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Should your S.O./Spouse have a say so if they feel you are too thin or too large?

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  • drawaimfire
    drawaimfire Posts: 83 Member
    /agreed

    So
    Many
    Quotes of Quotes

    Informative topic, thanks OP!
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    STLBADGIRL wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    STLBADGIRL wrote: »
    And what constitutes a flag. It's a post on here with 3 flags....and for what? It's been A LOT of stuff on here that probably warranted a flag or two, but that one gets 3..... ugh

    Poster basically told another poster to bug off because he/she didn't like their response. I didn't flag it, but did think it was uncalled for. I think the debate folder gets a little more leeway than the other folders, though.
    Hmmmm, thanks for the info...because with my colorful personality, I will tell a person to go play in traffic quick too :wink:

    Flagging isn't for disagreement though, and if someone is being aggressive, then reporting and letting the mods sort it out is the way to go. The abuse flag is supposed to be for blatant abuse such as pornographic images, that sort of stuff. Likewise, the spam is for the spam bots, not people posting links to their own instagram and sites, those are to be reported. There's a lot of abuse of the abuse flags. Those don't even get seen by the mods until there is enough of them.

    I'm not suggesting that you are the one flagging, just trying to explain since there seems to be so much confusion. There is a post about it in the News and Announcements section.
  • STLBADGIRL
    STLBADGIRL Posts: 1,693 Member
    lemurcat12 wrote: »
    CSARdiver wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    Who's a bad boy?? I though the main antagonist remained mysteriously gender-neutral? WHAT DID I MISS??

    I don't really know at this point, but trying in vain to lighten the mood.

    Is the thread really that tense? I'm not taking the discussion to be as antagonistic as I guess some are?

    Anyway, I think OP has lots of views on her question, so maybe it should end!
    That's my question....is it really that tense? I know initially it was shocking for a few people to be so forward and cut and dry on their views...

    Also, I thought it would be more men that thought it would be deal breaker than women...

    Also, with my weight challenges (in the past) I would be more open to my daughter telling me I would need to lose weight, than my S.O. and again, that's because I was dealing with some things internally about my weight that I needed to squash...

  • STLBADGIRL
    STLBADGIRL Posts: 1,693 Member
    nutmegoreo wrote: »
    STLBADGIRL wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    STLBADGIRL wrote: »
    And what constitutes a flag. It's a post on here with 3 flags....and for what? It's been A LOT of stuff on here that probably warranted a flag or two, but that one gets 3..... ugh

    Poster basically told another poster to bug off because he/she didn't like their response. I didn't flag it, but did think it was uncalled for. I think the debate folder gets a little more leeway than the other folders, though.
    Hmmmm, thanks for the info...because with my colorful personality, I will tell a person to go play in traffic quick too :wink:

    Flagging isn't for disagreement though, and if someone is being aggressive, then reporting and letting the mods sort it out is the way to go. The abuse flag is supposed to be for blatant abuse such as pornographic images, that sort of stuff. Likewise, the spam is for the spam bots, not people posting links to their own instagram and sites, those are to be reported. There's a lot of abuse of the abuse flags. Those don't even get seen by the mods until there is enough of them.

    I'm not suggesting that you are the one flagging, just trying to explain since there seems to be so much confusion. There is a post about it in the News and Announcements section.

    Thanks....I see the flags being abused. As soon as someone disagrees, they will use the abuse flag and I don't think that's what it was intended for initially.
  • CSARdiver
    CSARdiver Posts: 6,252 Member
    lemurcat12 wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    Who's a bad boy?? I though the main antagonist remained mysteriously gender-neutral? WHAT DID I MISS??

    Female, I thought, from other threads.

    WHEW! Well I for one am taking the politically correct stance and in agreement with the women.
  • STLBADGIRL
    STLBADGIRL Posts: 1,693 Member
    CSARdiver wrote: »
    lemurcat12 wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    Who's a bad boy?? I though the main antagonist remained mysteriously gender-neutral? WHAT DID I MISS??

    Female, I thought, from other threads.

    WHEW! Well I for one am taking the politically correct stance and in agreement with the women.

    You are hilarious...
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    I should hate you for bumping this thread, but I love this too much. Rory! :love:
  • lkpducky
    lkpducky Posts: 17,747 Member
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    I should hate you for bumping this thread, but I love this too much. Rory! :love:

    Any excuse to get in a Doctor Who quote, and Amy and Rory. Best love story eva.

    That was beautiful. A beautiful sentiment, and from one of my favorite shows! <3
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    edited April 2017
    MeganAM89 wrote: »
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
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    ^^That. That is why some of us are so flabbergasted that anyone would dump someone over what is not even a significant weight gain. Because we understand being in love with the person Not the package they come in.

    I have to point out that this man is an amazing actor. I adored him in Broadchurch.

    Are you thinking of David Tennant? This is Arthur Darvill, Rory Williams in the show.
    Edit, nevermind! They're BOTH in it :laugh:
  • STLBADGIRL
    STLBADGIRL Posts: 1,693 Member
    pinuplove wrote: »
    I should hate you for bumping this thread, but I love this too much. Rory! :love:

    Hey Hey, it's nothing wrong with bumping this thread I tellya!!!
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    MeganAM89 wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    MeganAM89 wrote: »
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    a95e5c72a49b793e2252181e9b52a911.jpg

    ^^That. That is why some of us are so flabbergasted that anyone would dump someone over what is not even a significant weight gain. Because we understand being in love with the person Not the package they come in.

    I have to point out that this man is an amazing actor. I adored him in Broadchurch.

    Are you thinking of David Tennant? This is Arthur Darvill, Rory Williams in the show.
    Edit, nevermind! They're BOTH in it :laugh:

    Lol I was definitely thinking of the right person but no worries

    Yeah, sorry about that! Totally spaced for a minute :blush:
  • CSARdiver
    CSARdiver Posts: 6,252 Member
    pinuplove wrote: »
    While we're on the subject of amazing love stories...
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    Best opening of a film ever!
  • CSARdiver
    CSARdiver Posts: 6,252 Member
    pinuplove wrote: »
    CSARdiver wrote: »
    pinuplove wrote: »
    While we're on the subject of amazing love stories...
    rljkqrs7ptle.jpg

    Best opening of a film ever!

    I ugly cried.

    This movie made me experience emotions outside of anger...and there was no dust in sight to blame it on. One of those movies I sit down and watch regardless of what's going on.
  • heiliskrimsli
    heiliskrimsli Posts: 735 Member
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    ^^That. That is why some of us are so flabbergasted that anyone would dump someone over what is not even a significant weight gain. Because we understand being in love with the person Not the package they come in.

    Loving someone and being interested in being in a monogamous and sexual relationship with them are two very different things.

    No matter how many fictional movies someone quotes, the reality is that you don't choose what physically turns you on or off, and nobody is required to be in a monogamous and sexual relationship with someone they are not sexually attracted to. That doesn't make them a bad person for leaving.
  • Tacklewasher
    Tacklewasher Posts: 7,122 Member
    Is this still going on????
  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    Is this still going on????

    It's @Nony_Mouse 's fault!
  • Chef_Barbell
    Chef_Barbell Posts: 6,644 Member
    Is this still going on????

    It's like the song that doesn't end.
  • Nony_Mouse
    Nony_Mouse Posts: 5,646 Member
    Nony_Mouse wrote: »
    ^^That. That is why some of us are so flabbergasted that anyone would dump someone over what is not even a significant weight gain. Because we understand being in love with the person Not the package they come in.

    Loving someone and being interested in being in a monogamous and sexual relationship with them are two very different things.

    No matter how many fictional movies someone quotes, the reality is that you don't choose what physically turns you on or off, and nobody is required to be in a monogamous and sexual relationship with someone they are not sexually attracted to. That doesn't make them a bad person for leaving.

    You are utterly and completely missing the point. I guess you've just never experienced it.
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