awful!
Try pureeing them. It took a great deal of faith in @peleroja to pour that purplish soup out of the blender into a nice bowl of brownie mix.
(They're dense brownies. I couldn't believe the weight of the Tupperware container when I went to put them in the fridge.)
Hahaha! It would take a great deal of faith for me to do the same to the brownies. Though I would really like to try this. How did they taste @ythannah ??
They're quite good... good enough that I managed to scarf down two pieces last night. Very dense and moist inside with a very thin exterior crispyness.
The beans are undetectable but somehow serve to mute the sweetness and possibly a bit of the chocolate flavour. I used a cheap generic packaged brownie mix so for a true comparison I'd have to bake a batch the regular way and taste test both... I suspect they are probably very sweet in their intended form.
With my food intolerance(s) I've used banana (makes it chewy), applesauce, plum babyfood (pretty good) and other. I would try the beans and expect it to taste good.
For gluten free people I have used gluten free goddess blog for recipes a number of times and they have all been good.
I had a friend who was vegan for awhile, so I started making brownies with banana for him. I put peanut butter frosting on them and called them Elvis brownies and people went NUTS for them. I have no idea.0 -
CountessKitteh wrote: »To catch up:
My favorite pizza is pepperoni and mushrooms, but I also love white pizza, buffalo chicken pizza, plain, and this amazing creation we used to make at Sbarro called Southwest chicken. Really, I just like pizza.
Like @spamarie, I'm short (under 5'2") so clothing is a challenge. I'm cheap, so hunt clearance racks, and really like "discount" places like TJ Maxx, Marshall's, and Ross. The rest is Target and Kohl's generally, plus the occasion trip to the thrift store for fun. I do some alterations if needed, and I wear a lot of tank tops under tops that need me to be 6 inches taller or a DDD to make them work.
I do nearly all of my grocery shopping at Wegmans because it's a half mile from my house. And open 24 hours. And the most amazing place in the world.
I love Wegman's! Always on my must go list when I visit my brother in Virginia!
Our closest one used to be a good half hour away, so it was a definite planned trip. Then they built one at our mall in late 2013. I can walk there. It's wonderful and terrible all at once. On the plus side, my cheese plate game has never been so on point. 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
Yes! I owned it! Thursday night is my regular girls' bike group ride. I knew I would be pretty late getting home and didn't want to take the time to make one from scratch. I usually at least make frosting from scratch, but didn't even bother this time. Apparently, there are plenty of people here who can't even make a decent cake using box mix.kelly_c_77 wrote: »I am known at work for making really good cakes, usually from scratch. Today one of the guys is leaving to take a job out of state, so they asked me to make him a German chocolate cake. I made it- box mix, can of frosting. Everyone is raving about how good it is. I don't know whether I should be flattered or disappointed.
ETA: Yay me, I can follow directions!
That's awesome! Did you admit it was box?
Nice!
Man, I bet frosting from scratch is AMAZING!
It's easy to make. Butter, confectioner's sugar, cream (just a bit), dash salt, dash vanilla or cocoa powder depending on flavor. Takes just a few minutes and OMG is it worth the effort.
That's for buttercream and if you whip it longer/sub heavyweight whipping cream for the cream it gets super fluffy... More butter, it gets fudgier...
Omgggg, don't tell me this!!!!
Kelly, IKR? If I make any dessert I'll either try the black bean brownies or make a dessert dip from the recipes I pinned.
Ugh, yup...my struggle was real yesterday and it was hard to read all these yummy descriptions!! I did really well (awesome in fact) yesterday during the day. BUT once my son was in bed and my husband left for fishing overnight, I raided my desserty snack stash that I bought. I had hidden it in my son's closet earlier while he napped but *stupidly* removed it later and so it became available to me once I was alone.
Ended the day in red. Oh well.
On the brighter side, I'm only 2 pounds heavier this morning rather than my usual 4.
I'm about to go start my run so I'll catch up with you all later. Have a good day/weekend.
Kelly, except for the child you and I are the same people today! I ate stupidly yesterday (lots of nuts, M&Ms, Peppermint Patties) and was in the red as well. I am up for my morning run as well! Shockingly, my weight was flat (probably due to sleeping for 8 (interrupted) hours as I went to bed as soon as I got home.
The best thing about weekends is I find it easy to stay within goals and I exercise a TON so hopefully I'll be back in my desired range by Monday (2 lbs over my lowest and 3.2 from my goal).
Have a good run!
Wow, 8 hours!! Nice!
That's good that you have an easy time on weekends staying on track. Weekends are sometimes harder for me because my husband goes fishing one of the days. But when he goes, he's gone from about 7pm until 9pm the following night..so over 24 hours without him. I sometimes make bad decisions when he's not here (it's alone time that is hard for me..so when he's gone and my son naps/sleeps, it can get messy). Then the 2nd day of the weekend, we usually go out for dinner...and I get really excited about restaurant food, sooo yeah. Haha.
And thanks, I had a good run. I did 8.5 miles and felt pretty good despite my extra 2 pounds.
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Italian_Buju wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
Yes! I owned it! Thursday night is my regular girls' bike group ride. I knew I would be pretty late getting home and didn't want to take the time to make one from scratch. I usually at least make frosting from scratch, but didn't even bother this time. Apparently, there are plenty of people here who can't even make a decent cake using box mix.kelly_c_77 wrote: »I am known at work for making really good cakes, usually from scratch. Today one of the guys is leaving to take a job out of state, so they asked me to make him a German chocolate cake. I made it- box mix, can of frosting. Everyone is raving about how good it is. I don't know whether I should be flattered or disappointed.
ETA: Yay me, I can follow directions!
That's awesome! Did you admit it was box?
Nice!
Man, I bet frosting from scratch is AMAZING!
Oh, it is. And super easy, too--I HATE frosting in a can, ever since I tasted frosting from scratch. You just can't go back!
I'd love to hate frosting in a can.
I polished off the leftover tub in one night.
When I bought the brownie ingredients, I also grabbed a tub of frosting just in case I needed to jazz them up. I ate about a quarter of it (with a spoon, @Italian_Buju just in case you were wondering) while waiting for the brownies to cool enough to sample.
Once I'd decided the brownies didn't need frosting, I then ate some more frosting out of the tub.
Clearly, I need to make frosting from scratch so I can break this nasty habit.
Just frosting on a spoon? I think that would be yucky!
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lilaclovebird wrote: »For those who want to know, This is why I am mad at Sgt. Sexy Pants:
He sent me a text about how he was talking to another coworker
"She's talking about how she and her father hate the Chinese because they bombed Pearl Harbor."
I was stunned into silence. I finally responded with
"I don't even have words..."
He said: "Are you trying to figure out how that is wrong?"
I said: "Seriously?! You think I'm THAT dumb?! The Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor!"
He said: "Well now that you googled it."
All in all, not REALLY anything to be mad about but I gave him a big piece of my mind about how I have not one but TWO parents who served in the United States Armed Forces and my Grandfathers fought in WW2 so of COURSE I would know who bombed Pearl Harbor.
I bond with my father watching all kinds of war documentaries and I just can't believe he... I really just. UGH!
I can't believe he thinks so little of me and I'm wondering if I will get past it or not.
Any tips are welcome. I did send him a text saying I didn't know he thought so little of my intellect and that he really hurt my feelings. I have gotten nothing back.
Hugs.
Tip (1) get some rest before you decide anything / say anything more on the subject. That gives you better perspective and clarity of thought.
(2) Journal. Write all your crappy feelings out just to help you acknowledge them and sort through them. When I do this I challenge myself to also dig deeper and see if other things or other people are bothering me that I am channeling to whatever situation I think is bothering me. Sometimes there is. I also challenge myself and dig and figure out what I WANT from a situation. I also examine overall pattens, is this part of a pattern?
(3) When you are not actively upset with him talk to him. The way you word it is up to you. I would probably say something along the lines of:
What I understood from you was that you were saying / implying ______(whatever words you want to use saying that you felt he doubted your knowledge of these events). Ask him if that is what he meant. Listen to what he says and how he says it. Follow up questions so that you understand where he is coming from. Once you have some answers take more time to sort through his answers and examine yourself. Was there a misunderstanding? Do the answers you got from him satisfy you? Are you being treated the way you need to be treated? Respected? Etc. Do this examining by yourself and in your own time and then decide the next actions.
Hugs!!
I love this advice!
I know I get emotionally fragile/touchy/oversensitive when I'm sleep-deprived. However, knowing that doesn't stop me from getting all butt-hurt about things that would just wash over me any other time.
(I'm not American, but even I know the Japanese bombed Pearl Harbour... I'm pretty sure that was covered in middle school history, lol.)0 -
I couldn't quote all the comments, but thank you all so much! ❤️
We're doing some clothes shopping today, someone's outgrown most of her clothes lol.0 -
raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »So, I finally heard back about "first steps" today. Apparently, it is through a daycare, and only for 4K, they do have a 2 and 3K, but you have to enroll them in daycare, whereas the 4K you have the option to not send them to daycare and just do the half day class.
Since we can't afford a daycare, we looked over our finances again and talked things over, and I re-enrolled Raelynn back in the private church preschool she was in for 2K last year.
The director there was more than happy to have her come back, and will actually be teaching Raelynn's class this year, so she will be familiar with someone already and it may be an easier transition. I feel stupid now for pulling her out to begin with, but I was going off the doctor's recommendation, and she wanted to get the district involved in some way or another.
The good thing is, the district sends out speech therapists to the 3 and 4K classes to screen for any issues, so she would still be evaluated and if she qualifies for help, could also get OT through the district.
Another good thing, there was a guy quit at hubby's job recently, and they gave hubby an additional part of his route permanently. This means his route goes up roughly $1000 or so in production which equals to a few hundred dollars more on his commission each month, so we will be able to afford her tuition this year! I'm not overly religious by any means, but when I say I believe God makes a way for things to happen, I mean it!
I've spent these past few months and weeks so ridiculously stressed out and worried about everything. Between everything with Raelynn, our financial situation, and some other personal issues, I've been stretched so far thin it blows my mind. Hopefully now, I can breathe and shift a little of my focus to getting ready for tax school in 2 months (I have to go to a 10 week class each year to keep my job and certification) and get back to trying to get fit/healthier/lose weight. I know things are still going to be a bit rough and Raelynn isn't totally "out of the woods" as they say, but I'm finally feeling like I can somewhat breathe again, which is wonderful.
I really appreciate all the kind words and well wishes, you've kept me going and motivated countless times! I'll definitely keep you all updated as things go along and with Raelynn's progress! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is all very good news! Having a plan in place after exploring your options is probably such a relief!! You are an excellent mom - and now, hopefully, you will get a little break from the overwhelming worry you've been experiencing and be able to have some down time. Definitely keep us posted on everything! We are cheering for your family!!!0 -
I'm back from vacation (will try to post a couple of pictures later) but just wanted to say Hi! There's no way I can catch up, so I'm just going to jump right back in there.
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Yes, indeed we are!raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »So, I finally heard back about "first steps" today. Apparently, it is through a daycare, and only for 4K, they do have a 2 and 3K, but you have to enroll them in daycare, whereas the 4K you have the option to not send them to daycare and just do the half day class.
Since we can't afford a daycare, we looked over our finances again and talked things over, and I re-enrolled Raelynn back in the private church preschool she was in for 2K last year.
The director there was more than happy to have her come back, and will actually be teaching Raelynn's class this year, so she will be familiar with someone already and it may be an easier transition. I feel stupid now for pulling her out to begin with, but I was going off the doctor's recommendation, and she wanted to get the district involved in some way or another.
The good thing is, the district sends out speech therapists to the 3 and 4K classes to screen for any issues, so she would still be evaluated and if she qualifies for help, could also get OT through the district.
Another good thing, there was a guy quit at hubby's job recently, and they gave hubby an additional part of his route permanently. This means his route goes up roughly $1000 or so in production which equals to a few hundred dollars more on his commission each month, so we will be able to afford her tuition this year! I'm not overly religious by any means, but when I say I believe God makes a way for things to happen, I mean it!
I've spent these past few months and weeks so ridiculously stressed out and worried about everything. Between everything with Raelynn, our financial situation, and some other personal issues, I've been stretched so far thin it blows my mind. Hopefully now, I can breathe and shift a little of my focus to getting ready for tax school in 2 months (I have to go to a 10 week class each year to keep my job and certification) and get back to trying to get fit/healthier/lose weight. I know things are still going to be a bit rough and Raelynn isn't totally "out of the woods" as they say, but I'm finally feeling like I can somewhat breathe again, which is wonderful.
I really appreciate all the kind words and well wishes, you've kept me going and motivated countless times! I'll definitely keep you all updated as things go along and with Raelynn's progress! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This is all very good news! Having a plan in place after exploring your options is probably such a relief!! You are an excellent mom - and now, hopefully, you will get a little break from the overwhelming worry you've been experiencing and be able to have some down time. Definitely keep us posted on everything! We are cheering for your family!!!
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I cannot seem to keep any weight off. I refuse to give up, but am definitely have a motivation problem. Am back up---again 0
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lilaclovebird wrote: »For those who want to know, This is why I am mad at Sgt. Sexy Pants:
He sent me a text about how he was talking to another coworker
"She's talking about how she and her father hate the Chinese because they bombed Pearl Harbor."
I was stunned into silence. I finally responded with
"I don't even have words..."
He said: "Are you trying to figure out how that is wrong?"
I said: "Seriously?! You think I'm THAT dumb?! The Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor!"
He said: "Well now that you googled it."
All in all, not REALLY anything to be mad about but I gave him a big piece of my mind about how I have not one but TWO parents who served in the United States Armed Forces and my Grandfathers fought in WW2 so of COURSE I would know who bombed Pearl Harbor.
I bond with my father watching all kinds of war documentaries and I just can't believe he... I really just. UGH!
I can't believe he thinks so little of me and I'm wondering if I will get past it or not.
Any tips are welcome. I did send him a text saying I didn't know he thought so little of my intellect and that he really hurt my feelings. I have gotten nothing back.
Hugs.
Tip (1) get some rest before you decide anything / say anything more on the subject. That gives you better perspective and clarity of thought.
(2) Journal. Write all your crappy feelings out just to help you acknowledge them and sort through them. When I do this I challenge myself to also dig deeper and see if other things or other people are bothering me that I am channeling to whatever situation I think is bothering me. Sometimes there is. I also challenge myself and dig and figure out what I WANT from a situation. I also examine overall pattens, is this part of a pattern?
(3) When you are not actively upset with him talk to him. The way you word it is up to you. I would probably say something along the lines of:
What I understood from you was that you were saying / implying ______(whatever words you want to use saying that you felt he doubted your knowledge of these events). Ask him if that is what he meant. Listen to what he says and how he says it. Follow up questions so that you understand where he is coming from. Once you have some answers take more time to sort through his answers and examine yourself. Was there a misunderstanding? Do the answers you got from him satisfy you? Are you being treated the way you need to be treated? Respected? Etc. Do this examining by yourself and in your own time and then decide the next actions.
Hugs!!
I agree 100% with @nonoelmo ! Also, I'd be upset about it too, so I don't think your hurt is an overreaction by any means. Everything @nonoelmo said is spot on, though. Hugs!!0 -
Finally got caught up. Sad to say for the next couple months reading this thread at work is going to be next to impossible.
@raelynnsmama52512 glad things are turning around for you. Hugs
@kelly_c_77 weekends are hard for me too. Snacky Snacky Snacky. Actually who am I kidding my whole week has been that way. Not expecting to see a loss on the scale Monday morning
@orangesmarties love those pictures a lot!
@FroggyBug fingers crossed that your sessions help you and your SO
@nonoelmo your airport story made me chuckle this morning
@lilaclovebird I am sure SSP didn't mean to hurt your feelings. Get some sleep and things will look brighter. Hugs0 -
lilaclovebird wrote: »For those who want to know, This is why I am mad at Sgt. Sexy Pants:
He sent me a text about how he was talking to another coworker
"She's talking about how she and her father hate the Chinese because they bombed Pearl Harbor."
I was stunned into silence. I finally responded with
"I don't even have words..."
He said: "Are you trying to figure out how that is wrong?"
I said: "Seriously?! You think I'm THAT dumb?! The Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor!"
He said: "Well now that you googled it."
All in all, not REALLY anything to be mad about but I gave him a big piece of my mind about how I have not one but TWO parents who served in the United States Armed Forces and my Grandfathers fought in WW2 so of COURSE I would know who bombed Pearl Harbor.
I bond with my father watching all kinds of war documentaries and I just can't believe he... I really just. UGH!
I can't believe he thinks so little of me and I'm wondering if I will get past it or not.
Any tips are welcome. I did send him a text saying I didn't know he thought so little of my intellect and that he really hurt my feelings. I have gotten nothing back.
So, this strikes me as him teasing without realizing that you are dead tired and can't take it. If I mentioned it again, which I probably wouldn't if he didn't, ask him to choose his teasing times better. No one socializes well after 14 straight days of work and those we love often take the worst of it.
But I know where you're coming from because my family has military roots back to at least the Civil War. That brother against brother thing totally happened in my family. Some kid in my high school said to me, "your mother wears combat boots." my brother rolled laughing when I said, "She did and they fit me. If you have a problem with it, I can wear them tomorrow to kick your (tush) or I can just do it now, whichever." (curse word changed for the thread) My dad is a Korean and Vietnam Wars vet and has a bronze star with valor. He won't talk about why. He is disabled because of Agent Orange. My mom has a brother on Utah beach on one on Omaha beach. My 2nd & 3rd brothers are decorated combat veterans. My second son is in Jr. ROTC will join the Air Force after school. It's not a subject I would easily be teased about either. The blood, sweat and tears of OUR families water the Tree of Liberty and I am proud of that because someone has to do it. Thank your parents for me.
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Italian_Buju wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
Yes! I owned it! Thursday night is my regular girls' bike group ride. I knew I would be pretty late getting home and didn't want to take the time to make one from scratch. I usually at least make frosting from scratch, but didn't even bother this time. Apparently, there are plenty of people here who can't even make a decent cake using box mix.kelly_c_77 wrote: »I am known at work for making really good cakes, usually from scratch. Today one of the guys is leaving to take a job out of state, so they asked me to make him a German chocolate cake. I made it- box mix, can of frosting. Everyone is raving about how good it is. I don't know whether I should be flattered or disappointed.
ETA: Yay me, I can follow directions!
That's awesome! Did you admit it was box?
Nice!
Man, I bet frosting from scratch is AMAZING!
Oh, it is. And super easy, too--I HATE frosting in a can, ever since I tasted frosting from scratch. You just can't go back!
I'd love to hate frosting in a can.
I polished off the leftover tub in one night.
When I bought the brownie ingredients, I also grabbed a tub of frosting just in case I needed to jazz them up. I ate about a quarter of it (with a spoon, @Italian_Buju just in case you were wondering) while waiting for the brownies to cool enough to sample.
Once I'd decided the brownies didn't need frosting, I then ate some more frosting out of the tub.
Clearly, I need to make frosting from scratch so I can break this nasty habit.
Just frosting on a spoon? I think that would be yucky!
Apparently not....
Definitely not... buttercream on a spoon is the best.... well, maybe peanut butter buttercream is better.
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lilaclovebird wrote: »For those who want to know, This is why I am mad at Sgt. Sexy Pants:
He sent me a text about how he was talking to another coworker
"She's talking about how she and her father hate the Chinese because they bombed Pearl Harbor."
I was stunned into silence. I finally responded with
"I don't even have words..."
He said: "Are you trying to figure out how that is wrong?"
I said: "Seriously?! You think I'm THAT dumb?! The Japanese bombed Pearl Harbor!"
He said: "Well now that you googled it."
All in all, not REALLY anything to be mad about but I gave him a big piece of my mind about how I have not one but TWO parents who served in the United States Armed Forces and my Grandfathers fought in WW2 so of COURSE I would know who bombed Pearl Harbor.
I bond with my father watching all kinds of war documentaries and I just can't believe he... I really just. UGH!
I can't believe he thinks so little of me and I'm wondering if I will get past it or not.
Any tips are welcome. I did send him a text saying I didn't know he thought so little of my intellect and that he really hurt my feelings. I have gotten nothing back.
Hugs.
Tip (1) get some rest before you decide anything / say anything more on the subject. That gives you better perspective and clarity of thought.
(2) Journal. Write all your crappy feelings out just to help you acknowledge them and sort through them. When I do this I challenge myself to also dig deeper and see if other things or other people are bothering me that I am channeling to whatever situation I think is bothering me. Sometimes there is. I also challenge myself and dig and figure out what I WANT from a situation. I also examine overall pattens, is this part of a pattern?
(3) When you are not actively upset with him talk to him. The way you word it is up to you. I would probably say something along the lines of:
What I understood from you was that you were saying / implying ______(whatever words you want to use saying that you felt he doubted your knowledge of these events). Ask him if that is what he meant. Listen to what he says and how he says it. Follow up questions so that you understand where he is coming from. Once you have some answers take more time to sort through his answers and examine yourself. Was there a misunderstanding? Do the answers you got from him satisfy you? Are you being treated the way you need to be treated? Respected? Etc. Do this examining by yourself and in your own time and then decide the next actions.
Hugs!!
I love this advice!
I know I get emotionally fragile/touchy/oversensitive when I'm sleep-deprived. However, knowing that doesn't stop me from getting all butt-hurt about things that would just wash over me any other time.
(I'm not American, but even I know the Japanese bombed Pearl Harbour... I'm pretty sure that was covered in middle school history, lol.)
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I guess it's just me then! LOLMelissaPhippsFeagins wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
Yes! I owned it! Thursday night is my regular girls' bike group ride. I knew I would be pretty late getting home and didn't want to take the time to make one from scratch. I usually at least make frosting from scratch, but didn't even bother this time. Apparently, there are plenty of people here who can't even make a decent cake using box mix.kelly_c_77 wrote: »I am known at work for making really good cakes, usually from scratch. Today one of the guys is leaving to take a job out of state, so they asked me to make him a German chocolate cake. I made it- box mix, can of frosting. Everyone is raving about how good it is. I don't know whether I should be flattered or disappointed.
ETA: Yay me, I can follow directions!
That's awesome! Did you admit it was box?
Nice!
Man, I bet frosting from scratch is AMAZING!
Oh, it is. And super easy, too--I HATE frosting in a can, ever since I tasted frosting from scratch. You just can't go back!
I'd love to hate frosting in a can.
I polished off the leftover tub in one night.
When I bought the brownie ingredients, I also grabbed a tub of frosting just in case I needed to jazz them up. I ate about a quarter of it (with a spoon, @Italian_Buju just in case you were wondering) while waiting for the brownies to cool enough to sample.
Once I'd decided the brownies didn't need frosting, I then ate some more frosting out of the tub.
Clearly, I need to make frosting from scratch so I can break this nasty habit.
Just frosting on a spoon? I think that would be yucky!
Apparently not....
Definitely not... buttercream on a spoon is the best.... well, maybe peanut butter buttercream is better.
I have a hard time eating anything like that straight without something to cut the richness. Even peanut butter, I love it, but could never just eat it out of the jar without crackers or an apple or something!
I have to pair most foods. I have a hard time eating meat, without salad or bread to cut it with (sometimes potato but usually not). I cannot eat eggs without toast or potatoes. Actually, I can now eat scrambled eggs cut with only Canadian bacon, but that took a while to get use to. And, I mean to have those foods in the same bite, not just with the same meal.
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riderfangal wrote: »Finally got caught up. Sad to say for the next couple months reading this thread at work is going to be next to impossible.
@orangesmarties love those pictures a lot!
Glad you caught up!
I just wanted to point out that the orangesmarties person you mentioned is not the person from this thread. She is orangemsartie with no "s"....just for future mentioning. 0 -
Okay, I deleted my last post, but I'm going to reword it here, it's regarding the DLB comments.
It bothers me that people are being encouraged to be more body positive, and not body shame people who are overweight, but people who are super fit are still picked apart. I get that not everyone wants to look like that, I don't want to look like that either, but I don't think it's right to say she looks manly or scary. It's still body shaming. Just because she's muscular/fit doesn't make it okay. People wouldn't post things like that about an obese person, or they'd be torn apart!
I hope that makes sense. I know it's judgment free and I think you are all super great, but I just had to put my $0.02 in.
I fully agree with this. 0 -
FluffySandwich wrote: »The way I want my body to look changes pretty much from day to day. Sometimes I want to look softer and I think the weight I'm at now is fine if I could just rearrange fat in some places and put it elsewhere. Sometimes I want to be much more slim, but still soft. Sometimes I want to look like superwoman and have super toned and muscled arms (not as muscled as that woman posted, but still awesome). I feel like I am never truly happy with my body.
I find women of all different body types beautiful
I find women of all body types beautiful... Except me! 0 -
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I think you are beautiful @Susieq_1994
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@raelynnsmama52512 Sounds like things might finally be coming together for you. All the best to you and your Little! I hope she gets everything she needs. 0
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overlook237 wrote: » I have the opposite problem. My feet aren't overly huge (I wear an 8.5), but my hands are. Like, ENORMOUS. And now that I've lost weight and have tiny wrists, they look even bigger, like I've attached catchers' mitts to the ends of my arms. On the plus side, if I ever learn how to play the piano, I can probably span an octave and a half or maybe even two!
I haven't seen you around in a while! Glad to see you pop up. 
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »
I was confused by this too!
And also, you are beautiful and crazy if you don't see it! 0 -
Confession:
I don't think I mentioned this because I didn't want to mention it while I was actually traveling.
On my last trip, the first outbound flight I accidentally and totally unknowingly took a canister of mace or pepper spray through TSA. I had put it in my bag for when I was on the road with SO earlier this summer and thought I might hike solo while he biked. I forgot it until I cleared security and was hanging out at the gate. Oddly enough a coworker mentioned bear spray and his brother hiking and I realized I *might* have forgotten to take it out of my bag. I put my hand on the outside pocket and there it was, cleared the Xray machine no problem. I walked back and explained it and turned it in. I figured if I just threw it away and it was discovered it would cause a huge kerfuffle. I figured that once I knew I had it that it would be knowingly taking it on a flight (and I had two flights to go that day) and that seemed that I could get into trouble for that if caught. So I turned it in. TSA accepted it and thanked me and I was on my way.
This is the fourth time I've accidentally and unknowingly taken a banned "weapon" through security. The other three flights I had a leatherman tool that had slipped into the lining of my bag. It was not until the fourth Xray that it was found. I was able to mail it to myself.
Our security at Middle Eastern airports is SO lax that I can get through with ANYTHING. I never have to bother with those tiny tubes of shampoo or toothpaste or anything at all--I pack up whatever I want and it just goes right through every single time. I always get a giggle out of it... Especially the time I came in with a box packed with a bunch of bags of plain flour (long story...) and imagined getting stopped for carrying cocaine or something.
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