WHY do people CHEAT?
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Motorsheen wrote: »Caporegiem wrote: »For me personally it happened during a dull point in the relationship when I was at a bit of a low. There was someone I'd known my entire life and as her and I got to talking it came out that we had always had a bit of thing for each other since we were kids. Temptation got the best of us and it happened, numerous times. We eventually decided it couldn't go on and stopped meeting up, which lead to us not talking as often any longer. It's a little awkward now seeing her at family gatherings but she's my cousin and makes great potato salad so what are you going to do?
This potato salad.
Is tossed.2 -
isalsayourface123 wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Caporegiem wrote: »For me personally it happened during a dull point in the relationship when I was at a bit of a low. There was someone I'd known my entire life and as her and I got to talking it came out that we had always had a bit of thing for each other since we were kids. Temptation got the best of us and it happened, numerous times. We eventually decided it couldn't go on and stopped meeting up, which lead to us not talking as often any longer. It's a little awkward now seeing her at family gatherings but she's my cousin and makes great potato salad so what are you going to do?
This potato salad.
Is tossed.
Oh dear.
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Cause “Cheaty McCheatface” looks hilarious on a “Hello, my name is,,,” tag2
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Reckoner68 wrote: »Cause “Cheaty McCheatface” looks hilarious on a “Hello, my name is,,,” tag
Answer found. Thread over. :laugh:1 -
I messed up the quotes and now can't delete. 😳0
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Maybe human beings are not made to be with just one person. Are we?0
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Finishiitnow wrote: »Maybe human beings are not made to be with just one person. Are we?
Those human beings who feel that they aren't "made" to be with one person shouldn't pretend to be something they're not. Just be perpetually single and sow those wild oats forever, don't mess with someone else's emotions.2 -
Hip_to_be_square wrote: »Finishiitnow wrote: »Maybe human beings are not made to be with just one person. Are we?
I personally believe the design is for one man to be with one woman, monogamous relationship. I think people use what you said as an excuse to be able to sleep around, and to justify it + their lust.
Whereas people like myself inherently disagree with this belief. To each their own, but I don't believe for an instant that what works for one human will across the board work for all of us. There is nothing wrong with being with more than one person and there is nothing wrong with loving more than one person romantically *if* you are open about it, can communicate and are willing to work and compromise over things with your partner(s).
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Finishiitnow wrote: »Maybe human beings are not made to be with just one person. Are we?
Those human beings who feel that they aren't "made" to be with one person shouldn't pretend to be something they're not. Just be perpetually single and sow those wild oats forever, don't mess with someone else's emotions.
100% agree.
All those cheaters and polyamorous people should just stay single.
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Finishiitnow wrote: »Maybe human beings are not made to be with just one person. Are we?
Those human beings who feel that they aren't "made" to be with one person shouldn't pretend to be something they're not. Just be perpetually single and sow those wild oats forever, don't mess with someone else's emotions.
100% agree.
All those cheaters and polyamorous people should just stay single.
Or find yourself a like-minded partner who truly wants to have a polyamorous or open relationship. They probably have dating sites for just that.
Be open. Be honest. Don't hurt people who believe you're something you're not. Especially not kids who have to deal with the fabric of their family being torn apart.7 -
Finishiitnow wrote: »Maybe human beings are not made to be with just one person. Are we?
I think human beings are complex enough that you can't use a blanket statement about our sexual behavior. Some people are undoubtedly well suited to monogamy, some people undoubtedly are not. You probably need to view it the way a lot of people are starting to view sexual preference, on a sliding scale. Some people are straight, some people are gay, and some people are in between. In a similar way, some people are monogamous, some are polygamous, and some are in between.
Personally, in my life, I've really tried to get to a point where I don't judge anybody that's not doing something illegal. I personally think cheating is wrong, but I can't put out a blanket statement like "Everyone who cheats is a bad person." I've made far too many mistakes in my own life to judge anyone else.
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Finishiitnow wrote: »Maybe human beings are not made to be with just one person. Are we?
I think human beings are complex enough that you can't use a blanket statement about our sexual behavior. Some people are undoubtedly well suited to monogamy, some people undoubtedly are not. You probably need to view it the way a lot of people are starting to view sexual preference, on a sliding scale. Some people are straight, some people are gay, and some people are in between. In a similar way, some people are monogamous, some are polygamous, and some are in between.
Personally, in my life, I've really tried to get to a point where I don't judge anybody that's not doing something illegal. I personally think cheating is wrong, but I can't put out a blanket statement like "Everyone who cheats is a bad person." I've made far too many mistakes in my own life to judge anyone else.
I agree. For some monogamy is what works and what they want. For others, not. Ultimately it comes down to know oneself and communicating as best you can with others.3 -
I just wonder what are the thoughts that pass before, during and after having an affair?
The feelings of excitement, pleasure, fear and regret combined must be a unique situation.
Your thoughts?2 -
Finishiitnow wrote: »Maybe human beings are not made to be with just one person. Are we?
I think human beings are complex enough that you can't use a blanket statement about our sexual behavior. Some people are undoubtedly well suited to monogamy, some people undoubtedly are not. You probably need to view it the way a lot of people are starting to view sexual preference, on a sliding scale. Some people are straight, some people are gay, and some people are in between. In a similar way, some people are monogamous, some are polygamous, and some are in between.
Personally, in my life, I've really tried to get to a point where I don't judge anybody that's not doing something illegal. I personally think cheating is wrong, but I can't put out a blanket statement like "Everyone who cheats is a bad person." I've made far too many mistakes in my own life to judge anyone else.
I sincerely admire that capacity of free judgment. That is awesome1 -
Finishiitnow wrote: »I just wonder what are the thoughts that pass before, during and after having an affair?
The feelings of excitement, pleasure, fear and regret combined must be a unique situation.
Your thoughts?
I've always heard that the opportunity presents itself first, then the justifications (my partner isn't making an effort, my partner doesn't meet my needs, etc) follow.1 -
Are we as mammals designed to be monogamous?3
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tinkerhellraiser wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
ya like maybe the aliens that colonized the planet wanted the monkeys to eventually develop a society that gave tax breaks and/or better divorce settlements if u didn’t cheat like macaroni penguins and gibbons
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
Helllloooo!!
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