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My aunt posted something on Facebook that made me so upset. It was something about how you should take into account how this may be someone's last Thanksgiving when you are making the decision on if you should attend or not. How that is more important then skipping to keep others safe. This is the aunt I was supposed to have Thanksgiving with but bowed out because of safety reasons. Well, I guess I know how she really feels about my decision. Hurt to see that. Oh well. I will have my own dang celebration with my own meal and I will enjoy the hell out of it.
I saw and read this article on line today and I thought of you and of many other people (myself and my husband included), having a “different" kind of Thanksgiving celebration this year, and the same for Christmas.
The article also reminded me of another composition that I read many, many years ago in the Readers Digest about the joys of solitude. It was written by a writer, a recent widow, trying to find peace and purpose on her own and after many years of marriage by moving to a less urban town in the East Coast. I was a young woman back then and I couldn't quite understand her reasoning and philosophy, but I do now even when I am still very happily married. I wish I had kept that article or knew how to find it.
Alone for the holidays? Here's how to find joy in the solitude
...It's not going to be easy to turn down an invitation from the people you love this holiday season. It'll probably be just plain sad. But when you're feeling low, Bufka advises, remember why you made that difficult choice in the first place -- to keep those people safe.
And while it may not feel like it, stressful situations like this holiday season (and really, 2020 as a whole) is what humans are built for. We're more resilient than we know, says Moskowitz, who studies how people find positivity during periods of extreme stress.
https://www.cnn.com/2020/11/23/us/how-to-spend-holidays-alone-wellness-trnd/index.html
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For my fellow Fresca lovers, I picked up a Walmart curbside order today and was able to get Fresca in two liter bottles.4
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My aunt posted something on Facebook that made me so upset. It was something about how you should take into account how this may be someone's last Thanksgiving when you are making the decision on if you should attend or not. How that is more important then skipping to keep others safe. This is the aunt I was supposed to have Thanksgiving with but bowed out because of safety reasons. Well, I guess I know how she really feels about my decision. Hurt to see that. Oh well. I will have my own dang celebration with my own meal and I will enjoy the hell out of it.
I feel for both here... not the part where your aunt is upset about your decision, or saying which is more important, but the arguments behind it. My Grandpa is 85 and his memory and cognitive skills are deteriorating quite rapidly. The whole family (grandpa, his children and grandchildren, their spouses and this year his first great-grandchild who was born in March) gathers every year for Boxing Day. In the past year his memory has deteriorated so much that my husband is the only spouse he remembers because we've been together for so long, and he has no idea who his great-grandchild (my cousin's baby) is. Due to covid, all social visiting has been limited - the family hasn't been together since his 85th birthday in February and my mom has been the only contact point to reduce exposure risks. I haven't seen him since July when my mom was out of town and I stepped in to take care of some weekly routines my mom does. He doesn't really know how to use his cell phone anymore.
In this situation, this might be his last Boxing Day, and very probably is the last Boxing Day when he remembers who we are. If someone in my family decides to skip the Boxing Day celebrations to protect themselves, Grandpa or other family members, I will be upset. But, here's the distinction: It's covid upsetting me, not them. They're just trying to choose right in a world that only has bad choices.24 -
...you should take into account how this may be someone's last Thanksgiving when you are making the decision on if you should attend or not...
I don't want to be the REASON this may be someone's last Thanksgiving. That's the whole point of NOT going!
My spouse is an essential worker coming into daily contact with the public at a job where multiple people are out on "COVID leave" right now, at least one of them is dead, and another hasn't been heard from in months (since he was hospitalized) so who knows what happened to him. The bosses aren't saying anything. In the midst of all this chaos, a close proximity co-worker decided to go to a big family birthday party recently (because everyone pressured him about seeing Grandpa before it's too late) and co-worker came down with the virus shortly after. Grandpa is still OK, but Uncle who attended is now in the hospital and co-worker's sister is not doing well either. So it may be Uncle's last Thanksgiving, all because they had to have this party. Doesn't make any sense to me. Gotta have these get-togethers "just in case" the old people don't make it to next year, but you end up causing their premature deaths? If you just HAVE to see Grandpa, it might have been better to individually or small group visit Grandpa in a more socially distant way than to throw a big feast with 70+ maskless people in attendance. I think people just wanted to party, to feel the festivity they've been missing, and Grandpa's birthday was the excuse they needed. Apparently, they made themselves feel better by ensuring that Grandpa had a mask on. But he was the only one.
My husband and I have avoided elderly and high-risk people since the beginning. We aren't going to stop until this mess is under control. Missing out on a single year of holiday parties is not a big ask for me. Keeping my people safe is the priority. It's a bad situation, and some tough decisions have to be made. I just hope people aren't making them lightly.22 -
We have our friends down the street, who for the first time in many years (they are 77), they will not see their adult kids. We have taken super precautions and see them every now and then and play board games and such. I have mentioned them before on this forum. They know we are about their only friends that never eat inside, never take risks and always wear KN 95 masks.
Our son (the one that already had Covid-19 in CA) is home for Thanksgiving. They don't feel comfortable eating with us, but we have agreed we'll bring them the entire meal over. I suggested to eat out on our patio if they felt safe, but it might be a bit too chilly. The man was all for it, the wife wanted to eat at home (it's supposed to be low 60s). Their adult kids are just very grateful that they still have someone looking out for them. They, I'm sure, will miss them, but they also know the risk isn't worth it. And our friends are most paranoid about getting Covid-19 and losing their cognitive ability. They are both very mentally sharp. That is their greatest fear. The idea of risking their mental ability for a get together is asinine.
We are worried about our adult daughter spending Thanksgiving alone, but she's coming for a few months for Christmas until January or early February.
I wish you all a virtual hug that are spending this week alone. Zoom did announce they will not charge for calls over 40 minutes. So it's a free Zoom day on Thursday.9 -
For us, we eliminated any offer to non-immediate family (ie my sister, husband and kids). My parents, almost 86 and 84, will do T-day home alone and tomorrow (Wednesday) I will be preparing a full Thanksgiving meal and delivering it. Then on T-day, we are normally the "early" meal for my daughter. This year, we are the late meal because SIL's family are all in a deep bubble and literally go no where and daughter does not want to bring anything from us to them. At our "late" meal, it will only be DD, SIL, DGS at one end of long table and DS, DH, and me at the other. Of the group, we take the most risk, ie go to grocery store with mask and using hand sanitizer, and we did our shopping early and are quarantining for days ahead to lower our risk further (Note, since March our town has only had 1 general population COVID death).5
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In this situation, this might be his last Boxing Day, and very probably is the last Boxing Day when he remembers who we are. If someone in my family decides to skip the Boxing Day celebrations to protect themselves, Grandpa or other family members, I will be upset. But, here's the distinction: It's covid upsetting me, not them. They're just trying to choose right in a world that only has bad choices.
I am so so sorry about your Grandpa. Watching them deteriorate like that is so hard and 2020 has just made it harder.
I know WHY my aunt is upset. Her youngest daughter won't be there with her family because she is late into her pregnancy so they are strict with quarantine. My grandmother (my aunt's mom) passed away earlier this year so this will be the first Thanksgiving without her. 2020 has just been a huge stressor for everyone and I think this sort of cracked her normally tough exterior. I don't think she posted that as a slight to me. I think she allowed her emotions to get the best of her. I won't hold it against her. I don't have much family left myself. Both my parents are gone and all my grandparents. Which is why my decision not to go was so hard on me.
I am most likely the one who has the lowest risk of catching it elsewhere and spreading it too. My other cousin and my aunt work with the public. The kids are... well, kids and while they don't hang out in big groups, they do see other people decently often. Me? I am working from home, go to the grocery once a week, and have one friend I see every so often that has had Covid and I know takes a lot of precautions. So yea. My biggest risk is the grocery shopping and, like I said before, I go to less busy stores at less busy times.
What upsets me the most though is that this shouldn't BE a problem. If people had actually done what they needed to do, worn masks, not gone to bars, and stuff like that I might not have had to make this decision and I could be spending the day with my family. But no. The selfishness of others has caused this. The inability to think about others or about anything beyond the here and now has caused this. THOSE are the people I am the most upset with.
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...you should take into account how this may be someone's last Thanksgiving when you are making the decision on if you should attend or not...
I don't want to be the REASON this may be someone's last Thanksgiving. That's the whole point of NOT going!
My spouse is an essential worker coming into daily contact with the public at a job where multiple people are out on "COVID leave" right now, at least one of them is dead, and another hasn't been heard from in months (since he was hospitalized) so who knows what happened to him. The bosses aren't saying anything. In the midst of all this chaos, a close proximity co-worker decided to go to a big family birthday party recently (because everyone pressured him about seeing Grandpa before it's too late) and co-worker came down with the virus shortly after. Grandpa is still OK, but Uncle who attended is now in the hospital and co-worker's sister is not doing well either. So it may be Uncle's last Thanksgiving, all because they had to have this party. Doesn't make any sense to me. Gotta have these get-togethers "just in case" the old people don't make it to next year, but you end up causing their premature deaths? If you just HAVE to see Grandpa, it might have been better to individually or small group visit Grandpa in a more socially distant way than to throw a big feast with 70+ maskless people in attendance. I think people just wanted to party, to feel the festivity they've been missing, and Grandpa's birthday was the excuse they needed. Apparently, they made themselves feel better by ensuring that Grandpa had a mask on. But he was the only one.
My husband and I have avoided elderly and high-risk people since the beginning. We aren't going to stop until this mess is under control. Missing out on a single year of holiday parties is not a big ask for me. Keeping my people safe is the priority. It's a bad situation, and some tough decisions have to be made. I just hope people aren't making them lightly.
I think one of the worst things about this pandemic is the fact that SO MANY people are judgmental. And of course it's only acceptable to be judgmental on one perspective and that side doesn't even try to look at it from another point of view.
I have a sister who has a highly aggressive cancer. While I pray daily that she can fight and beat this cancer, I'm also rational enough to know that it's not likely. So yes...I am going to see her for Thanksgiving. People can say they don't want to be the reason for causing it to be the last holiday season for someone (and if that's your choice that's fine) but don't seem to want to understand the other side - that we don't want to give up what is likely her last one. Just because you make one set of choices does not make the other person who made different choices wrong or a terrible person. It makes them human.
Cause let me tell you - if she dies before next Christmas my thoughts on it will NOT be "man I'm glad I didn't give her covid".
We do take precautions, had a kid exposed but no symptoms, had another kid who had cold symptoms - both tested and no Covid. and the exposure kid is well out of her 14 days. But I'm not giving it up...and I really dislike those who look down on people like me.13 -
...you should take into account how this may be someone's last Thanksgiving when you are making the decision on if you should attend or not...
I don't want to be the REASON this may be someone's last Thanksgiving. That's the whole point of NOT going!
My spouse is an essential worker coming into daily contact with the public at a job where multiple people are out on "COVID leave" right now, at least one of them is dead, and another hasn't been heard from in months (since he was hospitalized) so who knows what happened to him. The bosses aren't saying anything. In the midst of all this chaos, a close proximity co-worker decided to go to a big family birthday party recently (because everyone pressured him about seeing Grandpa before it's too late) and co-worker came down with the virus shortly after. Grandpa is still OK, but Uncle who attended is now in the hospital and co-worker's sister is not doing well either. So it may be Uncle's last Thanksgiving, all because they had to have this party. Doesn't make any sense to me. Gotta have these get-togethers "just in case" the old people don't make it to next year, but you end up causing their premature deaths? If you just HAVE to see Grandpa, it might have been better to individually or small group visit Grandpa in a more socially distant way than to throw a big feast with 70+ maskless people in attendance. I think people just wanted to party, to feel the festivity they've been missing, and Grandpa's birthday was the excuse they needed. Apparently, they made themselves feel better by ensuring that Grandpa had a mask on. But he was the only one.
My husband and I have avoided elderly and high-risk people since the beginning. We aren't going to stop until this mess is under control. Missing out on a single year of holiday parties is not a big ask for me. Keeping my people safe is the priority. It's a bad situation, and some tough decisions have to be made. I just hope people aren't making them lightly.
I think one of the worst things about this pandemic is the fact that SO MANY people are judgmental. And of course it's only acceptable to be judgmental on one perspective and that side doesn't even try to look at it from another point of view.
I have a sister who has a highly aggressive cancer. While I pray daily that she can fight and beat this cancer, I'm also rational enough to know that it's not likely. So yes...I am going to see her for Thanksgiving. People can say they don't want to be the reason for causing it to be the last holiday season for someone (and if that's your choice that's fine) but don't seem to want to understand the other side - that we don't want to give up what is likely her last one. Just because you make one set of choices does not make the other person who made different choices wrong or a terrible person. It makes them human.
Cause let me tell you - if she dies before next Christmas my thoughts on it will NOT be "man I'm glad I didn't give her covid".
We do take precautions, had a kid exposed but no symptoms, had another kid who had cold symptoms - both tested and no Covid. and the exposure kid is well out of her 14 days. But I'm not giving it up...and I really dislike those who look down on people like me.
Nothing is black or white--it's shades of grey. Each person has to evaluate their situation and make the best decision for them. You've done that. Best wishes for your sister. The visit should make her happy.12 -
...you should take into account how this may be someone's last Thanksgiving when you are making the decision on if you should attend or not...
I don't want to be the REASON this may be someone's last Thanksgiving. That's the whole point of NOT going!
My spouse is an essential worker coming into daily contact with the public at a job where multiple people are out on "COVID leave" right now, at least one of them is dead, and another hasn't been heard from in months (since he was hospitalized) so who knows what happened to him. The bosses aren't saying anything. In the midst of all this chaos, a close proximity co-worker decided to go to a big family birthday party recently (because everyone pressured him about seeing Grandpa before it's too late) and co-worker came down with the virus shortly after. Grandpa is still OK, but Uncle who attended is now in the hospital and co-worker's sister is not doing well either. So it may be Uncle's last Thanksgiving, all because they had to have this party. Doesn't make any sense to me. Gotta have these get-togethers "just in case" the old people don't make it to next year, but you end up causing their premature deaths? If you just HAVE to see Grandpa, it might have been better to individually or small group visit Grandpa in a more socially distant way than to throw a big feast with 70+ maskless people in attendance. I think people just wanted to party, to feel the festivity they've been missing, and Grandpa's birthday was the excuse they needed. Apparently, they made themselves feel better by ensuring that Grandpa had a mask on. But he was the only one.
My husband and I have avoided elderly and high-risk people since the beginning. We aren't going to stop until this mess is under control. Missing out on a single year of holiday parties is not a big ask for me. Keeping my people safe is the priority. It's a bad situation, and some tough decisions have to be made. I just hope people aren't making them lightly.
I think one of the worst things about this pandemic is the fact that SO MANY people are judgmental. And of course it's only acceptable to be judgmental on one perspective and that side doesn't even try to look at it from another point of view.
I have a sister who has a highly aggressive cancer. While I pray daily that she can fight and beat this cancer, I'm also rational enough to know that it's not likely. So yes...I am going to see her for Thanksgiving. People can say they don't want to be the reason for causing it to be the last holiday season for someone (and if that's your choice that's fine) but don't seem to want to understand the other side - that we don't want to give up what is likely her last one. Just because you make one set of choices does not make the other person who made different choices wrong or a terrible person. It makes them human.
Cause let me tell you - if she dies before next Christmas my thoughts on it will NOT be "man I'm glad I didn't give her covid".
We do take precautions, had a kid exposed but no symptoms, had another kid who had cold symptoms - both tested and no Covid. and the exposure kid is well out of her 14 days. But I'm not giving it up...and I really dislike those who look down on people like me.
Hmmm... my post wasn't about your situation. At all.
Unless you are planning on hosting a blow out bash for 73 people, including multiple at risk attendees, and complete with caterers and a DJ (like the party I described in my previous post). If you ARE doing that, then I AM judging. No apologies.
Nobody's saying you shouldn't spend Christmas with your sister. Especially considering her circumstances. A smaller group celebration with proper precautions should be fine. It sounds like you're doing that.
I'm sorry you're feeling judged and think people are looking down on you. And I'm sorry you feel dislike for others because of it. It's a stressful time and misunderstandings happen.
Hopefully you will have a safe and happy celebration with your sister this Christmas, and the next as well.15 -
...you should take into account how this may be someone's last Thanksgiving when you are making the decision on if you should attend or not...
I don't want to be the REASON this may be someone's last Thanksgiving. That's the whole point of NOT going!
My spouse is an essential worker coming into daily contact with the public at a job where multiple people are out on "COVID leave" right now, at least one of them is dead, and another hasn't been heard from in months (since he was hospitalized) so who knows what happened to him. The bosses aren't saying anything. In the midst of all this chaos, a close proximity co-worker decided to go to a big family birthday party recently (because everyone pressured him about seeing Grandpa before it's too late) and co-worker came down with the virus shortly after. Grandpa is still OK, but Uncle who attended is now in the hospital and co-worker's sister is not doing well either. So it may be Uncle's last Thanksgiving, all because they had to have this party. Doesn't make any sense to me. Gotta have these get-togethers "just in case" the old people don't make it to next year, but you end up causing their premature deaths? If you just HAVE to see Grandpa, it might have been better to individually or small group visit Grandpa in a more socially distant way than to throw a big feast with 70+ maskless people in attendance. I think people just wanted to party, to feel the festivity they've been missing, and Grandpa's birthday was the excuse they needed. Apparently, they made themselves feel better by ensuring that Grandpa had a mask on. But he was the only one.
My husband and I have avoided elderly and high-risk people since the beginning. We aren't going to stop until this mess is under control. Missing out on a single year of holiday parties is not a big ask for me. Keeping my people safe is the priority. It's a bad situation, and some tough decisions have to be made. I just hope people aren't making them lightly.
I think one of the worst things about this pandemic is the fact that SO MANY people are judgmental. And of course it's only acceptable to be judgmental on one perspective and that side doesn't even try to look at it from another point of view.
I have a sister who has a highly aggressive cancer. While I pray daily that she can fight and beat this cancer, I'm also rational enough to know that it's not likely. So yes...I am going to see her for Thanksgiving. People can say they don't want to be the reason for causing it to be the last holiday season for someone (and if that's your choice that's fine) but don't seem to want to understand the other side - that we don't want to give up what is likely her last one. Just because you make one set of choices does not make the other person who made different choices wrong or a terrible person. It makes them human.
Cause let me tell you - if she dies before next Christmas my thoughts on it will NOT be "man I'm glad I didn't give her covid".
We do take precautions, had a kid exposed but no symptoms, had another kid who had cold symptoms - both tested and no Covid. and the exposure kid is well out of her 14 days. But I'm not giving it up...and I really dislike those who look down on people like me.
I agree with you. Being judged is exhausting, especially since our home is making effort to do right by our current situation and keep ourselves and others safe.
I am still irked by my neighbor. A few days ago, I was outside walking my cats on their leashes that extend "8 meters" (you do the math). I was in my yard, with no mask, but obviously open air. My neighbor pulls in their driveway and one cat walked near their car and was at the full extension of the leash so therefore I know my approximate distance well. The neighbor takes one look at me 8+ meters away, and proceeds to put on a mask to walk the 10 feet to the door of their house. I know it was a comment on me, yet I was not doing ANYTHING unsafe. Two weeks ago this same neighbor was fine with no mask talking outside with a 10 ft spread. But now the Governor has said that if you are in public space outside then masks are required at all times, so now logical reasoning cannot be applied (BTW your own yard is not "public space" so technically I was following the governor's rules) and it is wearing me out.9 -
There’s too much divisiveness. It’s nice to see posts clarifying and explaining. I’m thankful for the internet. Can you imagine how much more stressful 2020 would have been without being able to connect with others this easily?
There was a song Jewel sang years ago. I often think about her words. “In the end, only kindness matters”.
Hoping for a safe, happy, and love filled Thanksgiving for all❤️ Here’s hoping for a better 2021🍷17 -
missysippy930 wrote: »There’s too much divisiveness. It’s nice to see posts clarifying and explaining. I’m thankful for the internet. Can you imagine how much more stressful 2020 would have been without being able to connect with others this easily?
There was a song Jewel sang years ago. I often think about her words. “In the end, only kindness matters”.
Hoping for a safe, happy, and love filled Thanksgiving for all❤️ Here’s hoping for a better 2021🍷
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on another note,
https://nypost.com/2020/11/23/cuomo-floats-hosting-his-mom-for-thanksgiving-setting-off-an-uproar/
more recent articles imply he is now retracting his plans for his mother0 -
The last few weeks have really brought home the theme of “memento mori”. A cousin in his 50s diagnosed with stage 2 pancreatic cancer. A friend in her 40s in her final days of at home hospice. A triathlete, healthy eating fanatic friend in his 30s having a massive stroke. Another friend in her early 40s bedridden with a flare of terrible pain from a still undiagnosed chronic condition that hit her out of nowhere a few Thanksgivings ago and changed her life completely. My aunt in her 60s having a massive Covid-induces stroke.
So I understand wanting to keep our loved ones safe, but I also understand the desire to see the ones we love because while the refrain is “give up this year’s vacation/birthday/Halloween/Thanksgiving/ Christmas so you can celebrate safely together next year”, we’re not promised that celebration next year, no matter how safe and healthy we try to be. And time is ticking on how many of these occasions we have left with our children in the house, our parents alive, etc. It’s hard to weigh each of those concerns, which are both legitimate.
We won’t be seeing my parents for either holiday, both of whom are terribly anxious about contracting Covid. And I hope they will be here for next year’s celebrations.
I too am exhausted and realize I will never please everyone. I’ll always be in the wrong, depending on who I talk to. “You’re reckless and unsafe!” bc I go to church (masked), my kids play sports, and we have a few other families we socialize with. “You’re letting fear rule your life, you sheeple!” bc I wear a mask in public, haven’t gone back to the gym, refuse to join people for large indoor gatherings of unmasked people, have declined party invitations, and keep people outdoors when I do have them at my house. It’s a risk mitigation/balancing game of keeping our mental and physical health in mind and I’m tired.
It’s been a heavy few weeks. Wishing everyone the best as they navigate this holiday season.26 -
...you should take into account how this may be someone's last Thanksgiving when you are making the decision on if you should attend or not...
I don't want to be the REASON this may be someone's last Thanksgiving. That's the whole point of NOT going!
My spouse is an essential worker coming into daily contact with the public at a job where multiple people are out on "COVID leave" right now, at least one of them is dead, and another hasn't been heard from in months (since he was hospitalized) so who knows what happened to him. The bosses aren't saying anything. In the midst of all this chaos, a close proximity co-worker decided to go to a big family birthday party recently (because everyone pressured him about seeing Grandpa before it's too late) and co-worker came down with the virus shortly after. Grandpa is still OK, but Uncle who attended is now in the hospital and co-worker's sister is not doing well either. So it may be Uncle's last Thanksgiving, all because they had to have this party. Doesn't make any sense to me. Gotta have these get-togethers "just in case" the old people don't make it to next year, but you end up causing their premature deaths? If you just HAVE to see Grandpa, it might have been better to individually or small group visit Grandpa in a more socially distant way than to throw a big feast with 70+ maskless people in attendance. I think people just wanted to party, to feel the festivity they've been missing, and Grandpa's birthday was the excuse they needed. Apparently, they made themselves feel better by ensuring that Grandpa had a mask on. But he was the only one.
My husband and I have avoided elderly and high-risk people since the beginning. We aren't going to stop until this mess is under control. Missing out on a single year of holiday parties is not a big ask for me. Keeping my people safe is the priority. It's a bad situation, and some tough decisions have to be made. I just hope people aren't making them lightly.
I think one of the worst things about this pandemic is the fact that SO MANY people are judgmental. And of course it's only acceptable to be judgmental on one perspective and that side doesn't even try to look at it from another point of view.
I have a sister who has a highly aggressive cancer. While I pray daily that she can fight and beat this cancer, I'm also rational enough to know that it's not likely. So yes...I am going to see her for Thanksgiving. People can say they don't want to be the reason for causing it to be the last holiday season for someone (and if that's your choice that's fine) but don't seem to want to understand the other side - that we don't want to give up what is likely her last one. Just because you make one set of choices does not make the other person who made different choices wrong or a terrible person. It makes them human.
Cause let me tell you - if she dies before next Christmas my thoughts on it will NOT be "man I'm glad I didn't give her covid".
We do take precautions, had a kid exposed but no symptoms, had another kid who had cold symptoms - both tested and no Covid. and the exposure kid is well out of her 14 days. But I'm not giving it up...and I really dislike those who look down on people like me.
I think there is a massive difference between getting together with your sister and hosting a massive gathering of people. If people are holding mass gatherings of people, then yes...I judge...because I think it's grossly irresponsible right now. Getting together with a few of your close family members is, IMO, up to one's own personal risk assessment, and is completely different than throwing a massive party.
Typically in hosting Thanksgiving, I would have 15 to 20 people, many of whom will have travelled from various places in the US or even abroad...I think that would be grossly irresponsible right now. I'm still hosting Thanksgiving, but it will be my mom and her boyfriend and my sister and her husband, all of whom we've been seeing regularly since the start of this whole thing...but I'm not inviting my BIL and SIL and nieces and nephews from the East Coast out along with my MIL and FIL from Arizona along with cousins and other family from the UK who want to winter holiday in the Southwest like I typically would.
We were initially going to go to AZ for Thanksgiving and my in-laws were going to come from AZ to see us for Christmas...we ultimately decided that the most cautious thing to do was to do one or the other but not both. We cancelled our trip to AZ for Thanksgiving because Christmas is a more important holiday for my wife's mom and dad than Thanksgiving, given they are from the UK...to boot, they are having friends from New Hampshire out for Thanksgiving as well as snowbird neighbors who are just arriving for the winter from New York this week. We don't know them from Adam...as much as we would like to see my wife's parents, there was absolutely no reason to risk exposure to hang out with people we don't even know. To that end, Christmas with them at our home is still tentative.13 -
I literally had someone on Facebook tell me that I'm the reason that we have to have these restrictions and that I'm selfish and generally terrible for suggesting that I'm not going to let fear of Covid change my Thanksgiving plans. Even when told about my sister he still doubled down insisting that the only acceptable way of celebrating is to not do so. This was a person I know in "real life" and had considered a friend for 2 decades now...the judgment is just mindboggling to me and I don't really understand why in general we can't just practice a little love and tolerance for each other.
I will also add that even just limiting to "immediate" family we are not a small group. My younger sister who lives out of town was supposed to come in (as she'd like to spend as much time as possible with our older sister as possible just in case) but my grandmother who lives with her hasn't been feeling well lately and doesn't want to drive 8 hours here and then 8 hours back on such a tight turn around. Hopefully they will be able to come for Christmas as the timeframe can be a little longer. But even without that group of 5 we are still 10+ people. I've never really understood the thought that 9 people would be ok but 11 would not. We should just ask people to use their best judgment and hope for the best, while keeping in mind that we are never guaranteed tomorrow.7 -
at this point I have backed way off "judging" anyone and their decisions. I hear them. I listen. I am going to hunker down myself until the vaccines are wide spread. That is a personal decision we all have to make for ourselves. I feel like there is light at the end of the tunnel and one day in the not too distant future (next year!) this thread will become a ghost thread.
I do however speak up when I have to (like in the grocery when the person behind be at checkout boxes me in and has their mask under their nose). But I do not look for folks to correct if I can avoid them.
Best of luck to all and massive sympathy to those ill or losing loved ones...17 -
I literally had someone on Facebook tell me that I'm the reason that we have to have these restrictions and that I'm selfish and generally terrible for suggesting that I'm not going to let fear of Covid change my Thanksgiving plans. Even when told about my sister he still doubled down insisting that the only acceptable way of celebrating is to not do so. This was a person I know in "real life" and had considered a friend for 2 decades now...the judgment is just mindboggling to me and I don't really understand why in general we can't just practice a little love and tolerance for each other.
I will also add that even just limiting to "immediate" family we are not a small group. My younger sister who lives out of town was supposed to come in (as she'd like to spend as much time as possible with our older sister as possible just in case) but my grandmother who lives with her hasn't been feeling well lately and doesn't want to drive 8 hours here and then 8 hours back on such a tight turn around. Hopefully they will be able to come for Christmas as the timeframe can be a little longer. But even without that group of 5 we are still 10+ people. I've never really understood the thought that 9 people would be ok but 11 would not. We should just ask people to use their best judgment and hope for the best, while keeping in mind that we are never guaranteed tomorrow.
That's terrible, the thing you report on Facebook. It's so easy for people to react in a kneejerk way on FB (or the like), in ways they might not in person, and it's hurtful. Every situation is different, and extreme reactions (especially when people don't know the nuances) are not a good reflex.
Personally, I'm feeling like grace cuts both ways. Everyone's under a lot of stress, and more likely to act out. I'm working really hard to remember that when people lash out in ways that raise my emotional temperature, so that I don't add fuel. (In my case, I've seen more of the "sheeple", "living your life in fear", "not helping businesses" sort of lash-out, because as a comfortably introverted, retired, live-alone person, I'm cocooning more than some do or even can.)
Unlike you, I think it's helpful that there are numerical guidelines, but I don't expect people to slavishly stick to them. Of course it's not *really* "9 OK, 11 dangerous". What I do think an actual number does, that a more open-ended "limit gatherings" or "no big parties" or somesuch doesn't, is trigger some people to think a little harder, and not just go with "well, it's just our regular 14 or 15 people, not a big party", but maybe go beyond that to think "well, maybe we could cut that down a bit without major sacrifice, and suggest that Aunt Sally and her boyfriend from across the state notcome this time" and that sort of thing.
You have circumstances that are unusual, in that you have have a family member who is truly very likely not to be here to celebrate with you next year: I'm so sorry that's true for you. Probably numerically more people are in opposite circumstances, where they have elders or others that maybe/possibly might not be here next year based on pure statistics (could be true for any of us, realistically), but that are in demographics whose Covid mortality risk is significantly above broad-population averages. Add in the (true) idea that one family's tilt in the direction of accepting more Covid risk - even when done for very valid reasons - creates a small bit more risk for their other social connections and community . . . well, tempers will flare, in what are already stressful circumstances.
I'm sorry that your family is going through this extra stress, in an already stressful time. Wishing you the best possible outcomes, in all ways.17 -
I literally had someone on Facebook tell me that I'm the reason that we have to have these restrictions and that I'm selfish and generally terrible for suggesting that I'm not going to let fear of Covid change my Thanksgiving plans. Even when told about my sister he still doubled down insisting that the only acceptable way of celebrating is to not do so. This was a person I know in "real life" and had considered a friend for 2 decades now...the judgment is just mindboggling to me and I don't really understand why in general we can't just practice a little love and tolerance for each other.
I will also add that even just limiting to "immediate" family we are not a small group. My younger sister who lives out of town was supposed to come in (as she'd like to spend as much time as possible with our older sister as possible just in case) but my grandmother who lives with her hasn't been feeling well lately and doesn't want to drive 8 hours here and then 8 hours back on such a tight turn around. Hopefully they will be able to come for Christmas as the timeframe can be a little longer. But even without that group of 5 we are still 10+ people. I've never really understood the thought that 9 people would be ok but 11 would not. We should just ask people to use their best judgment and hope for the best, while keeping in mind that we are never guaranteed tomorrow.
Three weeks ago, my husbands best friend from the age of 7 (we are all 59 now) hung up the phone on my husband and will not answer or return any of his calls........
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I literally had someone on Facebook tell me that I'm the reason that we have to have these restrictions and that I'm selfish and generally terrible for suggesting that I'm not going to let fear of Covid change my Thanksgiving plans. Even when told about my sister he still doubled down insisting that the only acceptable way of celebrating is to not do so. This was a person I know in "real life" and had considered a friend for 2 decades now...the judgment is just mindboggling to me and I don't really understand why in general we can't just practice a little love and tolerance for each other.
I will also add that even just limiting to "immediate" family we are not a small group. My younger sister who lives out of town was supposed to come in (as she'd like to spend as much time as possible with our older sister as possible just in case) but my grandmother who lives with her hasn't been feeling well lately and doesn't want to drive 8 hours here and then 8 hours back on such a tight turn around. Hopefully they will be able to come for Christmas as the timeframe can be a little longer. But even without that group of 5 we are still 10+ people. I've never really understood the thought that 9 people would be ok but 11 would not. We should just ask people to use their best judgment and hope for the best, while keeping in mind that we are never guaranteed tomorrow.
That's terrible, the thing you report on Facebook. It's so easy for people to react in a kneejerk way on FB (or the like), in ways they might not in person, and it's hurtful. Every situation is different, and extreme reactions (especially when people don't know the nuances) are not a good reflex.
Personally, I'm feeling like grace cuts both ways. Everyone's under a lot of stress, and more likely to act out. I'm working really hard to remember that when people lash out in ways that raise my emotional temperature, so that I don't add fuel. (In my case, I've seen more of the "sheeple", "living your life in fear", "not helping businesses" sort of lash-out, because as a comfortably introverted, retired, live-alone person, I'm cocooning more than some do or even can.)
Unlike you, I think it's helpful that there are numerical guidelines, but I don't expect people to slavishly stick to them. Of course it's not *really* "9 OK, 11 dangerous". What I do think an actual number does, that a more open-ended "limit gatherings" or "no big parties" or somesuch doesn't, is trigger some people to think a little harder, and not just go with "well, it's just our regular 14 or 15 people, not a big party", but maybe go beyond that to think "well, maybe we could cut that down a bit without major sacrifice, and suggest that Aunt Sally and her boyfriend from across the state notcome this time" and that sort of thing.
You have circumstances that are unusual, in that you have have a family member who is truly very likely not to be here to celebrate with you next year: I'm so sorry that's true for you. Probably numerically more people are in opposite circumstances, where they have elders or others that maybe/possibly might not be here next year based on pure statistics (could be true for any of us, realistically), but that are in demographics whose Covid mortality risk is significantly above broad-population averages. Add in the (true) idea that one family's tilt in the direction of accepting more Covid risk - even when done for very valid reasons - creates a small bit more risk for their other social connections and community . . . well, tempers will flare, in what are already stressful circumstances.
I'm sorry that your family is going through this extra stress, in an already stressful time. Wishing you the best possible outcomes, in all ways.
I view the numerical guidelines as a way for people who don’t want to make others feel bad/offend them/whatever to use an an excuse/ “blame The authority” when declining an invitation or deciding not to host an event. Much like we give teenagers the “out” to blame their parents for their overprotective lame rules in order to save face and exit a potentially dangerous or uncomfortable situation.
So we can say, “oh, we aren’t hosting our annual XYZ party bc we can’t have more than 10 people”, without making it about us/our feelings/decisions. Or we can decline invitations and say, “the county is saying only 10 people, so we don’t want to put you over the limit, we’ll catch you next time”.
We’re a family if 6 and the smallest family we know is 5, so the usual # limits pretty much rule out all gatherings 😆10 -
gradchica27 wrote: »I literally had someone on Facebook tell me that I'm the reason that we have to have these restrictions and that I'm selfish and generally terrible for suggesting that I'm not going to let fear of Covid change my Thanksgiving plans. Even when told about my sister he still doubled down insisting that the only acceptable way of celebrating is to not do so. This was a person I know in "real life" and had considered a friend for 2 decades now...the judgment is just mindboggling to me and I don't really understand why in general we can't just practice a little love and tolerance for each other.
I will also add that even just limiting to "immediate" family we are not a small group. My younger sister who lives out of town was supposed to come in (as she'd like to spend as much time as possible with our older sister as possible just in case) but my grandmother who lives with her hasn't been feeling well lately and doesn't want to drive 8 hours here and then 8 hours back on such a tight turn around. Hopefully they will be able to come for Christmas as the timeframe can be a little longer. But even without that group of 5 we are still 10+ people. I've never really understood the thought that 9 people would be ok but 11 would not. We should just ask people to use their best judgment and hope for the best, while keeping in mind that we are never guaranteed tomorrow.
That's terrible, the thing you report on Facebook. It's so easy for people to react in a kneejerk way on FB (or the like), in ways they might not in person, and it's hurtful. Every situation is different, and extreme reactions (especially when people don't know the nuances) are not a good reflex.
Personally, I'm feeling like grace cuts both ways. Everyone's under a lot of stress, and more likely to act out. I'm working really hard to remember that when people lash out in ways that raise my emotional temperature, so that I don't add fuel. (In my case, I've seen more of the "sheeple", "living your life in fear", "not helping businesses" sort of lash-out, because as a comfortably introverted, retired, live-alone person, I'm cocooning more than some do or even can.)
Unlike you, I think it's helpful that there are numerical guidelines, but I don't expect people to slavishly stick to them. Of course it's not *really* "9 OK, 11 dangerous". What I do think an actual number does, that a more open-ended "limit gatherings" or "no big parties" or somesuch doesn't, is trigger some people to think a little harder, and not just go with "well, it's just our regular 14 or 15 people, not a big party", but maybe go beyond that to think "well, maybe we could cut that down a bit without major sacrifice, and suggest that Aunt Sally and her boyfriend from across the state notcome this time" and that sort of thing.
You have circumstances that are unusual, in that you have have a family member who is truly very likely not to be here to celebrate with you next year: I'm so sorry that's true for you. Probably numerically more people are in opposite circumstances, where they have elders or others that maybe/possibly might not be here next year based on pure statistics (could be true for any of us, realistically), but that are in demographics whose Covid mortality risk is significantly above broad-population averages. Add in the (true) idea that one family's tilt in the direction of accepting more Covid risk - even when done for very valid reasons - creates a small bit more risk for their other social connections and community . . . well, tempers will flare, in what are already stressful circumstances.
I'm sorry that your family is going through this extra stress, in an already stressful time. Wishing you the best possible outcomes, in all ways.
I view the numerical guidelines as a way for people who don’t want to make others feel bad/offend them/whatever to use an an excuse/ “blame The authority” when declining an invitation or deciding not to host an event. Much like we give teenagers the “out” to blame their parents for their overprotective lame rules in order to save face and exit a potentially dangerous or uncomfortable situation.
So we can say, “oh, we aren’t hosting our annual XYZ party bc we can’t have more than 10 people”, without making it about us/our feelings/decisions. Or we can decline invitations and say, “the county is saying only 10 people, so we don’t want to put you over the limit, we’ll catch you next time”.
We’re a family if 6 and the smallest family we know is 5, so the usual # limits pretty much rule out all gatherings 😆
It's like a speed limit. They're not saying "9 is safe, 11 is not" any more than they're saying "59 is safe, 61 is not." But what's the alternative, not providing any guidance as to the size of gatherings that substantially increase risk?
The truth is that mixing households right now is a risky behavior and the more people you're gathering in these mixings, the more people are immediately impacted and the larger the risk to the rest of us as people disperse from those mixed gatherings and go back into the world. People have to evaluate that risk with the other information they have about their priorities and other risks. What makes this so emotionally fraught is that those who are choosing to mix households are making decisions for the rest of us too, including those of us who have decided to not gather with others for the holidays.19 -
I figure nothing is guaranteed in the next year anyway. I could get hit by a car while running and not survive until next Thanksgiving. That is true most years and I still stay home by myself (and my cat, Midnight) for most holidays... or use the day off to go hiking, running, etc. somewhere else, but still by myself. Maybe my perspective is very different than most, but I don't reserve holidays for extended family. I talk to my mom often when it isn't a holiday, and same with other relatives. But geography makes in person gatherings more difficult and not worthwhile most of the time. Holidays are no exception. Sorry to be a grinch (not really), but I just don't see what all the fuss is about.19
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cwolfman13 wrote: »...you should take into account how this may be someone's last Thanksgiving when you are making the decision on if you should attend or not...
I don't want to be the REASON this may be someone's last Thanksgiving. That's the whole point of NOT going!
My spouse is an essential worker coming into daily contact with the public at a job where multiple people are out on "COVID leave" right now, at least one of them is dead, and another hasn't been heard from in months (since he was hospitalized) so who knows what happened to him. The bosses aren't saying anything. In the midst of all this chaos, a close proximity co-worker decided to go to a big family birthday party recently (because everyone pressured him about seeing Grandpa before it's too late) and co-worker came down with the virus shortly after. Grandpa is still OK, but Uncle who attended is now in the hospital and co-worker's sister is not doing well either. So it may be Uncle's last Thanksgiving, all because they had to have this party. Doesn't make any sense to me. Gotta have these get-togethers "just in case" the old people don't make it to next year, but you end up causing their premature deaths? If you just HAVE to see Grandpa, it might have been better to individually or small group visit Grandpa in a more socially distant way than to throw a big feast with 70+ maskless people in attendance. I think people just wanted to party, to feel the festivity they've been missing, and Grandpa's birthday was the excuse they needed. Apparently, they made themselves feel better by ensuring that Grandpa had a mask on. But he was the only one.
My husband and I have avoided elderly and high-risk people since the beginning. We aren't going to stop until this mess is under control. Missing out on a single year of holiday parties is not a big ask for me. Keeping my people safe is the priority. It's a bad situation, and some tough decisions have to be made. I just hope people aren't making them lightly.
I think one of the worst things about this pandemic is the fact that SO MANY people are judgmental. And of course it's only acceptable to be judgmental on one perspective and that side doesn't even try to look at it from another point of view.
I have a sister who has a highly aggressive cancer. While I pray daily that she can fight and beat this cancer, I'm also rational enough to know that it's not likely. So yes...I am going to see her for Thanksgiving. People can say they don't want to be the reason for causing it to be the last holiday season for someone (and if that's your choice that's fine) but don't seem to want to understand the other side - that we don't want to give up what is likely her last one. Just because you make one set of choices does not make the other person who made different choices wrong or a terrible person. It makes them human.
Cause let me tell you - if she dies before next Christmas my thoughts on it will NOT be "man I'm glad I didn't give her covid".
We do take precautions, had a kid exposed but no symptoms, had another kid who had cold symptoms - both tested and no Covid. and the exposure kid is well out of her 14 days. But I'm not giving it up...and I really dislike those who look down on people like me.
I think there is a massive difference between getting together with your sister and hosting a massive gathering of people. If people are holding mass gatherings of people, then yes...I judge...because I think it's grossly irresponsible right now. Getting together with a few of your close family members is, IMO, up to one's own personal risk assessment, and is completely different than throwing a massive party.
Yes, I agree with this. My sister and a few others are in my general "pod" -- local people who are all safe and see each other, a small group, and so I will definitely see my sister. I see that as different from traveling out of state or having a bunch of people in from all over and hosting some super spreader event.
There's a lot of grey and I think people should not be judging others as the decisions that need to be made can be difficult. However, I do think there are lots of obviously irresponsible things that some are doing too (not referring to people on this thread). For example, I put candy outside my door on Halloween with a sign and refilled it, and neighbors did the same or used a candy shoot, and I thought that was great. The kids I saw were in small family groups (or probably friends from their pods in some cases), and everyone seemed to be wearing masks. I thought that was great and bristled at those who judged and said Halloween going forward at all was unacceptable. But there also were massive Halloween house parties, and I am not sympathetic to those at all -- I'm actually quite annoyed at those participating.8 -
I literally had someone on Facebook tell me that I'm the reason that we have to have these restrictions and that I'm selfish and generally terrible for suggesting that I'm not going to let fear of Covid change my Thanksgiving plans. Even when told about my sister he still doubled down insisting that the only acceptable way of celebrating is to not do so. This was a person I know in "real life" and had considered a friend for 2 decades now...the judgment is just mindboggling to me and I don't really understand why in general we can't just practice a little love and tolerance for each other.
I will also add that even just limiting to "immediate" family we are not a small group. My younger sister who lives out of town was supposed to come in (as she'd like to spend as much time as possible with our older sister as possible just in case) but my grandmother who lives with her hasn't been feeling well lately and doesn't want to drive 8 hours here and then 8 hours back on such a tight turn around. Hopefully they will be able to come for Christmas as the timeframe can be a little longer. But even without that group of 5 we are still 10+ people. I've never really understood the thought that 9 people would be ok but 11 would not. We should just ask people to use their best judgment and hope for the best, while keeping in mind that we are never guaranteed tomorrow.
That's terrible, the thing you report on Facebook. It's so easy for people to react in a kneejerk way on FB (or the like), in ways they might not in person, and it's hurtful. Every situation is different, and extreme reactions (especially when people don't know the nuances) are not a good reflex.
I don't do FB (I have a profile that hasn't been updated in years and almost never go on), but from what people I know have reported, the judgment comes from all sides and it's generally terrible, not specifically about covid, but covid is not helping. A friend has a close relative who is super anti-mask conspiracy theory and constantly judging others for being (as someone else noted) weak or "sheeple" to the point she sees him differently than she did before and had to mute it. I know many others who report similar stuff.
My own experience with this has been NextDoor, although currently I read it only for coyote and deer sighting posts and photos (I live in a city, and although we've always had coyotes they've taken over the site like crazy lately; the deer pretty much live in cemeteries). Ever since March, however, it's been endless fights and judgy-ness (on both sides) about masks to the extent that it was making me upset and paranoid. (I am pro mask, but I also find it difficult to run in a mask and tend to choose times when few are out and I can easily social distance, and I do actively change direction, cross the street, move into the street as needed, but apparently some have had such bad experiences with runners not doing that that they are inclined to judge all, or to proclaim such things are not sufficient. I still think the anti maskers and those being incredibly irresponsible (as with the huge house parties) are worse -- and yes, now I'm judging too -- but I get the feeling that one is being judged no matter what and that some are enjoying that, even.)5 -
T1DCarnivoreRunner wrote: »I figure nothing is guaranteed in the next year anyway. I could get hit by a car while running and not survive until next Thanksgiving. That is true most years and I still stay home by myself (and my cat, Midnight) for most holidays... or use the day off to go hiking, running, etc. somewhere else, but still by myself. Maybe my perspective is very different than most, but I don't reserve holidays for extended family. I talk to my mom often when it isn't a holiday, and same with other relatives. But geography makes in person gatherings more difficult and not worthwhile most of the time. Holidays are no exception. Sorry to be a grinch (not really), but I just don't see what all the fuss is about.
I would find it much easier to say "no" to someone inviting me and it your situation I would likely do exactly the same. What I struggle with is that I have been the host for both T-day and Xmas as long I can remember. So the stress on me is disinviting people when I have no idea how they are feeling.
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I literally had someone on Facebook tell me that I'm the reason that we have to have these restrictions and that I'm selfish and generally terrible for suggesting that I'm not going to let fear of Covid change my Thanksgiving plans. Even when told about my sister he still doubled down insisting that the only acceptable way of celebrating is to not do so. This was a person I know in "real life" and had considered a friend for 2 decades now...the judgment is just mindboggling to me and I don't really understand why in general we can't just practice a little love and tolerance for each other.
I will also add that even just limiting to "immediate" family we are not a small group. My younger sister who lives out of town was supposed to come in (as she'd like to spend as much time as possible with our older sister as possible just in case) but my grandmother who lives with her hasn't been feeling well lately and doesn't want to drive 8 hours here and then 8 hours back on such a tight turn around. Hopefully they will be able to come for Christmas as the timeframe can be a little longer. But even without that group of 5 we are still 10+ people. I've never really understood the thought that 9 people would be ok but 11 would not. We should just ask people to use their best judgment and hope for the best, while keeping in mind that we are never guaranteed tomorrow.
That's terrible, the thing you report on Facebook. It's so easy for people to react in a kneejerk way on FB (or the like), in ways they might not in person, and it's hurtful. Every situation is different, and extreme reactions (especially when people don't know the nuances) are not a good reflex.
I don't do FB (I have a profile that hasn't been updated in years and almost never go on), but from what people I know have reported, the judgment comes from all sides and it's generally terrible, not specifically about covid, but covid is not helping. A friend has a close relative who is super anti-mask conspiracy theory and constantly judging others for being (as someone else noted) weak or "sheeple" to the point she sees him differently than she did before and had to mute it. I know many others who report similar stuff.
My own experience with this has been NextDoor, although currently I read it only for coyote and deer sighting posts and photos (I live in a city, and although we've always had coyotes they've taken over the site like crazy lately; the deer pretty much live in cemeteries). Ever since March, however, it's been endless fights and judgy-ness (on both sides) about masks to the extent that it was making me upset and paranoid. (I am pro mask, but I also find it difficult to run in a mask and tend to choose times when few are out and I can easily social distance, and I do actively change direction, cross the street, move into the street as needed, but apparently some have had such bad experiences with runners not doing that that they are inclined to judge all, or to proclaim such things are not sufficient. I still think the anti maskers and those being incredibly irresponsible (as with the huge house parties) are worse -- and yes, now I'm judging too -- but I get the feeling that one is being judged no matter what and that some are enjoying that, even.)
For whatever reason, NextDoor asked me to be a moderator locally. I have no idea why. I'm not particularly cool headed or reasonable at times. I have pleaded with people to be nicer. Not working. They are at each others throats. For every two level headed people, there are two extremes. Sad really.
One lady this morning was calling out a particular clerk at the local Post Office. I'm thinking, do we really need to do that?? Yes, someone at the post office should be wearing a mask, but to call them out on NextDoor by name? And when someone points out that NextDoor is about neighbors and after all the division we are still all neighbors, heaven forbid. Then the thread deteriorates to the extreme. I'm trying to figure out how not to be a moderator any longer.15 -
Ugh, my sympathies!1
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Yep--and it isn't even Christmas yet. This is dividing friends and families and causing arguments. It makes me sad. Stay safe everyone. This thing is a monster, and it's worldwide. Even countries that have been careful are seeing their COVID numbers out of control.6
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I feel like this post is a little ingenuous.I literally had someone on Facebook tell me that I'm the reason that we have to have these restrictions and that I'm selfish and generally terrible for suggesting that I'm not going to let fear of Covid change my Thanksgiving plans. Even when told about my sister he still doubled down insisting that the only acceptable way of celebrating is to not do so. This was a person I know in "real life" and had considered a friend for 2 decades now...the judgment is just mindboggling to me and I don't really understand why in general we can't just practice a little love and tolerance for each other.
I will also add that even just limiting to "immediate" family we are not a small group. My younger sister who lives out of town was supposed to come in (as she'd like to spend as much time as possible with our older sister as possible just in case) but my grandmother who lives with her hasn't been feeling well lately and doesn't want to drive 8 hours here and then 8 hours back on such a tight turn around. Hopefully they will be able to come for Christmas as the timeframe can be a little longer. But even without that group of 5 we are still 10+ people. I've never really understood the thought that 9 people would be ok but 11 would not. We should just ask people to use their best judgment and hope for the best, while keeping in mind that we are never guaranteed tomorrow.
Your friend might be more sympathetic towards your desire to balance enriching your sister’s remaining time with keeping everyone safe from Covid if you didn’t have a lengthy history of publicly minimizing the seriousness of Covid and belittling attempts to protect people from it.
I also strongly disagree that “hoping for the best” is a good approach in this situation, when there are significant safeguards you can put into place to protect yourselves and others who might encounter your family on their travels. We are never guaranteed tomorrow, but that doesn’t mean people shouldn’t look both ways before crossing a busy street.
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