Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    Ok this might sound a little strange....I am trying to budget my calories for today....and my daughter brought me a caramel and chocolate covered waffle cone thing last night.....

    Now, when looking to log it, is it safe to assume that most, if not all, the waffle cones listed database include ice cream? So, I should be good? I am not eating ice cream, only the cone. It is actually not made to be having with ice cream it is rolled actually.

    **I need to start actually watching what I am eating because sooner or later I am not gonna be able to talk my DR out of weighing me......six months ago she told me she really wanted me to lose 50lbs because I am only a few pounds shy of 400 and take three medications that cause weight gain. I lost about ten, and then my daughter came home and I spent a lot of nights up late talking with her, eating junk and sleeping through my gym time. I gained it back, and am not only down 3-4lbs from my highest weight and I have seen the DR twice since then and have kept her too busy to weigh me, lol. I see her again next Tuesday for a shot of said weight gaining meds,, so she might wanna pop me on the scale, and even if I get out of it this time, it is gonna happen sooner or later......and just to add, I know she is serious because this is the first time she has ever said anything about my weight and I have been seeing her for 20 years....
  • Glinda1971
    Glinda1971 Posts: 2,328 Member
    @Italian_Buju and @riderfangal - in case you didn't notice you two have exactly the same number of logging days - 240!

    That's super great by the way!
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Confession: I'm seriously considering the intermittent fasting diet. I'm clearly not getting anywhere with the old fashioned calorie counting and I'm actually getting quite desperate now. I want to book a doctors appointment but I think they will say the same thing as my mum "Why don't you join weight watchers or slimming world" Yea, I don't want to pay someone to watch me stand on a scale.

    I'm also considering taking all the money I have saved for a deposit on a house and getting someone to just suck all the fat out of me.

    It's all feeling very hopeless at the moment
    Sorry you're feeling so down. I do a kind of fluid IF, as I've mentioned here before. I call it 'not eating breakfast'. It usually works out to be a 16:8 fast, because I'm normally finished eating by about 8pm - I'm not a night snacker particularly, especially if I've had a big dinner. Then I'll go til around noon the next day. By then I'm really ready for lunch, but not actually chewing off my own limbs. This is how I figured it would work for me - I always ate a late breakfast because it makes me feel ill to just wake up and eat, so it was just a case of stretching it out a bit.

    I'm not militant about it at all. If we have a family breakfast out or something, of course I'll eat. Or if I know I'm going to have a late lunch, I'll have a slice of toast to keep me going. But this is in general what I do every day, and I find it really helps me keep my calories down. 1500 spread across 2 meals and a snack or two means decent sized meals.

    I did try 5:2 a couple of times, but I was too hungry on the 500 calorie days.

    ETA: Regarding the liposuction - I know you're joking, but I did read about it because my sister had some lipo as part of her recent tummy tuck (which looks amazing, by the way). If you gain any weight back, that fat has to go somewhere other than where it would have gone before you had the fat cells sucked away. Apparently you can end up with really weird fat deposits in strange places because of this. I find that pretty off-putting.

    Oh really? That's nasty. No I've never even looked into it but I just feel that way sometimes.

    Yea the one I'm looking into suggests 600-800 calories I figure if its for two days I can do it and then carry on here at maintenance, or a smidge lower because 2190 calories sounds like too much of a jump up from 1400 calories in my brain. I don't know. I tend to read up about it and research everything before I try something, so I'll see what I find out and figure if it is achievable or not.

    I used to skip breakfast purely because I didn't have the time but then I got a regular job and figured I have time now so I will. I didn't have breakfast today because I swam before work and when I got to work I realised I didn't have anything to eat for breakfast so I just waited until lunch, so it's no big deal if I have breakfast or not.
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    Glinda1971 wrote: »
    @Italian_Buju and @riderfangal - in case you didn't notice you two have exactly the same number of logging days - 240!

    That's super great by the way!

    Yes I saw that! How awesome!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    All you guys are NOT helping my urge for a puppy lol. DH wanted to wait til next summer, then he said Christmas, now he's saying my birthday (in October).

    I know, I want one so badly too. I was so happy our friends all brought their dogs camping this weekend (there were six in total) so there was always one to play Frisbee with or cuddle by the campfire, but it made me so sad we don't have one yet (our condo board has a no pets bylaw, so we have to wait until we buy a house, hopefully within a year.)

    Do you want a specific breed, or are you going to rescue?

    I would love to rescue but I don't think it's going to be possible for us as there are only a few breeds that don't bother my husband's allergies (poodles and a few poodle crosses, and I'm not a big fan of purebred poodles.) So I think we'll be getting a labradoodle when the time comes, as we know he can live with one of those.

    Well labradoodles are mutts, so it's a total crapshoot and you have a 50% chance to get one that sheds... it's not a recognized breed and there's no real standard unfortunately. Personally, I'd love one (that doesn't shed, obviously), but I'm not paying that much for a mutt.

    Confession - I'm not sure I ever want to deal with a puppy again, no matter how much I love them... they are just too much work!

    I'm in an airport typing on a phone which I don't do well. I grew up with labs and love them. I have a standard poodle. She's small at 49 pounds. She has all the playful goofy qualities of a lab but is much smarter and she does not shed. I would get another standard without a doubt. I wouldn't get a mini or toy period. I love big poodles. I would probably not get another lab for the shedding and drooling factors. For that price I'd go for a poodle. But I also have my shedding drooling pound puppy lovable sweet mutt Bruno.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    festerw wrote: »
    @BZAH10 the Jeep is an 03 it's starting to show it's age through the Great Lakes winters though, it got a new tailgate/fenders last year and needs a windshield frame this year as well as some rust repair on the tub. That's part of the reason I picked up a 98 Cherokee to drive in the winter so it can take the salt abuse.

    As for Fester, it came from my days in the high school marching band. I was in the drumline where everyone got a nickname and mine just stuck around.

    Lastly for fun I noticed this train wreck on the front page, post 3 it starts going downhill.
    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10193826/help-out-of-breath-when-excersising/p1

    Thanks for all the info! Also, I'm OBSESSED with marching band drum lines! Both of my sons were drummers in their school marching bands, both play guitar, and my youngest son has multiple drum sets in his basement. I've been to live shows that are JUST drumlines. So cool.
  • Tubbs216
    Tubbs216 Posts: 6,597 Member
    I confess it really annoys me when an OP will ask a question, get a few answers, accept the answers yet other posters can't help themselves from adding their thoughts on the matter. She ALREADY SAID she now knows that green tea won't help with weight loss. Why keep telling her it won't. She gets it. Seriously - read to the end of the thread before commenting. It's only one flipping page.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    I see Wonder Woman, also, @quiksylver296. Also, I'm a bit dyslexic (which another reason I have a hard time remembering full screen names) and I always call you "Quickysilver" in my head. That "y" seems to trip me up every time!

    Confession: I have to go buy my husband a Father's Day card and gift after work and we're not even on speaking terms right now. This should be fun.

    I hope you guys are doing better now. What is going on? I know a lot of people who are having relationship issues right now.

    For us, the problem is what I've told him for years: we have three people in our relationship - me, him, and his EGO. Tired of dealing with the ego stuff. Didn't expect someone 10 1/2 years older than me to still have ego and maturity issues. But, it's not all him, of course. I've changed in the past 15 years. I don't complain about or talk about my marriage to anyone IRL, so in the spirit of the thread I just decided to take advantage of it and do a little personal whining.

    Thank you for asking. How are YOU? I've been thinking about you and your situation as well.

    I meant to ask...did the card and tequila work?

    Well, it "worked" in that we just started talking again. Normally. As if nothing had happened. Truth is I'm getting tired of discussing the same thing over and over again. Besides, it was Father's Day so I decided to just let it go and make the best of it. Thank you for asking!

    One of the things I have been doing since we all started talking is to try and take a different perspective on people. What are their motivations for their actions, and if I can't change them, can I change something about me that would allow me to have more success in the situation. Its been talking to you all that has helped me realize that... if its worth keeping the relationship, and the other person isn't seeing the problem, is there something I can do differently to end up with a happy compromise? If not...then it's time to move on (I am talking about friends, not a spouse, so the stakes aren't quite as high of course). I am glad you guys are talking... that is a first step. But you have a lot of years to go (hopefully) so I have my fingers crossed you can find a compromise that works for both of you!

    You are very right and I use the same philosophy. We've been together for 15 years, so there's WAY more to it than this, but I won't talk about it here. I just needed to vent that day. I appreciate your thoughtful reply, though.
  • berlynnwall
    berlynnwall Posts: 669 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    festerw wrote: »
    @BZAH10 the Jeep is an 03 it's starting to show it's age through the Great Lakes winters though, it got a new tailgate/fenders last year and needs a windshield frame this year as well as some rust repair on the tub. That's part of the reason I picked up a 98 Cherokee to drive in the winter so it can take the salt abuse.

    As for Fester, it came from my days in the high school marching band. I was in the drumline where everyone got a nickname and mine just stuck around.

    Lastly for fun I noticed this train wreck on the front page, post 3 it starts going downhill.
    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10193826/help-out-of-breath-when-excersising/p1

    Thanks for all the info! Also, I'm OBSESSED with marching band drum lines! Both of my sons were drummers in their school marching bands, both play guitar, and my youngest son has multiple drum sets in his basement. I've been to live shows that are JUST drumlines. So cool.

    That reminded me of my confession! The other day I watched the movie Drumline on TV while I was doing laundry. The last time I watched it was when it was new, so it brought back memories. Memories of music from 2002 that I then downloaded. Now I have a bunch of Mystikal songs in my exercise playlist.
  • m1xm0d3
    m1xm0d3 Posts: 1,576 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    bkhamill wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    Glinda1971 wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    Goodness, what a weekend! This time next week, I could possibly be lying on a beautiful beach in Florida sipping a mimosa. I will be thinking of you all. :smiley:


    Friday night the husband and I went to Outback for dinner. I was not thrilled about this because I didn't think I had enough calories for Outback because I always get the Alice Springs Chicken with fries. I decided to order the chicken, but subbed fries with steamed broccoli, which, if you've being paying attention at all, you'll know how incredibly difficult that decision was. I regretted not getting the fries until I tasted the broccoli, it was delicious. I ended up only eating half my dinner, and I even got to share a piece of cheesecake with my love and STILL managed a deficit. Yay, me!

    Saturday, my daughter and I were going to go shopping for Father's Day, my eye appointment, and get some last minute things for our trip, but we were also going to go to the candy shop for snacks so my husband wanted to come too. We ended up going to the candy shop first which was a big success except they were out of my favorite trail mix (luckily, I still had some left over from the last visit) so I got buttered toffee pecans (holy sweet, salty, and crunchy, they are amazing), and some dried apples. He got mostly candy. :smile:

    From there, we went to the mall since that's where my appointment was to kill some time, but also so I wouldn't be late. We ended up in JCP looking at dresses. Husband picked out some he wanted me to try on (his questionable taste presented itself again) but nothing worked. We met up outside in the sitting area of the mall and he asked me if I wanted to kill some more time at Helzberg, and I said sure. Long story short, we ended up looking at diamond rings and bridal sets. I didn't think we were really going to purchase anything since he said we'd do shopping in Florida. Apparently, he'd been really thinking about that and decided if we were going to get one, he wanted to get it before we went so it could be sized and everything beforehand. I tried on several rings before falling head over heals for a 1/2 ct. princess cut in white gold. It was absolutely mesmerizing. I could not quit staring at it. That's pretty much how I felt the first time I laid eyes on him. Love at first sight. Anywho, I tried on a few different guards and finally found a perfect fit. The lady sized my finger (size 5 btw, I was pretty shocked by that) and I was off to my appointment.

    My appointment took maybe 20 minutes so I went to Auntie Anne's for pretzels and a DP ( I know, I was doing to so good) and then headed back to Helzberg. Well, come to find out, he bought the ring while I was at my appointment and was finishing up paperwork and stuff when I got back. I was shocked, I didn't expect to get anything finished so soon. Turns out, the ring I picked out is a VVS2 (3rd from highest quality you can get) and almost completely colorless. It is also a limited edition diamond which I didn't know either. I just knew I loved the ring. When they were telling us all the stuff about the diamond, they said I have really good taste. I said, putting my arm around Husband, "Obviously!" He blushed. It was adorable. I hope to have my ring by Thursday, but I might have to wait until after we get back from Florida.


    Now for stepdaughter news.

    She was a no call, no show Saturday and Sunday. She DID tag him on facebook saying Happy Father's Day and I love you, but I guess she was just too busy to come by and give him the only thing he really wanted which was some of her time. He fell asleep last night while watching TV and then woke up and asked me what time it was. I said 8 or 9, and he said, really, no way. He then pulled out his phone to check for messages. Nothing. The look on his face was so painfully sad I started crying. I told him I was sorry she didn't come by, and he said, "I can't believe she didn't come over on Father's Day." To make matters worse, Rachael told me she thought it'd be fun having a sister, but it's not. I hate that she's treating them so badly.

    I'm sad because she'll never know how incredible her dad is and that she seems to have zero interest in being a part of our amazing family. If it were up to me, I'd take the car back and tell her off, but I don't want to do anything that could hurt the chances of a future relationship. What I don't understand, is she found him, he didn't seek her out, she came to him. Why would she do that if she didn't want to have anything to do with him, just his money?!

    I'm heartbroken for my loves. Why did this crap have to happen a week before we leave?!

    TL; DR: I AM getting a new ring, I married an incredible man, and his daughter is a selfish little twit.

    Oh man. What a mix of awesomeness and crappiness in this post. I think your new ring sounds pretty amazing, but the fact that your step-daughter is being such a selfish brat is making me so sad for your husband.

    +1

    A mix of yays and hugs for you.

    Thanks!


    MoHousdon wrote: »
    Goodness, what a weekend! This time next week, I could possibly be lying on a beautiful beach in Florida sipping a mimosa. I will be thinking of you all. :smiley:

    TL; DR: I AM getting a new ring, I married an incredible man, and his daughter is a selfish little twit.

    That's awesome news about your ring! Sounds like you had a good weekend except the stepdaughter part. Just curious...why wasn't he involved in her life when she was younger? Counseling may be good for all of you to work through this difficult place. It may reveal some things about her past that provide insight as to why she's acting this way. I hate that Rachael is so disappointed. :( (Hugs)

    He wanted to be, we both did.

    When her mom and my husband broke up, they shared custody (they were never married). For some reason, I'm not 100% clear on this as he doesn't like to talk about it, she quit allowing him visitation. I guess, in the state of Kansas, a mother can say anything she wants against a father, even one paying child support, and it's basically her word against his. She petitioned to increase his child support (this happened several times during our relationship) and was awarded more each time.

    In the almost 15 years we've been married, until recently, I had only seen her twice. Once for her 5th birthday (her mother didn't know about this) and once for Christmas (same year, mother didn't know). When Rach was about 2 maybe a little younger, we found out where she worked and Husband asked if he could see her and she told him she didn't think she (daughter) was ready for that. Because, at the time, we didn't have the money to take her to court, he didn't fight his ex anymore and just did was what right by paying his child support and not fighting it every time she wanted more.

    He would never admit it, but he's a pushover and hates confrontation. Hence the situation we're currently in. Her mom was pretty pissed when she found out she had sought him out. I'm sure she has a lot to do with the way she's been acting recently since she's staying at her house.

    Sorry to be such a downer on a Monday.

    There's the key, right there. Nineteen / adult or not, that sole-parental influence is HUGE. My husband and I both had joint custody of our kids, but the influence of the other parent was always present. I'll shut up on this subject after this, but once she becomes independent, breaks away from her mom, goes through a few serious relationships of her own, she will see your husband's side so much clearer.

    Example scenario: say she gets seriously involved with a guy who has a child. Mother of the child does the exact thing to her (hypothetical) boyfriend that her mom did. He wants to see his child and be involved, but he is denied. He's hurt and she doesn't like it. Light bulb moment. She won't necessarily see her mom as the bad guy, but she'll apply all those same feelings to her current situation and eventually she will see things differently. IMHO.

    I hope you're right. For his sake, her sake and Rachael's sake. Thank you.

    It's a bit weird to me that she would get like this AFTER trying to find him. My mom had a restraining order against my biological father when I was little, and he signed away his legal right to me, but she would have let me get to know him if I'd wanted. Even now, if I decided I wanted to find him and have a relationship, she'd support me.

    For what it's worth, I don't want to know him. I know enough about why there was a restraining order in the first place, and know he would occasionally run into my mom's younger sister (who is a terrible human being - not judgement, just fact) who would give him updates about me (without asking me, of course). I look at it like he never made the effort to follow up, even once I was an adult and my mom couldn't stop him.

    I do sometimes wonder if I have half siblings somewhere, but I'm not sure I want to start that kind of relationship at this point even if I did. Too much pressure, you know?

    I can imagine her being totally conflicted at only 19, when I'm still unsure at 31. Especially with a strong negative influence behind her. She may just need time (and space - possibly from both sides) to figure out what she wants.

    Here's hoping that she comes around!

    Thanks & sorry, @CountessKitteh I too had a loser bio dad.

    I want her to figure out what she wants, but I will not let her let my husband pay the emotional price (so to speak) while she does it. We are by no means forcing her to have a relationship with us if that's not what she wants, but I will also not continue to pay for her car while my husband is driving a truck older than all the people in this thread if she doesn't want to be a part of our lives. That sounds really heartless I'm sure, but I have to be honest.

    That is a "classic" if it is older than me!

    1963 Chevy pick up. Matte black with ghost flames and slammed. According to the insurance he's carrying, it's not supposed to be used as a daily driver, so don't tell anyone. :*

    Quit holding out.... we need some photos! Seriously wanna see this ride. And please tell me it has at least a 350ci in it. :smiley:
  • kellienw335
    kellienw335 Posts: 1,745 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    This is not a confession and I don't care because I'm SUPER excited - my passport came in the mail today woo hoo!!!!

    (For those unaware I've never left the country and I'm headed to London in August!!)

    I thought you had been there before. So, your boyfriend has always come here? How long have you been dating? Not trying to be nosy, just curious!
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    I do a kickboxing class Monday evenings and normally just walk to the gym from campus. I'll wear normal clothes (not teaching this summer so I can be pretty informal, but you know, still wear normal clothes) and then change before I walk down. I had to be at home this morning to meet people who are working on the house, but then needed to come to campus to meet with one of my grad students, but that's the only reason I had to be on campus. I figure, ehh, I don't care if grad student sees me scrubby - we've played soccer together so I'll just go to the office in my kickboxing clothes. Of course, today is the day that my dean who is never around is around. After my meeting with my grad student I closed my office door and am pretending I'm not here.

    Oh, sorry! Isn't that always how it seems to work? The ONE time you decide to dress casual...
  • JenWhite4022
    JenWhite4022 Posts: 27 Member
    I wear spanx all the time. I never leave the house without something to keep my tummy held in. :(
    I do that too, and feel gross and guilty when I don't! :(
  • m1xm0d3
    m1xm0d3 Posts: 1,576 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Is it me or is it mostly women posting here? Did we scare off most of the men?

    We have xMrBunglex and Uncle Fester sometimes. We ran off the rest with our talk of TOM, bras, breastfeeding and whatever else. :D

    and we have mixmode..I can't remember the correct way to spell it with numbers and such! :#

    This cracked me up... I will forever think of him as mixmode now!

    lol thanks. That's actually what my username means. MIXMODE I just subbed the vowels for numbers. I promise not to leave. ;)
  • m1xm0d3
    m1xm0d3 Posts: 1,576 Member
    edited June 2015
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Is it me or is it mostly women posting here? Did we scare off most of the men?

    We have xMrBunglex and Uncle Fester sometimes. We ran off the rest with our talk of TOM, bras, breastfeeding and whatever else. :D

    and we have mixmode..I can't remember the correct way to spell it with numbers and such! :#

    Isn't @m1xm0d3 a girl?

    I thought he was the single dad cyclist...? Am I confusing/combining people?

    Yes, he is the single dad cyclist.

    I confess since he rarely talks about 'male things' (I am sure because of us) I think he is male as well. And I am SURE he will be thrilled we ever questioned it. We love you @m1xm0d3! Don't leave us!

    This cracked me up... I will forever think of him as mixmode now!

    I too hope he's not offended and leaves! I know he's busy at work, but I hope he appears again. Also, I "read" letters as numbers sometimes, so "mixmode" is exactly how I read it, also.

    You got it! I am thick skinned so no I won't leave until something like graphic discussions on enemas starts becoming the norm around here or something.
  • notwaitin
    notwaitin Posts: 119 Member
    I had an affair on my diet this am. I was at the McDonald's drive thru and asked if they had cookies, nope but they could put some in for me...um hot out of the oven McDonald choc chip cookies...holy mother of words I can't describe. I've never had an affair but if its anything as hot and delish as that, I may have to rethink my lifestyle.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    This is not a confession and I don't care because I'm SUPER excited - my passport came in the mail today woo hoo!!!!

    (For those unaware I've never left the country and I'm headed to London in August!!)

    SO jealous! Have a great time!
  • FroggyBug
    FroggyBug Posts: 4,883 Member
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    I see Wonder Woman, also, @quiksylver296. Also, I'm a bit dyslexic (which another reason I have a hard time remembering full screen names) and I always call you "Quickysilver" in my head. That "y" seems to trip me up every time!

    Confession: I have to go buy my husband a Father's Day card and gift after work and we're not even on speaking terms right now. This should be fun.

    I hope you guys are doing better now. What is going on? I know a lot of people who are having relationship issues right now.

    Yes it seems to be spreading...I am not overly impressed with my SO myself....

    Sorry to hear that. If you need to vent to us, we won't mind.

    Hope things improve soon.
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Is it me or is it mostly women posting here? Did we scare off most of the men?

    We have xMrBunglex and Uncle Fester sometimes. We ran off the rest with our talk of TOM, bras, breastfeeding and whatever else. :D

    and we have mixmode..I can't remember the correct way to spell it with numbers and such! :#

    Isn't @m1xm0d3 a girl?

    I thought he was the single dad cyclist...? Am I confusing/combining people?

    Yes, he is the single dad cyclist.

    I confess since he rarely talks about 'male things' (I am sure because of us) I think he is male as well. And I am SURE he will be thrilled we ever questioned it. We love you @m1xm0d3! Don't leave us!

    This cracked me up... I will forever think of him as mixmode now!

    I too hope he's not offended and leaves! I know he's busy at work, but I hope he appears again. Also, I "read" letters as numbers sometimes, so "mixmode" is exactly how I read it, also.

    You got it! I am thick skinned so no I won't leave until something like graphic discussions on enemas starts becoming the norm around here or something.

    Eeew I think I'd be leaving as well!
  • Tubbs216
    Tubbs216 Posts: 6,597 Member
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Is it me or is it mostly women posting here? Did we scare off most of the men?

    We have xMrBunglex and Uncle Fester sometimes. We ran off the rest with our talk of TOM, bras, breastfeeding and whatever else. :D

    and we have mixmode..I can't remember the correct way to spell it with numbers and such! :#

    Isn't @m1xm0d3 a girl?

    I thought he was the single dad cyclist...? Am I confusing/combining people?

    Yes, he is the single dad cyclist.

    I confess since he rarely talks about 'male things' (I am sure because of us) I think he is male as well. And I am SURE he will be thrilled we ever questioned it. We love you @m1xm0d3! Don't leave us!

    This cracked me up... I will forever think of him as mixmode now!

    I too hope he's not offended and leaves! I know he's busy at work, but I hope he appears again. Also, I "read" letters as numbers sometimes, so "mixmode" is exactly how I read it, also.

    You got it! I am thick skinned so no I won't leave until something like graphic discussions on enemas starts becoming the norm around here or something.
    It's probably just a matter of time...
  • orangesmartie
    orangesmartie Posts: 1,870 Member
    You guys (ladies?), I have something I need to confess to all of you (especially to all of those awesome people who added me as friends).

    So, here's the thing: I wasn't ever planning to confess this in here, because I didn't want to offend anyone or make anyone feel guilty. A small part of me was also afraid that it would backfire and I would get taunted, but after knowing everyone for a while, I'm sure it wouldn't happen. I've honestly been sitting here in front of my screen for an hour, trying to get up the courage to confess this to everyone here, and as I type this I'm beginning to cry.

    Basically, I have an extreme phobia of profanity of any kind--whether it's typed or verbally spoken. It triggers my anxiety and my FND in a really big way, and this is one of the reasons that sticking with this thread has been a huge challenge for me. I was able to stick with it mostly because of MFP's profanity filters--otherwise I would be long gone due to a level of anxiety that I really can't handle.

    Now, this poses a problem for me. While I'm really, really happy to have all of you add me as friends, my MFP feed doesn't have the profanity filter that the forums have, and I need my feed to be "safe" for me. Lately I've been scared and anxious whenever I open MFP, for fear of what I might read on the feed.

    I just wanted to tell all of you who have been so kind to add me, that while I don't expect you to filter what you post on your MFP, I really don't want you to be offended if I delete you for usage of profanity. It DOES NOT MEAN that I don't like you or that I don't want to be your friend--this is just an issue that I have a terrible, terrible fear of and really can't handle. I honestly contemplated making a second account to log my food so I wouldn't have to look at the feed on this one so I wouldn't end up deleting or alienating any one of you--I decided that it was best to bite the bullet and tell the truth.

    Please don't be offended, because I truly don't mean to offend anyone. I'm sorry if I've made anyone feel bad or guilty or angry at me by this confession. :'( No judgement and all that, right?

    thanks for letting us know Susie. Its quite important because none of us would want to deliberately upset you.

    I will endeavour to moderate my language, apologise in advance for any that slip through, and understand if you want to unfriend me - i won't take it personally :)

  • kellienw335
    kellienw335 Posts: 1,745 Member
    martim3 wrote: »
    Went shopping for new (bigger) clothes. Bought a box of Crunchberry cereal on the way home and stress ate the box after reality hit me that the 25 lbs. Gained actually was noticeable. I did buy some PB 2 at the same time anticipating getting back on track. The small cup of Crunchberry left in the morning I made a PB 2 mix to coat it with and ate that for breakfast, that may actually be a good thing to do to a less noxious cereal. Took a couple days to reload MFP back in my phone and have done better for a week or so.

    I have to mentally prepare myself to go shopping when I've gained weight. I talk to myself as I walk around the store (not out loud). Saying things like 'you are ok', 'it's ok that you still wear a XXL', 'if you want things to be different then you have to exercise and eat right'. If I don't do this then I have a mini-panic attack in the dressing room when nothing fits. Welcome to The Thread!
  • thisisatest1994
    thisisatest1994 Posts: 7 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    I purposefully design all my meals so I can eat large portions for little calories. Despite losing a bajillion pounds, and maintaining the loss, I still need QUANITITY to feel full.

    My guests are aghast when they see my big ol' jethro portions. (ie- huge bowls of air popped popcorn, 2 or 3 potatoes with my dinner, mountains of salad... etc)

    I buy those 12oz mixed veggies bags and just eat the whole thing as a side, often with grated parmesan sprinkled on top. I eat mashed cauliflower one pound at a time. Yep, I need quantity too.

    I still binge typically once a week, and eat at a bigger deficit the rest of the time to make up for it - pretty much maintained since June because of that (when I'm still trying to lose 3 pounds). I was actually one pound lighter in June. My last binge was 1000 calories of Girl Scout cookies on Thursday (and I only had 400 calories left for the day).

    I'm still in denial that I can eat things in moderation. I typically last a week or so, then hormones kick in and it's over and I pretty much raid all the ice cream and cookies. Still bought ice cream today. I just don't learn.

    I do wash my clothes after my workouts but will often just workout in PJs or even in underwear (both of which pretty much sucks for high impact stuff when I have no bra on).

    I have the bouncy loose skin issue when I run too...


    I have the binge problem. I've tried to lose weight several times over the last year or two, and this has always kept me off track, because I don't want to track the binges, and then I feel like not tracking at all because they feel inevitable. We should have a support group, because I don't know how to change this???
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    During two interchanges this weekend I reacted defensively to comments that, on further investigation, turned out to actually be compliments. This has made me realize that in spite of a lot of personal insight, I'm still having problems thinking of myself as "ok".

    Well, that's a huge thing to discover about yourself. Self-awareness is so very important. I'm sure this will help you improve your thoughts of yourself from here on out. Good job for being so honest about it!
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    Stupid tray of Ghirardelli brownies my mom made while staying over to watch my daughter. Dang her for bringing that crap in to my house! Taunting me.... I had about a 3x3 inch square. >_<

    Hey, now, with all the cycling you do that amount doesn't even seem confession-worthy! But glad you're still here with us.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    xMrBunglex wrote: »
    Confession: It's a hangry day, and I want chips...or Gardetto's.

    I'm in trouble.

    I hear you. It's workout off day & all I can think about is warm sourdough bread.

    MUST. CONTROL. URGES.

    me too, but to (kinda) contribute to the guacamole postings, I just want to face plant in a pile of it. LOVE it. I seriously think I like it better than ice cream. I've been known to eat a whole avocado with salt and a spoon. I want to eat ALL the things today, but by things I mean guac and cheddar cheese and sour cream.

    I bought a package of the Wholly Guacamole single serve packages. Sadness. I've never seen anything so TINY! To make it even worse, the miniscule container has a concave (inward) bottom so there's even less in there than I thought. When my spoon hit that bump in the bottom of the container I almost freaked out! Good thing they come in packages of 6. Three at a time should do the trick.

    Is this a good quality brand?

    Seems to be. I prefer to make everything myself, but I was at the store and grabbed it. It's the first time I've ever had it. A bit "oniony" for me. I like the taste of onions, but do not like the smell in the air or on my breath! Of course, I always brush my teeth right away, but I'd prefer a bit less onion.
  • sdirks
    sdirks Posts: 223 Member
    Confession: I always dated guys who were in worse shape than me or had terrible habits (junk food, smoking, no exercise, no self-control, or no self esteem) that way I could feel like the "healthy" one in the relationship... even though I wasn't taking care of myself like I should have. It took me years to unlearn this bad dating behavior. I'm ashamed to run into my exes now because they're all various kinds of miserable; meanwhile I'm down 40+lbs and finally enjoying my life. I'm embarrassed that I let my issues with my weight push me into relationships with guys I wasn't attracted to.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Confession: I'm seriously considering the intermittent fasting diet. I'm clearly not getting anywhere with the old fashioned calorie counting and I'm actually getting quite desperate now. I want to book a doctors appointment but I think they will say the same thing as my mum "Why don't you join weight watchers or slimming world" Yea, I don't want to pay someone to watch me stand on a scale.

    I'm also considering taking all the money I have saved for a deposit on a house and getting someone to just suck all the fat out of me.

    It's all feeling very hopeless at the moment

    I'm sorry you are feeling desperate. However, YOU are in charge of your health when you go to the doctor; they can advise, but what you do is up to you. If you go and explain what is going on and they suggest what you said, then simply say, "No, those are not workable options for me. Do you have any other suggestions or can you refer me to someone who does?"

    Don't waste money on lipo. It won't help in the long run and it can turn out badly. I LOVE @orangesmartie's response - fantastic advice!
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    crosbylee wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    Caught up!

    We went camping this weekend and I ate EVERYTHING (did you know you can roast Pillsbury cinnamon rolls over the fire in foil? Or that you can do pizza dough from scratch as long as it's warm enough to let it rise in the sun?)

    We also had my friend's dogs with us and I was in tears laughing at them when we put their puppy life jackets on to swim in the river. They have little handles on the back so you can pick them up like a suitcase...

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    They look hilarious. And even better is that when you hold them over the water they just start paddling in the air. If you hold them up high, they paddle slowly, but the closer you put them to the water, the faster their little legs go. So freaking cute.

    I have one of those jackets for my Mastiff. She loves to swim, sinks like a brick without it. On the plus side, i have my own trolling motor in the river when I am on the float. Attach the leash and let her swim!

    Oh, so cute! Large dog, though, right? How big is your Mastiff? My youngest son has a Mastiff / Boxer mix and he's like 120 lbs. I think. He's a tank. I call him "Roadblock" because he will stop abruptly right in front of you and turn around to see if you're still there. Then I either fall over him or come to a complete stand still until he decides to move again. His other dog is an Australian Blue Heeler and she's a smarty-pants. Very mischievous and smart.

    Yes, she is a large dog. She is actually small size for her breed and is about the size of your Mastiff/Boxer mix. I used to have an Australian Sheperd/ Heeler mix and loved that dog. Unfortunately he ended up with my ex who didn't take good care of him.

    I'm requesting pictures of all these dogs please :):) I LOVE dogs so much!!

    Here is a picture of our dog Sarabi, she was put down February last year because she had pancreatic cancer which spread to her liver. :disappointed: She was 12 years old, I was 24 at the time so I had known her for half of my life.

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    Beautiful! She looks like a sweetheart!

    She was the bestest dog in the world. :smile:

    Her eyes make me melt!
  • riderfangal
    riderfangal Posts: 1,965 Member
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    Confession - it's not even 9am on the second day of Summer break and I already want to lock my kids in their rooms.

    Any summer programs you can put them in like vacation bible school or any programs at the YMCA or other local rec centers? Also, check with your county for summer programs. Some are very cheap or free. For sanity's sake, it's worth a shot. lol

    They have 2 camps this year but it's at the end of July and mid August. Didn't want to spend a fortune. We're going in vacations in 10 days anyway. I just wish they would stop bickering.

    Oh I see... well until then, might I suggest something like this? o:) j/k

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    Bahaha