WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR SEPTEMBER 2015

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Becca - Forgot to say thanks for posting the article on Your Inner Body Image. Printing it off for the fridge.

Cool ! glad you enjoyed it!
Becca

maeadair- Well, friend its nice he has moved in to help you out... (((((((hugs))))) but there are some boundaries you need to set with him. Periodically yelling, "Don't ferget Im yer Momma" might help. Or the phrase, "Do you remember I BORE you....*thumping him on the chest with your pointer finger*"
Seriously though, when you look at it, a sons first relationship is with his momma. I firmly believe that when it comes to sons, how they treat their momma's determine how they treat most females in their lives. And the same goes for your grandson looking at how his father treats you. Kids are mimic's of life, so your son has someone paying attention to how he speaks, and acts.
Thanks for the praise on being such a loser...*making an L with my right hands fingers to my forehead* hahaha.. I don't think tomorrow will be as loserish though. I am probably up 2 lbs this week. Its been a hard week!
Becca

Good Evening, Ladies.

My name is Laurel, and I'll be 52 next month. I'm retired military, my husband is still active duty, and we have two older teens. We're currently stationed on St. Croix, in the U.S. Virgin Islands (Atlantic time zone).

I've always done my best to take care of my family's health and teach them good nutrition, and my husband has been good about mentoring them in the ways of fitness. Everything I've done is based on what I knew at the time. The more I learn, the better (more nutritious) my family eats. I've had some significant ups and downs with my weight, and right now my husband, daughter, and I have all put on a few pounds that we want to take off.

Today my family completed day 8 of a 30-day eating plan that I came up with, based on all the bits of information floating around in my head right now. I've lost 4 lbs since we started and hope that some of the things we're doing will become lifelong improvements.

Here is one goal and one success for September:

Goal: Participate in a Zumba party this Monday. Zumba is a big thing where I live. I went to a few zumba sessions, but haven't been able to understand/follow/process the steps (I always struggled with aerobics, too), and I end up frustrated, and not getting a good workout. Last week I learned how to watch youtube videos on my TV and I've been spending up to 2 hrs a day learning the basic steps and movements. My goal is to go to the Zumba party on Monday and do a reasonable job keeping up, and then attend the regular sessions.

Success: For the 8th day I've been drinking 3/4 - 1 gallon of water a day. I know that may seem like a lot, but I also sweat a lot here. I have a plastic gallon pitcher, and I fill it every morning with water and some fruit and herbs, and keep it in the fridge. I do have to cut myself off around 6pm, or I'm in the bathroom all night long.

I've read a lot of your posts and look forward to visiting, learning from, and sharing with you all.

Sincerely,

Laurel

No exercise today. The plan for tomorrow is to do some swimming at the Y in the deep water

The MD has a high degree of confidence that the operation was 100% successful. They ablated and then tried for like 45 minutes to get Vince's hart to go into tacharcadia, but after they stopped, his heartrate went back to normal in about 2 minutes. He's on Heparin right now and Coumadin to get his INR up. If all goes well, he should be coming home tomorrow.

The man to hopefully repair our microwave will be here between 10 and 2. A lady from Newcomers passed away and the funeral is tomorrow at 2. Hopefully, I can make it, she was such a great lady.

Luvee-Dove5 - congrats on that loss

Gayle - we play American Mahjongg. One lady has it at her house on Mon nights. It's not a Newcomer activity so that her neighbor joins us. Newcomers plays Tues afternoons and Friday mornings.

barbie - so sorry about Jake's daughter. What are you taking for your bone density? I don't know of leg pain being an effect, so it must be something that I haven't taken. Forteo, maybe?

DJ - Vince needed to be off the meds until the procedure today. Then, and this I'm surprised at, he stops taking them completely. I thought maybe they'd wean him off, but no.

MNMargaret - I'm sure your mom loved the party! Good for you taking care of yourself!

katla - when you say that dd will be moving far away...what is "far"?

Trust me, I'm reading the posts. I'm just so tired that I'm not responding

Penny - lovely pic

Cat - have a great trip. Be sure to tell us all about it

Welcome everyone new

Had a lunch in the hosp cafeteria today. I tell you, I don't remember ever having such a disappointing meal. They had this grilled chicken sandwich on whole wheat advertised with lettuce and tomato. Well, it wasn't whole wheat, it was a hamburger bun with butter on it (that I threw out). then I order what they called an Asian vege medley, the description said it had zucchini, squash and some other veges. Well, what they had as the vege medley was nothing at all like what was advertised. No zucchini, no squash, it was so bad that I had one bite and threw the rest away. When I noticed this, I shouldn't have even ordered it. I just had water to drink. Thank goodness I brought some food with me. Jess didn't have breakfast so I gave her a peach that I had.

Cory - so sorry you're having to go thru all that

DJ - Vince went down to the OR at about 9 and got back to his room about 3:30. He was awake for it. Your dinner sounds awesome

Katie - good luck to your sister

Laurel - how cool that you are in the US Virgin Islands! Congrats on all you're doing

I'm just so tired, going to bed now so I get up for swimming tomorrow

Michele in NC

:flowerforyou:

Hi, all, welcome to the new ones, thank you so much to the "old" ones.

Starting to feel like I might survive--the bleeding's slowed down from the rectal fissure, and the pain.

Haven't actually started the nitroglycerin cream for it yet--my husband whisked me off with him to do one of his assignments after 11 a.m. yesterday. We drove 45 miles to get a backhoe tire upcountry where they're training folks at a test track. Slow trip, with monster tires on the back of his truck from there to Odessa (another 90 minutes there, then 90 minutes back, then 45 minutes back to town, etc. etc.). Ended up having to take yet another hour at the test track so he could fiddle with a carburetor on a compressor that the user had flooded to the point gasoline was dripping off of the thing.

I watched my incredible husband strip this carburetor down to its component parts six times in that hour--my admiration for him knows no bounds. He patiently substituted one part or combination of parts each time to try to get the blinking thing running, and when it was finally running, handed it over to the idiot who needed the thing WITH INSTRUCTIONS on how to get the compressor going and keep it going.

Selfsame idiot called him about six p.m., as we were finally headed into town, and asked my DH to bring out the electric compressor that my husband had offered to bring earlier in the day, but had been turned down. The goober said he just didn't want to deal with working through the process my DH had given him to get the fiddly compressor going. "Idiot," by the way, is the airplane mechanic for the company owners. I would not fly in a plane he serviced after yesterday's performance.

Anyway, the hour's delay meant I didn't get back into town until after the pharmacy closed... but all told yesterday, I had the fewest episodes (warning: TMI, look away!) of massive butt snot and minor bleeding that I've had in weeks, and none occurred until late in the day. The mucus my body's producing in its attempt to heal is what's gumming up the process (horrible pun, sorry!). My system reacts to it like it's diarrhea and I have to go running for the bathroom each time or risk having to find a complete change of clothes. It's frustrating, beyond annoying and traumatic.

But, there are always things that bring some perspective. As we were on the way back, I found out one of my favorite servers, Abraham, was life-flighted to Midland Hospital, and things don't look very good. His girlfriend is also one of my servers, and she's with him, and not doing well. I've known since the day I took on the job that Abraham was dying of end-stage lung cancer--he told me himself, he's very open about it--but the doctors had given him another year to live. The current chemo process has knocked him down so far, though, that the chemo itself is killing him. Makes my petty troubles seem just that.

I'll be setting up a donation box when I go in to try to get some cash together for him and his girlfriend and the family. If by some miracle he actually comes back out of the hospital, serving is his only income, as it is the girlfriend's, and they're both part-time, so no benefits. Will be sending an e-mail to the GM, who will hopefully forward it up to the owners, to see if we can get some help from that end as well. Just hate it for all concerned--he's an amazing man, not even 30 yet, and will leave behind a baby daughter, as well.

Lisa, mourning in West Texas

Today has already started out poorly. Son has another migraine... Missing another day of school and will probably call off work later. Both my husband and I lit into him at 6:00am. He's been sabotaging himself ... Not wearing cpap, eating crap and I suspect not doing homework (creating stress). This is his senior year. He wants to go to college. Not happening if he doesn't get it together real soon.

I wish I knew how to deal with this. These are his choices and he has to deal with the consequences ... But now my worry-gene had kicked into high gear. And now I have a headache!

Sigh

Beth

Hi all!

Sylvia, Beth , Rita, Margaret and others - my heart goes out to all of you who have such big worries over their children. I know how it affects me when my beloved ones are suffering, or are not making good choices for themselves. I don't have any answers, other than to say that, if you can do it, then just listening to what they have to say might help. I am not always good at that myself, but it can be the first step in opening up a dialogue. The other person often doesn't want to talk, but that's because we are not good at listening. Really listening to what is going on with them and not with our own agenda and desire to set them right. As I say, I am not the best example, but we can only try. A really good therapist is even better, but finding the right one is a challenge and the cost often prohibitive. There are lots of books on how to open up non judgemental dialogue so thst is a possible avenue. This might work with younger children who often have a lot on their minds that they can't express easily. Art work, writing can help.
Whatever, it's hard. We feel helpless, but so much want to help. Sending you all my love.

DH is home today because the cricket is rained off. I'm glad as I was getting a bit low. It was most likely because I hadn't been doing my memoir, so I did a few paragraphs today and immediately felt miles better! Keeping my commitments to myself is very important. Writing is vital to my mental health.

Lisa - I hope your a×÷s feels better soon. What an absolute (literally) pain!

Posting a pic of DGD wearing the rabbit cardigan I bought her for her birthday.



Lots of love, Heather UK

Oh, boy, do we have a problem! I need some detective help on this one from anyone with experience with pre-teen girls.

This morning I arrived at the apartment building to pick up the kids as usual. My son gets the kids ready and brings them down to the lobby, so he and two of the kids were sitting at the table in the lobby waiting. I asked, where is Adrienne? (She's the one who has been lying, sneaking food, and failing in her classes.). He told me she had forgotten her homework and had to go back upstairs to get it. After several minutes she came down with one sheet of notebook paper, saying she had found it. As she rushed (in a very suspicious manner) to stuff it into her binder we could see that it was blank. My son asked her about it and she said, oh, it's only blank on one side - the homework is on the other side. She swore up and down that it really was her homework. We knew better, so I took the binder and opened it up. Sure enough, the only thing written on the paper was the word "boys". My grandson said, hey, that's the sign from my bedroom door! Then the granddaughter said she had suddenly remembered that her homework was already in her binder. I looked again, and it was. When asked why she went through all that pretense, she just shrugged. She was really mad at me for opening her binder. She didn't talk to me all the way to school. One side note in this saga, is that she was wearing shorts and a tshirt that were WAY to small for her, and she reeked of body odor.

I called my son after I dropped her off and he told me that there was some reason she wanted to be alone in the apartment this morning. They were waiting for her when they were ready to go downstairs and she suggested several times that they should go on and she would come down by herself. He said no, then once they were downstairs she came up with this phony reason that she needed to go back upstairs. He also said that she has been faking taking showers (thus the b.o.) and she got really defensive when he suggested that her clothes were not right for school, but by then she had run out of time to change.

So, I have to wonder what is going on. What reason did she have to want to be alone in the apartment? My son said he is going to look in her room today and see if he can find the reason. He's pretty much at wits end with her. I have to say though, that it's all freakily familiar, because he used to do stuff exactly like that when he was younger, and he went ballistic when I looked in his room. But he was a teenager then, with a very serious drug problem. She is only 11!

It goes to show that Karma really is a b#%ch!

I'm going to buy some deodorant spray and keep it in the van.

Any suggestions? She had been going to see a therapist but he said she was finished and didn't need to come back. And now my son has burned some bridges in the mental health department so he can't take her back anyway. She desperately needs some kind of help though. I'm going to see if I can find anything.

Well, sorry to ramble on. I hope you are all having a beautiful morning.

Sylvia

Sylvia, Is there a school counselor you could go to for advice? Hopefully they would be familiar with this type of behavior and have some suggestions.

Michele - so glad that you are able to pick Vince up and glad he's doing so well!

Welcome to everyone new and hugs to all those needing them.

Carey-Edmonton

morning peeps - 8 more days!!! -

whippet - sorry to hear about deedee's issues. i wouldn't be embarrased about the audiobook, it's a book and if my husband would have said that to me, i would have laughed and said it's a book called, ..... and they're talking about blow jobs (or whatever), have you heard of it???

debnmike- congrats on your 14lb loss!!! oh yeah, welcome!!

annr - that makes sense on how your hubby was able to purch a uniform.

welcome laurelin - good luck with your zumba cha cha cha moves!

janetr - tuff life those poochers have

mtowne002 - awww thanks, shucks ::::: as i kick dirt with my head down and hands held together behind my back :::::

it might be worth your while to get a heart rate monitor cathymaclain. you will be surprised on how much you burned watching your granddaughter.

bwcetc - if your worry gene is kicking into hi gear, do i need to strap my boot on and put that into high gear too??? ::::snap out of it!!!:::: he has to want this for himself, you wanting it for him is not going to make it happen. {{{{hugs}}}}}} followed by a :::: kick :::::

whippet - where does she get her clothes, who buys them. can't complain about the clothes if they are being bought for her, karma is a mother for sure. i would let her stink actually... i am very old school and that definatley wouldn't fly if she were my moms daughter, lololol...

type to ya later

Hi all. I am home safe and sound. We had a good time but I am so tired I can't figure out what to do here at work. I saw some cute pictures you guys have been posting. Well, more later. Maybe when I can think straight. Meg from Omaha where I appreciate the lack of traffic after Nashville!

Barbie – I hope Jake figures out the WiFi situation. When we were in El Paso the young woman working the front desk helped us immensely.

Beth – I’m so pleased that your Dad enjoyed his Honor Flight experience. It makes me want to do it again even more. // Do we ever stop worrying about our kids? // More hugs for your situation with your son. I wish I had a magic wand for kids.

Sylvia – Hugs for DGD and her school situations. My DD used to sneak food, and lie about being fed breakfast before school, etc. I spent a lot of time in the Psychologist office trying to learn how to talk to and treat her, and it did NO good, so I REALLY hope you all find the answers she needs. Hugs and Prayers ! ! ! (I could use that magic wand again) // I hope your hips feel better quickly.

Michele – Hugs for such a traumatic day. I hope it continues to get better and better every day.

Mindy – Congrats on your lovely day showing off your new job to your DD. // My DS and DH both have Tommy Copper braces. DS loves them, thinks his knees feel better instantly, so he usually wears them to basketball even when his knees are not hurting (just growing pains, but he is a multi-sport athlete). DH does not like his at all (but I’m not convinced that he bought the right size), mostly because they keep sliding down. DH and I are both fans of proper arch supports inside shoes. I make my own (short/wide foot) and DH got his from The Good Feet Store for several hundred dollars, but swears they are the best things ever, and I believe good foot support is directly related to less leg and back pain.

MnMargaret – Hugs for your situation as well. In Fact, Hugs for everyone with their struggles. Why can’t kids today be as simple as we were at that age? Oh wait, I was the nightmare that walked the line between good and trouble without actually crossing that line. Oops ! ! ! How did my parents have any hair left in their heads - waiting for me to grow-up? More hugs for everyone ! ! !

Heather – Love the rabbit sweater. Very wise advise about talking to our children. I find it easiest in the car, because he likely can’t access anything good on his phone, so I don’t have to get crabby trying to get him to turn it off and pay attention to the conversation. DD just tells me what she wants when she wants. Sometimes that’s never, and sometimes its W A Y too much.

Sylvia – I’m leaning toward thinking she has her cycle, and isn’t 100% secure about how to handle it (like, what to do before during and after shower to not create more of a mess). A slight side-note: One time when my DD had a classmate that had some body odor problems, we went to the Dollar Store and bought a full line of personal hygiene products that all smelled the same and put them in a pretty basket for her Birthday. Body wash, lotion, powder, shampoo, conditioner, deodorant, and a pretty sponge; all lilac scent. Granted, this will only help a little if she is having her cycle right now, but it could be a way to open the dialogue. It would probably be less awkward if Grandma gave her a package of thin pads, too (as opposed to Dad taking her shopping for these items). And helping her find healthy and filling snacks might help, too. The dollar stores around here sell smaller snack size Ziploc bags that are perfect for nuts or seeds or trail mix. Granted, I could be WAY off, but I hope brainstorming helps you get moving in the right direction.

I REALLY fell off the wagon yesterday. This soft white diet thing has me thrown for a loop, and I just can't control myself, especially in the middle of the night. I started with an apple & greens smoothie from JambaJuice. Then jumped off face first into a soft pretzel with cheese. Then when I got home, the pumpkin cake I made for DS found it's way to my chair, and I ate 2 pieces. Good thing canned pumpkin is on the "ok to eat" list right now, since I was terribly traumatized by not being able to eat popcorn.

The movie was wonderful. "Everest" was in 3D on the IMAX screen, and amazing scenery. It was produced like a docu-drama, so not completely documentary, but close to the National Geographic story I read a few months ago. The lady next to me cried practically the entire second 1/2 of the movie.

Now, back on the wagon with healthy food, fruit, vegetables, lean meat. yay ! And although my arthritis is terrible in almost my entire body, I was able to distract myself on the bike for 18 minutes this morning (Thank You Pandora !)

Hugs for Everyone ! ! !

Terri in Milwaukee

So i just wanted to introduce myself. I have been here before (at MFP) and have been absent for quite a long time. I have gained A LOT of weight -- mostly stress related eating -- and am at my all time heaviest. I am 53, generally healthy but with about 35-40lbs to lose...(50 would be ideal but i think unrealistic) I am already daunted by the number and because i feel relatively good not as incentivized as i should be. AND because of that, the weight keeps creeping on.
I have been down this road before and i need to really REALLY []REALLY[] get a handle and control on my eating, my emotions and my LIFE.
I have started focusing on myself more: Meditation, Taking courses in Social Media and Portuguese, trying to work on an injury so i can get back to exercising with more oomph and generally trying to better myself.
I have largely focused on EVERYONE ELSE's problems for the last 5 yrs... believing that i am fine and there to support everyone else....now realizing i need to support myself first.
I tend to be pretty happy and can always find a silver lining -- even in the worst situations -- but i really need to -- i don't want to say "FIX" myself -- but i want to HELP me help myself and get to a point where i don't carry my weight as a physical and mental/emo burden.
Goals for the month:

• meditate every am
• study portuguese every day
• follow my course online
• do my PT everyday
• do 30 mins of cardio 4+/wk plus some strength training
• drink 3 glasses of water a day
• JOURNAL JOURNAL JOURNAL
  

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Hi all!

Sylvia, Beth , Rita, Margaret and others - my heart goes out to all of you who have such big worries over their children. I know how it affects me when my beloved ones are suffering, or are not making good choices for themselves. I don't have any answers, other than to say that, if you can do it, then just listening to what they have to say might help. I am not always good at that myself, but it can be the first step in opening up a dialogue. The other person often doesn't want to talk, but that's because we are not good at listening. Really listening to what is going on with them and not with our own agenda and desire to set them right. As I say, I am not the best example, but we can only try. A really good therapist is even better, but finding the right one is a challenge and the cost often prohibitive. There are lots of books on how to open up non judgemental dialogue so thst is a possible avenue. This might work with younger children who often have a lot on their minds that they can't express easily. Art work, writing can help.
Whatever, it's hard. We feel helpless, but so much want to help. Sending you all my love.

DH is home today because the cricket is rained off. I'm glad as I was getting a bit low. It was most likely because I hadn't been doing my memoir, so I did a few paragraphs today and immediately felt miles better! Keeping my commitments to myself is very important. Writing is vital to my mental health.

Lisa - I hope your a×÷s feels better soon. What an absolute (literally) pain!

Posting a pic of DGD wearing the rabbit cardigan I bought her for her birthday.



Lots of love, Heather UK

Oh My! That is soooo Lovely! What a Cutie!