Are blokes only after one thing?????

Yes. NEXT!

Well, I seem to be about the only one who has this view, but last time I checked it was a free country, so I will express my views just as openly as all of you have. First of all, I do have religious convictions, however, many of you may not share those same convictions, so I will tell you what I think about all of this aside from that.

First of all, wanting to wait to have sex does not mean you are not a sexual person. It doesn't mean that at all. Nor does it mean that when you choose to have sex that you won't be open to having as much fun and as much excitement in your sexual relationship than someone who chooses to engage in sex openly and freely with whomever they want at whatever time they want. Nor does it mean that it abstaining is the easy road, or that you don't want to have sex.

Secondly, when I am dating someone, it is important to me that they get to know me- my personality, my likes and dislikes, my thoughts and passions. I know someone stated that they may as well find out right away if there's a problem in the sexual chemistry because it can be a relationship killer. However, I would say that if someone is not compatible with me on a personal, spiritual and emotional level, that is a relationship killer. When you have sex at the beginning of a relationship, I believe it has a great potential to develop a false bond with someone that you really don't know at all. I think this is also probably more true of women than of men, and I'm sure there are women who are the exception to that rule. Nonetheless, it is my opinion that sex should be a seal on a bond that has already formed, not bond something that's not yet put together.

Thirdly, I want to value myself. I'm not more valuable than the prostitute standing on the corner, but I hope I know my value better. I do not think that because I choose to abstain that I am a better person, or more worthy of accolades. I truly believe though, that each time you engage in sex with someone, you are giving them a part of yourself. I want to be able to give as much of myself as I can to the person I spend my life with.

Lastly, I guess if I just thought of sex as physical fun and euphoria (which of course it is), then I could say the same things that many of you are saying. Pardon me if I see it as being something more than that, and something to be shared with someone who I can entrust all of myself with- not just my body.

From my point of view and personal experience - I think having a long term relationship with someone that is not right for you, but you refrained from having sex with at the beginning and built up an emotional bond with, is much more detrimental to your mental health than having a few one night stands here or there.

I think most are unfortunatly.

Since my ex (which will be 2 years in April) , i just havnt found anyone and cannot believe how bloody hard it is to find one decent guy who isnt too forward in their txts, who doesnt act sleazy and wants to take u out for a proper date.

Im at a point where i really do want a bf but i actualy give up. When ever i've tried dating, they've either not been my type or they just say things that are way too forward for early days. I hate todays generation of guys that are my age (21). Im just hoping that when i DO find someone it was bloody well worth the wait cause i've waited long enough.

And if you look that hot and still cant find someone, then there's no hope for any of us!!

Yes - and yes they seem to be the same wherever you are - and they are getting worse and more disgusting and disrespectful with it also.

Whoa whoa whoa......disrespectful??? :grumble:

but you hold the keys.

Where can I purchase one of these delightful contraptions for my 17 yr old daughter?

It's actually 2 things.

We want to do it twice.