WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2018
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Staying inside because of the smoke, I did some much needed bookkeeping paperwork with Jake pulled out his coloring. He used to do coloring to relax and hasn't done it in awhile. It was great to see him back at it. My decluttering project is scanning photos. Last year we went through all our photos and discarded many and kept many more. The scanning is a huge walk down memory lane and I can do only a bit of it at a time but even at 6 photos a day, that would be about 2,000 in a year.
Barbie
Oh I hope you get a windy day to blow the smoke away!
Great job on the scanning! My husband likes to color too!
Rebecca 💗1 -
coastalgosgal wrote: »It wasn't my sexuality that was the problem Snowflake, it was my addiction to sexting on the internet that was. It was my coping mechanism choices, when I had a husband that was on death's door. Stress does amazing things, and I looked at it as finding validity in myself. Now looking back, I regret it all, and that is a guilt I live with daily.
Rebecca
Sorry I may have worded that improperly. I just meant discussing anything that would make you think of your Mother as a sexual being could be difficult.
I understand all too well how different emotions make us react in behaviours that we might not ever do. I cheated on my husband years ago, 7 years into our marriage. I have never stopped regretting it or trying to make up for it. The sad part is in my emotional state I blamed him for my behaviour. I can't ever forgive myself for that.
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »coastalgosgal wrote: »It wasn't my sexuality that was the problem Snowflake, it was my addiction to sexting on the internet that was. It was my coping mechanism choices, when I had a husband that was on death's door. Stress does amazing things, and I looked at it as finding validity in myself. Now looking back, I regret it all, and that is a guilt I live with daily.
Rebecca
Sorry I may have worded that improperly. I just meant discussing anything that would make you think of your Mother as a sexual being could be difficult.
I understand all too well how different emotions make us react in behaviours that we might not ever do. I cheated on my husband years ago, 7 years into our marriage. I have never stopped regretting it or trying to make up for it. The sad part is in my emotional state I blamed him for my behaviour. I can't ever forgive myself for that.
Awe, no worries, I was just stating my views💗. I learned that I was a survivor just like my husband was, when he got his transplant. I wrote down my past mistakes, and my therapist shredded them. I learned to forgive myself. I was not taught great coping skilks. I settled for how I was treated by men in general. Relationships before marriage were pretty much just hookups here and there.
So now, husband and I are blissfully happy. I say to him he received a romantic liver!
💗 Rebecca4 -
Cows all dolled up!
Rebecca4 -
If we could all be Zen Masters like cats!
Rebecca👍5 -
My sister's artwork. Wise words sis!
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Hello Ladies!!!!
(((Hugs))) to all suffering from the smoke-been there, done that, it sucks. Take care of yourselves!
Okie-I hope it makes you laugh that the first thing I did when I read the first line of your post about caffeine withdrawal was make myself a cup of coffee! It's that time of the afternoon, but you reminded me
Here's a slightly late mid-month check-in on my goals:
I'm on an 11 day run with 10K+ steps a day!!
I'm tracking my food diligently, even on "splurge" night with my DH
I have my 5th session with my personal trainer in a little while. It is TOUGH. I often say (but not to him) that it is a good thing he (the trainer) is cute or else I'd punch him
Since July 1 I have lost 10 pounds! It's slowing down though, as I knew it would.
The most exciting news it that on September 1 we are picking up our PUPPY!!!! I've never had a dog of my own so I'm nervous, but so excited. He is a Corgi and I'll will post pictures!
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Checking in! I’ve been lurking too.
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Carol – Taylor rents most of her books, buys the ones that will be something she needs in the line of being a PT. She rented the book that the professor said to buy; come to find out it is slightly different, so the one she had planned on using (her boyfriend’s) isn’t going to work. Now she has to go back and reorder a book, then see if she can sell it. They will tell them to get certain books; but, when they turn in their syllabus, it is different. Says she prefers to get her books early so she can start reading them before classes start.
County Roads Maintenance guy called this AM and said they were going to put down red sand. He admitted that the ones in charge previously had mixed the dirt and he now has it separated. It’ll take a few months; but, he intends on getting all the dirt road passable, including crowning and ditching. Some people are going to have to buy culverts to be put under their driveways. I am pretty sure we’ll have to buy one even though we are on a hill. He said that the roads have being bogged. You’d think it was teenagers; but, he said, ‘no, two grown men’; but, they have to catch them ‘in the act’ before they can charge them. Told me to either call him or the Sheriff when we hear them out there. You could sort of understand teenagers bogging; but, 2 grown-@$$ men? They are old enough to understand the consequence of purposefully making all the dirt road impassable in the county. There are more dirt roads in this county than there are paved ones. On some they are having to put down gravel.
Rebecca – I’m not sure I would admit to your son anything about your addition. He will learn to deal with his issue on his own or ask your DH or one of his brothers. If he is ‘anything’ like my oldest son (and his wife) – anything said about anything remotely ‘sexual’ turns them into children. WTMI. “Well, how do you and Will think you got here? Immaculate conceptions?” Will and Tami are a lot more open about sex. No, I don’t think it would help him; about like my DDnL#1 telling our oldest grand about losing her virginity at the age of 13; and, how she wanted her to go on BC (at 15), in front of their other 2 (12 and 7 at the time). It upset my oldest granddaughter to the point, she ran into the bathroom and cried. I went in and rubbed her back and she turned to me and said, “I know what it is like to have a young mother and I am not going there, I don’t know why they (she) can’t trust me.” Five of Jenn’s nieces have had children ‘out of wedlock’. When she first came over and talked about having the bars in her arm (5 years of BC), I asked her ‘how she was going to legally do that? She said, well we have the same last name. OK, so what are you going to tell her Daddy when she has a stroke, or what are you going to say when she gets married and is unable to have a baby? That was the last I had heard of it until the comment about losing her virginity. No, No, No! He has enough to deal with, with his Dad confronting him. Let your husband deal with it, man-to-man. If you admit to the addiction then you will only make him think less of you. I know how important your boys are to you, don't do or say anything about it. I never say anything derogatory about Taylor’s Mother – she can say all she wants; but, it is NOT my place. Jennifer has made the mistake of saying derogatory things about her Mother and she does not appreciate it. She is her biological mother, regardless of what she is going through. It was like the random woman calling her at school telling her that 'her mother had been shot in the head'. She got hysterical; and Jenn called the Sheriff in Lee County, an uncle to one of her good friends and asked if he could find out anything. Apparently, she was hurt that bad; when the police came in to tell her that she was going 'directly to jail when the MD said she could' … he did not handcuff her to the bed, so she left and is 'out in the wind'. Another probation violation. But, they are not 'looking hard for her'. The last time they found her she was in "Ohio". Wasn't supposed to leave the state. She has even told Trey how it makes her feel when she does. Now, she is pushing for her to give Chase an ultimatum about committing – at least put a ring on her finger. There again, all I say to her is ‘don’t wait for Chase to make the decision on where he is going to apply for PT school, apply to every one of them and take the one you think is best'. If y’all end up at two different schools then one thing you will find out will be ‘if the relationship can survive long term’. Military families have to deal with long term relationships all the time. IMHO. But, now that you have said that your husband did not tell you of the situation, don’t be surprised if he is ‘distant’ when he comes home. Now, he will probably feel that he owes you an explanation. Best thing to do is not mention it again. Laugh it off and tell him that you DH talks to all the boys and never says what they talk about and brush it off.
I think one of the things that our oldest son told the boys that Taylor (and now Madison) was when they started ‘acting serious’ was “Don’t take anything away from my daughter, that you will be unable to give it back.” I think they have worried more about Madison because she was dating a boy they did not like; I disagreed with them about ‘trying to break them up’. With girls, this usually means they will either find a way or they will lie about it and still date him’. They broke up a week before prom after they had spent $300 on a prom dress. She went by herself. Well, not really by herself; but, with a openly gay friend and another friend went with the other boy involved. They are all friends so they had a good time just sitting and talking to one another. She asked another boy in her class if ‘he would escort her out for the walk out’.
Lanette – Well … when this woman sues her VET, I bet she will be able to get the name through discovery; then she can add them to the lawsuit. The fact that she was also bitten, in GA, they would have impounded the Great Dane for 10 days to make sure it did not have rabies. Even ‘small dogs’ if in ‘strange situations’ can bite. I don’t care, I keep Cracker on a very short leash or in my lap (on a leash).
Katla and Michele – We sometimes watch vet shows on TV; and, all I can say is “I’d NEVER be a large animal vet’. Stick my arm all the way up a cow’s fanny with a sleeve on? And walk through pig $#*T. Nah, I’ve even seen some ‘small animals come into the waiting room with open sores, or places they have had ears sewn back on and get queasy. I think Dr. Pol is one of my favorites.
Wendy – In an ‘especially touchy’ case; quite often if you feel threatened and it is obvious to your attorney, he will stand in front of you to block your view from the other party. He will ‘oppose’ if he thinks the other attorney is trying to bait you and quite often then judge will admonish him and tell him to move back. Nobody wants a witness to burst into tears. I have known Judges to tell the Marshals to remove someone before because of ‘their attitudes’ about the case. If, at all possible, answer the question with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Sometimes they will ask the judge to let them treat you as a ‘hostile witness’ … especially if you attempt to justify or ramble on. I am sending hellos to all the new ladies!
Terry – When I had my casts/splint on, Louis would take a garbage bad and draw it tight, then take the handles and tie them around my neck. It got to the point it became a joke to us. Trying to take a shower with a cast is awful. I don’t see how you are succeeding with the cast being on your leg.
Meg – That would be a hard thing to do; but, she is a friend and sometimes you have to decide it is worth supporting that friend. I know it is difficult because of whatever you’ve been through.
I’m taking Kylia ending:
I am sending (((HUGS))) to all those in need of one!
I am sending thank yous to all of you!
I am sending encouragement to those in need!
I am sending energy to those in the middle of projects!
Lenora5 -
I managed to partly declutter one of those drawers that has unrecognisable connectors, wires and brackets in it. I've thrown away about fifty curtain hooks, but some things I kept just in case ...... Need to ask DH if he knows what they are.
Snowflake - My DH has been very good with my minimalising, but he says he has gone through his CD and audio tapes collection and thrown stuff out. In my opinion there is still far too much there. He never listens to any of it and has an ipod and an MP3 with great headphones. However, it is not my place to tell him what to do. He doesn't have a smart phone, so is less inclined to part with physical music and all the junk that goes with it. The vinyl I can understand. All that stuff will be going in the front room of the new house, so I will only see it when I go in there for office tasks, like printing. It does annoy me though.
Once the minimalising bug grips you it's very addictive! 
I am yet to tackle photos, Barbie, and don't know if I can. I have many large boxes. 
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Ni hao, ladies! It is Around the World Adventure week for the daycare kiddos! Today we are "visiting" China. We have listened to music from the different provinces, read a few books about/that take place in China, made koi windsocks, practiced our chopstick skills by using them to pick up pom-pons and place them in a bowl, we had egg drop soup, chicken and veg stir fry with rice, and oranges for lunch. The kids did great with their chopsticks! Tomorrow we will "visit" Italy!
It has been a busy weekend, so I have been reading all of your posts, but not commenting. Loving all of the photos of pets, animal visitors, artwork, family/friends...
Sending healing thoughts to those with aching bones, muscles, heads, and hearts!
I went to see my doc about my thyroid and we decided that I would first try to get it back in line through diet and exercise. SO...Going to really push myself to stick with my high protein meal plan. More veggies (but less of the cruciferous veg), whole grains, yes but not much. Less sugar, less treats, less alcohol. She (my doc) advised that I try to eliminate the alcohol and sugary treats completely for the first two or three weeks; if I make it three weeks, I can treat myself once a week. Sounds doable. I really don't want to take medicine, if I can control/fix this with a better eating habits.
DH is not thrilled. He is a pill person. I get that. Pills are easier. But I can't get past the long list of possible side effects that seems to come with every pill. I figure, I got myself into this, and I will FIRST try to save myself before succumbing to pills.
Rebecca- Pork is normal. I would say "for guys his age", but it seems to be a any age guy thing. I think it is very smart of you and your DH to show him what he will miss out on by spending his money this way! Perhaps along with thinking about putting $$ towards a trip home for the holidays, he could think about long term saving or putting money towards another goal...a car, an "adventure" trip, retirement...
Snowflake- (I totally spaced your name! It is on the tip of my tongue...can you thee it?) For my 50th I got my first tattoo. I like the idea of a fundraiser type of event, though!
Well, signing off so that I can read my stuff about Italy and get tomorrow's activity and crafts ready. We are having meatball races, making our own leaning towers of Pisa, and making Venetian masks.
ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
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Thanks ladies, for your imput. It is easy for me to try to tell him, and not just let him figure it out on his own. Him and I have always been frank with each other. He grew up in a nudist family, so he's learned being nude in an appropriate setting has nothing to do with being sexual. My gosh he has played tennis with his brothers and I, at the resort. We all wore sun lotion and tennis shoes! It still makes me smile when we were all in that world! So, no Playboy magazines under my son's beds. I think it helped them thru their high school years, think positively about their self images. Its just my youngest that has done this. He is the only son that had to deal with my husband's illness firsthand. I think that has had an effect on him, more than even he realizes. Those are the things I can discuss with him, without referring to me at all👍.
Ooh today is another soup making day!
💗Rebecca
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Tried to walk but just couldn’t do it because I’m not in a walking cast. Guess I’ll be on the scooter when I go back to work next week. Can’t wait until it comes off on the 5th!3
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stats for the day:
no gym workout today:
wax hood of beast- set 30min, 200c
walk to tan, jog home- 15.05min 12min mi, 147mhr, 1.2mi= 116c
Apple Watch- 128c
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Barbie: Our smoke levels seem to vary day by day. I can see the haze between here and the island across from our house. I can also see it between here and the Washington side of the river. It seems a bit worse than yesterday. :grumble:
(((Rebecca)))
DS, DDL & DGS are all arriving this evening. I am so excited to see them!!! DH wants me to go get them at the airport while he stays home.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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coastalgosgal wrote: »
My sister's artwork. Wise words sis!
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Ni hao, ladies! It is Around the World Adventure week for the daycare kiddos! Today we are "visiting" China. We have listened to music from the different provinces, read a few books about/that take place in China, made koi windsocks, practiced our chopstick skills by using them to pick up pom-pons and place them in a bowl, we had egg drop soup, chicken and veg stir fry with rice, and oranges for lunch. The kids did great with their chopsticks! Tomorrow we will "visit" Italy!
It has been a busy weekend, so I have been reading all of your posts, but not commenting. Loving all of the photos of pets, animal visitors, artwork, family/friends...
Sending healing thoughts to those with aching bones, muscles, heads, and hearts!
I went to see my doc about my thyroid and we decided that I would first try to get it back in line through diet and exercise. SO...Going to really push myself to stick with my high protein meal plan. More veggies (but less of the cruciferous veg), whole grains, yes but not much. Less sugar, less treats, less alcohol. She (my doc) advised that I try to eliminate the alcohol and sugary treats completely for the first two or three weeks; if I make it three weeks, I can treat myself once a week. Sounds doable. I really don't want to take medicine, if I can control/fix this with a better eating habits.
DH is not thrilled. He is a pill person. I get that. Pills are easier. But I can't get past the long list of possible side effects that seems to come with every pill. I figure, I got myself into this, and I will FIRST try to save myself before succumbing to pills.
Rebecca- Pork is normal. I would say "for guys his age", but it seems to be a any age guy thing. I think it is very smart of you and your DH to show him what he will miss out on by spending his money this way! Perhaps along with thinking about putting $$ towards a trip home for the holidays, he could think about long term saving or putting money towards another goal...a car, an "adventure" trip, retirement...
Snowflake- (I totally spaced your name! It is on the tip of my tongue...can you thee it?) For my 50th I got my first tattoo. I like the idea of a fundraiser type of event, though!
Well, signing off so that I can read my stuff about Italy and get tomorrow's activity and crafts ready. We are having meatball races, making our own leaning towers of Pisa, and making Venetian masks.
ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
LOL I "thee it" it's Tracey and if I remembered to actually put that at the ending every single time you wouldn't be struggling!
I have a promise made to my family that I will get a tattoo. We have decided on a family tattoo. We will each get something with the word Ohana in it. The only one of us that has done anything about it though is my eldest. She has all of her line work done. It is the birth month flowers of all of her family with a ribbon that says Ohana. My idea for mine is purple violets with a ribbon that says Ohana. Violets are the February birth flower which is when both girls were born, it is also the provincial flower of NB which will always be home to me. I'm just not there yet to actually do it. LOL
Again, would love to be a child in your care.
Tracey in Edmonton
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Is anyone else having trouble with the home page? Nothing shows up there.0
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just popping in for a moment to echo what Rebecca said about needing validation. Many, many people on the sex offender registry are there either because they were stupid, curious, got files not requested, and/or needed validation. many sex addicts are just like other addicts; they use sex of some type as a drug. My hope is that the tide of public opinion will turn against automatically characterizing anyone with these issues as a child molester. As you can see there is often way more to the story than what seems apparent.
(((Rebecca)))
Off my soapbox and on to my support group meeting where we are preparing a legal challenge against the registry in Nebraska. Meg from windy, rainy Omaha4 -
((((((Meg))))))!
Oh my soup today!
Chicken stock 3 tsp paste
Cayenne pepper 1 tsp
Turmeric 1 tsp
Salt and pepper
5 cups water
4 oz of kielbasa sausage
268 g of shredded cabbage
Drained can of cannellini beans
Microwaved container of minute wild rice
It made 4 servings.
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It was awesome!
Rebecca
(With a happy belly)
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Brenner - Thanks for your suggestion.
ElizabethGA - I’m glad you were reminded to drink your coffee! No one else should suffer with me.
Okie1 -
I'm home and exhausted....had to work in Hartford today and will work , Tuesday,Weds and Friday..on my feet from 9-5 ,not to many breaks..this is killer .but what can you do..will miss feeding DFIL this week can do it on Thursday and Saturday and Sunday..1
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Pip,I say, you have a lush lawn! Great grass makes happy dogs!💗
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Mine is straw! The island seems to be of the same mind. No one waters here! No one has a sprinkler system.
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This is not really about my goals except that I am trying to recognize my bad habits so that I can teach myself to break them. I am looking for friends who can help me along the way, keep me accountable without judging my many failures along the way.
Just one extra mouthful
I want to share a small victory (well it's pretty big for me).
There are so many bad habits that let us down, we think we are eating healthy and doing the right thing but those nasty little bad habits that have slowly crept in sabotage us without us even realizing it. Step one is to recognize them and then start changing them into good healthy habits.
Well last night after work I cooked dinner and did some cooking for the rest of the week - tick - healthy habit - planning food for the week so I don't just grab what is quick and easy. Fast forward a couple of hours and meals were cool enough to be cut and portioned into meal servings. But there was this bit that didn't quite fit into the container, it was an inch away from my mouth before I realized what I was doing, NOOOOOOOOO! But it smelt so good, I couldn't throw it out, it didn't fit, it's just a mouthful, it's good food not junk, NOOOOOOOO! I made it fit into the container!
How much do I put into my mouth without even thinking about it. Well now I'm trying to think about it and last night was the first step to breaking one bad habit and developing new good habits. It was actually very hard not to eat that last bit of food last night even after I had recognized what I was doing, I wasn't hungry, I just like food and it was good food and I really did want to eat it.
I am in control - Food will not control me!
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I'm getting ready to go and pick up DS and family at the Portland Airport. I think I'll have a meal before I go. It is a long drive from here & I plan to leave here about 6pm. That should provide enough time for a safe trip to the airport. :flowerforyou::4
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