Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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No, me neither, and I'd cry if someone said that to me.Italian_Buju wrote: »
Ok, I am gonna confess that I might not even be that nice about it......
Ok, I get it, but I don't think I could ever say that to someone who wasn't asking for an opinion. I bought a new dress yesterday which I love and feel great in. I wore it to a family party last night and several people said nice things about it and how I looked in it. I would have been pretty upset if someone had pulled me aside and told me it looked bad.Italian_Buju wrote: »
What wording would you have used? Particularly if she thought she looked great?Italian_Buju wrote: »
I would have told her the truth, nicely. I would never lie to a friend about something like that.I told a friend she looked beautiful in a new outfit. My real thoughts..... she looked fat & awful. The style did absolutely nothing for her shape. Would a real friend tell her the truth? I don't want to hurt her feelings; she believes she looks like a rock star.
Also, I would be really pissed if someone let me walk around thinking I looked great if I looked awful.
That outfit does not sit on you very well. Why don't you try (whatever suggestion or alternate clothes I might have).
It might go something more like this:
Friend walks into the room in new outfit
Me: WTF is up with that outfit? It's terrible, did the place not have mirrors??
I can be pretty crass about such things to be quite honest.....
On the flip side, if something looks good, I will say so, and everybody knows I mean it.
Perhaps it does not come off on this thread, but I am known to be quite blunt and straight forward.....about looks, behaviors and opinions.....however, when I say looks, I do not mean I am shallow.....I do not judge anyone for things they cannot control. I only mean when someone clearly is an error in judgement, like having fat rolls hanging out the bottom of your shirt, or being filthy all the time etc.
Huh, nope, cold not do that
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Whether to tell or not depends on whether it can be changed or not. My grandmother said, you never tell someone at the party that they have a run in their stocking unless you have a spare to offer. Otherwise, you're just ruining their fun by making them self-conscious.pearso21123 wrote: »I told a friend she looked beautiful in a new outfit. My real thoughts..... she looked fat & awful. The style did absolutely nothing for her shape. Would a real friend tell her the truth? I don't want to hurt her feelings; she believes she looks like a rock star.
I would want to be told. Preferably by someone I know loves me, regardless. My husband always lets me know if something doesn't look good on me. I value his opinion, especially since he's really the only person I care to impress. But, I still get my daughters' opinions as back-up verification. They have NO trouble telling me the truth.
Of course, if you catch the fashion offender before she leaves home, there are tactful ways to be honest without being hurtful or robbing her of her confidence. However, if she is confident and felling good, she is going to have more fun in her choice than in whatever tasteful modifications are made.
Remember, most men can't tell a good ensemble from a bad one, they can only tell that a woman looks like she's looking good.
Edit- Dirt on my screen was masquerading as punctuation.
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When I watch workout videos on Youtube, I'm never flexible enough to do the moves or I just can't figure out how to do it. My body just won't, and I get too tired before the video ends. Usually, they are about 15 minutes long. Then I get discouraged and go to sleep
If the video is too hard you might want to scale back to something easier until you're more flexible and fit. If it is just a case of learning the move sometimes some homework is required. Try watching the video ahead of time and making sure that it is something you're able to do and want to do. Good luck!
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Italian_Buju wrote: »and a funnel cake with ice cream, strawberries and cream cheese icing
This looks amazing.
Everyone keeps posting that it looks amazing, but I confess it just kind of looks like bloody brains to me. Zombie attack!
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I forgot to quote the previous posters talking about hair and am too lazy to go back and find them. To the poster with long blonde hair; it looks incredible! It looks like it passed waist length a while ago. Do you measure your waist by your belly button or the narrowest part of your torso.
My hair is fingertip length and I love it. it is so much easier to style than when I had shorter hair. I shove it back in a plait every day.0 -
Jazzybrass wrote: »I forgot to quote the previous posters talking about hair and am too lazy to go back and find them. To the poster with long blonde hair; it looks incredible! It looks like it passed waist length a while ago. Do you measure your waist by your belly button or the narrowest part of your torso.
My hair is fingertip length and I love it. it is so much easier to style than when I had shorter hair. I shove it back in a plait every day.
That was @nonoelmo, I believe... (tagged her for you)
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LadyAbsynthe wrote: »This isn't a confession but it seems like a good place to put it. Children's books are still relevant to my life, apparently.
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pofoster21 wrote: »Here is a picture of my lovely bruise. My leg is really swollen, it hurts constantly, and my foot keeps falling asleep. I think working out this week was not the best idea, but I'm trying to do all I can before I go on vacation and have to be seen in public in a bikini. Yellow means it's healing, right?!
I got cow kicked in the knee today when a horse I was cooling off was pissed about flies. I'll let you know if I can top that... It was a pretty hard kick.
Ouch. At least the kid that hit me apologized. Post a picture.
Actually it didn't end up bruising too badly. I was kind of surprised. Your bruise definitely beat mine. I concede the victory to you. 0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »rungirl1973 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Today's confession.
I brought up the stepdaughter thing with my husband yesterday because we haven't seen or heard from her since she graced us with her presence Monday, and it did not go well. I think I might be PMSing because I lost it. I yelled, said things I shouldn't have, then cried afterward. I felt bad because I started in on him basically as soon as he walked in the door. He told me he should have just stayed at work. I hate it when he says that.
Anyway, after both of us calmed down, he said that I need to let him handle things his way but he is going to talk to her. I will not be a part of that conversation which is best for everyone. He expressed that he doesn't feel like she's taking advantage of us because he's her dad and he would do the same for Rachael. He also said this is NOT how he pictured a life with her and he's very upset (sad) that she doesn't want to be in our circle (I laughed a little when he described our family as a circle).
I appreciate your positive thoughts and prayers because I don't want this to put a strain on our marriage especially when we leave for Florida in 15 days and we're getting ready to celebrate 15 years of marriage.
On a positive note, if I'm PMSing this early, that means my period is coming soon and I'll be done before my trip.
I hope he does talk to her and it all works out for your family! Is Rachael going on vacation with you and hubby?
Um, no. This is really like a belated honeymoon since we didn't have one the first time around. She's pretty peeved about not going, but I told her that I've waited 15 years for this so she'll just have to get over it. She's going later in July with my mom anyway, so it's not like she's not going to miss out. Really, the only things she'll miss out on are our incessant make out sessions, hand holding, and occasional (probably more on his part) butt grabbing/patting. I'm sure she's not at all sad about missing out on those things.
I hope things work out too because we REALLY do want her to be a part of our circle.
We got married last March - honeymoon was Maui in April. We were the only old people constantly making out in the pool at our resort. We had a very quiet beach at night. Let me just tell you this - sand doesn't give as much as you may think. Sex on the beach wasn't nearly as much fun as I thought it was going to be.
I don't plan on finding out. I'm a bit of a prude, so no hanky panky for us outside our room and most likely on the bed only. I'm quite boring. My poor, poor husband.
This actually surprises me...
Really?! Why?!
You don't at all seem boring or conservative. More fun loving. So I would assume that translates to all parts of your life. (Assuming you really were asking me and not just being tongue in cheek...sometimes it's hard to tell in here).0 -
Sigh I don't have time to catch up this am... I'll have to do it tonight. I need to catch up before the rapid posting begins again on Monday!0
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LadyAbsynthe wrote: »
So, I shouldn't count the jar of peanut butter I finished off by myself last week because I was standing while I was eating it straight out of the jar?
That would be wonderful news for me! Wishful thinking... 0 -
LadyAbsynthe wrote: »This isn't a confession but it seems like a good place to put it. Children's books are still relevant to my life, apparently.
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pearso21123 wrote: »I told a friend she looked beautiful in a new outfit. My real thoughts..... she looked fat & awful. The style did absolutely nothing for her shape. Would a real friend tell her the truth? I don't want to hurt her feelings; she believes she looks like a rock star.
I would want to be told. Preferably by someone I know loves me, regardless. My husband always lets me know if something doesn't look good on me. I value his opinion, especially since he's really the only person I care to impress. But, I still get my daughters' opinions as back-up verification. They have NO trouble telling me the truth.
Edit- Dirt on my screen was masquerading as punctuation.
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This is actually a good confession - last night I was feeling terrible due to losing my purse and all my stuff (phone, keys, credit cards...). So in browsing in Rite Aid while activating a new phone, I picked up a pair of sunglasses as a little shopping therapy, but when I got to the checkout, I stopped myself and thought, I already have enough sunglasses and don't need to waste this money.
I believe in shopping therapy, but also in moderation.0 -
pearso21123 wrote: »JadaFerris wrote: »First confession as a newb: (just joined Monday)
I'm hungry all.the.time.
When I get hungry between meals, I drink a bottle of water, then chew gum. For hours until the next mealtime.
Tell me it gets easier?? Ugh.
It does get easier. Your stomach will shrink to the point where you won't understand HOW you could eat so much before. It will take a lot less food to feel full. At least, that's what happened to me.
There are some days I look at my food diary & think gee how am I going to eat 2,000 calories but then there's other days & I think man I wish I could eat more.
Some of the days I binge & eat around 4,000-5,000 calories I then think how in the hell did I eat that many calories routinely for years?0 -
When I watch workout videos on Youtube, I'm never flexible enough to do the moves or I just can't figure out how to do it. My body just won't, and I get too tired before the video ends. Usually, they are about 15 minutes long. Then I get discouraged and go to sleep
When I do Zumba I can either work my hands or my feet but rarely do they both match at the same time.
My favorite workout is doing Just Dance games on the Wii, because some of those dances are pretty brutal.0 -
I really don't get American cereal... Marshmallows? It seems so weird to me. We have sweet cereal here in Australia - Fruit Loops, Coco Puffs, Frosties....- but Americans have such a range of random cereals!!
We even have this one
I like this one more than Lucky Charms, because the cereal as a whole is good & with Lucky Charms I always hated the cereal.
My favorite cereals at the moment are Froot Loop with Marshmallows, Cinnabun, & Cap'n Crunch Sprinkled Donut Crunch.
Frosties, is that Frosted Flakes or a brand particular to Australia?0 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »I really don't get American cereal... Marshmallows? It seems so weird to me. We have sweet cereal here in Australia - Fruit Loops, Coco Puffs, Frosties....- but Americans have such a range of random cereals!!
We even have this one
I like this one more than Lucky Charms, because the cereal as a whole is good & with Lucky Charms I always hated the cereal.
My favorite cereals at the moment are Froot Loop with Marshmallows, Cinnabun, & Cap'n Crunch Sprinkled Donut Crunch.
Frosties, is that Frosted Flakes or a brand particular to Australia?
Frosties are frosted flakes yeah. They had that name in France too actually.
Confession - couldn't take my rest day yesterday so I went for my usual 3.5 mile walk, and now my calf still hurts, obviously, but so does my hip. I really can't win. I'm getting too old and getting hurt all over apparently!
I was up at 5am hungry too. Remembered that the tooth fairy was supposed to come (actually, she was supposed to come on Friday night but forgot, silly tooth fairy), so I ended up throwing a $1 bill on my kid's bed as he was sleeping on the floor and I couldn't even find his pillow. But at least I remembered, and I didn't wake him up. He did wonder why the tooth was still there though (he just woke up), so I told him the tooth fairy probably couldn't find it.
Then I was so hungry I ate 600 calories by 6am. Quite safe to say that I will probably not be able to stick to my deficit again today At least I had a good deficit for 5 days.
And I will probably do at least some chest presses and some rows today just to do something (I can do 60 pounds on chest presses now, that makes me happy). Don't dare doing squats because of my legs and hip.0 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »I really don't get American cereal... Marshmallows? It seems so weird to me. We have sweet cereal here in Australia - Fruit Loops, Coco Puffs, Frosties....- but Americans have such a range of random cereals!!
We even have this one
I like this one more than Lucky Charms, because the cereal as a whole is good & with Lucky Charms I always hated the cereal.
My favorite cereals at the moment are Froot Loop with Marshmallows, Cinnabun, & Cap'n Crunch Sprinkled Donut Crunch.
Frosties, is that Frosted Flakes or a brand particular to Australia?
Confession - couldn't take my rest day yesterday so I went for my usual 3.5 mile walk, and now my calf still hurts, obviously, but so does my hip. I really can't win. I'm getting too old and getting hurt all over apparently!
I was up at 5am hungry too. Remembered that the tooth fairy was supposed to come (actually, she was supposed to come on Friday night but forgot, silly tooth fairy), so I ended up throwing a $1 bill on my kid's bed as he was sleeping on the floor and I couldn't even find his pillow. But at least I remembered, and I didn't wake him up. He did wonder why the tooth was still there though (he just woke up), so I told him the tooth fairy probably couldn't find it.
Then I was so hungry I ate 600 calories by 6am. Quite safe to say that I will probably not be able to stick to my deficit again today At least I had a good deficit for 5 days.
I have a tough time taking rest days too.
I have built up a great deficit for the week because we are going to a birthday party today and I know I'll overdue it...like I always do at parties. But I don't care. I'm going to enjoy myself and eat everything that I want...and try my best to log when I get home. I just hope I don't go waaaay overboard...we shall see.
Funny stuff about the tooth fairy..we're not at that stage yet..but I think it'll be fun.0 -
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Actually measure? Nope. I just eyeballed it to my natural waist. I did also really like my hair super short but didn't like having to find time to go get it cut often. Long is low maintenance for me.Jazzybrass wrote: »I forgot to quote the previous posters talking about hair and am too lazy to go back and find them. To the poster with long blonde hair; it looks incredible! It looks like it passed waist length a while ago. Do you measure your waist by your belly button or the narrowest part of your torso.
My hair is fingertip length and I love it. it is so much easier to style than when I had shorter hair. I shove it back in a plait every day.0 -
confession time, let's see... I haven't eaten anything today, but I had a chocolate milk to take my meds before bed0
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LadyAbsynthe wrote: »This isn't a confession but it seems like a good place to put it. Children's books are still relevant to my life, apparently.
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Actually measure? Nope. I just eyeballed it to my natural waist. I did also really like my hair super short but didn't like having to find time to go get it cut often. Long is low maintenance for me.Jazzybrass wrote: »I forgot to quote the previous posters talking about hair and am too lazy to go back and find them. To the poster with long blonde hair; it looks incredible! It looks like it passed waist length a while ago. Do you measure your waist by your belly button or the narrowest part of your torso.
My hair is fingertip length and I love it. it is so much easier to style than when I had shorter hair. I shove it back in a plait every day.
Mine is shoulder length. Anything more than that and I get horrible tangles and it gets stuck in my purse's strap and drives me nuts. Plus I don't like ponytails.0 -
Does your phone have tracking? Cancel EVERYTHING & have your home locks changed.
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confession time, let's see... I haven't eaten anything today, but I had a chocolate milk to take my meds before bed
Not judging, but this doesn't sound at all healthy! Why didn't you eat anything, are you unwell or purposefully restricting? If the latter, please be kind to yourself and don't do this to your body--it needs fuel to function.0 -
Next week is my birthday. I am already dreading it. My son wants to take me out for dinner, my husband wants to take me out for dinner, my dad want to take me out for lunch, we are having multiple birthday (4 of us clumped within 3 days) celebration, my mother wants to bake a cake for me and...I just want to hide from all that food.0
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Next week is my birthday. I am already dreading it. My son wants to take me out for dinner, my husband wants to take me out for dinner, my dad want to take me out for lunch, we are having multiple birthday (4 of us clumped within 3 days) celebration, my mother wants to bake a cake for me and...I just want to hide from all that food.
Yeah that sounds both amazing and dreadful.
So today I'm tired, hungry, and in pain. And hot. NOT a good mix.0
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