WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2016

Kids and homework are diametrically opposed!

Still in Illinois, and the new baby is doing very well. I am so happy with the baby and for my daughter. I don't seem to have much time to post lately. I'll touch bases when I can but may not be responding to people. I'm in Illinois and there is a World Series Game at Wriggly Field. Guess what we're watching on TV tonight. :bigsmile:

Katla49 in IL USA

http://liveboldandbloom.com/07/quotes/words-of-encouragement

Thought I would share this with you all.

Shot and CT scan went OK yesterday, although it hurt like hell. Didn't feel much like cooking after I got out of there last night, so I hit up my neighborhood Taco Bell. Also hit Redbox on the way home. Watched "Warcraft" and "Central Intelligence" last night. Both good movies. Not feeling so good today, the pain is worse and I'm nauseous, but no vomiting yet. I guess that's the good part. Well, I'm gonna go eat a little something and curl up on the couch. Maybe I'll find something interesting to watch on TV tonight. You ladies have a great night.

Sherry in PDX

Hello Ladies,

Today was a down day. Which was hard as my DH was moving furniture around so we can clean carpets. It was hard but I did get to be the micro manager. Ha ha! Tomorrow will be a test day. Need to be gone most of tomorrow while our carpets dry. I think we will park it at the movie theater.

Wishing everyone a nice Friday !

Liz
Idaho

Janet, do you raise llamas? They are cute but they always remind me of when my parents went to the zoo with us many, many years ago.One of the llamas spit on Dad and it was awful.

One of my brothers was a lifer in the Navy. He was on a sub. So he was one of those part time parents. I am sure if his kids didn't have almost every mental alphabet problem like ADD, OCD, etc. So his wife would do the discipline while he was gone and then Dad would come home. Being in the military, he was used to a very disciplined lifestyle. So when he got home, he wanted that continued. When he had to go back to the sub, Mom was in charge again. So life didn't go well with them.

One of these afore mentioned boys is the 'Dad' to our newest newborn in our 'family'. His woman, well I'm not sure she is a woman since she stated having her children at around age 16. So he isn't sure the first child was his but that didn't matter as soon as that baby was born. It was a volatile relationship, on again, off again. They lived together enough years that in the eyes of the state of Alabama they were married. So after 3 children they decided to finally get a divorce only they didn't have the money for that so they just lived apart. They shared responsibility of the kids when she had a car and could get them. She lived with this man or another man. When the kids were with her, they lived in this awful state, drugs, women for money, everything. So she got pregnant again and ran back to him. He knew that he wasn't the father. He was born yesterday and his birth certificate has my nephews name on it. One day I found a rock in my car that some one had put a message on it that said 'Grace abounds'. I have no idea who put it there but I guess God had something to do with it. I will need that rock in my pocket when that girl comes for Christmas. My brother and his wife love all the other girls just like any grandparents would. They will do the same with this boy. But I can just see this young women getting mad and leave in a big huff and takes the little 'brother'. The oldest of the girls is 5 and youngest is 3. I remember one Christmas when my nephew got here he said that Brittney couldn't come because she had the flu. OK, we don't doubt it. But when he goes home, when he gets there, she has had a nice long weekend with another guy and it was pre-planned.

Now we go to another brother. He has one child who was so spoiled when he was little. So he has always felt it didn't take much to get his way and he had total control of his parents. In his mid teens he starts playing around with drugs and soon he finds himself trying heroin. So several years ago he was put in a treatment center for addicts. He could have served his time in a prison but somehow by the grace of God, they put him in a wonderful treatment center. Before he finally got caught, he was with a girl and together they had 3 children. This was after a very short marriage that created 1 child. The wonderful Mom of the 3 kids has always come to our house for Christmas with my brother and SIL. She has just been part of the family. But now she is engaged, my nephew is with another woman and she is coming. So Momma is just going to drive all the way from Cincinnatti to us and drop the kids off and then come back the next day. Yep, my nephew has really never taken a Daddy role with the kids. My brother and SIL are the babysitters much of the time and when they have them and the kids are there he doesn't do anything with them. The kids really of course don't have much to do with him either. My family is messed up.But the nephew is 3 years clean and in college to be an addiction counselor.

Joyce, Indiana

Dr. Katie: Happy Birthday. As others have said already, you look great!

Heidi: Happy birthday and welcome to our friendly group.

Pip: Good luck! We’ll be with you in spirit.

Lisa: Ellie is a doll. Have you ever met her mom? Hope it all works for the best.

Allie: Rest up. So glad you’ll have a free weekend.

Betty: Babaloo! Oye que si. I love peppy Latin music and play it all the time during my pre-dawn workouts. Really gets me going.

Mary: Two weeks! I am so putting you on my list to get healing thoughts and energy.

Heather: Can never get enough of Bea. That smile can melt iceburgs. Happy house-hunting!

Margaret: What a lovely tribute. Can really get a sense of what a magnificent woman your mom was, and how she influenced you in becoming the amazing lady you are today.

Rita: It’s so great to see you back here with us. Hope DH gets better soon.

Lenora: I was considering getting one of those brushes that dries as you style your hair. I’m afraid I’d have similar results as you did.

DJ: Sounds like Myrtle Beach and Denver are having the same weather. We actually touched 80’s today, which is a new record for this date.

SKuehn: Yay on the positive news from the pulmonologist. Sounds like you are on a great fitness routine.

Sherry: Rest up. Let us know how you're doing tomorrow.

Saw a financial planner today. I’m shopping for LTC insurance for myself. I have every other kind of insurance, and buy it more out of superstition than risk mitigation. I’ve never made a home or car insurance claim. I seldom reach the deductible on my medical insurance. But I do have tremendous peace of mind, and a little voice inside me says the minute I drop a coverage, the fates will come back to bite me. If I buy LTC insurance, my gut says I’ll live a long, healthy and independent life. Of course, it would be nice to know I could get some home care, should the need arise.

So again, I’ll say it. Stay well, friends. We can do this.

Rori
Colorado Foothills

Haven't been on a computer for very long as my eyes can't stand too much light. Eyes have gotten worse again and they don't seem to be healing the way they should. I also have had the flu for the last few days. Sheesh, it never rains but it pours!

Missing reading all the posts but I'll catch up when I can.

Thinking of you..

Carey - Northern Alberta


Goals for Oct:
- Increase walking now that the hamstring has healed
- Get to Tai Chi at least once a week

Jacuzzi and ice pack are my friends! My husband brought me to the hotel. I will try swimming tomorrow.



Mary from Minnesota

I am caught up again. I'm sure that won't last.

Lisa - Ellie is adorable. I pray that all works out and your son can be part of his life. It might be complicated but I'm sure it will be worth it.

Heather - Thanks for the Bea fix

Margaret - I feel like I would have loved spending time with your Mom. Thank you for sharing such a special tribute with us.

Katla - Baby snuggles come before all else. We Grandmas understand that. Breathe in that beautiful baby aroma for me.

Wore my Queen of Hearts costume to work. No makeup because of the microblading on Wednesday and besides my daughter wouldn't help me this morning. I don't understand why, I only had to be at work by 6 a.m. Lol. Lots of compliments today so I didn't need to have anyone's head taken off. Tomorrow we are seeing what we can do but strict instructions not to arrive at her house before 7:15 a.m. DD's other appointments for makeup will go from 9-9.
DBIL is back from Texas for 4 days. He has no desire to live in Borger. I feel bad for him because my sister doesn't get up, has no food in the house, etc. Thank goodness she hires my niece to clean the house before he comes home. Trying to mind my business but she will never find another like him.
Came home to my living room / hall way being painted. Trying not to be annoyed. I don't think asking me what I think of the colour after it is on the wall really constitutes me having input. GRRRR
Another diesel truck and the engine is shot. I keep hearing how redoing these vehicles and compressors is going to make us money. I have to wonder when that will start.
Sorry people, feeling a little bitchy tonight.
Looking forward to the potluck and the costumes tomorrow. In the afternoon I am going to a Steeped Tea party and then it will probably be movie time.
My eating has been horrible and I need to really get that back on track. Tomorrow is a new day.

-Sharon in Lethbridge.

Morning, ladies...

Katie - happy belated birthday!

Heather - thanks for the Bea fix...

Second cup of coffee, and last Keurig cup in the pantry, so I'm either switching to tea or drinking my husband's high-test Columbian. Tea it is!

Am pleased that our son has finally got to meet his daughter. Watching the developments with interest, but still somewhat detached--he's enjoying every moment before he goes back to Montana for the remainder of his military enlistment. I believe he's got a year left. We'll just wait and see how it all turns out.

I, on the other hand, am putting the brakes on at my job--I've put myself in an impossible position (I know you're all surprised! ) and now I have to extricate myself from it, and am trying to figure out how to do it with least damage to all concerned. The good part is, my DH is, as always, very supportive.

My choices are:

1) keep going like I am, which is unacceptable--I've stopped sleeping, pretty much, too exhausted on a daily basis to work out, my eating's careened completely out of control, and I could go on, but I won't. You can thank me later.

2) quit completely, which is definitely an option.

3) offer to work part-time, about 15 hours a week, to help her maintain the standard I've set.

I'm leaning toward the third one, but have a feeling the owner, who lives and works near Austin at the headquarters for the group, will say, "Let her go." Long story.

Whatever - in self-defense, I simply have to stop the current path and take another. I'm absolutely dreading the holidays at the paper, and I hate feeling this way. I love the day-to-day job, but am just too tired to cope.

My departure from a full-time wage will definitely slow down our progress toward our dreams, but having a heart attack (my mother had already had four of them and an angioplasty by the time she was my current age) would wreck them completely.

One thing I have decided is--no more "permanent" jobs. Contracts, sure, with a defined end date or deliverable. But no more open-ended hires. I get too invested, pour too much of myself, my heart and soul and body, into them to make them excel. I have to learn to do things by halves, and I'm not sure I can at 56.

I have to go to the laundromat.

Thoughtfully...
Lisa in West Texas

DJ So great you cast your absentee ballot! I am trying to figure out how to do that myself, as the lines will be so long on Nov. 8. I hope you are dried out from being waterlogged by now!

Marcelyn That's the spirit! Where there's a will, there's a way!

SueBDew in Texas Nice weight loss! And thanks for the Happy Saturday wishes a day early LOL!!!

Heather (((Triple Hug))) And thanks for the BEAutiful pictures of your grands. They do warm my heart.

Mary Sending healing thoughts. Are you home now?

Sharon in Lethbridge Oh, do fill us in on the details! Why was your meal-fixing delicious but dangerous? And what did you and your sister fight about? Many of us can empathize, although my only sister has been dead now for 16 years. And I would definitely be bitchy if I came home to a new paint job I hadn't been consulted on.

Lisa in West Texas That little girl is adorable! Your son and your granddaughter will undoubtedly enrich each other's lives, as long as Ellie's momma continues to cooperate. Fingers crossed! He must be floating! And concerning your relationship with your job, it nearly brought tears to my eyes, as I can relate. My job is definitely for a younger person. I had the energy for it 25 years ago, but the pace is unrelenting and exhausting now at the age of 62. Trying to figure it out. Impressed at your clarity concerning your own situation. I think you are practical and brave.

Heidi That sunrise photo is phenomenal. Originally from Nebraska, home to many gorgeous sunrises and sunsets, I am duly impressed with that MA sunrise. Wow! Thanks for sharing that photo. & Happy Bday!

Janetr I am getting the feeling you really like Tampa! Who knows, maybe you and your hubby will find your retirement haven while you are on the road! And the baby llama...be still my heart. Love baby llamas. So cute!

Speaking of retirement, I cannot tell you how thrilled I was to find out that Cheri and her husband are considering my little neck of the woods for their retirement! Yay!

Pip

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DanceswithDogz We are so lucky to have Barbie who has taken on the responsibility of starting a new thread the first of every month. Just remember to switch your bookmark over to the new thread. She will post a link in this month's thread.

Wickglamgirl Sorry you were sick! Two weeks is a long time to be sick.

Kate UK I was saddened to discover how many calories, grams of fat, and grams of sodium most Chinese food has, as I love it. I feel certain you did burn off a bunch of calories unpacking those books!

Margaret Lovely tribute to your mom! Have I mentioned more than 400 times how much I now appreciate my wonderful mother, while taking her for granted when I was younger. I realize now how rare that gift is. And funny! story about Grant Wood reference and the German stained glass, etc. Made me smile.

Becca I am envious of your relationship with your son. My son was always monosyllabic, despite the time of day, when he was growing up. Now he is pedantic.

Joyce I bet a lot of us here have messed up families. I do. Mental illness, infidelity, scandals, disappointments, etc. I had such a wonderful childhood. Then we all grew up and the s**t hit the fan.

Rori Ooh! I am so interested in your LTCI investigating. I had an opportunity a decade ago to buy a fantastic John Hancock policy. Little did I know that I passed up a golden opportunity, that policy is no longer offered. I am now 62 and still mulling over the much more limited and expensive options available to me for LTCI. Keep us posted!

Gloworm You get the prize for being energetic and amazing! You seem to be very young at heart. Festival sounds so fun.

Penny I am sorry you are stuck with extra duties. When it happens to me at my workplace (someone has an emergency or there is a scheduling error), and I have to pick up the slack, I am drained by it. Fortunately, it doesn't happen often. We are busy enough as it is, without being 1 person down.

Peggy Welcome! Barbie will start a new thread in November. Be sure to bookmark it. She will post a link here.

Everybody else: Sending love and support your way. As Rori would say, we can do this!



"The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become."

Today my granddaughter spends the afternoon and overnight. My grandson doesn't like to come here anymore because I limit his screen time while he is here. He really enjoys our activities, but when it's time to come back, all he remembers is that he will have to get his head out of the screens. So he will be staying at grandpa's house tonight. Hope he grows out of that, I miss him, and he is only 10. Anyway, we will be going to a Halloween costume party for kids and adults at my stepson's house. My granddaughter will be wearing a costume. I will probably just wear a fascinator I made for Halloween, and dress in my comfy leggings and a long top. Jammies! My partner has a dog biscuit making project for our granddaughter this afternoon. She will love that. We always have to wash at least one dog and go for walks with the dogs when she is here. She doesn't have a dog so it's very exciting for her and she is a NATURAL with the dogs. She can do things with them that nobody else can. They are putty in her hands. So sweet!


Karen in Virginia

Good morning....good morning! Happy Saturday everyone!
It has been a busy week at daycare. But fun was had by all. Lots of harvest and pumpkin stories. Books where witches, mummies, vampires, and monsters are friends. Games where the kids had to "find the different" item. Fun for the kiddos, not very stimulating for people over age four, though! LOL! As usual I was so busy with party/week planning, I left my costume for last; so ended up grabbing a jersey and baseball cap from my son's room and went as a Cubs fan.



Sorry the pics are so big, but had to share what keeps me busy every day. Lunch was mummy dogs, apple slices, Boo berries (white chocolate covered strawberries, and witches brooms (pretzel stick and string cheese). Best picture I got of most of the kids (because they were constantly moving), and a pic of Supergirl, Eliot. She is a doll baby. Just turned a year old, new walker, and a big flirt!

I have loved looking at everyone's pics! The grandkids are darling, the baby llama is SO cute and I will have to show that to my kiddos (they love the Lllama, llama stories), wolf whistle for the lady in the birthday suit (Katie), sunset in MA is gorgeous.
Lisa-best wishes on your career decision. Not an easy one, but you have to do what makes you feel healthy and whole!
Penny- DEFINITELY you should demand extra pay. You are doing the job of two people! Best wishes to you as you get through this busy time. Grab at every peaceful YOU moment you can get! Sending hugs!
Sherry- I love the quotes! Thanks for sharing. We must have had the same thought at dinner time last night. I also had Taco Bell. Just couldn't bring myself to cook dinner after a week of cooking and baking. Hope you are feeling better soon!
Peggy- Welcome! It sounds like you are on your way to looking and feeling better! Come often and chime in wherever you feel the desire to share or give advice!
Sharon- This close to Halloween we call it witchy! LOL! Venting is good! Hope you wake up and have a better day/weekend!
Heather-reading about your purging feels almost as good as doing it myself! Tarragon! Do you cook with it often? I think the only time I have cooked with tarragon was when I had to make dinner for the cast and crew of my DYS's high school performance of Phantom. I made about 100 chicken tarragon crepes. They went over really well. I also had made 100 italian crepes. All got eaten. I have found that tarragon has an interesting flavor; almost like an anise? I am wondering if it would be better on beef than chicken. DH finds the flavor overwhelming.
Carey- Feel better!! Sending love and hugs
New girls- Welcome! As you get used to how talkative we are, it is a little hard to follow who is who, married to who, going through what. You get used to that. Please come often, comment if you wish, take/give advice as needed. This is a great group of ladies who have given me emotional and motivational support when I have needed it. They are also not afraid to tell you when your pity party has gone on long enough and will give you a pep talk or give you the kick in the back side, or tell you to put on your big girl panties and get busy. On the last day of each month Barbie will post the link to the next month (usually in the evening). So just watch for her post on Monday, click on the link to November, bookmark it and stay with us!
Busy day today. Looks like rain, but I need to get out and get my trees and flowers pruned/trimmed. The wind was really blowing last night so I imagine I will have a lot of branches to pick up, too. I'm good with that. Should be a great calorie burn!
ttyl KJ (Kelly)

Cleveland Indians...who in their right mind names their child Coco Crisp? WTH?

Kellly great pictures.

Thank you for all the feedback on My Mom's tribute. I made minor changes because of you to improve the tribute. I"ll give it a day or two and read it to a couple more friends before the final version is read at my mother's memorial.

Well I have to take Homer back to the vet!! we will be broke