WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2017
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Taking a break from cleaning so checking in.
My DH is obsessed with the news these days and of course likes to tell me what is happening. I think it’s because he is Cuban and knows what can happen if you aren’t informed about what is going on. He doesn’t seem to down about what he reads. He reads all the major papers both in English and Spanish. When it’s too much for me I can tell him and he will keep news to himself. I want to know what is going on as I think it is important but I know when I need time off.
Allie, I can hear the excitement in your post about the puppy. I’m happy for you.
I like the idea of having a yearly word. I’ll have to find one for myself for 2018.
Well floor is dry so better get busy fishing up.
Terry2 -
Sounds like the search for a yearly word has begun in earnest for many of us What fun! Persistence, resilience, breathe and gratitude are on my short list
Another bit of snow headed my way tonight but I've nowhere to go so I will enjoy watching it. DH is driving upstate to pick up DD and won't be back until late Saturday. I will clean up around the house (house guests make me clean too!) and sort out the fridge, which I've been ignoring.
Had a lovely coffee catchup with my retired friend yesterday. She travels, visits family and has a serious vocation as a water color student/artist. So much fun chatting with her and I am almost over my envy. My time will come. She is an inspiration on how to take care of oneself (she was obese until 7-10 years ago when she took up marathon running) and has become such a healthy and fit individual. Her mother passed away very young from obesity related illnesses and my friend decided that was not a road she wanted to end on, and now enjoys an active life for herself and her family. Inspiring.
NYKAREN5 -
Hi Sisters, we had our staff Christmas party last night. This year we went go-karting, mini golf and then to a 7 or 8 course Degustation dinner. Yum! I am still stuffed full and will go very lightly on eating today as well as do a big hike in practice for next Thursday's Tongariro Crossing. I am going to try out the new Alpine Hiking socks I bought and make sure they feel good on my feet.
Okie, thanks for that easy recipe. I am going to make it for Christmas day as I know I will have lots of mouths around to help eat it, otherwise it would all go in my own mouth. LOL
KAREN, I noticed also when I used to watch the news a lot that I would feel anxious and depressed. My husband was in the routine of watching the news on TV every night and I always ended up hearing it as I cooked dinner. Then, for my university degree I majored in English and minored in Media studies and I did a course that studied television and news. That was when I first began to realise how much the public is "fed" a diet of bad news by the "gatekeepers". I have also worked as a journalist, both on staff of various newspapers and freelance, so I've had a good view from both sides of the desk. Now that there is internet, the source of NEWS is very different and you can choose where you get your news and what you want to listen to or read about. What I have come to know is that things are both better and worse than the "News" portrays. For instance, in many countries the persecution of Christians is extreme and the subjugation of women is terrible. Often this goes unreported unless you know where to look for this information. But, even so, this world is filled up with far more good and kind actions than bad ones, but they are unreported, not "newsworthy" or likely to grab anyone's attention. So, I seek out good news on the internet. I watch close to zero TV. I go to the occasional movie that sparks my interest. I am very careful about what I allow into my mind. When I do hear of bad things happen, I will pray for the people involved. It is easy to feel overwhelmed when you constantly hear bad news. Just say NO. Keep your mind uncorrupted, uncluttered and positive. Protect your peace of mind. The world is more good than bad. I choose to read news stories about the latest findings in health and exercise research, in inventions and innovations to make life better, in breakthroughs and discoveries...Focus on the exciting future!
Barbie, I have already formulated my goals for 2018, though still refining them a bit, but I also like the idea of having a word or motto for the year to think on. So I will mull that over and see what I come up with.
Allie, hurry up and post some Alfie pics. I need cyber cuddles from him.
New People: Welcome, jump in and join us. Wendy6 -
Okie that is how I make a quick hot fudge sauce for ice cream.
Heather I like your word balance.
Karen since I turn all electronic off at 8. I am finding I do not miss the 10 o'clock news. I get my news form the newspaper and I decide how much detail I want. I find it is helping me be less anxious about what I cannot control.
2018 word for me is Kindness.
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Karen - now, that's an interesting topic to ponder on a Friday morning.
Wendy, I agree with you 100%. I was just getting ready to post similar!! I majored in journalism in college for a while, and it’s frightening what is now put out there as news. I unsubbed from our local paper because the editorial staff had a vendetta against one of our county commissioners. She isn't my favorite, but the shoddy research and reporting to support their continual attacks on her - and not just the editorial page, I'm talking slanted stories, deletion of facts. Not worth my $$. They have gotten raked over on Facebook a lot for their antics, and I'm glad.
We too avoid the national and local news as much as possible. We check the weather report and earthquake sheets, lol.
Sometimes a headline enters my field of vision and I imagine it being a on the front of the National Enquirer along with a story about the woman who gave birth to an alien baby. Because I think most of what we read/hear is about 10% of the real story and not worth it for me to get upset about. I believe every person and situation and law has both good and bad in it. That is despite the divisive "end of the world" and gloom/doom stories the media wants us to believe.
Someone very wise once told me that had I been born in the same circumstances and gone through the same experiences as the person (think person in the news) that I'm angry with/about, I would have behaved/thought the same way and I think there's a lot of truth to that - it has done a lot to reprogram my ENTJ mind and turn off the anxiety. And forgive those who I felt have or will harmed me.
I will say it's much easier now that I am retired and can choose who/what I want to be around. When I was working, it was so easy to get drawn into conversations about the news and get the blood pressure up. I developed a technique around those kinds of people which was to immediately change the subject to something pleasant.
It was hard – my DH is very opinionated but I will say he does a lot of research and reading and I have total respect for his opinion even though I might not agree with it. He's not one to parrot or get upset by the talking heads.
I am reminded that most of the things I worried about never came to pass…. And how much time I wasted worrying or trying to enlist people to join my cause/share my worry! I should have been counting my blessings.
I am also reminding myself to above all, be grateful. No politician or disaster can touch me when I am in that place.
I think gratitude will be my word for 2018.
Lanette
SW WA State
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Kelly, my husband mentioned resilience as a possible word for him for 2018. Tenacity was another suggestion. I like having a theme for the year.
Janice, welcome. If you keep reading, you'll find that you have a lot in common with others on this thread and will begin to feel part of the community.
My only sibling died young. We were close in age but she was quite self centered. Her mottoes seemed to be "Never do for yourself what someone else and can do for you" and "Never let the truth get in the way of a good story". There was a time in my life when I thought I wished for more family. Now I am grateful daily that Jake is my only family and I am spared the drama.
Yesterday I heard Jake tell his out of state friend about me, that I am healthy and happy and that I don't walk so much as I used to and have gained some weight and look much better. He was so happy about that. I, on the other hand, wish I had more time to walk and would like to be down a few pounds.
Barbie in drizzly NW Washington
Awe Barbie, our visions of what we want to do, never quite gel with what others perceive.
Funny story,:
I remember years ago, in the main pool at the Clothing Optional resort. A lady that I know is single, had walked across the pool area to the gate. There were three gentlemen in the pool , leaning on the edges chatting. These are nice guys, not strange, or oogling, but they did stop chatting and gaze. They all nodded to her as she sashayed by, (she was single so....her sashay she had mastered). Then afterwards they commended. "She has lost some weight". "Heck, I liked the way she looked before". " Yeah me too". Perception is a two sided coin. How you see yourself, and how others perceive you. But in the end, how you feel, and move about the world is the most important thing. (((((Hugs))))))
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Barbie wrote, Yesterday I heard Jake tell his out of state friend about me, that I am healthy and happy and that I don't walk so much as I used to and have gained some weight and look much better. He was so happy about that. I, on the other hand, wish I had more time to walk and would like to be down a few pounds. It sounds like Jake is very happy that you have shortened your walking and have gain a bit of weight. If I were you, I would be beaming!
Had lunch with two of my friends from college (50 yrs ago) yesterday and we had a great time. I had French onion soup and a side salad which was delicious.
News: At my house, my DH gets very upset about the news. I listen with a deaf ear and just try not to let it bother me. All of the scandals that have come out recently are truly disheartening.
We finally got a list from DnL about possible presents for the two grands. Hope we can do some shopping this weekend.
Carol in GA2 -
Karen: I watch local & regional news but not national news. Given where you live, is that even possible? :huh:
Lanette, Wendy & others: I watch weather news regularly and Portland news semi regularly. I avoid national news. I can't fix this country and am hunkering down to focus on my family, my community, and things I can impact. :grumble:
Heather: I like the idea of simplifying life, and have things set up well for myself in that regard. If my grandchildren lived closer life would be a lot more complicated, but it would be worth it. I am sad they live so far away. :ohwell:
Becca: I love your insightful story about the clothing optional resort and especially your conclusion, "But in the end, how you feel, and move about the world is the most important thing. (((((Hugs))))))"
Today is starting off well. I had a lovely yoga class & chatted with friendly people. I've cleaned up in the yard after my dog and his digestive system seems to be working better now than it has in months. His "business" is now the shape and color that it should be. That is such a blessing and relief.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
"The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." - William James
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Well it won't let me edit so I will just start a new post. I wish I could watch the national news but it's impossible for me to listen. Charlie is giving his own take on everything they say. So I read what I can on the Internet and watch local news.
Question about the picture Becca put up about the headaches. I know it was supposed to be funny but where they have the migraine, tension and other headache, are they accurate? Where they have the migraine shown is exactly where I have a lot of headaches. Also the one at th base of my neck.
Well Christopher Banks called me today to remind me of their 50% everything in the store sale today. I had a $30 savings certificate due to the amount of money I have spent so off to the mall we went. I was going to drive but. Didn't know where I would park so Charlie took me. He is getting good at leaving me alone when I shop and he just provides the transportation. So he walked on the mall while if shopped. I needed something to wear for the cantata. We are supposed to wear red or green. For the past several years I have worn this same red sweater and didn't want to wear it again. So I looked and looked. I saw a real pretty green sweater at Kohls but my arms are to big for those skin sleeves. Another pretty one would hav require me to wear something under it besides my bra. It was shear although it was a sweater. Anyway, couldn't find anuhing I wanted except a pretty red cardigan and matching red shell. I have always admired it and I have other cardigans to wear the red shell with and a white she'll to wear with the red cardigan. And with the sale it was.........$13.31!!!!!!!! So I looked at jewelry to go with it but I knew I had some jewerly here at home. Plus I wanted to show Charlie that I could get a good deal and stop at that.
Joyce, Indiana
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Word for new year I love the idea of having a word. 2017 was a year for getting out of my quiet comfort zone. Starting up things that were difficult for me. Stretching.. so in 2018 I think I’m going to need Strength to keep this unsettling course moving.3
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Yvonne, so sorry to hear about your dad. It's hard losing people this time of year (my dad passed Dec 28 three years ago), but sometimes we just have to let them go. My mom had passed four years prior and dad missed her so much. He got very close with his baby sister (the only two that were left) and she passed Nov 11. He managed to make it another seven weeks, but it was just too much for him. He would have turned 92 on Jan 1, so I guess he had a pretty good run.
Condolences to the others who have lost family and friends recently.
Chris, so sorry to hear about your fall, also! Please take it easy and rest, let other people take care of you as much as is possible! Focus your energies on healing!
Joyce, congrats on the great deal! Gotta love it when stuff like that happens!
Rye, thank you for the fudge recipe, it will probably have to wait until Jan to get made, just not enough time right now! DH will like it for sure!
Time is going so fast, can't believe it's only ten days til Christmas! I have most of my stuff done, need to wrap one thing for our grandson, and finish his quilt, but I have a plan for that. It involves working on it a bit every night, but it's really not a huge project at this point, it's mostly done so should be good. I have finished decorating, I was putting stuff up as recently as yesterday, but I have drawn the line in the sand and I am done! Place looks good tho, so I'm happy with it.
The topic of the day seems to be the news, I don't care for watching national news either, I do get the local paper and can skim the national and international articles. I do like watching the first twenty minutes or so of our local news so that I know what's happening in our area, but the rest of it can just be so depressing!
Speaking of depressing, I stepped on the scale this morning..... Yikes! Yesterday was salty, so I'm hoping that's some of it, but I really need to get my mind and my mouth on track. I always wake up with the best of intentions, but it seems to go sideways after that. All the talk of cookies, as I was reading three days worth of posts today, made me hungry! A few things I remember from my childhood: 1, there was always a mandarin orange in the stocking 2, there was always nuts in the stocking and a few little toys or something, I really don't remember much but the orange and nuts! Mom would make cookies that she didn't make during the rest of the year, I guess that's what made them so special. I haven't followed that tradition too much as I'm the only one who would eat them. Hubby doesn't care for shortbread and if chocolate isn't involved, he doesn't really care for other cookies either. sigh. I like a bit of variety, so I will make small batches of a few favourites.
Sharon, don't ever apologize for writing a long post, as you can see, I tend to do that too! And I do like reading what everyone is up to.
Pip, the photos of the dog and cat are priceless! And I'm sorry to hear about the time you had at the hotel in Seattle. Seems as though they could use some lessons in customer service!
Okay, that's enough from me for now! Hope everyone has a great day!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island
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Joyce, post some pics of the sweater. Sounds nice. Hope you have a good time.
Katla, glad to hear your pooch is doing better business.
Becca, thanks for the story. So true.
No more snow today and even got to 20. Well the cleaning today wore me out so off to bed and book.
Terry in VT3 -
Hi Sisters, I've been thinking all morning at what ONE WORD I can use for 2018 and also what MOTTO I want to keep before my eyes all year. This is what I have come up with for myself.
Preparation
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Ask the Right Questions.
Both are action things I can DO. I can Prepare for Success, in every area of my life and if I Ask the Right Questions, I will have the information I need in order to be successful. Wendy6 -
Happy Friday, friends. Sounds like many of you have busy weekends ahead. Have fun, no matter what you do. And remember, no lives or limbs will be lost if you don't get everything done perfectly.
Rye: I was wondering about your other cats' reaction to Sweetheart. We have a black cat that comes by and 'visits' our Mars by his window. We call him B.C. (Black Cat). He belongs to a neighbor who unfortunately puts his pet at risk by letting him out. We have coyotes, foxes and raptors, all of which have picked off cats.
Margaret: I'm so impressed with how you have approached your sleep challenges. I know so many people who go right for the ambien. Sweet dreams to you and continued solid, REM zzzzzz.
Karen in VA: I watch local news everyday and listen to National Public Radio all the time in my office. As someone else mentioned, there isn't much I can do about it, so I don't dwell on any of it. The best antidote for stress, depression and anxiety for me is being in sunshine, walking my cat, and daily meditation.
Joyce: Glad you scored a nice sweater. You are always so lucky at Christopher Banks.
Got my annual performance appraisal today and learned my job duties may change. Will get more insight next week. No matter what it is, I'll just have to grin and bear it. My goal is to work two more years, and pack away more bucks in 401k and health savings account before retirement.
I've been watching fun, cheesy holiday movies on the treadmill this week. Today, it was the first half of "Christmas with the Kranks". I was laughing out loud while getting my steps in.
Stay well friends. We can do this.
Rori
Colorado Foothills
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I stopped watching the news completely more than 20 years ago when I noticed that it made me feel stressed or anxious. I leave the room or put on headphones if Jake is watching the news or listening to a news related video on his computer. The only time I know anything about what is going on in the world is if one of you posts about it and even then, I may skip reading the rest of the post. Taking care of myself is important to me. I walk away from conversations that involve discussions of the news and find someone else to talk to.
Line dance class this morning was fun, as usual. There was a new student--a woman who had obviously dressed extra nice for her first day in a wool skirt and blazer. At the break she told me that she was so happy to see how many women were wearing trousers because she had had to search way back in her closet to find a skirt to wear. I encouraged her to come back even if it seemed like a huge challenge and her face lit up and her eyes sparkled when she told me how much fun she was having.
Heather and Katla, I, too, am in favor of keeping my life simple. I look at each choice and ask myself if the activity will add value to my life. Thus I do less, and enjoy everything I do.
I am considering tenacity as my word for 2018 because my big project is for the year is scanning, filing, and labeling two boxes of photos and documents. The job is not difficult, just something that has to be worked on every day.
Barbie from drizzly NW Washington5 -
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KetoneKaren wrote: »Barbie I have been thinking about the simple lifestyle you have chosen, and realize how complicated mine is by comparison. For example, I am sometimes profoundly affected and saddened by the daily news. I don't think it really helps me to know everything that goes on in the world. It often makes me anxious and sad, but I can't stand not knowing what is going on. I am not sure how to change that. What choices have you (and others) made?
Thanks,
Karen in Virginia
I quit getting a newspaper when my ex-husband and I split up in 1999. Prior to that, I poured over every newspaper and cut out articles that interested me, and filed them, and got behind, and papers started stacking up and I was scrambling to catch up. By the time he left, I had a room half filled with newspapers I meant to get to.
Within a week or two of his departure, I tossed the whole lot, and then went through my files and tossed most of the articles and things I had cut out as well. It was so freeing!! As it happened, I also discovered I was allergic to either the newsprint or the ink ... and once all those newspapers were gone, I could breathe again!!
My current husband was a journalist, so he used to get a whole collection of newspapers and watch the news and listen to the news on the radio, etc. One of the things I told him was that I wasn't having a newspaper in the house. I didn't care if he bought one and read it elsewhere, just not at home. Fortunately about that time, newspapers started to become available online, so he reads the news each night that way.
Also, I didn't grow up with a TV, and even when we did get a TV in my late teens we only watched a small collection of shows. So I never developed the habit of sitting down and watching the news on TV each day. My current husband was quite surprised about that, and told me that when we got together we would be watching the news on TV ... but then we didn't have a TV for about 9 months in the "Love Shack" where we lived in when I first arrived in Australia, and even when we did get a TV we're often out walking or cycling when the news is on.
So now ... he listens to the news at work and reads his online newspapers, and once in a while I might turn on the news in an evening or we watch the news while running at the gym. I've also "Liked" a couple local newspapers on Facebook, so I get some headlines and have a general idea of what's going on, especially in the way of local news. And I hear people talking at work. So I have a vague idea of what's going on, but actively following the news is not a big part of my day.
Machka in Oz6
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