Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Found out that tomorrow's school is a half day because of the heat. I was looking forward to 2 last days for myself before the kids are off for the Summer and I'm extremely bummed. I'm guessing that Tuesday will be a half day too... I'm so not ready for this.0
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thewritingviolinst1 wrote: »My weight loss journey is really scary for me. I have been in recovery from anorexia and bulimia for about a year. I was sick and without help for seven years. Now as I try to get back down to an appropriate weight for my height, I'm really fighting urges to restrict/purge. I haven't so far, yet! Woo!
Please keep up the good work I'm rooting for you!0 -
There are those people on trips who don't ever tip. Don't be those people.FluffySandwich wrote: »
I'm looking at TripAdvisor as we speak! My boyfriend's mom recommended we bring twenty dollars of tip for the whole two weeks. I think that's outrageously low, but when I told him that he seemed surprised.
Yeah, also, the workers get paid very little, so their tips make a big difference.FluffySandwich wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm compiling a list of what to bring to my two-week Dominican Republic trip. I'm thinking a few dresses, shorts, tank tops (or t-shirts), bug spray, sunscreen, aloe vera, pepto bismol, band-aids, flip flops, hats, hand sanitizer, and dressier sandals for resort restaurants.
Does anyone have any tips or recommend something I might have missed? I have zero experience with resorts.
EDIT: Oh, and probably at least three bathing suits.
Workout clothes and sneakers
I probably should so I don't gain 20 pounds!!
Yep, all inclusive. I told my boyfriend your advice and he said ''Sorry but I'm not paying a dollar for every drink I get.'' I've heard, however, that if you DON'T tip... you get watered down gross stuff.
We go to Mexico every year or two for a week and take about US $100 in singles and some fives for tips. Usually we'll leave $1 for drinks, $3 for casual lunches and $5+ for the fancier dinner restaurants (all dependent on service). This assumes an all inclusive resort. Is that right?FluffySandwich wrote: »
Two weeks starting June 18, so it's coming up fastgirldownsouth wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm compiling a list of what to bring to my two-week Dominican Republic trip. I'm thinking a few dresses, shorts, tank tops (or t-shirts), bug spray, sunscreen, aloe vera, pepto bismol, band-aids, flip flops, hats, hand sanitizer, and dressier sandals for resort restaurants.
Does anyone have any tips or recommend something I might have missed? I have zero experience with resorts.
EDIT: Oh, and probably at least three bathing suits.
When are you going? I'm going for 2 weeks on 15th July. My boyfriend has been reading up and apparently you should cover your arms and legs in the evening to avoid mosquito bites.
I know to bring a huge thing of sunscreen, and I'm probably going to bring some Off to keep the bugs away. Thinking of ordering a couple of dresses.... also, I know that I should probably tip the person making up my room and everything, but I don't know how much money for tip I should put aside 
ETA: couple of bucks a day for room cleaning.
If you look for your resort on Trip Advisor, there will be loads of reviews and people will often mention things like tipping and how to get the best service, etc etc. I'm glued to that site when I'm getting ready to go on vacation!
Agree! Even in the states I tip well as its a lot of people's livelihoods 0 -
On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.0
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FluffySandwich wrote: »
I'd burst into tears if someone told me that
No, me neither, and I'd cry if someone said that to me.Italian_Buju wrote: »
Ok, I am gonna confess that I might not even be that nice about it......
Ok, I get it, but I don't think I could ever say that to someone who wasn't asking for an opinion. I bought a new dress yesterday which I love and feel great in. I wore it to a family party last night and several people said nice things about it and how I looked in it. I would have been pretty upset if someone had pulled me aside and told me it looked bad.Italian_Buju wrote: »
What wording would you have used? Particularly if she thought she looked great?Italian_Buju wrote: »
I would have told her the truth, nicely. I would never lie to a friend about something like that.I told a friend she looked beautiful in a new outfit. My real thoughts..... she looked fat & awful. The style did absolutely nothing for her shape. Would a real friend tell her the truth? I don't want to hurt her feelings; she believes she looks like a rock star.
Also, I would be really pissed if someone let me walk around thinking I looked great if I looked awful.
That outfit does not sit on you very well. Why don't you try (whatever suggestion or alternate clothes I might have).
It might go something more like this:
Friend walks into the room in new outfit
Me: WTF is up with that outfit? It's terrible, did the place not have mirrors??
I can be pretty crass about such things to be quite honest.....
On the flip side, if something looks good, I will say so, and everybody knows I mean it.
Perhaps it does not come off on this thread, but I am known to be quite blunt and straight forward.....about looks, behaviors and opinions.....however, when I say looks, I do not mean I am shallow.....I do not judge anyone for things they cannot control. I only mean when someone clearly is an error in judgement, like having fat rolls hanging out the bottom of your shirt, or being filthy all the time etc.
Huh, nope, cold not do that.
All my mom had to do was make a face and say "I.... don't know about that [outfit],'' and I had to have a small cry in the changing room. To be fair I am extremely insecure.
Happens to me too sometimes. Or I just don't have anything to eat... or I am too tired to prepare something. Last night I made pasta for my boyfriend, and I accidentally put less pasta in the pot than I meant to, so there wasn't enough for me to have any. Rather than just boil up some more pasta (''didn't feel like it''), I just ate a few spoonfuls of the beef sauce. I had a bottle of wine, thoughSusieq_1994 wrote: »confession time, let's see... I haven't eaten anything today, but I had a chocolate milk to take my meds before bed
Not judging, but this doesn't sound at all healthy! Why didn't you eat anything, are you unwell or purposefully restricting? If the latter, please be kind to yourself and don't do this to your body--it needs fuel to function.
I was unwell today and have had a few sleepless nights so I basically just slept most of the day, which is another reason why I wasn't eating, don't worry, not purposely restricting
I'll never forget trying on this shirt in a store called Rainbow (not sure if it's still around) which catered to plus sized clothing (most of it was ugly any ways & very tacky) & my mom after seeing a shirt I tried on said I looked like a Jenny Jones (former talk show host) guest.
I wish they had a store like Torrid when I was heavier in high school & college.
Plus sized clothing has come a long way though cause I remember a lot having Tweety Bird, Mickey Mouse, Eeyore, Tasmanian Devil, ugly old lady flower prints, & elastic jeans.
I confess today at work it was so busy & for lunch I said screw it & went to Half Pint Creamery & got four scoops of ice cream & it was oh so worth it. They put four huge scoops in a styrofoam cup & I got Dunkaroo, Cake Batter, Funfetti, & Cookies n' Dough.0 -
@pearso21123 those are all great steps toward your daughter being healthy and happy! I've struggled and dealt with depression since I was around 13 and that's when I first started seeing a therapist. I've found the better I eat, the more sleep I get, the more exercise I do, and the more I get out and do things I feel so much better! I'll keep you and your daughter in my thoughts!0
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I love eating Brussel sprouts, asparagus, squash, and broccoli because they are fibrous, filling, and low in calories. But man! my farts could kill an elephant! I was at the gym once and had to leave because I could tell others were politely avoiding me. I have since slowed down on my intake of these veggies haha.
Ahahahaha. My farts really stank when I ate any Atkins bars.0 -
Thank you for listening to your daughter @pearso21123! I knew a lot of people in high school with parents that would have brushed of a confession like that.
I've really been neglecting the forums lately...0 -
pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
((Hugs))
You sound as if you are on the right path.0 -
pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
On behalf of your daughter, thank you so much for listening to her and trying to understand and help. I think she's more likely to be honest since you're taking her seriously. When I was about 15 and had been severely depressed for about 2 years, and was becoming actively suicidal and finding it hard to even get out of bed, I finally told my mother everything and asked for help. She didn't believe me. So that was a fun time. .___. Good luck to both of you and I hope it gets better 0 -
@pearso21123 those are all great steps toward your daughter being healthy and happy! I've struggled and dealt with depression since I was around 13 and that's when I first started seeing a therapist. I've found the better I eat, the more sleep I get, the more exercise I do, and the more I get out and do things I feel so much better! I'll keep you and your daughter in my thoughts!
Thank you. I wasn't sure if I should start with her doctor or with finding a therapist, but it said online to start with a physical and go from there. I don't think there are any underlying issues, but I guess it's best to rule it out before going any further.0 -
I always leave a tip at hotels too.
We go to Mexico every year or two for a week and take about US $100 in singles and some fives for tips. Usually we'll leave $1 for drinks, $3 for casual lunches and $5+ for the fancier dinner restaurants (all dependent on service). This assumes an all inclusive resort. Is that right?FluffySandwich wrote: »
Two weeks starting June 18, so it's coming up fastgirldownsouth wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I'm compiling a list of what to bring to my two-week Dominican Republic trip. I'm thinking a few dresses, shorts, tank tops (or t-shirts), bug spray, sunscreen, aloe vera, pepto bismol, band-aids, flip flops, hats, hand sanitizer, and dressier sandals for resort restaurants.
Does anyone have any tips or recommend something I might have missed? I have zero experience with resorts.
EDIT: Oh, and probably at least three bathing suits.
When are you going? I'm going for 2 weeks on 15th July. My boyfriend has been reading up and apparently you should cover your arms and legs in the evening to avoid mosquito bites. I know to bring a huge thing of sunscreen, and I'm probably going to bring some Off to keep the bugs away. Thinking of ordering a couple of dresses.... also, I know that I should probably tip the person making up my room and everything, but I don't know how much money for tip I should put aside
ETA: couple of bucks a day for room cleaning.
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Oh, sending positive vibes your way - it's so hard to see a child so young struggling with mental health issues. Sorry you're both dealing with this, but I commend you for doing practical real things that can help. Maybe also look at some vitamin supplements?pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
My daughter just finished her second year of university and is now taking a year off due to depression and anxiety. This has been a very hard year for her, and stressful and worrying for us. Now that she's home, our family doctor believe her problems may be in a big part due to anemia caused by very heavy periods, so she's tackling the anemia before looking at anti-depressants etc. Maybe it might be a good idea to ask for a blood test to rule out any physical causes also?
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pearso21123 wrote: »LadyAbsynthe wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »pearso21123 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »flitterfoot wrote: »My confession is that when I first started reading the forums I was very confused that I kept seeing CICO all over the place. Cico (pronounced Tea co) is the name of our adopted cat. It took me about a week to learn what it actually means, and I felt like such an idiot.
It took me forever to know what NSV & Doms meant.
There are still sometimes that people post something that is slang or abbreviated & I have to look it up on Google.
I know what NSV is after asking what is Doms?
Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness
Huh. I was thinking something completely different, but couldn't figure out how it related to food or weight loss.
Yeah, that was the only thing I could think of too.....also, way earlier in the thread, someone was talking about cbt, also means something different to me,
cognitive behavioral therapy...? What else does it mean? o:
I'll admit, I'll don't know that one, either.
I think I just got it. ... I'm not going to post it here for fear of being banned forever though LOL0 -
Funny and not funny at the same time. I get it.Found out that tomorrow's school is a half day because of the heat. I was looking forward to 2 last days for myself before the kids are off for the Summer and I'm extremely bummed. I'm guessing that Tuesday will be a half day too... I'm so not ready for this.
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pearso21123 wrote: »On Friday, my 13-year-old daughter told me that she's been depressed for over a year and wanted to go see a therapist. This was after a major meltdown over what should have been a minor incident. We'd noticed she's been withdrawn and has been spending a lot of time in her room, but thought it was just typical teenage moodiness. I'll be calling the dr. first thing tomorrow, but have also been doing some research and trying to find things to do on our end. This isn't something I've ever dealt with before. One of the things that was recommended was getting her out of her isolation, as well as exercise. I brought her with me to work today (I work at a university library). She's currently out collecting books (she loves to read) and hitting the Cyber Cafe. She seems very happy today. I also spoke to her about joining a gym together, at least for the summer, and she was very receptive to the idea. So, we'll be going to the YMCA tomorrow to check it out. I'm a little scared to join a gym, as I don't like working out in front of people. But, I'm willing to do it for her. She's excited that they might have a pool. I told her there's no way I'm wearing a bathing suit in public, but she's welcome to swim without me. Anyway, this isn't really a confession, but I needed to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
We went through this when my daughter was 13, except that she didnt tell us. She was spending a lot of time in her room, but I wasn't too concerned. Then we got a call from the guidance counsellor at her school. Apparently another parent noticed that she had created a second instagram account that we didn't know about. And there were some disturbing things there, but mostly it dealt with depression.
We spent a year in therapy, and things are much better. She transitioned into high school very well and is just generally more social now. It was a scary time for us. It sounds like you are doing the right things. Hugs, and I hope all goes well. It is such a tough age for them.
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I brought a beautiful, nutritious dinner to work last night then promptly decided to order pizza with my coworker.0
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When I was in middle school, I thought honey was vegan and kept giving my vegan uncle honey in his tea. Oops~!0
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spacequiztime wrote: »Thank you for listening to your daughter @pearso21123! I knew a lot of people in high school with parents that would have brushed of a confession like that.
I've really been neglecting the forums lately...
When I told my husband, he kind of brushed it off and said it was probably just her overreacting to being told "No." She wanted to buy a skateboard and I told her she needed to save some allowance for it. I told him this isn't something we should just ignore... It could be serious. I sat down with her later that night and talked to her and asked if she'd ever thought of hurting herself. She said not really, but that she sometimes pinches her arm if she's really upset to distract herself. I'm really worried. She's a straight-A student with a lot of friends, active in band and wants to join tennis next year. It was just a huge surprise. Yet, looking back, I can see the signs.0 -
CandiedCarrion wrote: »When I was in middle school, I thought honey was vegan and kept giving my vegan uncle honey in his tea. Oops~!
Haha, at least honey's not the worst! I'm vegan except for honey. I still eat it because beekeeping is good and seems more ethical than sugar. :P if it had been milk, on the other hand...0
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