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WHY do people CHEAT?

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  • BasedGawd412BasedGawd412 Member Posts: 346 Member Member Posts: 346 Member
    honestly...becuz they feel like doing so


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    Simple as that, it's not that complexed.



    edited October 2019
  • FinishiitnowFinishiitnow Member Posts: 889 Member Member Posts: 889 Member
  • BasedGawd412BasedGawd412 Member Posts: 346 Member Member Posts: 346 Member
    Me and my hubby allow each other this freedom every now and then. Of course it‘s not called cheating anymore when you have permission. But to get there where we are today took a lot of communication. We both cheated on each other after being together for 5 years for the excitement. We are 26 years together now and super happy with each other. It can be a positive thing for some couples.

    Who cheated first?
  • BasedGawd412BasedGawd412 Member Posts: 346 Member Member Posts: 346 Member
    I have not read this entire thread but just chiming in that I think most women I know who cheat are doing it because they've reached their late 30s to early 40s and their husbands have started to treat them like "Mommy" (to the kids but also kind of to HIM) instead of wife/lover. They want to be treated like a girlfriend again while they're still relatively young, but they don't want to actually get a divorce and uproot everyone's lives.

    I've never cheated, not a mom, etc. But I see this a LOT. This scenario usually seems to be the reason. Quite a few of them do end up leaving in the end, but others go back to their husbands and don't cheat again.

    What's the difference in treatment between "mommy" and a girlfriend?
  • InspectorRedInspectorRed Member Posts: 756 Member Member Posts: 756 Member
    I have not read this entire thread but just chiming in that I think most women I know who cheat are doing it because they've reached their late 30s to early 40s and their husbands have started to treat them like "Mommy" (to the kids but also kind of to HIM) instead of wife/lover. They want to be treated like a girlfriend again while they're still relatively young, but they don't want to actually get a divorce and uproot everyone's lives.

    I've never cheated, not a mom, etc. But I see this a LOT. This scenario usually seems to be the reason. Quite a few of them do end up leaving in the end, but others go back to their husbands and don't cheat again.

    I haven't cheated but my hubby started calling me "momma", just out of habit, and I asked him to stop and explained I want him to think of me as his woman, not his children's momma, especially now that our children are adults and out of the house. He has done really well with that request and in turn I've quit calling him "sir" which he hated but had never told me before. Communication is IMPORTANT!

    If one of the kids asked your husband a question and he directed them to you, would he say "Ask your mom" to the kid or "Ask *insert name*"?

    He says ask "your mom". And his parents call each other "mom & dad" so it was definitely not a conscience choice for him, just a habit. But we went thru a really rough patch about 5 years ago, came real close to calling it quits, but we have worked on "us" and our communication since then and so when i asked him to stop calling me or even referring to me as momma, he did.
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