The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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It's Sober Saturday! I am relieved that Friday night I stayed sober and got so much done- hung lots of artwork in my new house. Can you imagine how crooked they would be if I was drinking ?
I have an appointment at noon with a personal trainer (consultation). I hope it turns out well!
I had a productive discussion with my therapist yesterday; I am enjoying the Telehealth aspect and not having to drive to a building to talk. I told him about two times I caved and drank in the last two months and he said that is nothing to dwell on. Look how many times you didn't cave and you didn't buy the wine at the grocery store. I love his positivity!
I agree with the above posters; Although I like the term recovery in general, because it suits me right now. I am recovering from my "disease". But I do see a time where I will just consider myself a "non-drinker" and no longer in recovery. Good points you all made!8 -
FeelinFooFoo wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »It's Sober Saturday! I am relieved that Friday night I stayed sober and got so much done- hung lots of artwork in my new house. Can you imagine how crooked they would be if I was drinking ?
I have an appointment at noon with a personal trainer (consultation). I hope it turns out well!
I had a productive discussion with my therapist yesterday; I am enjoying the Telehealth aspect and not having to drive to a building to talk. I told him about two times I caved and drank in the last two months and he said that is nothing to dwell on. Look how many times you didn't cave and you didn't buy the wine at the grocery store. I love his positivity!
I agree with the above posters; Although I like the term recovery in general, because it suits me right now. I am recovering from my "disease". But I do see a time where I will just consider myself a "non-drinker" and no longer in recovery. Good points you all made!
Yeah I think it's got to be what works & resonates for you, personally. I don't have an issue with the term recovery I just liked the term rediscovery more 😊 it suited me better. I like hearing how everyone handles and deals with this in thier own ways. Its such a good learning experience on our own journeys to hear all the different paths and techniques towards recovery.
I like the way your therapist advised to focus more on the times you did not cave, instead of the occasions you did. I will have to remember this myself if I cave again. Which I really hope I don't. But as you have said a few times on here, alcohol is sneaky. It's a sneaky little bugger !!
I love the term rediscovery!! I will use that as well. We are all on the same quest just taking different paths.
At the personal trainer, I told him how I don't drink. I quit two months ago. I was proud to tell him that. Little did he know how much working quitting is but how worth it! I set up three sessions with him per week; it will be yet another motivator NOT to drink the day before. It's too much money to waste being hungover and not giving it my best each time.5 -
@FeelinFooFoo This is a lovely tribute to your Dad! And it is a good awakening period for you to think about how brave and strong he was for being AF for two years.
Miguel Ruiz (The Four Agreements) says life is like a play. If you want a different performance, then change the actors and props. We want a different life, so we are booting off the stage the cunning alcohol player and rewriting our script. We are on the right track.8 -
Good Sober Monday Morning friends!
As the days progress, I think less of alcohol. Driving to the trainer yesterday, I thought maybe I should get a small can of wine on the way home. After the trainer, it never crossed my mind. The cravings come and go, but my "muscle memory" is getting stronger and wanting to feel good and fresh. That feeling is overpowering the cravings.
It's been two months today since Good Friday ( I think). And that was my last binge. I had a bottle and a half of wine and knew I would keep going. I had two hiccups along the way but tons of successful moments.
Have a great day!
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »Another day of rediscovery in....dam. coffee tastes good club ! ☕
Had a dream about beer last night 😆😆 it was actually rather disturbing as in the dream I said, to hell with it, and was opening the beer to drink it. The RELIEF to know it was a dream haha. The human mind is a funny thing. My work colleague who used to work as a hair dresser has offered to trim my hair on Monday when she is in !! Just a little bit excited. It's anyone's guess when salons are opening back up in Scotland. Not any time soon by the looks of it.
Welcome to the dreamin’drinkin’ club. 🤣5 -
I have had several dreams about being in and owning a huge mansion with tons of rooms. One dream interpretation says it represents a feeling of emptiness. I disagree... I am feeling so full of hope and calm lately from being sober. Another interpretation says I may be feeling luckier and better these days. I think the second interpretation is right 😘😃🙏❤️6
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »FeelinFooFoo wrote: »Another day of rediscovery in....dam. coffee tastes good club ! ☕
Had a dream about beer last night 😆😆 it was actually rather disturbing as in the dream I said, to hell with it, and was opening the beer to drink it. The RELIEF to know it was a dream haha. The human mind is a funny thing. My work colleague who used to work as a hair dresser has offered to trim my hair on Monday when she is in !! Just a little bit excited. It's anyone's guess when salons are opening back up in Scotland. Not any time soon by the looks of it.
Welcome to the dreamin’drinkin’ club. 🤣
I think that was my first alcohol dream.....ever!! It seems quite a common thing when you give it up. Or are in the process of giving up. Hmm. I don't want another 1 😆
Ahhh the alcohol dreams .. I have had those 🤗3 -
So I’ve been toying with alcohol when the quarantine just gets too much. Trying to think of some worthwhile project. Already did two killer jigsaw puzzles. Clean out closets? Sure, but they’re not bad. Rearrange furniture? Meh.
Then Saturday it came about that I watched 2 episodes of last season’s Queer Eye. Both were makeovers of very nice men who just were not caring for themselves or being kind enough to themselves.
That night I realized I have at least until August 1 (probably longer) to work on The [My Name Here] Project. So I planned that project Sunday (detailed, on paper) to start yesterday. My project will last from June 15 - August 1. I have all kinds of exciting facets of it (kinda like they do on QE). But one thing I realized was that none of it will work if I’m drinking. It just won’t. Yesterday and today I woke up so happy I’m not drinking (rather than resentful) because I have so many exciting things to work on during the day. Things like journaling, meditating, manicure. Tomorrow I’m planning to start swimming in our beautiful river early mornings before the non-mask-wearing crowds descend (Texas!). I told myself if I get to the end of 46 days and don’t like the results of this project I can go back to my floundering around and even drinking. I believe I won’t want that as long as I’ve faithfully loved myself enough to carry out Project Me.
I probably sound crazy. But I’m hopeful. So much better than obsessing over the news.14 -
@FeelinFooFoo you had me in hysterics with that one. I cant stop laughing. Free booze. I dont think he means any harm either. People that dobt have the alcohol issue can't relate whatsoever so hes making conversation. Still funny tho. Its the same with anxiety. I have that and people that dont cant understand it for the life of them!5
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Recently in a state in the midwest, the legislature passed some NEW laws about alcohol.
1) To-go cups allowed. Up to two mixed drinks can be purchased to go.
2) Bars can be open til 4:00 a.m. Saturdays and Sundays (used to be 2 a.m.)
3) With a certain license, you can sell liquor 24 hours a day (used to be limited hours)
These laws were passed to help businesses hurt by cover quarantine, so I get that.
But it also made me think of the drinkers who cannot stop (Like me) and will not stop drinking til the wee hours of the morning. And now we can also buy alcohol 24 hours a day. I am not a Puritan at all, and I realize other states probably have similar laws. But I couldn't help but feel that we are going backwards; this is a dangerous move for alcoholics and those with addictions. I'm just rambling..... I just don't think it's helpful to people to extend the hours you can drink and make a whole lot of bad decisions....
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@donimfp Love your idea!!!4
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Thanks @RubyRed427. The 3 days this week have been good and productive and restful and sleep has been great. Journaling a lot has helped me stay on track.
BUT ... This evening when watching TV I asked my husband to make me a vodka soda and he did. He would never offer me a drink and sabotage me, but he knows questioning my request in order to be “helpful “ would simply evoke every ounce of rebellion in me. 27 years and he gets me. Anyway, I took two tiny sips and literally felt sick. I asked him to dump it out and I got a Pellegrino. I’m both mad at and proud of myself. I really don’t want that stuff. Tomorrow’s day 4 of my project.8 -
Gosh... I haven’t checked in since Saturday!
1. Still AF!
2. Still wrapping my head around being an empty nester.
3. Still AF!
This week has been exhausting and we have 2 more days to go!! I was good to my body and exercised pretty strenuously Monday and Tuesday. Tonight I decided to take a rest night and before the drinkin thinkin even occurred I cut it off with a nice long bubble bath. It was delightful. After I taught my oldest daughter my meatball recipe. We made a mega batch for dinner and freezer. I helped give the baby a bath then finished the night with a small piece of tres leche.
I am still living at my oldest daughter’s and keeping my grand son. Last weekend’s quick trip home made me quite homesick. I’m really torn between this sweet baby and my own home. I know my husband is ready for me to be home!!!!
I’m rambling. I have fought the urge since Friday’s move out. Even tho I knew it was coming - it was so hard!
I am proud to say I am still AF another day.7 -
Good morning friends! Another sunny day in the midwest! I am loving this June weather; I remember last June was rainy. Anyway, I participate in a wonderful AA zoom last night. It is so fulfilling to listen to people's stories... some sad, some tragic, some positive, some successful.... all kinds of people but we all share the common thread of kicking this addiction. Very inspiring. Thanks to a friend on MFP for sharing the zoom meeting link with me. I am so grateful for a million reasons today. 8
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »RubyRed427 wrote: »Good morning friends! Another sunny day in the midwest! I am loving this June weather; I remember last June was rainy. Anyway, I participate in a wonderful AA zoom last night. It is so fulfilling to listen to people's stories... some sad, some tragic, some positive, some successful.... all kinds of people but we all share the common thread of kicking this addiction. Very inspiring. Thanks to a friend on MFP for sharing the zoom meeting link with me. I am so grateful for a million reasons today.
The weather is beautiful here in Scotland as well, which makes a lovely change! 🌞 lovely looking round at all the lovely plants, trees and flowers in full bloom ⚘🌻🌼🌱 I too find it very inspiring hearing all the stories on here & a few of the guys I support who are trying hard to kick thier drinking issues I practice peer support with them. So I find that very fulfilling part of my job role. We can all help each other. It helps greatly to know we are far from alone on this journey.
Another day of rediscovery.....isnt retail therapy just amazing 😁 discovering all the things I can treat myself too since I'm not wasting all that cash on bottles of wine \ beer [insert any type of alcohol]. Or the 'recovery food supplies' to mend my hangover 🙄 so I am looking forward to getting into my house and tear open the parcels I have got delivered. Treated myself to a few summer dresses that were on sale. Will hopefully be able to wear them on my Egypt holiday in September. But even if I can't go, still got them for the summer....
Wishing all a happy, AF day 😊🧡
That sounds lovely! I Love retail therapy too!! I also have invested in a personal trainer ($40 per time). BUT it is nothing compared to the time and money spent in a bar, happy hour, wine at the grocery store, fast food (like you said) to kill my hangover.... I much prefer investing my money in something for my well being.
On the AA Zoom, one lady said she is so happy... she said, "I get to have a new puppy because I'm responsible. I get to work in the yard because I have no hangover.". All positive things we "get to" have by not drinking. Have a great day in Scotland!8 -
A beautiful day in Scotland. Sigh! How wonderful. After living there for 4 years, I am still "homesick" after almost 30 years. My husband had some sports commentary thing on ESPN yesterday and was about to turn it off, and I said, "Don't you dare!" The guy doing the commentary had the most beautiful Scottish accent. I didn't care that I had no idea what he was talking about. Have a great day, everyone.7
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Wow @FeelinFooFoo, What a memory! Glad you’re doing so well, too.4
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Hello everyone, I’ve just discovered this thread at the start of my second weight loss journey with MFP.
I’m back losing weight again after a tough battle with depression, anxiety and alcoholism.
I’m just over a year sober and I’m now working on losing the weight I piled on during my drinking and in early recovery (newly sober me ate so much chocolate!).
I’m looking forward to hearing everyone else’s stories of strength in sobriety!8 -
Today has been pretty rough. I had a couple anxiety attacks while working. Luckily the baby was sleeping. Might be pms contributed... not real sure due to hysterectomy and I only pms about twice a year.
I struggled to finish work then just piled on the bed for about 30 min. Figured enough with than and went for a nice long walk.
Funny how a little exercise fixes so many things.
Now for the shower reward!!!!5 -
Hi People! I like seeing the thread so busy! It sounds like everyone is doing great. Now that I feel I have the booze monster tamped down I NEED to work on my weight loss/fitness goals again. I had been seeing a dietitian but then COVID came along and I had no more meetings and thus, motivation. I will be checking with her soon to see (now that we are reopening here a bit) if she will be seeing people in person. I NEED to get on a scale in front of her to stay motivated! Wishing you all a happy weekend!4
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Good afternoon friends! I'll be off to the trainer soon. I do look forward to the sessions BUT it is so damn hard. But I love it in a way.
I went to foot doctor for some pain on top of my foot; he says it could be arthritis because it's exactly where arthritis occurs in the foot. OR it's just inflamed from walking. I tend to think that's the case. I have been getting well over 10,000 steps each day and it is hard on the foot.
Today I was thinking about happy hours on Friday nights. That was so dangerous for me because I could drink two at the bar and then come home and sneak more. I'd wait until the husband was in the other room and open the cabinet carefully and drink out of the bottle of vodka. OMG what bad memories. It is so much easier to work through cravings than to stop after taking a few sips. For two days I will be kid free (young adult kids) and I am looking forward to not cooking and just playing music and organizing the house. I am making a paint/scrapbook room for myself in the basement. 6 -
Hi People! I like seeing the thread so busy! It sounds like everyone is doing great. Now that I feel I have the booze monster tamped down I NEED to work on my weight loss/fitness goals again. I had been seeing a dietitian but then COVID came along and I had no more meetings and thus, motivation. I will be checking with her soon to see (now that we are reopening here a bit) if she will be seeing people in person. I NEED to get on a scale in front of her to stay motivated! Wishing you all a happy weekend!
I am on Workout Warriors on MFP. I weigh in once a week and participate in chats. It gives me the accountability that your dietician gives you. Soon you'll be back on track!! The scary scale tells no lies.
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Hello everyone, I’ve just discovered this thread at the start of my second weight loss journey with MFP.
I’m back losing weight again after a tough battle with depression, anxiety and alcoholism.
I’m just over a year sober and I’m now working on losing the weight I piled on during my drinking and in early recovery (newly sober me ate so much chocolate!).
I’m looking forward to hearing everyone else’s stories of strength in sobriety!
Welcome to our groups! I think it was good to feed your cravings with chocolate; hey we are human. We need some treats!! And it's way better than getting blasted and lying in bed with a hangover. Hope to hear from you soon! What worked for you?1 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »Welcome to our groups! I think it was good to feed your cravings with chocolate; hey we are human. We need some treats!! And it's way better than getting blasted and lying in bed with a hangover. Hope to hear from you soon! What worked for you?
Chocolate was definitely better for me than booze!
I initially used AA because I was desperate for help and just an all round general mess, but I slowly stopped going as my life got busier (teacher training does that!) and I just go it alone now.
AA definitely saved my life in those first few months though, it did feel a bit draining towards the end of my time there though.
Now I just maintain my sobriety with the support of my family and friends.
Whenever I’m tempted to drink which is rarely nowadays, I just play it forward and think about all the amazing things that have come into my life whilst I’ve been sober!
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Just popping in to say hi after reading two pages of this very busy thread...YAY! WELCOME @merfhur you will get lots of support here to remain AF and there are lots of online resources also that can be very helpful. I agree with @donimfp that your acquired wisdom over the past year can be of great benefit to all of us here.
Sounds like everyone is doing great!! Hoping everyone's weekend is exactly what you need it to be 7 -
Hi all I am new to this thread. I don't consider myself to have ever been a problem drinker but I did admittedly use to drink too much at one point and it was getting to the stage where weekends weren't complete without a nice bottle of wine and a few cocktails in the mix on a Friday and Saturday night. I became unwell recently and made the decision to take 6 weeks off the drink to ensure a full recovery. The first month was tough I am not going to lie. Even though I wasn't well and I would see my partner enjoying his wine on weekends and get a bit jealous and miss it. Fast forward 8 weeks and I have realised my life is actually better without it. Feeling much better in my health so I could drink again in theory. I had two glasses last weekend for the first time and honestly woke up the next day feeling awful, really hungover and icky. I have decided it is just un necessary poison and to give It the boot. I am looking forward to waking up tomorrow feeling fresh as a daisy and lacing up my trainers for a run I can't even describe the liberation of the sober life. xx 10
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@lottie278484 Welcome and thank you for your inspiring words. When we get some space between ourselves and the last drink, it DOES feel liberating, doesn't it? Thank you for calling it out as the poison that it is. Some forums do not like using that word. Here, we recognize it for the reality that it is. I wish you continued success on your AF journey. You will find plenty of support here.
Personally, I am missing my dear dad on this Father's day. He was very special to me. Will toast to his memory with iced tea today and hopefully I am making him proud with my own journey to be better in every way.8 -
@FeelinFooFoo -we are pretty much open where I live but it is different... just different.
Now, I have never been one to just sit at a bar for hours, but restaurant bars are different.
I started my AF journey at the beginning at the beginning of COVID. It was easy to not socialize by necessity. As you know, the last month I’ve been staying with my daughter to assist with her new son. I am a real homebody!!! I know it won’t be long until I’m back home and ready to see friends.
For the past week while on my walks I have been practicing convos in my head about how I will go out and NOT drink. How I will say that I’ve cut it out. How I will address new people when they offer. Will I say “No thanks. I don’t drink”. Will they ask questions as to why? If so, how will I respond to this?
I am excited to try the new skills I have developed... in my head ☺️☺️☺️4
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