I'm beginning to believe that feeling lonely isn't exactly caused by being alone. It's a state of mind which is brought about by having too much time/experiencing uninvolvement/or having little focus on present. The truth is that many people are alone but are not feeling lonely.
When I start feeling lonely I focus on new projects. Usually distracts me and then I’m in the middle of a project and people want to hang out I decline because now I’m busy rofl.
It seems to me lately that it gets harder and harder to be happy as you get older. Don’t know if its true but thats how i feel
Is it more being stuck in a rut or feeling less fulfilled? Is it longer term or just a phase that you feel will pass?
We all differ, but, for me, being active & variety of interests keeps me revved up. I somehow confuse inactivity & staying at home alone too much with depression... like lounging on the sofa all day watching movies wouldn't leave me relaxed but feeling sad, unless I were very tired & needing a rest or feeling ill.
that entirely depends on how you live and treat yourself. I would rather twist your words and say that it's harder to be easily amused (by things that aren't new to you)
Good point. Just today I was noticing such a change. Loved to see bands in my teens-20s-30s, but now, I'm uninterested. I was wondering if I were getting older & bored, then realized it's not anything other than having done it so much, the crowds, expense, late hours, commuting, ringing ears are something I've experienced so much of, it's just unexciting at this point, so I've lost the desire to seek it out.
Years ago, I'd deal with all the above plus being tired at work next day cuz I got to dance around all night like a lunatic. I still do... just at home as a workout & that's now enough. I can't get excited about seeing band x for the umpteenth time with 2K of my closest, drunken friends.
It seems to me lately that it gets harder and harder to be happy as you get older. Don’t know if its true but thats how i feel
Is it more being stuck in a rut or feeling less fulfilled? Is it longer term or just a phase that you feel will pass?
We all differ, but, for me, being active & variety of interests keeps me revved up. I somehow confuse inactivity & staying at home alone too much with depression... like lounging on the sofa all day watching movies wouldn't leave me relaxed but feeling sad, unless I were very tired & needing a rest or feeling ill.
that entirely depends on how you live and treat yourself. I would rather twist your words and say that it's harder to be easily amused (by things that aren't new to you)
I hope it’s just a phase that will pass. Everyone above 50 in my family has had a lot of health issues and I am not looking forward to going through that. Another thing that bugs me is how all of them mellowed down with age and became almost unrecognizable. I like the person I am and don't want age to change that without my permission, if that makes sense.
Today, I'm low energy, but I just decided to view any obstacles like these 3 lads... so, I kick you low energy, I kick you straight to the curb. Back to work...
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When I start feeling lonely I focus on new projects. Usually distracts me and then I’m in the middle of a project and people want to hang out I decline because now I’m busy rofl.
Is it more being stuck in a rut or feeling less fulfilled? Is it longer term or just a phase that you feel will pass?
We all differ, but, for me, being active & variety of interests keeps me revved up. I somehow confuse inactivity & staying at home alone too much with depression... like lounging on the sofa all day watching movies wouldn't leave me relaxed but feeling sad, unless I were very tired & needing a rest or feeling ill.
Good point. Just today I was noticing such a change. Loved to see bands in my teens-20s-30s, but now, I'm uninterested. I was wondering if I were getting older & bored, then realized it's not anything other than having done it so much, the crowds, expense, late hours, commuting, ringing ears are something I've experienced so much of, it's just unexciting at this point, so I've lost the desire to seek it out.
Years ago, I'd deal with all the above plus being tired at work next day cuz I got to dance around all night like a lunatic. I still do... just at home as a workout & that's now enough. I can't get excited about seeing band x for the umpteenth time with 2K of my closest, drunken friends.
Change is good.
This is so true!
I am habitually 10min early to everything.
Ahaha. Well, most of us have at least 1 ridiculously picky friend.
I hope it’s just a phase that will pass. Everyone above 50 in my family has had a lot of health issues and I am not looking forward to going through that. Another thing that bugs me is how all of them mellowed down with age and became almost unrecognizable. I like the person I am and don't want age to change that without my permission, if that makes sense.
I didn’t notice the hardhat when I snapped the pic, hope no one was attached to it.
That is a north wind blowing those flags, yuck!
Ahahaha. You never fail to crack me up @1sphere
Today, I'm low energy, but I just decided to view any obstacles like these 3 lads... so, I kick you low energy, I kick you straight to the curb. Back to work...
To that end...
everything i have seen in life, i have seen it first in The Office.