springlering62 wrote: »
Well, if you think you’ve gotten all the comments, read the ones that follow after this article:https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-7872087/Adele-boasted-fellow-vacationer-Anguilla-shes-lost-like-100-pounds.html#comments
This poor woman. No woman should be subjected to this. Or man, for that matter.
Adele, hats off to you, however you did it ( though may you discover better food to keep it off. MFP is incognito, honey! Come play!)
GregInORL wrote: »
Apparently people have been asking my GF if I have cancer because not only have I lost visually a lot of weight, I’m also blessed to be bald.
Not cancer, just running (a lot)and tracking food.
Currently (November 2019)
fourtotwentychars wrote: »
"I was looking though some photos and I can't get over how much weight you've lost" "Are you retrospectively calling me fat?" "Yes"
sundaylouwho wrote: »
I'm at the beginning of my journey and only down 4-5 lbs. The comment I received yesterday was:
"Don't lose too much. I can already see that you're thinner. You don't want to get too skinny."
I'm 5'2" and around 150 lbs (mostly fat). Ideally, I want to get closer to the high end of the healthy BMI stat OR shed some more fat and gain some muscle. Hearing that comment felt so negative! I feel really good about the little bit I have lost, but I still have some fat around the midsection that I'm working on losing.
springlering62 wrote: »
And to further frost my goat,
brittanystebbins95 wrote: »
"Oh, you lost so much weight! Good for you."
"Oh, you're pregnant? Well, say goodbye forever to that body you worked so hard for."
Ehhhh......no. I'm carefully gaining the appropriate amount of weight, and when I have this baby, I will carefully LOSE it.
AnnPT77 wrote: »
I had an interesting conversation with a close friend of mine last Friday night.
She's a trusted friend, level-headed. So, when I was well on my way through losing weight, it really rocked me when she said she thought I was under-eating, losing too fast, getting too thin, back a few years when my weight loss happened. At the point she started mentioning concern, I was still toward the upper end of the healthy BMI range, which is heavy for my personal build. I was also, at that point, eating 2000 calories or thereabouts most days, really not anorexia-worry territory for an average woman (she used that a-word eventually, though not until I got lower in the BMI range).
(She's not a resentful kind of person in general, really pretty generous and well-adjusted, factual more than emotional, usually - so I took her concern as sincere. And she'd expressed those concerns only when we were alone, in kind terms, not in front of others, or offensively.)
So, on Friday, in the course of conversation where it was relevant, I asked her about it (4 years or so after the fact).
She said she got worried when I got down around 117 (BMI 19.5), and I reminded her that I'd told her I overshot goal weight and was eating that 2000+ calories looking for the right maintenance calories plus a bit of regain at the time, and that she'd started expressing concern when I was still much heavier (140s-150s).
She kind of waffled, didn't really remember; said maybe she was just jealous, but laughed; agreed with me when I asked whether shock at the big change was part of the picture. She said that I look fine to her now, not really reaction-provoking.
I can't really convey that conversation, which was pretty nuanced.
I guess why I'm writing this is to suggest that if some of your questioning friends stay your friends, maybe give them some time to get used to the "new you", then ask what was behind the concerns. Could be interesting.
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