WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2022
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LisaInArkansas wrote: »Debbie, glad your friend is stepping up, hope it's a quick recovery!
Beth, so glad the results were good...
Rebecca, the fish sounds wonderful... I forgot to mention that I used your brittle recipe, and was so impressed! Had no peanuts, so I roasted pecan halves with a little butter and salt and used those. Corey said it was the best brittle he's ever tasted! It brought back memories from his childhood--with 12 kids and two parents in the house, they made it by the vat full, and he said keeping the temperature right was almost impossible. He was totally impressed that it was just a few minutes in the microwave! I sent it with him to work to give to the guys, but had more than one little shard of it myself before it made it out the door. Absolutely outstanding!
Rebecca, Would you mind publishing the brittle recipe again! I missed it first time around. Thanks!
Karen in Virginia1 -
Anniesquats100 wrote: »Lanette, Teddy is half Cavalier King Charles Spaniel. He doesn't shed at all, and he doesn't bother my allergies. He is a wonderful house dog, very smart and affectionate.
Well my mother pulled a stunt. She has a freezer full of old meat in the basement. She moved stuff around inside the freezer, until the door no longer closes. Then she left it and told us two days later. So the meat half thawed, and the frost is inches thick. My dad is downstairs trying to get the door to shut.
The meat is a loss but it was many years old anyway. The challenge is to get it out of the house without ' perfuming ' the house. Teddy is fascinated, of course.
Annie in Delaware
I am so sorry. Your mom is a challenge. It's so hard. (((hugs)))
Karen in Virginia3 -
Lovelovelove the tepee, KJ1
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Woke up early, but before breakfast I had sent an email to someone I admire, telling them how much they enhance my life, and put a new post on Instagram.
We've done our exercises and I've made gluten free breadcrumbs ready for the bread sauce. Assembled a pile of laundry ready to go in. I plan to chat to L today, who is recovering from a visit from her sister. I'm wondering how it went.
Must say I'm relieved about England losing to France. That saves two more nights of agony over the next week.
My son said he was glad of DH's company for the pain.
Looking forward to our singing.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx2 -
If you're interested in the Action for Happiness Calendar ...
Do Good December
This month, we're encouraging you to carry out small acts of kindness.
Or we could post something we're thankful for, or happy about, related to the holiday season.
December 1 - I love the Christmas music.
Come December 1, that's almost all I play. Christmas music or classical music (when I have to think at work or when we're in the car).
December 2 - Christmas decorations! We're lagging behind a bit because I usually like to decorate on December 1. But we got the decorations upstairs on Dec 2. Today I'll rearrange furniture and make a start.
December 3 - Summer. My favourite season. And we are finally having a few days of decent weather after a very wild and woolly spring. That's not saying the good weather will last (thanks La Nina) but there should be more of it.
December 4 - Memories. So many of the Christmas songs and traditions remind me of my parents and grandparents and happy Christmases with them.
December 5 - Christmas Displays. I like how many of the shops have Christmas Displays, and some are quite detailed and intricate.
December 6 - Greetings. People smiling and wishing each other Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.
December 7 - Shortbread. So much delicious shortbread!
December 8 - Family. Christmas seems to bring us together a bit more.
December 8 - Trees. All over the world, millions of people are putting up trees in their houses and work places and decorating them.
December 9 - Sparkly Things. I love how everything becomes sparkly at this time of year.
December 10 - Yummy Things. Mince tarts and cookies. Fudge. Special Chocolates. All sorts of nibbles that only come out at this time of year.
December 11 - Colours. Reds and greens and a few other combinations out everywhere.
Just saw your post, Barbara ...Aha, finally found a December daily gratitude calendar.
https://www.spacewiseorganizing.com/december-gratitude-challenge/
“This time of year, there’s a lot of pressure to think about what we want instead of what we have. Every day for the month of December, celebrate what you’re grateful for corresponding to the theme of the day. Snap a photo or update your status on IG or FB with #spaceforgratitude”
1 What is something that makes you laugh? Rhody! We're so very glad we got our little COVID Cat!
2 Something about the current season you’re grateful for. Rest. There will be a lot of rest over Christmas.
3 What about your body do you love/are you grateful for? I like my nose and want to keep it. But my official answer will be legs - for transport (walking) and recreation (cycling).
4 Who is someone in your life that you’re grateful for? I've said husband and parents last month, and that's true, but this month I'll say ... my manager. She has been supportive and encouraging regarding my input into my job.
5 What is a book that changed your life? The Bible. With the Christmas season in mind, I'm reading the gospel of Luke now.
6 Think about something you’re good at. I think I'm good at planning and organisation.
7 What is a lesson you’re grateful you learned? To speak up. To say my piece.
When I was young, up till about 17-ish, I was quiet and shy. Then I went through a bolder phase from about 17 into my early 20s. Then the quiet shyness resumed for the most part until my husband's accident. And then the bold me reappeared!
Where I once guessed what people might be thinking and thought my answers, now I'm vocal and even told I'm quite blunt.
8 A basic need that has been met. Shelter. I'm very thankful for our particular shelter.
9 What are you most grateful for in the city/town where you live? The proximity to both mountains and beaches.
10 What rejection in your life are you most grateful for? Oh that's an interesting question. Either there haven't been many or I don't remember them but I'm drawing a blank. Although ... about 18 months or so ago, I didn't get a job I was going for and thought I wanted. I think I prefer the one I have now. I think it is providing me with more opportunities for experience and learning.
11 Something you use every day. A coffee cup to hold my morning coffee.12 Something you don’t need anymore.
13 Refuge – space you love in your home
14 Item of clothing
15 Taste
16 Touch
17 Smell
18 Sound
19 Sight
20 Texture
21 Color
22 A song that makes you happy.
23 Type of weather you love.
24 Professional who helps you.
25 Something you take for granted.
26 A TV show that you look forward to watching.
27 A movie you watch over and over.
28 An opportunity you’re grateful you had.
29 A place you love to visit.
30 A tool you find incredibly useful.
31 A daily habit you’re happy you’ve cultivated.
Machka in Oz
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Gratitude
1 What is something that makes you laugh? Robin Williams movies.
2 Something about the current season you’re grateful for. Very grateful for the cool fall weather and the lovely rains.
3 What about your body do you love/are you grateful for? I am grateful for my hair. It's a pretty color and has body/wave. I never have to fuss with it.
4 Who is someone in your life that you’re grateful for? I am incredibly grateful for the assistant marketing manager Stephanie at our retirement community, who is skillfully navigating us through the portal into our retirement community. Among other things, she tactfully negotiated to return the larger storage space that originally came with our apartment (it had been commandeered, lol), assigned us a prime parking space near the elevator in the parking garage, gave us a grace period before we have to start daily "check ins", took charge of a delivery of large awkward boxes in our absence, delivering them into our apartment with care, spontaneously recruited us to join into a trivia game that was already underway, and numerous other little thoughtful gestures. Plus she is super responsive to emails.
5 What is a book that changed your life? To Kill a Mockingbird
6 Think about something you’re good at. I'm good at packing a box with random items (like a puzzle).
7 What is a lesson you’re grateful you learned? I am still learning this lesson. Do not talk at/overwhelm my younger brother with too much information or too many questions. He is vulnerable and becomes anxious and ultimately angry - because he feels inadequate, which makes him resentful.
8 A basic need that has been met. Basic needs: food, water, clothing, sleep, and shelter. All have been met with the possible exception of adequate sleep.
9 What are you most grateful for in the city/town where you live? Oh my gosh, there are so many great things about this neck of the woods. However, picking just one: I have a terrific network of friends and access to limitless resources in and around Richmond, VA where I live. So I would have to say "the people who live here".
Gratitude:
10 What rejection in your life are you most grateful for? I am grateful for being rejected by my friend Liz in graduate school. We started out by ride-sharing to school and quickly became fast friends. Liz rejected my friendship when I betrayed a confidence involving another classmate Susan. I said something to Susan that tipped her off that Liz had revealed to me something personal about Susan that she had told Liz in confidence. Susan felt betrayed by Liz, and Liz felt betrayed by me. It was a life's lesson that I should have learned at a much younger age, but I learned it well and painfully this time, and paid dearly for it by losing Liz as a friend. It was excruciating. I apologized, but the damage had been done.
11 Something you use every day. I use my hot water kettle every day and I am consciously grateful for it every time I use it. I think, what a great little hot water kettle this is! every day, lol12 Something you don’t need anymore.
13 Refuge – space you love in your home
14 Item of clothing
15 Taste
16 Touch
17 Smell
18 Sound
19 Sight
20 Texture
21 Color
22 A song that makes you happy.
23 Type of weather you love.
24 Professional who helps you.
25 Something you take for granted.
26 A TV show that you look forward to watching.
27 A movie you watch over and over.
28 An opportunity you’re grateful you had.
29 A place you love to visit.
30 A tool you find incredibly useful.
31 A daily habit you’re happy you’ve cultivated.
Today is our 3rd wedding anniversary! We have been together nearly 20 years, but decided to marry 3 years ago. We went to Washington D.C. on the train Dec 11, 2019. We intended to go to Union Station, where you disembark in a civilized way, but there was a delay, so we decided to get off at Alexandria, where you just step out of the train onto a step stool type platform and then step down to the ground from there. My spouse stepped onto the platform, snapping her Achilles tendon at the heel insertion. I wanted to go right home, but she wasn't having it. We spent the day in D.C., got married, waited for official copies of our marriage certificate, ate at Legal Seafood, and then boarded the train for Richmond.
Two days later she had surgery on her Achilles tendon, and it's been downhill for her ever since, with one health problem after another. And of course Covid was lurking in the wings. It isn't what either of us envisioned, but we are making the best of it. She is already staying in our new apartment, and I am here at the house until the official move the 15th. Today I will do some packing, then take some of our plants, the dogs, & champagne, order dinner out from the Bistro in the old folks' community, and putter around the apartment keeping her company for a few hours. Then bring the dogs back to the house and do some more packing. Then collapse.
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My younger brother got really mad at me Thursday. I sold sterling silver flatware on auction and wanted to give 1/3 of the proceeds to our older brother. It's quite complicated, but about the same time my two brothers renewed their relationship after being estranged for 45 years, my older brother decided I had ghosted him (I hadn't) and hasn't communicated with me since. I wanted his cell phone number because I was pretty sure the one I had wasn't current. So I asked my younger brother if he had it. My younger brother said I was trying to manipulate him into giving me information about our older brother when I knew full well that he has written me off and doesn't want to communicate with me. There was a lot more to it, but I ended up apologizing and then listening to him vent about childhood abuse, bullying, lingering perceptions & misperceptions, anger, resentment, and really, quite a bit of just crap. Both my brothers are emotionally, mentally, and personality challenged. He finally calmed down and went to lunch with me.
I sent an email to the last known email address I had for my older brother, and he responded with PayPal info so I could send him his share of the proceeds from the sterling silver sale. I won't be mentioning that to my younger brother, as we agreed I will not talk with him about my older brother for any reason (except death) for the present time. I told him he is free to bring up my older brother to me & I will respond in a normal fashion, but I would not bring up my older brother to him. For now, it is for the best. It may change someday. He's fragile.
The kerfuffle with my younger brother caused me to do a fair amount of reflection, and it occurred to me that it has been over 20 years since I had any type of "normal" adult sibling relationship. I never had a normal sibling relationship with either of my older siblings, but my younger brother and I were buddies for the first 45 years of life. Then he got sick, and that was the last of the reciprocal adult sibling friendship. I am grateful for the years I did have before his illness, and doubly glad I have close girlfriends I can have a "sisterly" relationship with - it really helps fill the void for me. I include you all in that group.
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Love,
Karen in Virginia
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Karen - Just lots of hugs. (((HUGS))) :flowerforyou:
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx2 -
Thank you Heather. I am tough and resilient, but I am tired of feeling battered. Truly.2
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Karen - So many things, but Heather's got the right of it. All the hugs I've got and then some. Being tough and resilient doesn't mean it doesn't hurt.3
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(((Karen))) I grew up in a disfunctional family (2 parents and 4 siblings). Even though there was lots of strife that resulted because of our parents and how they manipulated all of us during our growing up and adult years, we will be there in times of need. I hope the situation with both of your brothers improves.
Carol in GA3 -
Karen, Like Heather said many hugs and I second what Lisa said. You are tough and resilient and it doesn't take away the pain. Family, it's exhausting to deal with the dysfunction.
Betsy in NW WA2 -
Karen- thats a tough way to grow up,I have just a brother that my parents adopted when I was 4 and we fought like cats and dogs until we were adults.but thats because I was jealous.. and then he just was a menace
We love each other .. but he has his hands full with his life right now but he knows I have his back and he has mine.we are all we have with our parents gone.
I am feeling so much better today.. after cleaning my Cpap and taking the cold meds. We are supposed to be getting snow later on but going with a couple of girlfriends to build gingerbread houses tonight.
Kelly- daycare momma extraordinaire.. Tracy is having a heck of a time getting Miles to sleep and stay asleep in his crib.. any of you have any idea's for her..
When she was little ,I let her cry,but Kyle has a temper and won't let that happen and he is the full time worker so she wont let him cry and wake him up.2 -
DH and I had a wonderful sing-song with all the classical pieces we learnt with Jason. I found the renditions on YouTube and we have the sheet music. Most went well, but Amarilli Mia Bella was a bit of a shambles.
I find it such a mood booster!
Then I rang L, who is nearly at the first anniversary of her partner's death. Feeling low. She was intending to curl up with a sherry and a Christmas film.
Love to all. Heather UK xxxxxxxx1 -
I have a headache this morning, a rare event for me. I hope it goes away soon.
Yesterday my daughter stopped by. My youngest grandson gave me a wonderful calendar with loads of photos of horses. I am delighted to have it. It is a big calendar with 16-Month Calendar that begins in 2023.
My grandson and I both love horses. I will have this calendar on on display every time he is here. It is an early Christmas gift to me. I hope to find a good riding teacher for him. I’ll enjoy watching him learning to ride. Someday I’d love for us to go on a trail ride together. 🐴5 -
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Happy SONday! Off to make Krumkake with the girls today. Too much fun. "No wine until the fifth batch is IN the blender!"
11 Something you use every day. boring... but my phone, I just can't live without it anymore, my alarms, my calendar, my notes, my connections, email, texting and of course, phone! lol
Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN3 -
Happy Sunday, all! Thanks for the compliments on the christmas tipi. I got the idea from a facebook page I joined to get ideas in regards to the holidays. The OP was a grandmother who made it for her two grandchildren. She didn't give any instructions; so I messaged her and found out she bought a real tipi kit (cost @ $500); then she sewed on fruited garland (HD cost $50/18 feet), and sewed on some of her own deco.
Needless to say, I currently do not have that kind of money or sewing skills. So, three trips to Home Depot, 8-10 hours of work on it, and $250 spent (I know, I know; but it will pay for itself in 2-3 years), and I have something that the kids and I are both happy with. As the building of the tipi and the week progressed, I thought of a few "tweaks" I will be making before I store it, to make the tipi go up faster next year. Live and learn, right?
Allie- On getting Miles to sleep in his own bed. Perhaps start with having him nap in his crib. Also, if Tracey can sleep with his crib sheet for a couple of nights, it will get her smell on it. Studies have shown that many babies wake up in their crib and cry out because they don't "sense" that mama is near. Smelling her smell, helps keep them asleep and comfort them back to sleep. Does he use a paci at night/nap? Try to take it away from him when he has stopped sucking. Another reason babies wake, is that darn paci falls out of their mouth. All that said, my daughter is struggling with the same issue with her youngest (just turned one) and her husband (who for a long time didn't want to listen to him crying). My daughter asked me for advice, and I gave her the above suggestions; but not before I told her I wanted to strangle "that man" she married. The men can NOT have wife to themselves in their own bed and NOT have child crying at times in their own crib! Science shows that dad's brains typically do not have the oxytocin levels that mom's brains have. The oxytocin is what moves mama's to care and protect our babies. The high level of oxytocin is what makes mama's sleep so lightly and hear every sound their family makes. That said, men are adult humans, who after age 28/30 (when their brains have developed to the same level as a females brain), should be able to be supportive of their wife and HELP with babies, or at the very least get the brilliant idea to wear earplugs and keep their mouths shut and let mama do what she needs to do. Men! I have always said, I would raise 20 children before I would marry again. I am now at child 110.
Paperwork today. If the rain lets up outside, I will get my DYS to help me hang our wreath. It is the last deco that needs to go up.5 -
My granddaughter crawled into her parent's bed every night until she was three. She finally stopped when the pediatrician told her that she needed to sleep in her own bed. She is a "pleaser" type person and took his words to heart.
Carol in GA2 -
Grateful:1 What is something that makes you laugh? My two dogs, Wicket and Brownie every day the do something to make me laugh.10 What rejection in your life are you most grateful for? Losing my job at the print shop. It allowed me to take early retirement, buy this camper after selling my house and travel!
2 Something about the current season you’re grateful for. The Christmas spirit making people nicer at this time of year.
3 What about your body do you love/are you grateful for? My hair. It is white, pretty full with lots of body. Hairdressers always comment on how they like to work with my hair. Growing it out this winter. We will see how long I leave once the heat comes back!
4 Who is someone in your life that you’re grateful for? My children and grandchildren.
5 What is a book that changed your life? The Blooming of a Lotus by Thich Nhat Hann
6 Think about something you’re good at. Customer service.
7 What is a lesson you’re grateful you learned? To forgive myself.
8 A basic need that has been met. My housing at the campground. Free for hosting
9 What are you most grateful for in the city/town where you live? The blue skies and 300 days of sun!
11 Something you use every day. My phone. I know I know, but like others, everything is on it!12 Something you don’t need anymore.
13 Refuge – space you love in your home
14 Item of clothing
15 Taste
16 Touch
17 Smell
18 Sound
19 Sight
20 Texture
21 Color
22 A song that makes you happy.
23 Type of weather you love.
24 Professional who helps you.
25 Something you take for granted.
26 A TV show that you look forward to watching.
27 A movie you watch over and over.
28 An opportunity you’re grateful you had.
29 A place you love to visit.
30 A tool you find incredibly useful.
31 A daily habit you’re happy you’ve cultivated.
Kindness Calendar:December 1. “Spread kindness and share the December calendar with others”: Sharing on here and hope it helps someone.December 10. Listen wholeheartedly to others without judging them.
December 2.:Contact someone you can’t be with to see how they are: to be determined. I ended up talking to my uncle and a friend, both who live 2,000 miles away!
Decembrist 3. Offer to help someone who is having
difficulty at the moment. - I helped a mom fix her son’s bicycle.
December 4. Support a charity, cause, or campaign you really care about. - I use Amazon Smile to
5contribute to St. Jude’s Children Hospital
every time I buy something, including gifts
December 5. Leave a positive message for someone
else to find. Left a note for DH with a
chocolate kiss!
December 6.Give a gift to someone who is homeless or feeling lonely. I made a person smile who was having a very bad day trying to get a campsite. I gave them one.
December 7. Give kind comments to as many people as possible today. Done! Campers and DH
December 8. Do something helpful for a friend or family
member- I made an appointment for DH to get new glasses.
December 9. Notice when you’re hard on yourself or others and be kind instead.
December 11. Buy an extra item and donate it to a local food bank.
RVRita
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Rebecca ... I made the peanut brittle and now have to put it out of sight as I can't stop eating it! It is very good and way too easy to make!! (But thanks for sharing the recipe )
Beth
The good thing is it makes a fairly small batch.💖👍🏻
Rebecca
The peanut brittle peddler on
Whidbey
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