WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2019
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KJ- They look identical brothers! They will have lots of fun as they get older he has his mini me .
Did better on exercise yesterday stepped it up a notch. Went over by only 100cal so better than before went down a pound so need to keep it up.
Sw 195
Cw 153.6
Still trying the worm wood meds but only costipated with it y chili with beans isn’t helping anything . Still doing this every few 5years has been my routine since birth but usually it’s Doctor prescription meds not herbal. I rather try herbal see if it works.
Amber Tx
Time change sluggish (heard some states want to get rid of it I hope so times are different now so no reason to keep it theirs street lights to safer transportation even)2 -
I'm 75 and I'm in, too! But my issue is maintenance. I lost 18 pounds over the spring and summer with 1250 calories daily and 20-22 minutes on my recumbent bike. I was terrified to take a 2-week vacation back East with family in mid-October. With discipline, but allowing myself one small treat each day, I "gained" only two pounds and was back to my low weight in three days. Water weight from the long flight from Philadelphia to Idaho? lol Now I must keep the faith and tracking for the next two months over the very tempting holidays.5
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Rebecca ... I understand. Not hearing from a piece of your heart is so hard. I don't hear from mine nearly enough.
Karen in VA ... Congratulations!!
Kelly ... I too am appalled when looking back at my behavior as a young adult ... what was I thinking?? Keeping my fingers crossed for zoning approval! And your grandsons are just adorable!
Artificial sugar ... I can't stomach it.
I'm not sleeping much. Worrying about things I can't control. Very worried about my younger son in college ... migraines are becoming unmanageable again for him. Worried about money. Worried about my aging parents. Worrying for the sake of worrying. This is not like me and it needs to stop.
Beth near Buffalo6 -
Karen congratulations on Lillianna. Think it is wonderful that he gets to hear Temple speak. Will the talk be on you-tube like the other one was?1
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I'm 75 and I'm in, too! But my issue is maintenance. I lost 18 pounds over the spring and summer with 1250 calories daily and 20-22 minutes on my recumbent bike. I was terrified to take a 2-week vacation back East with family in mid-October. With discipline, but allowing myself one small treat each day, I "gained" only two pounds and was back to my low weight in three days. Water weight from the long flight from Philadelphia to Idaho? lol Now I must keep the faith and tracking for the next two months over the very tempting holidays.
I have been maintaining my weight with the help of this thread for a few years. Maintenance requires the same discipline from me as losing weight. I stick with the same eating and exercise principles and don't ever lose sight of my goal of continuing to fit in the same clothes year after year. I walk my dogs every morning, no matter what the weather, go to two line dance classes a week, and ride my recumbent exercise bike for an hour or more each day while watching TV. I hope you will keep coming back.
Barbie in NW WA1 -
(((Beth))) I really understand what being anxious and worrying can do to you as I have been dealing with that for quite a while now. I am just praying and believing that I will find the faith to overcome this and I know that you can also.
Carol in GA5 -
Ok
Out of 631 runners I was 131st
Out of 374 female runners I was 48th
My age group (60-64) of 14 ladies I was 2nd. I won a coffee cup!
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My elder son hardly ever contacts me, but I see him regularly on Utube.
He has been down to me recently more than once, so I owe him a visit. Must get up there, but it's expensive. They have no room in their house and three big dogs!!!!!
Sometimes it upsets me when I never get a card or present, but I know he loves me. I continue to send him something.
I did keep my parents in the loop, but often resented it.
CS Lewis said, SELFHOOD BEGINS WITH WALKING AWAY AND LOVE IS PROVED BY LETTING GO.
I try to demand nothing from my children. They are free to live their lives as they want. Any demand from my parents made me pull the opposite way.
Love Heather UK XXXXXX4 -
Watched the grandson last night as usual. He was really wound up. When he wasn't bouncing up and down he was running around the living room. I was constantly guarding the corners of end tables to keep him from having a very nasty accident. Fortunately we all survived.
Shirley4 -
Welcome Newbies!!
I am so far behind and this weekend we head to Michigan to Nephew's wedding and lots of family! Can't wait to go see everyone, but I will miss reading from all of you! Can't believe I am so far behind. I have spent evenings wrapped in my electric throw the past few nights binging on Hallmark Christmas movies. Hubby was out of town so I had the tv to myself. Don't sleep much when he is gone...
Barbie and KJ Thank you for always keeping us up to date!
Ginny So sorry you are having trouble with the with the muscle and knee pain! So frustrating when you are trying to get through PT and keeping active!
Viv Hope your sister in law does okay with the treatments and has full recovery!
Karen So sorry about your fur baby!
Kate Sorry you lost your Mom’s key ring. So hard when we lose things we can’t replace! I have been without my Momma the same number of years…feels like forever. Miss her SO much. Especially hard during the holidays!
Rebecca Great photos!! Love when family is around!
Happy Monday and Happy Week! Goals for November and December for me are to not undo any of the weight loss since January. Will start trying to lose again in the new year! The holidays and wedding will be a challenge, but at least I have gotten great at turning away dessert. Still need to keep moving more...
Luci in NC2 -
Good morning ladies!
Well my brain, bladder, and the dogs remain on DST, lol.
The discussion about children not keeping in touch, I too am ashamed of my lack of communication with my parents for decades. I'd call on holidays, write letters every month or two. Back then, long distance was expensive. Living over 2000 miles from them was part of the reason, kind of out of sight out of mind. Also, a lot of homesickness on my part and not wanting to appear "needy". Despite that, they always came through for birthdays and Christmas as best they could and we were grateful.
When I reached my late 40's the light bulb came on that they were getting older and I made it a point to call once a week, and fly back home at least once a year.
I think guys are naturally much worse at communicating, at least in my family. It just doesn't seem to register.
Barbara AHMOD - I am looking forward to the Better Bones DVD. I did flip through some of the pix on the website and saw the exercise bands, what looked like planks and other torture, lol. Hoping I have enough background with various strength training and PT exercises I do that I won't cork myself. My knees have been cranky with the change in weather AND change in shoes. So I am hoping some warm-ups like calf and hamstring stretches are included in the DVD.
Back from my walk; it's foggy. I've been reading more about the benefits of walking, and according to some researchers, they are finding that 4400 steps and above really show an improvement in health up to 7500 steps. Beyond that, it doesn't seem there are further benefits. I've been backing off my 8000 steps/day initial goal, and feel good when I hit 7,000. I plan to hit the gym's treadmill once or twice a week with the weather getting frosty - I don't mind the rain, actually enjoy it, but our private road is paved and shaded by trees = black ice.
Nonetheless, I applaud any and all of you who get 10,000 steps or more per day! When we lived on the farm and I had country roads to walk without much traffic, 10,000+ steps was a lot easier and I always enjoyed the scenery and fresh air.
Ok ladies, that's it for now. Sending hugs all around! Welcome newbies! Have a great week!!
Lanette
SW WA State3 -
Shirley- I gave up bought ton of baby proofing stuff . I’ll fight the sticky glue junk it leaves behind later on but it’s stopped JRs continuous head bumps when he stood up or slammed into or tried to pry open stuff. Now I only worry about keeping up with him lol the occasional jump off of something he climbed faster than I can blink!
Thanksgiving shrinking fast 💨. Calling adopted cousins to 3rd cousins ,Aunt,Uncles,etc lots can’t come this year so we may have to figure this out. Adopted 2nd cousin (half sibling to cousins kids) said her baby can’t come because new court agreement says it’s Biological Daddy’s day with baby. Adopted 2nd cousin’s cousin (half sibling to 1st one y cousins kids) who was adopted when a car accident killed the parents (not biologically to anyone but him is related from his paternal side) can’t come still in college y job y Thanksgiving elsewhere. Another 2nd Cousin can’t come because she finished college got a job on another state Alabama I think good news is it’s a great head chef cook position. Daughter will be Navy Thanksgiving dinner on base. Grandma y Uncle can’t come due to his work schedule. Some have to have 3 Thanksgivings (bio Dad family,Bio Mom Family,y new spouses family especially the one with new babies).Cousin 1st y hubby ate divorcees so Thanksgiving with their kids from previous marriages separately.etc etc etc
Looks like it might be a tiny table of us we used to borrow tables from a church y chairs ate outside y inside both to fit us all. What a mess still not sure what to make if I should might be too much food,but on a diet so need something healthy in case y for JR.
Amber Tx2 -
beth Recognizing your worry is important and so is redirecting it. For me, I write the worry down in my journal and on the opposite column I write down some small thing I could do to improve the situation, but sometimes there is nothing I can do. Somehow for me, the act of writing it down does help with racing, middle of the night worries. In other words, I can worry in my journal, that's what it is there for, bed is for sleeping/resting.
When my mom was having a hard time adjusting to her assisted living and her bathroom needs, I was too far away to help, she was distraught and embarrassed, confused about all of it. The only thing I could do was research the adult diaper situation (select brands and delivery dates) and work with the social worker by phone about assisting her. Did it relieve her depression/anger over having to use them? no, it did not, was she supported with better product choices and respectful care? yes. It was not perfect, it was good.
NYKAREN6 -
Good morning, all.
I had both a strenuous and lazy weekend. Saturday morning, my 13 year old and I went with his school to pull Himalayan blackberries at a city park the school has adopted. I think it is a futile task, but if we don't all do it, we will be overrun. We have to pull them from our yard every year, too. Sunday we didn't do anything. He woke up sick, so I excused him from church, and as I was getting ready, I got distracted with cleaning/organizing my bedroom, and before I knew it, I had missed church. It does look better, although my husband's side of the bed makes me shudder. He is a hoarder and seems incapable of throwing anything away. I mean that in all seriousness. He will tell me I can throw things away, sometimes, but he could be standing right by a trash can but won't actually do it himself. His mother is a hoarder, too, so I think something psychological happened somewhere, somehow. I am a minimalist, and nothing energizes me like purging and organizing, so we are really incompatible in this area.
Anyway . . . I got the top of my cedar chest back (piled with his clothes), and I organized my side of the room, and it looks amazing!!! I just have to block out his side from my view.
Communicating with parents --When my oldest was at college back in Kansas, I didn't hear from him unless he needed something, and it's been years since either of my two oldest has given me a gift for anything or any reason. My youngest still does but that's because his dad still supervises his purchasing. My middle son is at college now, about 45 minutes from here, and I promised him that I wouldn't hound him. I do text, but I go days without, and I don't call him. Neither one of them like talking on the phone, so I don't even try.
Early in my first marriage, my in-laws lived in Africa, in the bush, so communicating wasn't even a possibility. I did write letters sometimes, and we did try to call a few times, but there was nothing that could be considered regular. My husband and I were so poor, we didn't even own a phone, so my mother heard from me only every few months, when I had spare money to call her from a pay phone. I did try to write a little, but really not much. Even then, as poor as we were, I did try to send them all something on their birthdays and Christmas -- even mailing things to Africa -- but now I see that was silly. My kids are so poor right now; I would feel horrible if they were buying things for me -- I don't need anything.
Later, when we had more money . . . and a phone! . . . I called my mother every Saturday morning, and called my then in-laws once a month or so (they were state-side by then). Sometimes my ex-husband spoke to his parents, but more often, he didn't. I know it hurt my mil very much, and she didn't really understand it. I don't either, still, to this day, because my ex was very defensive of his parents even after it was revealed that his father had sexually abused his oldest daughter.
After the divorce, I continued sending my former in-laws a Christmas or thanksgiving flower arrangement every year and sent them school pictures of their grandchildren, until my ex-mil died, after I had already re-married. I was doing all of that for her sake, and I didn't see much point in it after she died.
So when I got into this marriage, I decided I was done being the communicator for my husband. I continued talking to my mother once a week until my dad died, then I talked to her every day for a few years, and now we talk every other day, unless I am traveling, or I get super busy. Fortunately, she is on messenger, so we message continuously throughout the day. My husband does not like talking to his mother, and now, when he does call her, he puts her on speaker phone because he wants me to hear how horrible she is. I have never, ever called her. Not once. I have purchased presents for her, but I have stopped doing that. My stopping was confirmed when we cleaned out the main floor of her house and we found every single gift anyone has given her in the past 10 years unused, in the original packaging, and with all tags attached.
This got way too long -- adding the spoiler.
Still no word on the job, so I emailed the headhunter to ask what the timeline for filling is. I never did ask her that, and it seemed like a reasonable question since the position closed October 25. But things move really slowly in academics, and the position won't begin until summer 2020, so that I haven't heard anything isn't necessarily a cause for concern, and in any case, I am happy where I am.
Much love.
Flea
Willamette Valley, Oregon5 -
I am delighted to find you all again. I've recorded food on my phone the whole time, but I've travelled out of my area to visit my daughter and family and am home again. Now I'm taking antibiotics for a problem that was created by traveling, and I seem to be making progress slowly but surely. I caught "the plague" from my grandson while I was visiting there and have been on antibiotics since.
Right now I have the delight of hosting our son, daughter in law, and grandson here in our home. We're planning a sight seeing excursion today.
I've missed you all.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon9 -
Katla - I am soooooo happy that you are seeing so much of your family after all this time.
Had my email hacked. Someone got into it through my friend with the lung cancer. Grrrrrr! I have now changed my password, which wasn't the easiest thing in the world. I hope that clears it up.
Glad to be home. The new au pair seems lovely and joined in with Edie and DH playing PickASticks. Max got hyper stupid (jealous reaction to the au pair) so he was exiled for a while. Edie is the ace communicator. Max the geeky brainbox. But his behaviour was not pleasant and we let him know. He went off to read Harry Potter.
I showed the au pair how to use the oven and where the chicken nuggets and oven fries were. I don't think she had ever seen such things! Then we made our excuses and left. Phew! I loved the day and making the cup cakes, but I had had enough by 4.30.
Had fish soup for dinner.
Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Katla! Glad you're back.
Telling stories about communication with parental units, and as one...
TL;DR, boils down to every relationship is unique, and everyone needs what they need, communication-wise:When I was at my first overseas post, my mother did not have a phone in her house, and long distance cost $1 a minute from the enlisted club phones. We set up a time I could call her once a month--which was all I could afford--and she would be at my sister-in-law's house when the phone rang, at least when they weren't fighting. After my sister-in-law told Mama that she wasn't HER family, and Mama got mad and set fire to Christmas (long story), my mother would call me from a payphone and reverse the charges (by that time I was in Montana).
By the time Mama died in 1999, I'd been married nearly 20 years, she had a phone, and I talked to her once or twice a week, if not more. I was also out of the Air Force, as was my husband, and we lived about 70 miles away from her, so I got to see her once or twice a month the year before she died.
My mother-in-law, on the other hand, whom I tended to call "The Voice of Doom," as phone calls from her always meant someone was dead or dying, was strictly my first husband's problem after the first ten years of trying to form some kind of connection with her. After that, I quit insisting my husband call his family, and I personally didn't speak to her for seven years straight, and I'm pretty sure she didn't notice. She and I made our peace the last few years of that marriage, but I haven't spoken to her since I left him in 2008. No kids involved, so easy connection to break--my ex-husband tried to guilt me once for never contacting her after the marriage was dissolved, and I told him you had to have someone on both ends of the rope to play tug-of-war, and I dropped my end the day I left him.
Regarding my kids communicating with me, I pretty much leave it up to them. They know where we are, they know we love them, and they have both our phone numbers. I think most of you know they were 15 and 17, part of a package deal with my amazing husband, when I got them 10 years ago... and I'm lucky enough, and blessed indeed, that they call me "Mom," and my grandkids call me "Gramily." However, they always call me when they make their very intermittent phone calls, not their dad. They always text me and not him, as well. I think it's funny. He's grateful for it, as he hates texting. My son sends me something that he thinks is funny over Messenger at least once a week, and my daughter probably messages me something every other day or so.
Please, to anyone who reads this, don't take this as any kind of judgment or suggestion on how you should or shouldn't communicate or want to communicate with your kids. I'm just describing the way my relationship works with these amazing young people that I'm so grateful call me "Mom." It's possible that, had my two not dealt with their drug-addicted birth mother first, and then gotten me a decade ago, they too would be reluctant communicators. Everyone has unique needs regarding communication, particularly with family.5 -
Lisa ~ You have become a very strong woman after leaving a marriage that didn't work. We all really admire you and your spunk!
Carol in GA1 -
Hi Gals,
I have been fussing with a minor health issue, for about 4 years, with the insurance I have the first $6500 is on me, and an appointment is $65 which is most of my monthly food bill- so a hit to my budget I try to avoid.
It is a female issue, the external labia skin is sensitive, and painful. I have asked at each of the last 3 (one each year) pap smears (they are free on my insurance) and received answers that do not track. The discomfort comes and goes. It’s been quite bad for a few weeks, so FINALLY got online and looked at the choices of what it could be. And the one thing that really seems to fit to me is a yeast overgrowth. In looking at the home remedies one of the things that came up over and over again was to be sure you have your sugar intake under control. My best developed feature is a sweet tooth! Truly I could each a pound of fancy truffles in one sitting and not even feel yucky! I have been visiting with you but not logging and the sugar inhaling is out of control. Even when I was logging faithfully, I always left room for 2-3 small dessert items each day. A dessert item was cookie, ice cream, candy, a baked goodie. I have decided that for the next week I am going to eliminate all sugar based desserts (so a piece of fruit is ok). I am fully aware that there is a ton of sugar is pre-prepared food and processed food, for this week I am just going to not worry about that.
I do not eat any of the “fake” sweeteners they do not taste good to me, most leave me with the taste of chewing on aluminum foil.
Then I am going to go back to logging, I am hoping that this low sugar week will jump start me back to making good choices.
There were some other recommendations I will incorporate to see if I am more comfortable. If, not I may have to make an appointment.
Kim from N. California
I am sorry you are having female issues.💖. Have your gynecologist do a biopsy for Lichen Schlorisis! That is what I have! It used to come and go as well. My skin there used to be papery thin, have a whitish hue, and tear easily. I was out on a steroid cream, clobetasol, and now its all a healthy pink. Private message me for more info. Most doctors do not recognize it. Its an unknown disease. There is no cure, and is an auto immune disease. But it can be managed fine.👍. Hugs!
💖Rebecca5
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