What nobody tells you about losing weight
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That I'd be obsessively fretting about whether or not the scale is broken or not (there's nothing wrong with it!).8
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CeciliaBobilia wrote: »I thought this was a thread about the unexpected results of weight loss....
Hungry people are mean is the unexpected result
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CeciliaBobilia wrote: »I thought this was a thread about the unexpected results of weight loss....
Hungry people are mean is the unexpected result
I don't think that's unexpected or surprising at all. You must be new here...9 -
That losing weight doesn't mean giving up all the foods I liked or "starving" myself. I haven't done any of that (just watched portions) and I'm down 48 lbs at a rate of 2 lbs/wk.
I won't say losing weight is easy (because it definitely isn't) but it's certainly not as challenging as I anticipated, which is why I put it off for so long.
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Nobody warned me about drunken weighloss face/ugly weighloss face. Just am in one of those awkward spots where my weigh loss shows in part of my face and fat Craig shows in the other. The result I look hammered stone cold sober;)
omg! this is what is happening to me - thought it was just a poor photo!
I look really gaunt on parts of my cheeks when running. Looks horrible - hoping that it stops soon!
I have constant bags under my eyes/look slighlty gaunt in the face too! Even though my diet is the absolute healthiest its ever been! Maybe its just because im not used to this new thinner face6 -
I've notices a lot of people mentioning their resentment of people who don't take care of their bodies. Remember that was you once, practice compassion. You might just inspire someone to change their life!76
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FickleFruitBat wrote: »I've notices a lot of people mentioning their resentment of people who don't take care of their bodies. Remember that was you once, practice compassion. You might just inspire someone to change their life!
I can be compassionate but that doesn't stop the thoughts in my head.22 -
FickleFruitBat wrote: »I've notices a lot of people mentioning their resentment of people who don't take care of their bodies. Remember that was you once, practice compassion. You might just inspire someone to change their life!
I feel like the weird one out. I've heard it often throughout the years but never experienced it. I don't even need to be compassionate because I just don't feel sorry for them or see them any differently than I did when I was morbidly obese, just people with different choices and priorities. I guess because my weight loss was brought about by necessity and it was a choice I would have never made if I didn't have to.19 -
Lol ! You're so right. I love itHungry_Shopgirl wrote: »
I've been know to complain that thin people in my life would talk a big talk when it comes to food and then don't follow through. For example, if a thin friend of mine said: "Man, I'm so hungry I could eat a whole pizza!" and then proceeded to eat 1.5 slices and call it a night, I would consider that being hypocritical. Because I would say "Yeah, me too!" and then eat my own pizza and the rest of theirs.
Well, what nobody told me about losing weight is that I would start doing exactly that myself.
I can't even help it. If I'm very hungry in my mind I think I could totally eat a whole pizza all by myself....then I hit two slices and find I'm very satisfied and stop. It drives my husband nuts, especially when it comes to ice cream: I have never in my life ordered or eaten less than two scoops of ice-cream. But now I find I get about halfway through it and it starts tasting sickeningly sweet...But I still order the two-scooper 'cause I think there's no way I'll be satisfied with just one.
Don't get me wrong, I can still down a whole thing of cookies when TOM rolls around. But on a normal, everyday basis, my talk is definitely bigger than my stomach. Would that be a case of eating my own words?
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A couple that bother me a bit (I know I'm the pessimist lol)
- for me personally I still have days where I feel I look the same I did when I was 35 pounds heavier... I never really considered that before.
- how it gives people you barely know the "right" to comment on your body.
- gaining a couple pounds is a much bigger deal to me now then it ever has been and trying not to freak out about it.
- but I do love that I can wear just a t shirt and jeans now instead of the tight tank top under the top to smooth things out and the cardigan on top of that to hide any back bumps or side bumps. So that's a definite bonus
I have also discovered that reading posts like these on this Thread can cause me to want to reach more goals that are not realistic for me as an individual simply because I want to recreate success when I should be satisfied with the ones I already attained for myself, and now it's just a matter of maintaining and also keeping it interesting while doing it. In other words, I need to be happy and proud of me reaching my goals and not envying other people's goals that I used to have myself while in the process of becoming healthy and fit. This, I'm learning!
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sallvcg1862 wrote: »That losing weight doesn't mean giving up all the foods I liked or "starving" myself. I haven't done any of that (just watched portions) and I'm down 48 lbs at a rate of 2 lbs/wk.
I won't say losing weight is easy (because it definitely isn't) but it's certainly not as challenging as I anticipated, which is why I put it off for so long.
YES THIS my sister has always had issues with her weight, gaining, losing, gaining etc. So I've always seen losing weight as nearly impossible because apparently it's that hard right?
Well so far, and I know I still have a long way to go, but so far it's been going really well. There was only one week where I didn't lose but also didn't gain and that was mostly bc it was my birthday and I went away for a weekend. But I allowed myself to do that, to be fine with not losing weight. And by taking off that pressure to be perfect and lose it all within ... but going steady, maybe a little slower then I'd like but by looking at all progress as progress keeps me very motivated to carry on. This way I see progress everywhere, and with this mindset it's just so much easier to lose because why would I give up if I'm already noticing changes?20 -
cherrywils wrote: »Nobody warned me about drunken weighloss face/ugly weighloss face. Just am in one of those awkward spots where my weigh loss shows in part of my face and fat Craig shows in the other. The result I look hammered stone cold sober;)
omg! this is what is happening to me - thought it was just a poor photo!
I look really gaunt on parts of my cheeks when running. Looks horrible - hoping that it stops soon!
I have constant bags under my eyes/look slighlty gaunt in the face too! Even though my diet is the absolute healthiest its ever been! Maybe its just because im not used to this new thinner face
@cherrywils welcome to MFP forums and best of continued success. Being a guy if fixed the gaunt face comments by growing a beard. 8 -
treehugnmama wrote: »That you actually want to move your body.....I don't want to go to a movie I want to snowshoe or hike or skate even if it's an activity that isn't my fav still better than sitting around
That I need new friends.....friends that want do stuff other then sit and eat
Yep! If you want to be fit, hang out with fit people!
Larry Winget, author of "You're Broke Cause You Want To Be", and other self help books, suggests that if you want change in your life, you need to hang out with people that have already made the change to learn how to live like a person who had already been through the change. In that book, he suggests that if you want to have more money, hang out with people that aren't broke all the time - change your friends. In another part of the book he talks about how being broke is a 'state' that is brought upon yourself through your own actions or inactions and that all the 'states' (weight, fitness level, where you live, the job you have, education level, etc., etc.) in your life are in that state cause that is how you want them to be. Another way to say 'state' is outcome or result.
What I took away from the book was that if I wanted to change my fitness level, and weight, to hang out with people that were fit. So far it is working.
I'm also out of debt, cause I want to be.
There are many self help books on personal finance, I liked Larry's style of delivery more than the others. And, in case you are freaking out about how you don't want to be broke, Larry isn't talking about people that are scraping by on minimum wage, he's talking about middle class people that make 40k/year plus and are broke cause they over spend.17 -
jennybearlv wrote: »I bought new clothes in misses sizes and came to the realization that I will need a smaller phone next time I upgrade. I don't have phablet sized pockets on anything now and have to carry a purse.
You can have my phablet when you pry it out of my cold dead fingers!
That was what went through my head when I read your post, sorry, couldn't resist.9 -
Something dawned on me just a few minutes ago that I never would have considered in relation to weight loss - it takes me longer to use the bathroom, and I have to be more alert to my body's hints that I need to go so that I allow myself more time to get there!
Why? Because I'm no longer wearing elasticated trousers that I can quickly and easily pull up and down... I now have belts and buckles and buttons and zips to deal with, as well as close-fitting shirts to be tucked in when pulling everything up again.
It was all so simple before... now it's a bit of a performance some days!
Now that I'm closer to my goal, I invested in some Levi's 501 Button Fly Jeans. I used to wear them all the time growing up and decided to "get back into them". I was happy to see that they are still available. I am a little sad to see that the quality of the fabric is not as good as when I was younger, oh well.
The button fly is easy to open quickly when there is a sense of urgency. Buttoning back up is a little slower than a zipper, but the sense of urgency is usually gone at that point. Also there is no hunting for the tab or dealing with a tab that gets jammed in vertically.
I like the 501's as they are shrink-to-fit and don't show my actual size on the tag. I'm between 33-34 in the waist and 31-32 in the inseam, and I bought 36x34. The legs didn't shrink up enough so I had to hem them up a bit.
I like not knowing my actual size so I can honestly tell people the jeans are shrink-to-fit, so I don't know my size. One relative wants to know how many pounds I've lost and what size I was and what size I am now. I've actually lost track of the exact number of pounds between scales and recording weight methods. I have three scales I have used, the work scale, the old home scale and the new home scale. The recording methods were MFP (using the work scale, but only clothed weights at work after breakfast), Diet Bet (old and new home scales, but wearing less clothes before breakfast), and simple tracking using the old home scale with no clothes, before breakfast, after morning workout. Then there is the time frame and blah-blah-blah.
TL;DR: Levi's Button Fly 501's for speed on extraction.8 -
nutmegoreo wrote: »CeciliaBobilia wrote: »I thought this was a thread about the unexpected results of weight loss....
Hungry people are mean is the unexpected result
I don't think that's unexpected or surprising at all. You must be new here...
For real though I do get hangry now. Before I would just always eat crap if it was around. But now I take the time to go find something at least moderately acceptable, which can lead to hanger. And don't even get me started on my impatience level at restaurants now. I'm the worst! Luckily I know it so I don't freak out on the waiters lol...
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gradchica27 wrote: »zharptichka wrote: »How irritated you would get with people who 'hunt' for parking spots when you're in the car.
It's like, what difference does it make? There's a parking spot right here just take it. Why do we have to circle the lot for ten minutes because you're sure we can find one much closer. I just want to get out of the car *I whine in my whiniest voice ever.* Even if we park in the very last spot it's at most a 2 minute walk. We'll live.
True. Except when I have all four kids with me. Parking lots = possible heart attack trying to keep eyes on the 7&5 yo while chivvying on the slow poke 3 yo and either hefting the "walk! Walk!" Screaming 18 mo (plus any bags) or trying to corral /shove him in the right direction/run after him as he escapes while I try to hurry the 3 yo. That's why I'll hunt for a spot by the door or the cart corral--parking lots plus distracted drivers = nightmare.
When I was fostering, another foster parent explained a "formation" event. One parent (p1) of the pair always took the kids shopping. Then when the other parent (p2) took the kids shopping, the parent (p2) was upset that the kids weren't letting go of the shopping cart, always hanging on the cart. When they asked the kids why they wouldn't let go of the cart, the kids explained that the other parent (p1) made them hold onto the cart, each in their own place, so they could shop in "formation."
Maybe that will work for you? Good Luck!18 -
Anyone struggle with how to respond when people tell you that you look good? I'm trying to figure out what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable. When I had lost some weight but was still bigger than most of my friends I loved sharing my progress but now I'm smaller than most of my friends and I feel really uncomfortable sharing when I meet another fitness or weight loss goal.9
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jcummings6 wrote: »Anyone struggle with how to respond when people tell you that you look good? I'm trying to figure out what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable. When I had lost some weight but was still bigger than most of my friends I loved sharing my progress but now I'm smaller than most of my friends and I feel really uncomfortable sharing when I meet another fitness or weight loss goal.
Just say "Thank you."
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jcummings6 wrote: »Anyone struggle with how to respond when people tell you that you look good? I'm trying to figure out what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable. When I had lost some weight but was still bigger than most of my friends I loved sharing my progress but now I'm smaller than most of my friends and I feel really uncomfortable sharing when I meet another fitness or weight loss goal.
I understand, and it's something I'm trying to figure out too. In the past, it's been at this point that I've started to sabatoge my success. Maybe it's linked to why we were overweight to begin with - to hide in plain sight? Then, as the weight comes off and people comment, we start to feel vulnerable, physically and emotionally.
And let's face it, as women, we're often subject to unwanted attention.18 -
. . . . how often the human body can pee . . . I'm amazed at my body's ability to produce the stuff 20
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jcummings6 wrote: »Anyone struggle with how to respond when people tell you that you look good? I'm trying to figure out what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable. When I had lost some weight but was still bigger than most of my friends I loved sharing my progress but now I'm smaller than most of my friends and I feel really uncomfortable sharing when I meet another fitness or weight loss goal.
I just say, "Oh! Thank you!" and leave it at that. Unless they want to continue the conversation, in which case they'll get more info than they bargained for. 16 -
Madwife2009 wrote: ». . . . how often the human body can pee . . . I'm amazed at my body's ability to produce the stuff
Stored body fat metabolizes into carbon dioxide and - wait for it - water!21 -
I am not that far into this journey but so far I am surprised that I am less tired. I am no longer absolutely dragging in the evenings. And I am getting more things done. My motivation is improving as well. I feel like tackling projects. I knew I was tired before but thought it was just because life is crazy/busy. I was wrong.17
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jcummings6 wrote: »Anyone struggle with how to respond when people tell you that you look good? I'm trying to figure out what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable. When I had lost some weight but was still bigger than most of my friends I loved sharing my progress but now I'm smaller than most of my friends and I feel really uncomfortable sharing when I meet another fitness or weight loss goal.
I usually tell them "Thank You, its a battle everyday, but so worth it"
Enjoy the compliment you worked HARD for it11 -
jcummings6 wrote: »Anyone struggle with how to respond when people tell you that you look good? I'm trying to figure out what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable. When I had lost some weight but was still bigger than most of my friends I loved sharing my progress but now I'm smaller than most of my friends and I feel really uncomfortable sharing when I meet another fitness or weight loss goal.
I understand. After a certain point, I felt "different" too. Like I passed the set point/normal threshold of the group and was moving into fitness freak territory. Luckily my social circle has a few other ladies into fitness who are my size and smaller. So any "does this look okay?" or "ahhh, i feel hideous " vents started going to them bc i felt that I'd get the eye rolls I usually gave smaller ladies who weren't satisfied with their looks (the feeling of, "really? Cry me a river in your size 2s" I was at size 6/8). After a while I felt progress photos might be construed as vanity/bragging. It totally might be all in my own mind, but there you go.
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I lost alot of friends as soon as I started focusing on myself and losing weight. A good thing to come out of that tho is I now know who my real friends are as they are the ones still supporting me.19
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jcummings6 wrote: »Anyone struggle with how to respond when people tell you that you look good? I'm trying to figure out what it is that makes me feel uncomfortable. When I had lost some weight but was still bigger than most of my friends I loved sharing my progress but now I'm smaller than most of my friends and I feel really uncomfortable sharing when I meet another fitness or weight loss goal.
I understand, and it's something I'm trying to figure out too. In the past, it's been at this point that I've started to sabatoge my success. Maybe it's linked to why we were overweight to begin with - to hide in plain sight? Then, as the weight comes off and people comment, we start to feel vulnerable, physically and emotionally.
And let's face it, as women, we're often subject to unwanted attention.
Holy cow! I never thought about this being the reason why I sabotage myself at this weight. Because I do it at almost the exact same size every time. Then I will hang out with my friends who are at a healthy bmi as well, but comments like, "small like Laura" were very awkward. Not only that but in my life I have NEVER been ok with getting too much male attention unless it is on my terms. So the hiding thing makes sense.
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LauraInTheWater wrote: »Not only that but in my life I have NEVER been ok with getting too much male attention unless it is on my terms. So the hiding thing makes sense.
I figured this out the last time I lost 50 pounds and started to have my curvy figure be very obvious. I tried to see a therapist to help me figure out why I freak out at a certain size and blow up again but I can't find one that is really getting the problem. They all seem to use the cognitive behavior approach, which is okay I guess, it's about how to think/act in situations but I want to know WHY, get to the root and really fix it instead of having crutches to deal with it. But when they simply don't understand and say how that's so unusual I know they will suck. Now that I'm dealing with medical issues I'm hoping I'll keep going when I finally get to my tipping point because I really need to but I still wish I had a good therapist to help me. I'm super private so just the idea of trying yet again to find one that fits me is overwhelming. So I guess I'll use you guys?
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