WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2024
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LisaInArkansas wrote: »Machka - From the conversation about odd/awkwardly shaped cabinets, here's one idea:
That makes my brain hurt.😂
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Add me to the tired list. Too much on my mind so I am having a hard time falling asleep and then a hard time staying asleep. A lot of snow this past week: so a lot of shoveling. DH did about 80% of it, even though I would be up early and ready to go out to shovel, he would tell me not to, and he would go out to do it. THEN, he would complain about how sore he was and how sick of snow he was...I love the man, but such a PITA! I got up at 5 am this morning and shoveled before he was even awake. Best way to avert the pissing and moaning.
Sending love and hugs to all of you navigating loss of family/friends, our changing bodies, the weather...I am there with you! We've got this! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)10 -
KJ - Love you.
Heather UK xxxxxxxx3 -
Tina: I accepted friend request and sent you a message. LMK if you haven't gotten it.
Kylia and Ginny: So happy to you got to meet in person. Any photos?
Lisa: Ten years???? I remember meeting you and Corey like it was yesterday.
Once Lanette gets the teleporter running again it should be very easy for us to convene under one roof for a cuppa and good long yammer 🤗🤗🤗
Okay, time for me to hit the gym. Then will get myself all cleaned and pressed for a casual dinner out with girlfriends. Love you all. Stay well. We can do this.
Rori
Colorado Foothills
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Today’s gratitude: While shopping the pantry swept out the far corners. Was thankful that there was no mouse poop as there has been in the past, nor weevils like in Annie’s, but OH, the cobwebs [shudder}. The cloud of dog hair didn’t bother me ;}
Yesterday’s gratitude: Full strength ammonia.
Audio books whenever I’ve tried to listen to one while driving, my driving gets distracted. Not a good idea. Might try while decluttering… yeah right ;} Like Machka my preference is for a solid, tangible book. Love the feel and even smell of the real thing.
Tracey ((hugs)) This is the place for saying what hurts. ((hugs))
Vicki what a harrowing trip. Thankful you made it home safe at last.
Machka “sounding board” is exactly the right term and thanks for the examples. I need to practice the “I can see that” and murmurs of agreement instead of jumping in with my “helpful suggestions” :devil: Whooshing increasing thoughts to your little bee colony.
Michelle in NV, so sorry to hear your mother say that, she sounds like Debbie’s MIL. While I wonder what contributed to her acting/feeling that way, it is not acceptable. You are wise not to play into her fantasies. Good boundaries! ((hugs))
Ginny while I’d love to see Heather in Hove and Terri in Ireland, my preference would be somewhere sunny and warm. . . ;} Sorry to hear about the person in the wrong job. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try to train them up, it just isn’t right for anyone. ((hugs))
Kylia what a scary near miss. Safe travels this evening, you are important to us!”
Lisa while shopping the pantry, found those wine jelly candies. They’re portioned out and in the freezer. You are an insightful, intelligent and wickedly naughty gal. those corner drawers!
Annie ((hugs)) now the real time of adjustment begins. We’re here for you. ((hugs))
teklawa1@ Betsy thanks for checking in. Safe travels and gentle hugs for all in your family.
Lanette will watch that 5 video questions later when I get up from after hot tub nap I was averaging over 7500 steps til the shin aches, and could down to floor and back up before straining the rator cuff ligaments/muscles. Balance on one leg? Rotflmao. Some strength training (sit to stands) is part of PT that I have gotten back to the last few days (yay me) but the dumbbells have been off the table since the shoulder went south.
I’m aiming for 1 g protein for every 2.2 lbs weight but adjusted DOWN to be for the goal weight (<110/2.2~50) and not where I am now (133~60). Almost afraid to see what Ed Ed DeBoo recommends. Can’t believe it’s been two years since your DH passed. (((hugs)))
Rita national cheese lovers and butter crunch day? Thanks a lot …
Joy so frustrating. Does satellite also provide your internet?
Rebecca now that you mention it, Lisa’s corner drawers do have an Escher-y feel… ;}
Kelly sorry all the physical work (shoveling etc) is not helping you sleep. What our minds do to us.((hugs))
Rori oh yes, the teleporter. Then we really all could meet up somewhere warm . . .
Break time’s over. Time to get back to it. “It” is prepping the house for the pet sitter’s arrival. Involves: vacuuming edges, corners and recliners; scrubbing stovetop and chopping block; cleaning the bathrooms with Heather’s all purpose spray cleaner; and the big one : DUST. Dusting will require decluttering, coping with dead plants, aaaarrgh! Think I’ll just get in the hot tub.1/19: Move: 1 sets PT. Steps:6398 a little more than yesterdayLater, lighter, lovelies!
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=20 CI<CO net=721 vits=1
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AF, ptT, ptS, clean top of stove/top fridge shelf, called for MD appointment (swelling, decline HRT), hymns, laundry, recycling, Freddie’s. Wt: 134.3 :P
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
January: Move more: dailyish PT, play with dogs, more steps than yesterday.
Fuel better: less sugar, CI<CO, dailyish vitamins. more AF days than not.
Live NOW: dailyish time with Joe, dogs, readings, Hebrew, meditation.
Open heart and mind before mouth.
2024: Strengthen: body, mind, heart-connections.
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Lisa-Love the corner drawers!!! I wish the people who remodeled our kitchen would have used those!
Rori-Message received and replied to. Hope to meet you soon!
I'm all for meeting in Tasmania! Need to find a business reason to go though.
Went to a yoga class today for the first time in many years. It was a good one. I joined for a month so I can try to get into a regular routine. It's just so helpful with flexibility. The bonus is that I also get a 2 mile walk in to get to/from the studio. Hopefully I will stick with it.
Now I'm listening to the rain. It's been coming down at a decent rate for about an hour.
Tina in CA
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We are going to have wind again here, starting tonight. Worse tomorrow night. Named storm. I hope the family will be OK coming back from Somerset.
Just watched the 2007 musical film of Hairspray. I've not seen any of the versions before, and it wasn't anything like I was expecting. Strange how you can pick up completely the wrong impression of something. I enjoyed it, but would have loved to have seen the stage version.
Last night we watched Fiddler On The Roof. I recorded all these before Christmas. My mother was in an amateur production, which I didn't see, and her lover at the time played the lead. She had seen Topol in the West End.
Now to bed to read another Poirot.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Barbara - my frozen shoulder several years ago really derailed me. I know exactly how you feel. When are you taking off for the tooth procedure?
Margaret - thinking of you and hoping the brother can keep things under control and not cause stress.
Annie - glad to hear your sis and BIL made it back, and that you and your dad seem to be settling into a routine. Do you think his cognition is a little better now that your mom's memorial service and the business is over?
Rori - I think someone must have sold the teleporter for scrap. Either that or someone is enjoying "Back to the Future." At least I HOPE they are enjoying it, lol.
Pip - that book looks so neat! How cool author was your BIL and he autographed it for ya, plus a letter! My library had the E-book so I ordered it. Between the heat, the ice and the floods, who knows what our fate will be. Since I can see 2 volcanoes from the main road, and Mt. St. Helens active from time to time, I'm more concerned about an earthquake or sitting on ground zero here if it all cuts loose. Think I'd prefer being on ground zero than baking, drowning or freezing to death. When I'm 93 of course.
The temperature reached a sunny 47F today. It's now overcast and rain is moving in, but it was wonderful and I'm feeling back to normal again. Appetite back, feel like cooking, plenty of energy.
Even got a walk down the road in the sunshine. Walking neighbor and her DH cancelled, the crud hit them when they woke up this morning.
Back to watching Vera. Just finished the last episode Bethany was in. She was one of my favorites.
Have a great rest of your weekend ladies!
Lanette
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Ugh- im angry...
Rant ahead...Tracy works hard..Kyle does to but trying to keep a 2 yr old semi busy after surgery is a chore..well I guess Kyle is in a snit about something and wouldn't lift a finger to help Tracy at all today.and im guessing not tomorrow either..
Grrrrrr.
Ok rant over.. im going to sleep now.8 -
Stats for the day-
Walk w/family for 1st 3 mi, rest well/yogi and Lucy, 2hrs 30min, 66elev, 2.80ap, 86ahr, 135mhr, 6.67mi= 660c
Strava app = 806c
Zwift home bike trainer- strava stats- 42.52min, 285elev, 64aw, 14.3amph, 99ahr, 124mhr, 10.22mi= 225c
Strava app= 158c
Zwift stats- 42.57min, 286elev, 64aw, 48arpm, 14.25amph, 10.2mi= 158c
Total cal 885
I had every intention to get to the gym and run 4 miles but I got home from the walk too late so I got on the bike instead6 -
anmlmzdiet wrote: »
Families are complicated. I feel and understand your pain. I am the oldest of three. My younger siblings are deceased. My mother and I have struggled with our relationship for years. At this time, and she is getting up there in years, she has made comments about how she wishes one of my siblings had not died instead of me. She tells people she is writing me out of her will, which she hasn't done yet, and that my girls are to get nothing. She says she wants everything, including her doll collection, to go to her grandsons.
I still go and visit her, she doesn't know that I have family members jumping to tell me what she says. I'm kind to her, but factual. I don't play into her fantasies, and I think it bothers her. I can't change her, and no one can figure out why she continues to be this way. There's so much more I could say here, but suffice it to say, it's pretty unfair. Family? You'll never understand all of their motives. It's enough that I have my husband and children.
Michelle in NV
Michelle- sorry you are dealing with the way your mom is treating you. My husband is dealing with the same thing with his.
So much the same as what you wrote-
His brother(her favorite) was killed in an accident. The day after he died, his mom looked dh in the eyes and said "Wrong son died, huh!". We found out that day that she really had taken him out of her will. She had always said she was going to do it after he married me but we didn't know she had. She didn't understand why it upset him- he was going to get everything anyways. That was 12yrs ago.
Now she goes from saying she is giving everything to her niece who has said she is going to come here(from Osaka) and take mother in law back with her. Or she was giving everything to the bums on the street, Anything so dh, our son and I don't get anything.
The bad part is that a year and a half ago, she fell and he had to be there 24/7. She is better but still demands that he goes over there twice a day, every day, to bring her food(can't be food I make-if he does that she tells him to throw it in the garbage. She also comments about him eating "the garbage" at home), and makes sure she takes her meds. She can do these things herself but thinks she deserves all this attention.
He is the only family she has. She tells everyone, even her doctors, that she is all alone(while he is standing next to her)
She truly is the meanest women I know.
She hates him and he hates her and the tension is too much for him sometimes. He has never learned to tell her no.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
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Lisa-Love the corner drawers!!! I wish the people who remodeled our kitchen would have used those!
Rori-Message received and replied to. Hope to meet you soon!
I'm all for meeting in Tasmania! Need to find a business reason to go though.
Went to a yoga class today for the first time in many years. It was a good one. I joined for a month so I can try to get into a regular routine. It's just so helpful with flexibility. The bonus is that I also get a 2 mile walk in to get to/from the studio. Hopefully I will stick with it.
Now I'm listening to the rain. It's been coming down at a decent rate for about an hour.
Tina in CA
Tasmania in March (early Autumn) is really nice. Warm with usually fairly settled weather.
Machka in Oz
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Betsy in NW WA0 -
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Wow, I always wonder how a parent can be so cold as to treat well-meaning adult children like they can abuse them. My mother has a pretty terrible track record for treating her caretakers poorly. My deceased sister's husband had been taking care of her after my sister's death. He and my nephew did everything for her. Then my BIL met a nice woman who he wanted to be with. He spent less and less time at home leaving my nephew to do my mother's bidding. At this point she had kept it a secret where they were living, specifically from me. It had been this way for several years. (No, I did not know where my mother lived, because she and my Sister hadn't wanted me to know.)
Anyway, BIL decided my mother was too abusive and he wanted to move to NY. (We are on the West Coast.) My mother said she understood, but she really didn't. They left because of how she acted. She threw fits the whole time they were getting ready to leave, and he just kept telling her, "I am leaving."
Now, my mother had to find someone else to care for her. I offered, begged, and pleaded for her to come with me. I thought I could make our relationship better. She wasn't having any of that, though. She arranged with my cousin to have him take care of her.
Now she's with my cousin and has called me to take her out, and put her anywhere. Now mind you she's still treating me bad this whole time. I went to my cousin's house and got the scoop. She's not the center of attention right now, because my 97 year-old grandmother moved in, because the doctor said she could no longer live alone.
Now you might be thinking, "Poor Cousin," and you'd be right except that he is amazing. He's an A-type who cooks, cleans, records what they ate and what medications they've had and when. On top of that he holds down a very, high paying full-time job. She should be grateful, right. No, she called the cops on him. Of course, they found nothing wrong, and found her to be a bit nutty.
My cousin was livid about this, as it could have jeopardized his job. He and I spent some time talking about our options. I told him that after seeing what he did, especially with my relationship with my mother the way it is, I really didn't think I could take her. My mother has a great retirement and can afford to live almost anywhere, so we decided a nice home was the way to go.
She was not happy, but we were. At the last minute, however, My cousin's kindness won out. Because both of them are somewhat ambulatory and can do most things themselves, a decision was made to put my grandma and my mom in the same house down the street from my cousin. He would still be able to be there for meals, medication, and baths, and would also be there in a couple of minutes if they needed to call for an emergency. Ultimately, this would give my cousin the breathing room he needs.
All this time, mind you, my mother knows I'm pulling the strings, but she's acting like she is, SMH. I don't know what she's thinking, I'm her last living child. In the end it's my responsibility to make sure she's safe. And, while I hope this works, if it doesn't I just think we'll have to resort to a home.
I feel guilty about this, but if she treats the people she likes like this, how would she treat me if I brought her to live with me?
So this is a longer post than I planned. Sorry about that. Thanks to anyone still reading this, lol.
Michelle in NV15 -
Worked then stopped at Dollar General for distilled water. They have their Christmas Candy only 50% off. I would have thought by now it would have been 75%. So I didn’t buy any (not that I needed any anyway)
Tracey – do you think Rodger’s family could in a sense be jealous?
Ginny – so glad to hear of your wonderful meeting with Kylia.
Kylia and Ginny – next time you gals meet, we need pics. It feels like it was back in the ice age that I met Rori. What a great experience!
Kylia – we get snow so very infrequently, that people haven’t learned how to drive in it! Guess it’s good in a sense that the city shuts down when there’s ANY snow on the road. As more northerners move here, I wonder if it’ll change because they know how to drive in snow. How scary to see an accident first hand
Annie – I have to admit that a part of me is sad that your sister went back home. But I’m also glad and I’m sure she is, too.
Very cold – 28F – and windy so I might just go in the room with Shadow and work some more on the prayer blanket I’m making for my friend in Switzerland. Even if it doesn’t get there before her surgery, it’ll give her something to open when she gets home
Betsy – have a wonderful trip! So sorry about your granddaughter
annmiz… When my kids were teenagers, I read a book called “Get Out of My Life But First Would you Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall”. I swear, there were times I locked myself in the bathroom and read that book, otherwise I’d probably kill one of the kids. One thing they do say is “the more they pull away, the more they come back”. I believe this, you should have seen Jess when she was a teenager!!! Now she’s the one who calls us either every day or every few days and is constantly in touch. As a matter of fact, she’s supposed to be here today. Not sure what to do for dinner. Wonder if she wants to go out to eat? See, she likes to go out, we’re not big on going out to eat. Maybe I’ll look for a casserole that she’ll eat. Update: she came here, was here for about 1/2 hr, picked Shadow up, and went back. So I didn't have to worry about something to eat.
Lanette – interesting video. The only thing I’m not good at is balancing. I usually walk at least 7500 steps/day, I can get up off the floor, I do strength training and I do track my protein intake, although looking back at my diaries here on MFP, I’m not meeting the goal. Guess I just need to have more high protein foods
No work tomorrow so the plan is to do a Legs of Steel DVD
Yea, Lynette, get that teleporter running!!!
Barbara – why couldn’t we all meet in the Bahamas? Or somewhere in the Caribbean?
Rori – have fun at dinner
pip – great that you made a positive out of a negative (not being able to go to the gym)
Almost finished the prayer blanket for my friend in Switzerland who is having the surgery. Will probably finish it tomorrow. Now to get to bed.
Michele NC
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