Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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pearso21123 wrote: »@pearso21123 those are all great steps toward your daughter being healthy and happy! I've struggled and dealt with depression since I was around 13 and that's when I first started seeing a therapist. I've found the better I eat, the more sleep I get, the more exercise I do, and the more I get out and do things I feel so much better! I'll keep you and your daughter in my thoughts!
Thank you. I wasn't sure if I should start with her doctor or with finding a therapist, but it said online to start with a physical and go from there. I don't think there are any underlying issues, but I guess it's best to rule it out before going any further.
We started with her our daughters doctor, and they gave us a list of therapists who specialized in youths. She was great with all of us.
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Nice suggestion. I hope your daughter feels much better as soon as she's not anemic.
Oh, sending positive vibes your way - it's so hard to see a child so young struggling with mental health issues. Sorry you're both dealing with this, but I commend you for doing practical real things that can help. Maybe also look at some vitamin supplements?pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
My daughter just finished her second year of university and is now taking a year off due to depression and anxiety. This has been a very hard year for her, and stressful and worrying for us. Now that she's home, our family doctor believe her problems may be in a big part due to anemia caused by very heavy periods, so she's tackling the anemia before looking at anti-depressants etc. Maybe it might be a good idea to ask for a blood test to rule out any physical causes also?
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Thank you! It's not improving yet because she's had a constant period since starting one of the seasonal birth control pills - should mean a light period once every three months, instead it's been one loooong period for about 5 weeks. Hoping this settles down soon because she can't get a handle on the anemia all the time it continues. She's much better now she's home though - no school stress and no more homesickness with Mum fussing and looking after her.
Nice suggestion. I hope your daughter feels much better as soon as she's not anemic.
Oh, sending positive vibes your way - it's so hard to see a child so young struggling with mental health issues. Sorry you're both dealing with this, but I commend you for doing practical real things that can help. Maybe also look at some vitamin supplements?pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
My daughter just finished her second year of university and is now taking a year off due to depression and anxiety. This has been a very hard year for her, and stressful and worrying for us. Now that she's home, our family doctor believe her problems may be in a big part due to anemia caused by very heavy periods, so she's tackling the anemia before looking at anti-depressants etc. Maybe it might be a good idea to ask for a blood test to rule out any physical causes also?
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I was struggling with depression during my teenage years as well, but I don't think my mom was able to handle it very well. The thing is, I didn't think I was depressed at all (now that I look back, it seems obvious), and I was placed into a hospital for a week to get therapy and to monitor me so I wouldn't harm myself. It was extremely hurtful, mostly because I thought I was just going in for a therapy session but I had been lied to. They rushed my mom out and basically locked me in the hospital. I screamed and cried, and some grumpy woman came in and demanded I take my clothes off so she could search me for ''weapons'' and stuff. It was embarrassing and felt like I was being put in jail. I remember smiling at one of the counselors and being told ''What's so funny??? Wipe that smirk off your face.'' Dude, I was just being nice.
Since then my mom has apologized many times, and I guess I can't really blame her behavior since she was genuinely worried about me. Still, that whole experience was just surreal.0 -
Nice suggestion. I hope your daughter feels much better as soon as she's not anemic.
Oh, sending positive vibes your way - it's so hard to see a child so young struggling with mental health issues. Sorry you're both dealing with this, but I commend you for doing practical real things that can help. Maybe also look at some vitamin supplements?pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
My daughter just finished her second year of university and is now taking a year off due to depression and anxiety. This has been a very hard year for her, and stressful and worrying for us. Now that she's home, our family doctor believe her problems may be in a big part due to anemia caused by very heavy periods, so she's tackling the anemia before looking at anti-depressants etc. Maybe it might be a good idea to ask for a blood test to rule out any physical causes also?
Anemia is definitely not something I would have ever thought of as a culprit. My daughter started menstruating about a year ago, which coincides with when she says her depression started. Her migraines also became much worse around then. She does take vitamin supplements, though not super-regularly.
I read a little about anti-depressants, and they scare me. It says they can cause suicidal thoughts in teens with depression. How is that going to help? I'm not ruling them out, but they definitely aren't a first-resort measure.0 -
Thank you! It's not improving yet because she's had a constant period since starting one of the seasonal birth control pills - should mean a light period once every three months, instead it's been one loooong period for about 5 weeks. Hoping this settles down soon because she can't get a handle on the anemia all the time it continues. She's much better now she's home though - no school stress and no more homesickness with Mum fussing and looking after her.
Nice suggestion. I hope your daughter feels much better as soon as she's not anemic.
Oh, sending positive vibes your way - it's so hard to see a child so young struggling with mental health issues. Sorry you're both dealing with this, but I commend you for doing practical real things that can help. Maybe also look at some vitamin supplements?pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
My daughter just finished her second year of university and is now taking a year off due to depression and anxiety. This has been a very hard year for her, and stressful and worrying for us. Now that she's home, our family doctor believe her problems may be in a big part due to anemia caused by very heavy periods, so she's tackling the anemia before looking at anti-depressants etc. Maybe it might be a good idea to ask for a blood test to rule out any physical causes also?
Wow. A five week period would be enough to knock anybody off-kilter. I hope she gets better soon.0 -
FluffySandwich wrote: »I was struggling with depression during my teenage years as well, but I don't think my mom was able to handle it very well. The thing is, I didn't think I was depressed at all (now that I look back, it seems obvious), and I was placed into a hospital for a week to get therapy and to monitor me so I wouldn't harm myself. It was extremely hurtful, mostly because I thought I was just going in for a therapy session but I had been lied to. They rushed my mom out and basically locked me in the hospital. I screamed and cried, and some grumpy woman came in and demanded I take my clothes off so she could search me for ''weapons'' and stuff. It was embarrassing and felt like I was being put in jail. I remember smiling at one of the counselors and being told ''What's so funny??? Wipe that smirk off your face.'' Dude, I was just being nice.
Since then my mom has apologized many times, and I guess I can't really blame her behavior since she was genuinely worried about me. Still, that whole experience was just surreal.
Jeez! Thanks for the warning. If I found out someone had strip-searched my daughter I would want to beat the crap out of them. And I'm not a violent person. Did your mom realize what was going to happen?0 -
LadyAbsynthe wrote: »pearso21123 wrote: »LadyAbsynthe wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »pearso21123 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »flitterfoot wrote: »My confession is that when I first started reading the forums I was very confused that I kept seeing CICO all over the place. Cico (pronounced Tea co) is the name of our adopted cat. It took me about a week to learn what it actually means, and I felt like such an idiot.
It took me forever to know what NSV & Doms meant.
There are still sometimes that people post something that is slang or abbreviated & I have to look it up on Google.
I know what NSV is after asking what is Doms?
Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness
Huh. I was thinking something completely different, but couldn't figure out how it related to food or weight loss.
Yeah, that was the only thing I could think of too.....also, way earlier in the thread, someone was talking about cbt, also means something different to me,
cognitive behavioral therapy...? What else does it mean? o:
I'll admit, I'll don't know that one, either.
I think I just got it. ... I'm not going to post it here for fear of being banned forever though LOL
I still hadn't gotten it when you posted this. I just googled it- and now wish I hadn't.0 -
I ate 3/4 of my calories today at one meal. I ate until I literally felt ill and had to lay down. Didn't go over my goal for the day though.0
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I don't think so. What happened is that I went to a doctor and the doctor noticed something was up, talked to me, and recommended a therapist. I went to the therapist who apparently told my mom I needed to be hospitalized, even though I spent about fifteen minutes with the woman and (in my opinion) didn't say anything so bad to the point where someone would recommend putting me in a hospital.pearso21123 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I was struggling with depression during my teenage years as well, but I don't think my mom was able to handle it very well. The thing is, I didn't think I was depressed at all (now that I look back, it seems obvious), and I was placed into a hospital for a week to get therapy and to monitor me so I wouldn't harm myself. It was extremely hurtful, mostly because I thought I was just going in for a therapy session but I had been lied to. They rushed my mom out and basically locked me in the hospital. I screamed and cried, and some grumpy woman came in and demanded I take my clothes off so she could search me for ''weapons'' and stuff. It was embarrassing and felt like I was being put in jail. I remember smiling at one of the counselors and being told ''What's so funny??? Wipe that smirk off your face.'' Dude, I was just being nice.
Since then my mom has apologized many times, and I guess I can't really blame her behavior since she was genuinely worried about me. Still, that whole experience was just surreal.
Jeez! Thanks for the warning. If I found out someone had strip-searched my daughter I would want to beat the crap out of them. And I'm not a violent person. Did your mom realize what was going to happen?
My mom cried after I told her of my experiences (it took a long time... I had a pretty bad relationship with her for a long while after and even moved out to live with my disabled father until I finished high school). She apologized and said she made a mistake, but was just scared and didn't know what to do. The good thing is I had a nice therapist after getting out
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FluffySandwich wrote: »I was struggling with depression during my teenage years as well, but I don't think my mom was able to handle it very well. The thing is, I didn't think I was depressed at all (now that I look back, it seems obvious), and I was placed into a hospital for a week to get therapy and to monitor me so I wouldn't harm myself. It was extremely hurtful, mostly because I thought I was just going in for a therapy session but I had been lied to. They rushed my mom out and basically locked me in the hospital. I screamed and cried, and some grumpy woman came in and demanded I take my clothes off so she could search me for ''weapons'' and stuff. It was embarrassing and felt like I was being put in jail. I remember smiling at one of the counselors and being told ''What's so funny??? Wipe that smirk off your face.'' Dude, I was just being nice.
Since then my mom has apologized many times, and I guess I can't really blame her behavior since she was genuinely worried about me. Still, that whole experience was just surreal.
Also, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I have a standing policy not to lie to my kids. If a shot at the doctors is going to hurt, I tell them and give them tips on how to deal with it. They don't believe in Santa Clause or the Tooth Fairy. I remember when I found out that Santa Clause wasn't real. My main thought was that I couldn't believe our mom had lied to us, after all her lectures about always telling the truth. I felt so betrayed. I can only imagine how you must have felt going through this, and at such a young age.0 -
pearso21123 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I was struggling with depression during my teenage years as well, but I don't think my mom was able to handle it very well. The thing is, I didn't think I was depressed at all (now that I look back, it seems obvious), and I was placed into a hospital for a week to get therapy and to monitor me so I wouldn't harm myself. It was extremely hurtful, mostly because I thought I was just going in for a therapy session but I had been lied to. They rushed my mom out and basically locked me in the hospital. I screamed and cried, and some grumpy woman came in and demanded I take my clothes off so she could search me for ''weapons'' and stuff. It was embarrassing and felt like I was being put in jail. I remember smiling at one of the counselors and being told ''What's so funny??? Wipe that smirk off your face.'' Dude, I was just being nice.
Since then my mom has apologized many times, and I guess I can't really blame her behavior since she was genuinely worried about me. Still, that whole experience was just surreal.
Also, I'm so sorry this happened to you. I have a standing policy not to lie to my kids. If a shot at the doctors is going to hurt, I tell them and give them tips on how to deal with it. They don't believe in Santa Clause or the Tooth Fairy. I remember when I found out that Santa Clause wasn't real. My main thought was that I couldn't believe our mom had lied to us, after all her lectures about always telling the truth. I felt so betrayed. I can only imagine how you must have felt going through this, and at such a young age.
Thank you It was definitely hurtful at first, and it took me a while to forgive her, but now I have grown to understand that she was just extremely scared and didn't know how to deal with the situation. At least I came back with a few interesting stories about my time in there, if anything (one time I helped a boy write down some rather amusing rap lyrics 
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Found out that tomorrow's school is a half day because of the heat. I was looking forward to 2 last days for myself before the kids are off for the Summer and I'm extremely bummed. I'm guessing that Tuesday will be a half day too... I'm so not ready for this.
I am totally thrilled that I only have to make lunches at 7am three more days!! WOOHOO! By September though I will be dying to get back on a routine.....0 -
There are those people on trips who don't ever tip. Don't be those people.FluffySandwich wrote: »
I'm looking at TripAdvisor as we speak! My boyfriend's mom recommended we bring twenty dollars of tip for the whole two weeks. I think that's outrageously low, but when I told him that he seemed surprised.
Yeah, also, the workers get paid very little, so their tips make a big difference.FluffySandwich wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm compiling a list of what to bring to my two-week Dominican Republic trip. I'm thinking a few dresses, shorts, tank tops (or t-shirts), bug spray, sunscreen, aloe vera, pepto bismol, band-aids, flip flops, hats, hand sanitizer, and dressier sandals for resort restaurants.
Does anyone have any tips or recommend something I might have missed? I have zero experience with resorts.
EDIT: Oh, and probably at least three bathing suits.
Workout clothes and sneakers
I probably should so I don't gain 20 pounds!!
Yep, all inclusive. I told my boyfriend your advice and he said ''Sorry but I'm not paying a dollar for every drink I get.'' I've heard, however, that if you DON'T tip... you get watered down gross stuff.
We go to Mexico every year or two for a week and take about US $100 in singles and some fives for tips. Usually we'll leave $1 for drinks, $3 for casual lunches and $5+ for the fancier dinner restaurants (all dependent on service). This assumes an all inclusive resort. Is that right?FluffySandwich wrote: »
Two weeks starting June 18, so it's coming up fastgirldownsouth wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm compiling a list of what to bring to my two-week Dominican Republic trip. I'm thinking a few dresses, shorts, tank tops (or t-shirts), bug spray, sunscreen, aloe vera, pepto bismol, band-aids, flip flops, hats, hand sanitizer, and dressier sandals for resort restaurants.
Does anyone have any tips or recommend something I might have missed? I have zero experience with resorts.
EDIT: Oh, and probably at least three bathing suits.
When are you going? I'm going for 2 weeks on 15th July. My boyfriend has been reading up and apparently you should cover your arms and legs in the evening to avoid mosquito bites. I know to bring a huge thing of sunscreen, and I'm probably going to bring some Off to keep the bugs away. Thinking of ordering a couple of dresses.... also, I know that I should probably tip the person making up my room and everything, but I don't know how much money for tip I should put aside 
ETA: couple of bucks a day for room cleaning.
If you look for your resort on Trip Advisor, there will be loads of reviews and people will often mention things like tipping and how to get the best service, etc etc. I'm glued to that site when I'm getting ready to go on vacation!
Agree! Even in the states I tip well as its a lot of people's livelihoods
Exactly.....Canada including.....I made sure my children learned how to tip properly even....I have meet so many people that do not know or do not care to tip properly....I hate it...and just for the record, I have never been a server....I always get a separate bill when eating out with friends because I do not trust people to tip properly....
I remember my daughter's bio mother refused to tip at all, ever, for anything, it was terrible....0 -
pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
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I've known people who would cry if they didn't receive a tipItalian_Buju wrote: »
There are those people on trips who don't ever tip. Don't be those people.FluffySandwich wrote: »
I'm looking at TripAdvisor as we speak! My boyfriend's mom recommended we bring twenty dollars of tip for the whole two weeks. I think that's outrageously low, but when I told him that he seemed surprised.
Yeah, also, the workers get paid very little, so their tips make a big difference.FluffySandwich wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm compiling a list of what to bring to my two-week Dominican Republic trip. I'm thinking a few dresses, shorts, tank tops (or t-shirts), bug spray, sunscreen, aloe vera, pepto bismol, band-aids, flip flops, hats, hand sanitizer, and dressier sandals for resort restaurants.
Does anyone have any tips or recommend something I might have missed? I have zero experience with resorts.
EDIT: Oh, and probably at least three bathing suits.
Workout clothes and sneakers I probably should so I don't gain 20 pounds!!
Yep, all inclusive. I told my boyfriend your advice and he said ''Sorry but I'm not paying a dollar for every drink I get.'' I've heard, however, that if you DON'T tip... you get watered down gross stuff.
We go to Mexico every year or two for a week and take about US $100 in singles and some fives for tips. Usually we'll leave $1 for drinks, $3 for casual lunches and $5+ for the fancier dinner restaurants (all dependent on service). This assumes an all inclusive resort. Is that right?FluffySandwich wrote: »
Two weeks starting June 18, so it's coming up fastgirldownsouth wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm compiling a list of what to bring to my two-week Dominican Republic trip. I'm thinking a few dresses, shorts, tank tops (or t-shirts), bug spray, sunscreen, aloe vera, pepto bismol, band-aids, flip flops, hats, hand sanitizer, and dressier sandals for resort restaurants.
Does anyone have any tips or recommend something I might have missed? I have zero experience with resorts.
EDIT: Oh, and probably at least three bathing suits.
When are you going? I'm going for 2 weeks on 15th July. My boyfriend has been reading up and apparently you should cover your arms and legs in the evening to avoid mosquito bites. I know to bring a huge thing of sunscreen, and I'm probably going to bring some Off to keep the bugs away. Thinking of ordering a couple of dresses.... also, I know that I should probably tip the person making up my room and everything, but I don't know how much money for tip I should put aside
ETA: couple of bucks a day for room cleaning.
If you look for your resort on Trip Advisor, there will be loads of reviews and people will often mention things like tipping and how to get the best service, etc etc. I'm glued to that site when I'm getting ready to go on vacation!
Agree! Even in the states I tip well as its a lot of people's livelihoods
Exactly.....Canada including.....I made sure my children learned how to tip properly even....I have meet so many people that do not know or do not care to tip properly....I hate it...and just for the record, I have never been a server....I always get a separate bill when eating out with friends because I do not trust people to tip properly....
I remember my daughter's bio mother refused to tip at all, ever, for anything, it was terrible....
I once went out to eat dinner with my family and received terrible service. The place was full, the waiter wouldn't even talk to us and looked hassled out of his mind.... but my mom still tipped him quite a bit because the guy probably just had a rough day. A good tip might help relieve some of that stress at least.
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FluffySandwich wrote: »
I've known people who would cry if they didn't receive a tipItalian_Buju wrote: »
There are those people on trips who don't ever tip. Don't be those people.FluffySandwich wrote: »
I'm looking at TripAdvisor as we speak! My boyfriend's mom recommended we bring twenty dollars of tip for the whole two weeks. I think that's outrageously low, but when I told him that he seemed surprised.
Yeah, also, the workers get paid very little, so their tips make a big difference.FluffySandwich wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm compiling a list of what to bring to my two-week Dominican Republic trip. I'm thinking a few dresses, shorts, tank tops (or t-shirts), bug spray, sunscreen, aloe vera, pepto bismol, band-aids, flip flops, hats, hand sanitizer, and dressier sandals for resort restaurants.
Does anyone have any tips or recommend something I might have missed? I have zero experience with resorts.
EDIT: Oh, and probably at least three bathing suits.
Workout clothes and sneakers I probably should so I don't gain 20 pounds!!
Yep, all inclusive. I told my boyfriend your advice and he said ''Sorry but I'm not paying a dollar for every drink I get.'' I've heard, however, that if you DON'T tip... you get watered down gross stuff.
We go to Mexico every year or two for a week and take about US $100 in singles and some fives for tips. Usually we'll leave $1 for drinks, $3 for casual lunches and $5+ for the fancier dinner restaurants (all dependent on service). This assumes an all inclusive resort. Is that right?FluffySandwich wrote: »
Two weeks starting June 18, so it's coming up fastgirldownsouth wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm compiling a list of what to bring to my two-week Dominican Republic trip. I'm thinking a few dresses, shorts, tank tops (or t-shirts), bug spray, sunscreen, aloe vera, pepto bismol, band-aids, flip flops, hats, hand sanitizer, and dressier sandals for resort restaurants.
Does anyone have any tips or recommend something I might have missed? I have zero experience with resorts.
EDIT: Oh, and probably at least three bathing suits.
When are you going? I'm going for 2 weeks on 15th July. My boyfriend has been reading up and apparently you should cover your arms and legs in the evening to avoid mosquito bites. I know to bring a huge thing of sunscreen, and I'm probably going to bring some Off to keep the bugs away. Thinking of ordering a couple of dresses.... also, I know that I should probably tip the person making up my room and everything, but I don't know how much money for tip I should put aside
ETA: couple of bucks a day for room cleaning.
If you look for your resort on Trip Advisor, there will be loads of reviews and people will often mention things like tipping and how to get the best service, etc etc. I'm glued to that site when I'm getting ready to go on vacation!
Agree! Even in the states I tip well as its a lot of people's livelihoods
Exactly.....Canada including.....I made sure my children learned how to tip properly even....I have meet so many people that do not know or do not care to tip properly....I hate it...and just for the record, I have never been a server....I always get a separate bill when eating out with friends because I do not trust people to tip properly....
I remember my daughter's bio mother refused to tip at all, ever, for anything, it was terrible.... I once went out to eat dinner with my family and received terrible service. The place was full, the waiter wouldn't even talk to us and looked hassled out of his mind.... but my mom still tipped him quite a bit because the guy probably just had a rough day. A good tip might help relieve some of that stress at least.
Exactly! If the wait staff is horrid, not because they are over busy but because they are straight up rude or it is not busy and they are just being terrible, I might not tip much, HOWEVER if the service is bad enough that I do not tip at all, the person will know why because I have spoken to someone about it.....
But if it is over busy, or if you experience problems that are kitchen related then that is not the fault of the wait staff and they should still be tipped properly.
One time I was at a restaurant with my kids and the table next to us had 10 people and MAJOR kitchen issues....seriously, I do not blame them for being upset. The waitress ran all over trying as hard as she could to make it right....the manager finally came over and comped the entire table and those ignorant people did not tip the girl at all....I felt so terrible I even went over to talk to her for a moment about it.0 -
What a horrible, traumatic thing to happen to you. So sorry you went through that. I'm sure your mom just wanted to help, but jeeez!FluffySandwich wrote: »I was struggling with depression during my teenage years as well, but I don't think my mom was able to handle it very well. The thing is, I didn't think I was depressed at all (now that I look back, it seems obvious), and I was placed into a hospital for a week to get therapy and to monitor me so I wouldn't harm myself. It was extremely hurtful, mostly because I thought I was just going in for a therapy session but I had been lied to. They rushed my mom out and basically locked me in the hospital. I screamed and cried, and some grumpy woman came in and demanded I take my clothes off so she could search me for ''weapons'' and stuff. It was embarrassing and felt like I was being put in jail. I remember smiling at one of the counselors and being told ''What's so funny??? Wipe that smirk off your face.'' Dude, I was just being nice.
Since then my mom has apologized many times, and I guess I can't really blame her behavior since she was genuinely worried about me. Still, that whole experience was just surreal.
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CountessKitteh wrote: »I have two updates!
1) My Wegmans does carry the Halo Top Vanilla, Chocolate, and Lemon Cake. They were ALL sold out (they only got a very small amount in) so I shall have to check back.
2) I PASSED MY EXAM!!!!!!!!!!
Checking in on a Sunday night because I have actual work to do this week, but so glad to hear this! How's your FIL?
And I'm sure this has already been covered, but why is @JPW1990 in jail?0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »I have two updates!
1) My Wegmans does carry the Halo Top Vanilla, Chocolate, and Lemon Cake. They were ALL sold out (they only got a very small amount in) so I shall have to check back.
2) I PASSED MY EXAM!!!!!!!!!!
Checking in on a Sunday night because I have actual work to do this week, but so glad to hear this! How's your FIL?
And I'm sure this has already been covered, but why is @JPW1990 in jail?
Can someone PLEASE explain what this jail thing is, what is means?0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »I have two updates!
1) My Wegmans does carry the Halo Top Vanilla, Chocolate, and Lemon Cake. They were ALL sold out (they only got a very small amount in) so I shall have to check back.
2) I PASSED MY EXAM!!!!!!!!!!
Checking in on a Sunday night because I have actual work to do this week, but so glad to hear this! How's your FIL?
And I'm sure this has already been covered, but why is @JPW1990 in jail?
Can someone PLEASE explain what this jail thing is, what is means?
Jail means they've violated some forum guideline(s) if I remember right. Don't quote me on that, though.0 -
thewritingviolinst1 wrote: »My weight loss journey is really scary for me. I have been in recovery from anorexia and bulimia for about a year. I was sick and without help for seven years. Now as I try to get back down to an appropriate weight for my height, I'm really fighting urges to restrict/purge. I haven't so far, yet! Woo!
Stay strong. I'm rooting for you.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »For anyone old (like, really old - I'm 47) Doodleart is back!!
http://doodleartworld.com/
I bought one for my sister's birthday from Chapters but it looks like they're also on Amazon.
Ok so judging here. I am 47 and I am FAR from old. Just sayin'
I was SO into Doodleart when I was younger, and I'm 32! Definitely a generation-spanning activity 0 -
I just wanted to thank everyone who's responded. I don't think I replied to every post, but I have definitely read and re-read every one. You have all been such an encouragement.0
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@bkhamill - glad everything turned out ok.
@crosbylee - is your daughter feeling better now? I know you mentioned that she had a serious illness. How is everything with her health?
@spacequiztime - you've mentioned your accident several times. What exactly happened?0 -
PhoenyxHellfyre wrote: »907 pages of lurking, and now I'm going to try poking in. Hello everyone, I hope your Saturday is going well.
Here is a confession: Lately, I've been wanting to take all the training my therapist has been having me do and chuck it out the window. (I'm autistic and a whole bunch of other things.) I'm frustrated by the idea that I have to do all this work to understand, communicate, and act like a normal person, but no one is willing to do the same for me. I'm a huge believer in equivalent exchange (Fullmetal Alchemist, anyone), and while it would be illogical to expect that from strangers, it would be nice to experience this from family and friends. At least meet me halfway, y'know?
I hope this doesn't sound insensitive...maybe I'm just ignorant on the subject...and this is more me asking questions because I don't understand it. So, please don't be offended. I've always wondered how autistic people function as adults and I don't remember autism being a diagnosis when I was a kid in the 80s and 90s. Could you educated me on when autism became so prevalent and how you deal with it and where you on the spectrum? Again, just asking because I'm curious and would like to be more informed. Any information would be much appreciated.
ETA: Welcome to the thread...kind of, since you've been here so long!!!0 -
krissyreminisce wrote: »I feel so woefully behind that there was no way I'd every catch up.
I ended up with some urinary infection (which after straight cranberry juice (like 7g of sugar straight) and antibiotics, I think I've managed to kick it!
Also, I went to my brother-in-law's birthday party which was a bonfire and managed to get drunk off of two drinks. I had to drink A LOT of water and eat what I could to sober up (which I did) because I was the DD. I drove everyone home, got his support with my anorexia, and then made the hour drive home.
After four hours of sleep I ran a 10k (came in FIRST in my age group).
I did struggle this week for a couple of days with body image and was spiraling (I kept leaving the gym crying). But I think I'm needing more rest, because after a good night's sleep, I was in a better space.
Today I wore a swimsuit for the first time in around four years and a two piece since I was like, 2? lol. It's a tankini, but I'm looking for a monokini. It felt good to swim again.
I was wondering what happened to you!! Glad you're ok and were feeling good enough to wear a tankini!!! And congratulations on the race!0 -
pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
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@FluffySandwich I am horrified at what you went through. As a mom I would pitch a huge fit. I'm usually pretty willing to let things go but I would have taken something like this pretty far. I'm so sorry you were subjected to it.0
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